#yeah we dont have any of these because we don't have gay marriage :(

[kitkatperce]

hey guys kuzaang headcanons.

(most found in my dc server........) 1; ok this MAY seem stupid though i Dont Care if anyone here thinks it is but avatars have like dreams of their memories from their past lives and can get like something close to psychosomatic pain ? The Point is aang getting these nightmares and crap at a sleepover w kuzon nd kuzon comforts him after cuz he woke kuzon up by screaming 2; kuzon would have loved the marble trick (which was replied to with 'kuzon would go beast mode over the marble trick actually' by tumblr user meeyow4419 which i think explains it very well very true.) 3; kuzon cant cook for shit 4; kuzon did NOt believe whatever sozin was sending out he gave each newspaper the stink eye. 5; kuzon taught aang all the fire nation dances and bumi cheered them on in the bg 6; bumi was definitely their wing man 7; we all know therescultural differences between the 4 nations. what i need to see is kuzon explaining things of rthe fire nation that aang doesnt understand and vice versa 8; kuzon kissing each and every one of aangs arrows. thank you 9; physical touch. slinging an arm over each others shoulder, hugging, kissing, holding hands, holding arms, laying on top of each other, putting legs over each other legs, touching knees, standing close to each other, kuzon doesn't know what personal space is!, kicking the others foot to get their attention, leaning into each others space, aang doing/playing with kuzons hair, falling asleep on each other, and more. they are really big on physical affection 10; dancing. just dancing I don't feel the need to elaborate. at festivals, in the kitchen, in the middle of a forest, wherever. just dancing 11; they frequently send letters to each other, and when they started dating there was an occasional love letter in there. 12; kuzaang kinda just happened they never actually were like. date me. they just. started dating I guess. they don't even know when it occured 13: drool when they sleep. 14; they also uh. cuddle when they sleep. kuzons woken up with a wet shirt more than once. he gets embarrassed when he realizes he drooled on his pillow the whole night. actually have an art piece 4 this! https://www.tumblr.com/kitkatperce/748416474997260288/wow-this-is-gay

15; promises that sound oddly like wedding vows. 16; hip hip hooray!!! x LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! (after their first kiss) 17; moles x freckles 18; they share their food w each other. aang splits a lot of fruits (its usually an orange because he somehow always has one on hand) 19; aang gets very giggly and avoids eye contact after like. they kiss on the lips even once. 20; they both still blush like madmen with any physical affection 21; uncontrollable laughter 22; they don't care what time it is if the other is upset they r GOING to comfort them 23; aang sending super intense vibes to kuzon so he dreams of them sharing a sandwich together (im jk) 24; devotion. yeah ur my bsf ofc im in love with you and will find you and hang out with you in every universe. lets kiss 25; they both yap a whole lot but when it comes down to it kuzon loves to listen to aang blabber about absolutely nothing and everything at the same time 26; cheesy nicknames 27; air nomads dont marry but aang doesnt actually mind if kuzon is like 'my husband' or whatever he thinks its super endearing. some ppl say they are too young for marriage and aang has to explain tho LMAO 28; idiots doing idiotic things. get down from that tall ass mountain 29; aang likes to fidget with kuzons hands. kuzon lets him

30; aang ranting to gyatso abt kuzon

31; gyatso finds it so fucking funny when aang gets jealous bcuz aang says “jealousy is not a good thing. let go of it” and he gets all pissy when hes jealous

32. aang at a sleepover with kuzon removing jewelry and stuff basically js getting ready to mimimimi time and kuzon (whos been ready for a lil bit honestly) just watching him lovingly from the bed. sighhh

33. aang saying he doesnt accept long lasting things and kuzon like. oh ok. yoi dont have to. and aangs like can u put it on 4 me….. he only takes it off for the night (and whenever he has a sleepover w kuzon kuzon unclasps it for him)

34. kuzons firebending with aang is super gentle comparitively

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I've said this for years but the way the community absolutely has an undiscussed dislike or idk disregard for closeted people has bothered me for years. Yeah theres that sheen of being understanding but I've seen and had to have so many conversations with people to have more empathy for closeted people, especially closeted partners because I understand full well how complicated that is. Btw I'll be using gay as an umbrella term for most of the following cause I'm sometimes uncomfortable with using the q word too much, please respect that.

