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[gamingperipety]

Hi! Is there a difference between a really strong friendship and aromantic love? I tried to find information on the Internet, but I didn't come across anything specific and well-explaining. I am a little bit confused, but I want to understand. So can you provide please any reliable sites or explanation?

Hello! This got a bit long so more under the cut.

Aromance is a whole spectrum, just like asexuality so the answers do depend on that and where everyone falls in the whole range of that spectrum.

There are aromatic people who don't feel romantic love at all and would not want to be in a relationship.

There are aromatic people who feel little romatic feelings towards someone and they slowly start building from there.

There are aros who need to bond emotionally with someone first in order to be able to form a romantic connection to said person.

There are aros who don't feel any sort of love.

There are also aros who love very deeply in a platonic senses. For some of them friendship can be the same and for others it can be different.

It honestly really depends on how everyone feels it with themselves. There's no hard rules that define what aro is as long as it is not the default "I feel the whole love spectrum" thing.

I don't look much on the internet for this sort of thing (except for back when I was discovering about my own sexuality and all, as I myself fall into the aro spectrum, and so does my mother who is happily married to my heterosexual alloromantic father).

So tldr; for some aros a really strong friendship can be the same as a relationship, while for other it can be much more different (where one can be deeper and/or different in nature than the other, or a good friendship is all it ever is for them and nothing more).

For me personally, I can feel romantic love if I strongly bond with someone. I've never, however, been in love with anyone my entire life. But I can feel the romance in books and games or movies with certain characters that I create a connection with.

Everyone keeps telling me that I haven't found the right person yet, but I know that isn't exactly the case and I doubt I'll ever feel the same type of romantic love most feel towards their partners because my brain isn't wired like that, but I know I can love deeply dispite my love being 'different'.

I honestly hate having to explain my romantic attraction because it's so weird and and I don't know how to express myself in a way that will make others really understand what it feels like.

I want to be loved, I want to be in a relationship and be held and kissed as well as give all that back to my hypothetical partner, but I've never felt like anyone I've ever met would be someone I'd allow to do that.

What really was a wake up call for me was when a good friend of mine, who had been in love with me for years, confessed to me and I told them I couldn't be with them because x, y, z. And I, completely oblivious to the way he was feeling said "but we can still be friends, right?"

And he looked and me and said, "I can't just shove this all down and pretend these feelings don't exist and pretend I don't love you. You can't ask that of me. It isn't fair."

But I didn't understand that. Yet he was absolutely right. It wasn't fair, because I didn't feel the way he felt and I couldn't comprehend how much it was hurting him.

When I say this I speak for myself and this is absolutely not the case for all or most aros.

As for when it comes to relationships, there are aros who are absolutely repoulsed by the idea and there are aros who would want to have a partner of sorts.

I think on youtube you can find a few good videos about aro people and their specific take on being on the spectrum.

If you are worried about the ROs, I can guarantee that people who are not in the aro spectrum most likely won't see the difference between relationship unless it is told by narration or the characters themselves, but I'm sure aros would know.

Honestly, that's why I was very reluctant at first to share that information and a part of me regrets doing it, but representation matters. But also, I feel so alone in this and I hate the idea of my characters getting alienated because they're a bit different, so I'd rather keep it to myself, and only those who can understand see it and appreciate it for what it is.

That is to say, I don't blame you or anyone else, for that matter, for wanting to look more into it or those who are a bit sceptic if a relationship with someone like this would be worth it. It's just that I personally prefer the shadows, and this was a bit too in the spotlight for me and my characters and I don't know how to feel about it.

This was a lot and I apologise, but I hope it answered your question to some degree.

Thank you so much ♡

[absentia-if]

Hi! Will MC be able to get indirect messages from kidnapper after escape? In a situation where they didn't look at everything because of the desire to escape as soon as possible.

Oh, the Kidnapper is going to continuously interact with your MC throughout the story— whether that’s in person or through clues— and the MC can either find them (like a puzzle) or you’ll have to figure things out in different ways.

