#trauma symptoms

[furiousgoldfish]

Dealing with my fear of rejection by never asking for anything, and my fear of being a burden by never doing anything that involves other people. Foolproof.

[warm-autumn-evenings]

*through tears* I BELONG HERE. ON THIS EARTH AMONG OTHERS. I BELONG JUST AS MUCH AS THE NEXT PERSON. I DESERVE TO BE ALIVE. I AM JUST AS GOOD AND BAD AS EVERYONE ELSE. I DESERVE TO BE LOVED. I DESERVE TO BE FREE.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Friendly reminder…you don’t ever have to publicly specify the “self” part of self-diagnosed. if you don’t want to. because I know it can sometimes feel like a caveat that you’re obligated to disclose but the thing is, you’re not even obligated to disclose your diagnoses in the first place, much less the source. so you can just say diagnosed. if you prefer. to feel safe and avoid scrutiny or fake-claims or for any other reason. because it’s the truth, it’s not even a lie. self-diagnosed is diagnosed

[mycptsdstory]

So I found something out about trauma and how it affects us physically, not just mentally.

FND and fibromyalgia CAN BE caused from trauma.

It's not well studied FND and fibromyalgia, but people from Reddit, on here and the people who I talked to in person, all had trauma in some way.

I don't have both, but it is real.

Just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not there.

[voidxbrat]

Alright, time for a mental disability rant post that is more system/trauma specific!

This might be unpopular view, but sometimes I think people here can take the focus of healing and recovery too far. And, in turn, leave out the serious reality of trauma and dissociative disorders. Some of the posts I see practically sound like they’re shaming trauma survivors for behaving like, well, seriously traumatized individuals.

I agree about the importance of healing and unlearning toxic behaviors - but that takes time, effort, support, the ability to get the proper help, etc. Even people working their ass off to get better, could spend their whole life getting there!

There really needs to be more support for people who might never fully heal, who still hold a lot of trauma and “bad” behaviors, who make mistakes and do things wrong and maybe can’t even always recognize it! Trauma literally damages your brain! For some people, in ways that might actually be irreversible (or at least without the proper help, which I must repeat - a lot of people don’t have access to). I understand the want to encourage healing and doing better - but honestly I think some people on here go too far, possibly to the point of sounding a bit ableist.

[moonlit-positivity]

I'll give you a life hack, there is nothing wrong with being a little bit "crazy" in the presence of someone who doesnt want to control you, use you, demean you, or take away your rights as a result.

Why do I say this? Because I struggle with some very hard traumatic symptoms. Paranoia, DID, situationally mute, and involuntary age regression, just to name a few.

In the past I've been stigmatized by medical professionals & also my family for this kind of stuff. And that's kinda shitty, considering my trauma history has some of the most abhorrent, dark, abusive shit known to human history. Im talking, shit that would make you vomit if you knew.

And in my experiences with living in a society that will glorify "murder all abusers" but will never actually acknowledge the fact that a lot of survivors exist & walk among them side by side every single day, most of society is not prepared to have a conversation on how to recognize & help a loved one who struggles with severe symptoms like this.

No. What we get instead, is a society that loves to point the finger at you and yell at you to get your shit together.

Which, is a huge fucking blow when even medical professionals are either not trauma informed & trained on how to recognize & help someone who has been severely traumatized, or they are trauma informed & just straight up don't care.

And in my life I have been severely privileged to have found a therapist who not only helps me manage these symptoms in safe, healthy ways, but who also cares enough to help me be patient with myself and recognize when I'm being too hard on myself for it.

And this... I mean... ???????

BLOWS MY FUCKING MIND ON A DAILY BASIS.

Because that is NOT what everyone else around me says!!!!

What the fuck.

So I guess more than anything I have come to realize. That. It actually DOES matter how the people around you view mental health, how informed they are about your symptoms, and how willing and patient they are to not only educate themselves but also help you remove the shame and humiliation when they hit.

Because, yeah, you know, ultimately we do have to manage our symptoms.

But HOLY FUCK DOES IT HELP TO HAVE PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT THIS FEELS LIKE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THAT TABLE. The empathy and compassion and patience that others can extend to you in return????? One of the most priceless things imaginable.

And I hope hope hope and wish wish wish that for literally EVERYONE who has to experience these types of things.

You deserve patience. You deserve compassion. You deserve empathy and understanding. You do not deserve to be shamed for your symptoms. You are a living, breathing human being. You can still be respected at the end of the day.

[exodusx]

Why I can’t remember happy memories of my childhood?

[dilatedtipsy]

It’s an unfortunate reality that symptoms that make other people uncomfortable are more likely to receive treatment than ones that don’t.

[furiousgoldfish]

abused kids daydreaming: but what if there was a situation where I got hurt... and someone cared and comforted me? what then??

abused kids: oh no I'm selfish and stupid for imagining this! How could I think my pain would matter enough for someone to comfort me, I need to get over myself and start living in the real life! Comfort doesn't exist and if I'm not tough I'm not going to make it!

[xanaxlollipop]

Hardest trauma to heal from

Easy answer? The ones that you don't recognize as trauma.

A lot of mental health issues present trauma-response symptoms. So it's easy to confuse them for something they're not. This is why therapy sometimes takes a little to work efficently, you gotta find out the right issue to plan the right path.

Once you get to the right answer, the trauma related to attachment, development trauma, narcissistic abuse (by parents) trauma, in my opinion are the...complex ones. Because they've been affecting the person for a very very long time, they can be very pervasive in many many aspects of the person's life and also they might seem "innocent behaviors" so innocent that the person can't see them as trauma, so they avoid/forgot to talk about it during therapy

[unwelcome-ozian]

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

930pm will hit and well-adjusted neurotypicals will be like Yawn oh gosh I’ve been u p since six a m can y ou believ it

[kbfoto]

Trauma lives in the bones.

The truth is that trauma is not just “in your head”. It leaves a real, physical imprint on your body, jarring your memory storage processes and changing the way your brain works.

Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.

[mycptsdstory]

You don't have to have PTSD or CPTSD to have trauma.

Read that again.

[dkniade]

Is it a thing to have intrusive thoughts of events that never actually happened but are (thematically) similar to a traumatic event?