Like it got especially bad after gay marriage became legal here in the US and most of Western Europe and like every mostly white gay living in liberal areas started acting like everyone should be out already and if you weren't you were idk probably ashamed of yourself, or worse someone faking it. You become some kind of half baked gay person who their behavior implied couldn't possibly connect to queerness in the right way.

But like it doesn't work like that. Some of us very much live in unsafe places to do that and we also don't have the financial privilege to leave to safer states/countries or move out of homophobic/transphobic households. I can't imagine especially how disabled and closeted members of our community feel trapped by these kind of circumstances.

Plus some of us live in cultures where the emphasis on family and community is an essential tenant of our makeup and learning to separate ourselves from the abuse present in those communities towards us is difficult, much like any abusive relationship. There is so much nuance, especially outside the lense of whiteness, that out people sometimes seem to forget or even dismiss instead of helping to foster relationships or community to help the people in their lives who are closeted find refuge safely.

And it really comes to a head when out people I know date closeted people. They seem understanding enough at first but then start questioning if the person they're dating "actually really loves" them if they're not willing to out themselves and the conversation can at time turn progressively meaner as if closeted people are all inheritly selfish. Yes it is a romantic notion for someone to risk everything to be openly with you, and its something frankly all of us deserve including closeted people, but life is far more dangerous and complex than that and I think some people have forgotten that.

And look, I even empathize with open people in that kind of circumstance cause yeah the pressure of having to keep something that incredibly special to you under wraps can be very daunting. But often I've found, most open people have a chosen community to fall back on and talk about it with because they're not as inhibited or cut off from the larger, while closeted people often dont have anyone except their partner because being closeted has severed most pathways of finding the community. Their partners are usually their first connection to the community.

I even sometimes think this sort of mind set extends into how white people perceive gay poc as inherently closeted too. We're either not open enough or being closeted is weaponized against us. Like we could be out and white people still presume we're not and act like were straight lite and we could talk about how we're closeted and white people, again, think it's ok to treat us like straight lite. This is especially evident when we say something that makes them uncomfortable and angry. Like the only time they take cultural nuance into account is to use it to dismiss us, as if all of us must be in hiding and cant be as gay as them.

Point is, being closeted is complicated and frankly miserable as someone whose got one foot in and one out lol and although some peoples only space to be open is online, it doesnt makes them fake, doesnt make them less gay or trans, or less part of this community. It doesnt make them less worthy or deserving of love and community despite their circumstances.

[monstress]

succession finale thoughts

rewatching already because i need to write this down while i'm still on that finale high

the immediate problem of the episode is stewy making drama. i love himmm

why would "golden parachute" frank even be in the consideration to vote 'no' for the deal??? we're grasping at straws here oh i feel for tellis despite his soulless blond self

NICKY BEE FIRE IT UP ONE LAST TIME ... god im gonna miss this theme song 🥺

when shiv said that tom is easy to manipulate while mattson is looking at the political cartoon of them. what a blunder

shiv calling her mom an associate in front of mattson slkflskgls

"are there any positives about the nightmare we've shared?" "yeah you've fallen in love finally. fallen in love with our scheduling opportunities." goddddd im so obsessed...yessss they're so awfulllllll like so true jesse make this show also a story of their marriage noah baumbach whomst????

sorry to be so kenstewpilled but the white button down, sleeves rolled up and this line???? delectable. i must speak my truth here like how could stewy not vote 'no'?

new jess.....good for you Jess you escaped this sinking ship

i gasped seeing kendall's sunglasses this episode. that has to be japanese made. nowhere else in the world make such stylish sunglasses. gorgeous pair

greg makes 200k? per month OR year????? answer me. answer meeeeee

love the Lawrence name drop! like we miss u king

the entire lukas and tom dinner scene is sooooo

tom confessing all he he built was sand and he's paranoid to keep what he has. mattson knowing he's hungry but wants to know if he's willing to betray shiv

THEN lukas immediately belittling shiv : she was pushy, she wasn't as vital as i thought she'd be, i'm SUCH a big man i know everything, she's fuckable and she wants me too

and TOM eats it????? so mattson chooses him !!!!

ugh i dont want shiv she has a lot of ideas and i want to fuck her ugh fucking disgusting ubermensch i hope jeryd doesn't win ohio and waystar royco gojogo get FCC up in their ass

alexander skarsgard's line read and acting choices r amazing tho

me to my sister: why haven't any of them used a live translator to check what the swedes are talking about? (greg in the final episode uses one) OK FINALLYYYY

shiv screaming from another room is hilarious

logan promised kendall ceo when he was seven.......the crown prince.....if dad didn't need me i don't know what i would be for.....

