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my-autism-adhd-blog · 6 months
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How Might Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Show Up
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Neurodivergent_lou
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sillywabbits · 9 months
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~Belated Elations 💞💫
A little something I've been working on off/on that took me an embarrassingly long amount of time to finish fjfjfj It encompasses elements that personally resonate with me like RSD, self worth, and body positivity that I want to explore in the self-hug fanfic that hasn't quite left my head yet. But I'll get there~❤️
-Reblogs genuinely appreciated, but no pressure!! ❤️ Thanks for looking! 💘💫
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fandomsoda · 11 months
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/gen free for anyone to use if they also happen to need it, don’t need to credit me
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talking-incessantly · 2 years
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The shame and embarrassment you feel when you share something you’re interested in or that brings you joy and people don’t share that same excitement or worse they think you’re being too much
So then you just decide you can’t be excited about anything or share how much you’re truly obsessed with something
Gotta love that RSD double whammy !
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ndcultureis · 2 years
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RSD culture is having an episode but mentally yelling that you aren't because you grew up being emotionally invalidated bc of your RSD and you refuse to acknowledge that your feelings aren't 100% true and rational to not 'become like the ones who hurt you'
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monochromatictoad · 3 months
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Real negative vent real quick.
RSD has been kicking my ass lately. Sorry if I'm not as active. I'm trying to be, I promise. But finding out that I was the only one without a wedding invite really did a number on me and I'm trying not to have a meltdown over it.
I'm just tired of watching people make plans in front of me for them to all hang out after work, but they always consist of getting high or drunk. I've been invited for exactly two (2) outings by coworkers, and only one (1) of them actually came through. The other one took other coworkers because 'my schedule was too hard to work around'.
Maybe I'm just not good enough. I feel like I make everyone's lives living hell, and they only tolerate me because they have to, not because they want to. Sometimes I just want to share what's on my mind, but then I find that no one cares what I have to say, so I just.... Don't.
This isn't just at work, I feel it in my personal life as well. I feel pointless. Pathetic even. No one owes me anything, yet I feel like most of my relationships are one-sided. I get too attached to others, place too much of my emotional stability into them, and very quickly I get discouraged and disappointed if my interaction isn't how I planned. It's stupid I know. I hate that my brain does this, but I'm trying to get it to stop doing this.
Maybe I've just been disappointed and lied to too many times as a child by the adults in my life.
I don't want to make this a pity party, I just wished I was worth something to the people I know.
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musicspirit26 · 1 year
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okay, so i'm well aware that this might make me sound like an incel, but it's something that frustrates me so much as an autistic person and i need to vent about it (i would totally do this with a therapist if i had one btw - but i don't, so i'm making do with what i have)
every single time i develop a huge crush on someone, i feel like 1 of 3 things always happens:
they're already in a happy long term relationship and i don't wanna be the homewrecker
they've just gotten out of a relationship, so i don't wanna be their rebound
they've been single for a while and are either not ready to mingle in general or just wouldn't like me back at all anyways
this pattern will usually go on for a few years, and all the while i will also be doing a lot of personal growth (which makes the comment "you don't need a relationship to be happy" all the more frustrating because my main love language is physical touch, so i need/crave physical affection in ways that simply can't be provided by a family member), so by the time someone else who doesn't quite fit what i'm looking for but i kinda like and who likes me comes along, i will jump on that opportunity really quick because at least someone likes me romantically
and i know those people deserve a lot better than that (and i deserve better than that, too), but i find that i'm usually only in that situation because i want to respect that my actual crushes are unavailable for whatever reason
and yes, i'm aware that a lot of that unavailability comes down to my struggles with social cues and hygiene (which is probably the main reason for the third scenario, on top of the fact that a lot of the women in that category are straight), and that's obviously completely understandable - but i think that's just what makes me feel even more horrible about it, as well as myself
it can be so emotionally debilitating to know that my struggle with these things is exactly what makes it so easy for other people to just write me off altogether, no matter how hard i try to navigate them or self-police how i come across. for that reason, it's extremely difficult not to get frustrated at how hard it is to find a partner who loves me just as deeply as i love them, or handle even a gentle/friendly rejection as just that and to not take it personally.
of course, the other side of that coin is that i feel like any big crushes i have in the three scenarios i mentioned above are also miles out of my league anyway, so working up the courage to confess my feelings in the first place feels almost impossible because of that.
idk y'all, i just wanna find a woman who i can love who loves me and who i can express that love in physical ways with
ugh why is dating so hard 😩😩😩
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wishing-star-315 · 9 months
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After going through one of the most stressful online situations in my life so far, I recently discovered that I have rejection sensitivity dysphoria.
The moment I read through the symptoms and saw the connections, I had many emotions rushing through me. A part of me felt relieved as I at least got an explanation for my emotional outbursts. I struggled to regulate my emotions for the longest time, easily getting extremely nervous or bust into tears over the slightest amount of negativity, rejection, or even criticism. This resulted in a LOT of people ending up being annoyed and irritated by my actions including former friends, and even my parents. I always knew this was not normal, but all I ever got was "There was nothing wrong with you, just stop crying." At least I know the source of my issues and know to work from there.
On the other hand, I am kind of upset and irritated that I have to live with years worth of creating shitty mistakes, embarrassing myself, and even ruining relationships when I had so much time to recognize and fix those mistakes.
I can't undo the mistakes I did in the past, but I can at least focus on the now, and make the effort to focus on the now. I may be stubborn about it, but I am going to take the time to improve my emotional regulation, even if it's going to be a long and tiring process.
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tragedyoflancelot · 5 months
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the rsd struggle of really enjoying something that was objectively not well made and then having to hear someone you really care about talk shit about it. cuz obviously they’re entitled to their opinion but i’ve already made my opinion clear so maybe they hate me now because we disagree
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anadiilua · 9 months
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Me: hey, as a heads up, I'm autistic and have severe ADHD and that includes a pretty bad case of RSD, ok?
Friend: oh, don't worry, it's ok
Also Friend: *break a promised they made to me without an explanation*
Me: *reacts badly to the perceived rejection/shows any negative symptoms*
Friend: wow that's fucked up. why would you do something like that? It's totally ruining my mood...
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oleanderever · 2 years
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my-autism-adhd-blog · 10 months
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RSD can show up as...
Second guessing yourself, or people pleasing at your expense
Frequently asking, "Are you mad at me?"
Heavily focusing on perceived rejection or checking for rejection
Cutting off friends, family and peers to avoid rejection
Swinging between heightened emotion to emotional numbness
Reframing Autism
Autism
RSD
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sillywabbits · 5 months
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meanwhile, in the low-sensory corner fjfjfj
sometimes you just gotta lay back and stare at the ceiling until the bees in your chest calm down and stop trying to convince you that everyone secretly doesn't like you fhfj (and a co-worker with a big cozy lap and affirming words doesn't hurt ☀️❤️)
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riverlett-arboreal · 7 months
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I’ve got an awful habit of trying to pretend I’m okay to try and keep the piece and then it comes across as me belittling the issue
It’s especially hard when I and/or someone else is hurting from something being messed up and I try to carry on and keep things together
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33max · 8 months
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I just got hit with an intense wave of RSD lol if anyone needs me I’ll be curled up in a ball somewhere
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jamsiies · 1 year
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idk why my rsd is so freaking horrible like. i see someone say they’re leaving the community and i get literally depressed. idk if it’s the rsd or bc i’m a bit delusional or what i have no idea what’s going on in my head it’s annoying
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