#words to remember

[shadows-and-starlight]

oh 🥹💞

i need everyone to hear the story of colman domingo meeting his husband bc it's just the most beautiful thing i've ever heard

[girasolmuerta]

"Never give someone the opportunity to waste your time twice"

- some dumb bitch who wasted her time.

[reality-detective]

In the beginning there was the word. 🤔

[nemralam]

-Majnuu

The above quote was from one of Qays ibn al-Mulawwah (Majnun’s) poetry that was recorded for Layla bint Mahdi (Layla) before his descent into madness // Story of Layla and Majnun (book) was written by a Persian poet "Nizami Ganjavi" who wrote this masterpiece based on a true story of a young man called Qays ibn al-Mulawwah (Majnun) in the 7th century when Arabs defeated Persia and Ctesiphon was destroyed and Persians built Iraq. // Originally the book was published in 1484 AD

[writing-for-life]

While this is an oversimplification (of course even creatives can, and do, get depressed), the gist of the message still holds true:

Creating helps to process, supports healing and, most of all, paves the way to change. As Toni Morrison said:

“This is precisely the time when artists go to work—not when everything is fine, but in times of dread.”

[creatingnikki]

What it means to go easy on yourself

When you are having a hard time, the way you can go easy on yourself is by allowing yourself to be instead of trying to find answers to everything right away and fix things as if there are instant solutions to such deep-rooted problems and patterns.

Going easy on yourself does not mean indulging in self-destructive behaviour that will make you feel good for maybe a few hours or desperately seeking instant gratification in any way and form you can find. 

It means not jumping to conclusions or thinking too deeply or forcing yourself to figure it all out. It means eating well, getting enough sleep, brushing your hair, and having fruit.

It means laughing with a friend, going for a walk or lying down on the cool marble floor in Shavasana. It means constantly filling your bottle of water and carrying it everywhere with you and reading good books the ones that give you some comfort and leave you with a sense of warmth and hope.

It means engaging yourself in things that allow you to breathe a little better as you do all the functional things life is demanding out of you, like work and chores. 

Going easy on yourself during such times means you don’t take yourself so seriously because that is the quickest way to skinny dip in rabbit holes and camp there for extended periods. It also means that you say no to things and people who make you feel anxious, conscious, and uneasy. Yes, you should step out of your comfort zone and push yourself and all that but there is a time and place for that. And when you’re feeling such heaviness of being, that is not it. 

Not demanding more from yourself, not caving into the demands of others, not using your sadness and pain as an excuse to fall back on maladaptive coping mechanisms, not getting existential about everything — that’s what it means to go easy on yourself. So, please, do go easy.

[dreamgirlvibes]

Remember this when you’re having a hard time moving on:

Take away the power of something that no longer serves you by taking your attention away from it completely.

What you don’t feed, won’t grow. Neglect what isn’t made for you and water what is. Eventually, what you do feed will bloom and everything else will be swept away in the wind no longer being able to harm or hurt you.

Focus on what you want to feed and what you want to see grow.

Neglect what you don’t and watch it disappear and die completely.

[horriblewithwords]

The Shadow cast is what The Light sees.

[oysters-aint-for-me]

some of my top moments in sitcom history, in no particular order, with several missing:

the “fold in the cheese” scene in schitt’s creek where moira and david are trying to make enchiladas

“and you wanna be my latex salesman” from seinfeld

the scene in parks and rec with leslie’s campaign rally that ends up taking place on an ice rink and they all have to shuffle out along the ice and the campaign song plays a 30 second clip like six times

the introduction of danny devito’s character in taxi

the “kidney now!” song in 30 rock

chuckles the clown’s funeral in the mary tyler moore show

dennis reynolds holding in his covid cough in its always sunny in philadelphia

the scene in golden girls where dorothy confronts a doctor who dismissed her chronic fatigue syndrome

the episode of bobs burgers when gene, tina, bob, and linda from team up to scare louise for halloween and it works

the scene in superstore during the pandemic when they received “protective equipment” thinking it’s PPE for employees but it’s actually to protect the merchandise from looters during BLM protests

“as god as my witness, i thought turkeys could fly” from wkrp in cincinnati

the series finale of community

when bj destroys the still in mash

the episode of boy meets world that takes place in the future and none of them are friends anymore

“the view from halfway down” episode of bojack horseman

vitameatavegamin scene from i love lucy where she’s shooting a commercial for the stuff and getting progressively drunker (honorary mention: similar scene in schitt’s creek with moira rose getting drunk off fruit wine)

[matilda-jugs]

when will you let me be yours?

[ojosespanola]

Unfolding ....

[will-darkness-turn-to-light]

[redmage9138]

Living my life by these words everyday (especially the messy part)

[heartspin2023]

Any form of change,

Hold both gain and loss,

Which is why sorrow is allowed

Even midst times of joy.

[indeedgoodman]

[stripedwolf88]

Reminder of the day to myself:

You cannot change other people's thinking. They will believe what they believe. There is not much you can do to convince them to think of something differently. Spend your time conversing with those who pause and ask questions and allow the space to confront their biases. Spend your time allowing people grace to grow and evolve when you see then actively trying and following through. And remember to question yourself, not to make you question your worth or reality, but enough to expand and adapt to become a more considerate person. Never forget to think of someone else's point of view and acknowledge their experience while still holding them accountable and standing up for what is right. And always, always lead with kindness.