shiv and roman bonding at the beach after election night. when they're doing impressions of kendall and knowing sarah and kieran are each other's fave scene partners....this scene was the one that hit me that i'm watching the FINALE finale

meal fit for a king scene....when i watched this scene i was all smiles but underneath the DREADDD knowing they might be showing this because it may be the final time the scenes are happy together. oh honey. we got a big storm coming.

not shiv saying all that to willa and connor not getting slovenia in the end....the terror

the iphone video dinner scene? cheesy as fuckkkkk im sorry that was sentimental as shit and maybe a tad unnecessary. i did cry tho i did...

"IT'S FUCKING TOM." the fight in the bathroom??? mattson rallying his crew???? the convoy to hq??? with THE MUSICCCCC???? FUCKKKK UGH HOT UGH!!!! GO OFF NICHOLAS!!!!

loveeee roman's all black outfit. so chic! (he's still mourning 🙃)

and we cheered. if anything else, us gay stewy truthers won succession

(also noticed that in the above pic - the only picture of the kids on logan's table is shiv. forshadowing? maybe, maybe not but lol)

the final 20 minutes of the finale *screaming into a pillow*

like roman immediately spiralling upon seeing gerri. doubting himself, questioning his autonomy, his worth. and did kendall....break roman's stitches on purpose. to like?? steady him somewhat??? good god. what the fuck.

shiv in this shot like...this is the closest to ultimate power she'll ever have and she's reveling in it. despite herself, she enjoys being kingmaker. that's why she went into politics

it's just. i wanna wrap my head around why shiv didn't vote 'no'. is it because she *has* seen the toxicity of protecting this company infect her brothers during election night? they should take the deal and get out? is it to freeze kendall and roman out of the company as they often had done to her? if i can't be ceo, then no one can? and mattson wants tom to be the ceo and i get to manipulate tom so i win this battle? i can keep my proximity of power by virtue of being a woman that my brothers would never have? is that it? does this make sense?

(but we all know mattson is keeping tom because he's a yes man. he won't have any real power in the waystar royco gojogo so like *sad kazoo noise*)

kendall lying about the manslaughter not being real. the real thing they've bonded over??? just because it may not make him ceo??? jelly-spined move

shiv laughing kendall going 'i'm the eldest boy' and walking away going "fucking child". lmaooo deserved

i wonder if roman saying all that abt sophie & iverson is a way to distract kendall from shiv, maybe even a little spite to get back at him for supposedly lying abt the manslaughter

roman going "we're nothing." yeah...yeah....you are.....

(but they have 195 per share....so)

kendall clicking the elevator to floor zero. cinema.

the one guy entering the elevator with kendall. has he been oblivious abt what just went down? if it were me, i'd wait for the next one

tom being ceo slgjklskglskglsklhgsfglskg

him keeping gerri and karolina this is a win for the glass ceiling shatterers /jk

and tom keeping greg? will he needs someone to bully since mattson&mencken is gonna use him as a punching bag in turn lol

yes the tiger! he destroyed his cage! yes YES the tiger is out!!!!

i truly can't believe that roman came out of this series unscathed (somewhat). like his breakthrough this episode? him realizing his self worth has been hinged on inheriting the company aka his father's love? time to go back to therapy

(also him drinking a martini because that's gerri's favorite drink. what a choice!)

and friends i was rubbing my hands with anticipation when tom approaches the car just hoping hopingggg shiv was in it and when it turns out she was??? i was chanting 'hand in unlovable hand' over and over and when tom offered his hand??? i was fully clapping it AND when shiv TOOK IT?? i was fully screamingggg

in all seriousness, what a bleak ending for shiv. relegating herself as the wife of ceo. just like her mother. the power dynamics of the man she think is beneath her is now her husband and the father of her child and in the company position she coveted all her life. she can never win...she willing stay in the tarpit....shiv my tragic girlfailure i love youuu

when kendall shows up in the park in a tweed coat i was like 'oooo i hope colin is behind him' and when they pan to show he is?????? i was cheering. the micheal corleonification of kendall roy

head under water.....aaaahhhh ambigious kendeath my beloved <3

[daenystheedreamer]