All of the hints that the Kidnapper leaves do go somewhere (and all of them have a meaning)… but that doesn’t mean all of them are directed towards the MC. They may be “sent” to you but that doesn’t mean they’ll be worth anything to you (unlike with some other characters).

Hopefully that helps 😅

[thenumbersgameif]

Hello. How did the Numbers acquire their talents? In another post you mention that their abilities are not innate.

All of the Numbers acquired their talents once they were apprehended by the Boss; their "powers" come from experiments

[shadowsif]

Hello! Some errors I noticed.

Is this the end of chapter 1? Because I'm stuck on this paragraph.

I like the new chapter. I felt the tragedy of the moment when the main character could not hold Haida's hand. :( Shopping on the market is a more pleasant text or will it affect the hobby of ms?

Thanks! Will fix them. Downside in working with Word that it capitalises words I don't want it to.

No idea why the "Back into the shadows" doesn't work but yes it's the end of the chapter. After it just comes a 'end of demo'-page. There's multiple ends to the chapter and for some the link works 🙈

Shopping is a way to get a new headscarf if you want, or get something else nice for yourself. It may or may not play part in the future. (Except for one thing with the seller who's a little off.) I'm still debating wether or not implement an inventory as for most of my planned game it will have no effect except for the player to remember what they have. Plotwise it's mostly irrelevant.

Thanks for the ask and finding errors! I did listen to lot of sad songs while writing the tunnels and the different endings to saying goodbye. Good that it had impact as intended 🥲

[bringer-if]

1/4 of chapter 2 written!

We're that much closer to publishing chapter 1!! Plus, I've added a light-mode theme which will be available upon the update's release (thanks to @vuivr for suggesting that!)

I'm excited!! :D

[bellsofsaintclements]

“3 vuivres de Fieffes” by Polish artist Witold Pyzik (*1961).

[absentia-if]

Hi! "Wow, that is a ridiculously bug watermelon. I love it." For B please.

“Wow, Charlie!” You exclaim, with a wide smile on your face. “That is a ridiculously bug watermelon. I love it.”

Your class laughs at your horrible joke— second graders weren’t the biggest critics— as the boy in question offers you a toothy grin. His freckled face heating up at your clear happiness.

“Ma knew that it was your birthday coming up and she wanted me to give this to you,” he murmurs, one of his hand self consciously rubbing the back of his neck. “I picked it out though!”

A softer smile appears on your lips. “And you did an excellent job, Charlie.” You look up at your gathered class of cheerful faces; an idea forming in your head that causes your smile to brighten exponentially. “Why don’t you go find some plates? I can’t even imagine eating this without my wonderful helpers. It’ll be like a little birthday party for me.”

The cheering all around is enough to briefly stun you but your kids— as you affectionately call them— scamper off in order to get ready. Their reactions, and general mirth, almost causing you to miss the gentle knocking on your classroom door as a familiar head pokes in.

Bright brown eyes meeting yours before they slip down towards the food displayed proudly on your desk; as they always seemed to do.

“I thought I smelled food.” The smile that quirks their lips is entirely teasing. “Do you have room for one more?“

Your brow quirks. “Don’t you have a class to teach, B?”

“Are you kidding me? It’s nap time and I get at least twenty minutes before my aides call me panicking.”

You stifle your laugh against your balled up fist; your other hand waving your best friend deeper into the classroom. The accompanying cheer from your students, as they all adored B, showcasing that you had done the right thing. Especially as B dramatically pulls out a neatly wrapped box from their jacket pocket.

Your brow arches. “What’s this?”

“You’ll see when you open your gifts later.” They incline their head towards the haphazardly wrapped boxes. “I may have lied earlier about why I came.”

Nudging your best friends shoulder, you playfully roll your eyes. “So it wasn’t for the food?”

“Oh, it’s definitely for the food now.”

“I hate you.”

“Love you too.”