I don't get the insane shipping wars over who ends up with Jon. I think it's pretty clear he won't end up with a love interest, will be back in the far north, and whether he ever gets married or has a family will be left ambiguous/open ended and this is all under the assumption ADOS will ever be published which is, highly unlikely, at this point lmao.

mmmm i agree a lot! while love is intrinsic to jon's story, ygritte is really the only love interest who has like truly impacted him she defines his love life. he really is devoid of like 'shipping' aside from her. everyone else is speculative or has a different narrative purpose, like how val is there to contrast jon's choices vs what he could have had if he'd taken stannis' offer, or how melisandre's weird shit with him is just to add to her own weirdness than to add any sort of real tension. sansa and arya are his sisters and whatever you can play all you want have all the fun you want! i like smashing barbie dolls together i like jonsatin! but bffr its not gonna happen.

only thing i disagree with is im not making any predictions about his endgame (romantic or otherwise) since obviously daenerys and jon are gonna have some kind of relationship. but yeah i tend to think the show has the bare bones of it, he went north unmarried. i think people just get caught up in their barbie doll fun and forget that like, canon doesn't really matter. you dont have to fight over what is more canon because yeah, we're probably never getting an ending and also its just fun! we can have fun.

jk branderson will finish the series when grrm kicks it and jon is gonna be the new targaryen king of westeros (dany marries sansa and rules the independant north) but instead of doing incest he will legalise gay marriage and satin will be his prince consort and everyone lives and feudalism and monarchy stay but its like feminist now so the wheel is broken ♡

[ky-the-squiddy]

"you dont use (personal label?) well, then, whenever people are using (word) to refer to your entire group, youre not invited" seems a little silly to me. i completely understand where your post is coming from and i am pro-use of queer in most circumstances, but i can't opt in or out of being in the 'queer community' simply because i don't usually label myself that. when people refer to the 'queer community,' using it as shorthand for lgbt, that includes me. Did Sappho call herself queer? can we only discuss queer texts by queer writers who are contemporary enough to self-identify, because retro-actively adding the label to them seems hypocritical if not using the label yourself removes you from the community. Idk. It all sort of comes off like an attempt to alienate the whole swaths of the community - the kinds from places where queer is a dagger, the kinds who flinch when they hear it, the poor and rural. I understand that there is no easy solution to the discourse, but it comes off as intentionally alienating and cruel to me to say that anybody who doesn't use the right word is suddenly no longer trans, gay, bisexual, a lesbian, etc - especially when they're going to be grouped in with the queer community either way.

I understand where you're coming from, and I'm sorry if my post came off as if I were purposely uninviting you, that wasn't my intention. I more wanted to address the fact that there's a helluva lot of people online that take the use of terms like 'the queer community' extremely personally, to the point of butting in on unrelated conversations and derailing them.

You're right, there really is no easy solution for shorthand terms, and the thing is... there never will be! That's just kinda how it is when there's millions and millions of us from literally every walk of life on this planet. The internet and the whole global village phenomenon and toxic discourse and all that jazz just makes trying to discuss all of this even more confusing, and often even more upsetting.

As far as academia goes... It's a mess, and basically any queer studies academic would agree with me, I'm sure. We can't retroactively label people, yeah (there are plentiful debates over whether it's fair to even call Sappho a lesbian), but much of the field (as far as I'm aware) is spent on studying works from the last century or so, or viewing texts/events/historical figures through a modern lens. I will agree that my description in my other post was reductive so I could make a point, though.

I have had 'queer' thrown in my direction as a slur (a rally for marriage equality, my first pride event, I was barely 18), and that's part of the reason I wear it as a label so proudly now. But I also get how that experience could turn people off the word entirely. But I also think that if you've had the experience of any word hurled in your direction like that, then it's important to find community with other people who share that experience, even if they don't share your words.

[literalfuckingdragon]

listen. listen every time you talk about how democrats have a majority in congress you have to realize that there are democrats who just want to maintain the status quo for their own gain but are OK with gay people, and there are democrats who want to do some actual good (even if i dont always agree with their visions or their plans). They both get called democrat but like Sinema is not the same 'democrat' as AOC and buying into that vision is one of the (many) reasons the 2 party system continues to have a chokehold. I want to shake biden until the good policies come out as much as the next guy but acting like he can just snap his fingers and fix things is so frustrating when our broken ass system is so entrenched in ways to tie everything up, and entrenched in gerrymandered rigged games

Okay but then by this logic, there's absolutely no point to pushing for change ever. Like why fight for gay marriage or abortion to be codified into law to make it harder for SCOTUS to overturn then? Some democrats would just want to maintain status quo and might not vote for those. Shit yeah, why fight ever? Let's just sit back and continue being fucked because the system is all rigged anyway, let's not even attempt to work with the tools we do already have to fix what we can. Makes perfect sense to me.

The point of me bringing it up is to show that there are measures Democrats could be using to fight for change- in this case using reconciliation to avoid needing a supermajority to end a filibuster since student debt relief would be a budget item- but that there hasn't even been a push within the Democrats to use this tool. You're really going to tell me someone like AOC or Bernie in the House, or Schumer or Warren in the Senate, or Kamela or Biden who are all HUGE Democrat names couldn't at least suggest using reconciliation? If one of those big names brought attention to the measure and that the Democrat Party as a whole was refusing to use it for student debt relief even when they easily could and it would be extremely difficult to overturn then? You really don't think that would lead to anything? Nothing at all? That something like wouldn't be spread around, if not by the news, at least their very large fan bases? Shit, even just their haters trying to use it as a gotcha would bring a fuck ton of attention to it. And you don't think that wouldn't get enough people riled up that the uncooperative Democrats wouldn't go "oh fuck, I might not get voted in next election" and at least light a fire under their asses?

That very thing happened with gay marriage originally. If you look back to 2009-2010, after Obama has been in office a couple years, the majority of Democrats were against gay marriage being federally recognized. Major names like Hilary Clinton and Obama himself. Then look at 2012ish on. Majority support. Because they saw that if they didnt change and start bringing attention to it, they were at real risk. Doubting you can make any changes is exactly what those that want to maintain the current status quo want. That's what actually supports the current system.

Yes our system is shitty, I think thats one of the few things everyone no matter the side can agree on (And that's why you should vote for the Burn It All Down And Start Over Party in 2036, me for President and my Vice President, Full Gas Can. Together, along with my advisors, Box Of Matches, Lit Candle, and 24 Pack of Lighters, I'm confident we can make some real change.) but that doesn't mean we can't already use the tools at our disposal. Change does take a long time, but that's why there's that stupid saying "the best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago, the second best time is today" (I want to throw the hard clumps of callus from my clonal propagated lemon and orange plants at whoever said that). You gotta actually start doing something, and no, only sitting around pointing fingers at the opposition isn't doing something. I'm not demanding immediate results, I'm demanding immediate progress. Those are two entirely different things.

[cattles-bians]

exes au part 14

post directory

obsetress:

obsetress: viola

em: holy shit

em: i think viola could hold a truly ridiculous number of things in her hands

em: danis like i have a little fanny pack right here- and violas like (turns up nose) absolutely not

obsetress: pre therapy viola during her relationship w dani: buys dani a birkin too, is like "here baby, so you don't have to use that fanny pack"

obsetress: dani's like "oh. i, um. like my fanny pack"

obsetress: viola therapy era after her relationship with dani: buys her a hermes fanny pack instead

obsetress: jamie rolls her eyes but dani is literally

em: i think a lot abt viola offering solutions completely unprompted n then being really offended when ppl dont take her up on it

em: pre therapy obvs

obsetress: SAME

obsetress: oh link is gross

obsetress: cost is grosser

obsetress: but viola lloyd dropping $2550 on a fanny pack for her ex gf? chefs kiss

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obsetress: ok just remembered viola slouching or leaning or w/e n like

obsetress: brain practically applying that to exes au and imagining when and where she'd slouch n everyone's reactions to htat

obsetress: bc like she has perfect posture but when she chooses to do it it's a power move

obsetress: and i. hm

em: yeah

obsetress: viola sitting up stock straight when they first get to brunch and as soon as she's ordered her bloody mary shes pulling off her sunglasses and dropping them on the table and just sinking back

em: how to phrase this w/o sounding too much like a whore

em: actually no way to say this but like i feel v strongly abt the way we make women take up less space wrt to knees together calves touching type deal and i think maybe

em: maybe viola can manspread a bit as a treat

em: hate that term but i cant think of a better one

obsetress: nah she does n it's hot

obsetress: just had this image pre divorce of viola and arthur at marriage counseling on opp ends of the couch n arthur's sitting v tight close and vi is just

obsetress: leaning and spreading a lil

obsetress: the first time jamie sees her do it she's so taken aback

obsetress: because she's NOT expecting it

em: jamies like ah ok late in life lesbian deal and then jokes on her viola is fluent in dyke slouch

obsetress: jamie immediately trying to suss out just how long viola has been fucking women

obsetress: she says to dani later "i thought she was all proper like" and dani's like "she is" and jamie's like "so wot was that then" and dani's like "well, people are gay, jamie,"

em: ghfjhgljkJFDASJKKJFGA

em: jamies like so wait how long HAS viola been

obsetress: jamie: so you were vi's first serious girlfriend right? dani: dani: jamie: right???????

em: violas been fucking women longer than jamie has lbr

em: i mean shes clearly only 35, jamie,

obsetress: jamie: so... vi... viola: hm? jamie: you're, uh, gay, right? viola: obviously jamie: right. well dani told me you've been dating women since–– viola: since i was 15, yes jamie: but you married a man

em: violas like u went to jail everyone does stupid shit occasionally

em: jamie: so how long have you been dating women viola: since i was 15 jamie: no i meant like. in years viola raises her eyebrows and jamies just like haha nevermind fuck

obsetress: she tried!

obsetress: she tried

em: jamie on her 35th birthday pencilling 'many happy returns' into violas ????th 35th birthday card

em: yknow i think

em: i think something's afoot

obsetress: jamie, giving up on the direct approach

obsetress: slipping in next to rebecca at the wine bar

obsetress: "becca"

obsetress: "hi, jamie" "hi. how old is your girlfriend"

em: am fucking losing it thinking abt jamie like. realising how much gay energy viola has

em: like taken ABACK

obsetress: fksljfLKSDJFLJ

obsetress: just like

obsetress: why are jamies reactions to viola so funny

obsetress: montage of jamie realizing how much gay energy viola has

obsetress: jamie watching viola sitting

obsetress: jamie watching viola pick up a variety of glasses and mugs

obsetress: jamie watching viola compare hand sizes with dani, jamie's girlfriend and viola's ex girlfriend who she dated for literal years and whose hand size she definitely already knows

em: NOT THE HAND SZIES

em: they go for a walk and viola immediately complains about the sun and jamie's like

em: i have a spare hat but ur not gonna like it

em: its a snapback that says daddy or smthn in gold, owen got it for jamie for her bday, jamie Loathes it

obsetress: BYE

obsetress: viola looks better in it than jamie does

em: jamie has that

em: am i attracted to viola? moment

em: it passses

em: she has already compartmentalised the weird psychosexual power play

em: queen of compartmentalising

obsetress: jamie: had another one of those moments today dani: what moments? jamie: where i thought i might be attracted to vi dani: well, you did let her fuck you... what was it, four? times in one night, so

em: jamie; yeah but like that aside

em: jamie 'thats neither here nor there' taylor

obsetress: she is the queen of compartmentalizing tho

em: i was gonna be like. 'jamies like wait i dont remember saying four' but. i think she would tell dani

em: because the flip of that is dani callin up vi n i dont think she would necessarily

obsetress: i think she would and dani would make her anyway

obsetress: well make her is harsh but

obsetress: dani would very curiously ask in very convincing ways

em: lovingly coax it out of her

em: dani: what if i fucked you four times in o

obsetress: dani: let me do five

em: viola probably wears so many rings jamie doesn’t even clock the ever present thumb ring

obsetress: jamie just. writes it all off

em: am laughing abt like. viola v meticulously taking off every single ring and putting it in its proper location before...

obsetress: there is something. so hot about that

obsetress: im gonna scream i think

em: i was just meming and now im thinking abt it and

em: truly played myself

em: actually this is me refusing to unpack whatever the hell theo crain gloves made me feel

obsetress: sdkfmsldjfa

obsetress: fair

em: sublimate it into rings

obsetress: i just like um

obsetress: thinkin about when she and dani are together and like

obsetress: it's intentional and everything has its place but vi also makes a show out of it

obsetress: and like

obsetress: she's SO painstaking about it and definitely makes dani wait a little bit and

em: helps dani outta her big ass earrings

em: i mean dani doesnt even Need the help

em: viola meticulous lloyd

em: i mean she just wears so much goddamn jewellry

obsetress: she can tell when dani's getting impatient and goes even slower

em: viola has like

em: viola is one of thos ppl thats really into expensive watches

obsetress: !!!!!!

obsetress: yeah

obsetress: nice lil canon nod too

em: she drags dani to antique auctions n danis like i cant. actually tell the difference between the real and the forgery and violas like (passionately explains it for like 30 minutes) and dani is

em: like shes mentally checked out but also v intensely watching violas hands as she points to the parts of the watch

em: rebecca gets it tho

em: rebecca Gets It

obsetress: dani shoving vi into the bathroom at the auction house and tugging vi's hand between her legs v rebecca grabbing her own auction paddle and bidding against viola for the same watch

obsetress: (rebecca n vi fuck in the car on the ride home)

em: dani grabs a paddle n mimes spanking viola n then the auctioneer is like '$250 to 201' and danis like aw Fcuk

em: violas like i cant take u Anywhere

obsetress: dani gives her the 🥺😌and viola's immediately over it and pulling out $250

obsetress: dani: i didn't even want it, i was just–– vi: i know dani: what am i even gonna do with a–– vi: i'll sell it for $500 at a private auction next week dani: so technically i'm making you money dani, grinning: it's like i'm your employee dani: do you have any more assignments for me, boss? vi: dani get your hand out of my pocket i need to focu––

[plagg-wants-cheese]

i want you guys to know the reason of why I can't get doc martens. ✨Not living in America✨

"Where are you from?"

"UGH, America"

Yeah politically if you will but thinking that America is the only place in the world with shitty politics is why I should say, ugh America.

Im not here to talk about politics just that Americans talk shit about America like I talk shit about my country but don't realize how much stuff you guys have that we dont. I started this because of doc martens but like this country is shit in such a deep level that there are not fucking art schools in my country even if I had jeff bezos money to pay for the tuition I couldn't because the nearest thing I have to an art school is graphic design and that is shit, but like what about people who want to study arts, theater, making fucking props for theater, designing clothes? you can cry yourself to sleep because your only escape is leaving the country which is so fucking difficult. AND THE FACT THAT MY DAD KEEPS TELLING ME SHIT LIKE "YOU HAVE TO GROW UP YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO ART SCHOOL" IS NOT FUCKING HELPING

And not to finish there because I know not everyone is like that but at what age did you guys learn the word gay? I'm not saying everyone is the same but my little cousin who lives in America and is 7 knows what gay means and that he should never say the f slur. I found out what gay means, like the fucking dictionary meaning at the age 13 and not because people would discuss gay marriage, no, no, but because of fucking wattpad and I don't wanna hear any joke about it really, my friend found out she could like girls through anime and nobody taught her anything so she thought her sexuality was "Yuri", huh. Some of you yell a lot about brands being full on rainbow only June and I am part of that because I believe it's harmful but I would have liked to go to the mall with my mom after I found out I liked girls and see rainbows there and like not feeling COMPLETELY alone. I really want you guys to understand that there are people, sixteen years olds that would look at someone dressed in the rainbow flag and would say cute rainbow because there are people that don't know anything really and I'm not here telling you that latinos are like sooo un developed we live like animals or whatever but yeah that's just something. And going back to the fucking doc martens what about merch I am lucky that I can go the us and I know if you go to any mall you find fucking Taylor swift merch anywhere, I know because I bought stuff for my friends and even if I didn't find it I could have bought it online and get free shipping or pay like maximum 5 dollars for the shipping, in this fucking country I couldn't find one single item related to Taylor swift in the only mall we have or tiktok or Facebook shops. Nothing. So I basically can't get my friends Christmas gifts of that type.

And now, the doc martens, I had already convinced myself that getting docs was completely impossible, just a dream, but I saw my friend wearing not docs but ones that looked kinda alike and was like, let's not lose hope so I told my mom "can I get these shoes? I will pay for them" and she said she could buy me those I didn't have to pay for them, so I love my mom, so we spent like a whole WEEK looking for doc martens, I went to every single shoe store my mom knows and listen, my mom knows every single shop in this city because she loves fashion and, good for her but we didn't find anything, I asked my friend where she got hers and she told me the store and turns out they didn't have my size, just my size, anything else they had, and there was just one type of martens boots. I WASN'T SO disappointed because they weren't really doc martens. You give my mom a job and she shows results and nothing else so after we went to every store, we started looking up in online stores that have to be from the country if you dont want to pay 50 dollars for shipping and EVENTUALLY like after HOURS we found a girl that sells shoes and they looked like docs, I, because I've spent a lot, LOT, of time (crying) looking at the doc martens website would easily realize that those are not really docs but they looked so alike that I was already gonna pay and I was three seconds away from crying because we couldn't find fucking shoes and voila TURNS OUT THEY HAD EVERY SIZE EXCEPT MINE so I cried and you'd say it's stupid to cry for shoes (but Vanessa I am a material gurl-) but at this point it wasn't really about the shoes??? It was because there IS NOTHING in my country. Like how fucking undeveloped you have to be to not HAVE S H O E S. So I told myself to forget about it, we were better when I didn't even tried so hm. But then I saw three fucking videos about my tiktok mutuals getting new docs. I didn't wanna see it so I scrolled, the next video? A guy opening his package and bam, doc martens, I scroll and bam my other mutual talking about atyd Remus lupin wearing doc martens and I was so close to crying so I commented something like "omg you look so happy!! Where did you buy them? Because I have looked up everywhere and still can't find docs" and what the fuck did I even expect, they where super nice I'm not saying anything against them but it was the same thing "the doc martens website, the doc martens local shop in your mall, Amazon, and most shoe stores have them <3" I was three seconds away from throwing my phone. The doc martens website is bookmarked in my phone, my laptop, my iPad, my everything okay and I would order them, that's the best option but the SHIPPING costs MORE than the DOCS. WHAT'S THE FUCK. so no. The doc martens local shop, I looked that one up and the nearest one is in colombia, that's not gonna help. Amazon's shipping costs more than my life, I should have started with the fact that we don't have Amazon, home depot, targets or wallmarts here, so Amazon is a no. Most shoe stores have them, i would know bitch, i would know. So that's it, I have the money and enough patience to not have a breakdown in every shop I go but no doc martens for me I guess.

Sorry if like, you decided to read that, that was just me venting about fucking shoes and sorry for burning your corneas with my bad grammar or anything and I also am super sleepy so hope something makes sense in those paragraphs

[edwardslostalchemy]

OH MY GOD. So remember I mentioned we have a family friend that talked to us about the apocalypse and God and I was terrified for like 3 days??? Well, her brother is a pastor for their church. He also does construction and is redoing my parents' roof. He and I were talking and he's so cool. He started talking about marriage and well, heterosexual marriage. I'm really gay. I'm bi, but I want to marry a woman and I have a higher attraction for women. Anyways yeah. But he doesnt know that. He asked if I have a boyfriend and I said no and made a face. And I think...he caught on... Because before he left, he said if I have any questions or need help, I can call him at any time. And he said that if I have like a problem, say asking about sexuality, that was okay as well. "Youre into women? So what? Thats natural. We can work through the issue that's bothering you so you can feel better." Do you guys know how much it means to me for a pastor, a religious man that preaches the Bible, to say those words????? After hearing in my Catholic church for years that being gay is dirty and bad and I'm going to hell? It means the absolute world to me. I cant even begin to describe the amount of respect I have for this man. He said it's natural. What does that say about religious people being homophobic? They're spewing hate and bullshit and dare I say dont have God in their hearts. I feel...so blessed...you don't understand...how blessed...I could cry.

[disneyprincessmodelworld]

You sure do the devil's advocate a bunch, don't you think?

Does it seems like it? L says I do.

Because there is another side and you can’t just brush it off because it doesn’t fit your narrative.

There is a public persona and a private. They are not the same. And to forget that and to assume they are the same is ridiculous. The are thousands of actors here that are living happy out lives in their personal lives but are closeted for their public persona.

I’m sorry but we make choices in this business rather you like them or not. And compromises. You make a conscience desicion. Do you want the career that you want and do you go along with the game or do you take a risk, out yourself knowing how Hollywood and casting is, and run the risk of not getting the work you want after.

I think you all confused what a choice and force is.

The force part is that in this business you feel that you have to conform and do what is asked so you get the roles and projects you want. That is forcing an issue. But you choose how you respond to it. You have the choice to play along and conform or say fuck it and do what you want, or you find a happy middle ground that everyone can live with. (Bearding is that middle for most. It allows them to be who they are in their private life while giving the studio the public persona they want). Force is that studios are still allowed to type cast people by race, color, religion and sexual orientation. Force is that the studios give you basically a handful of options and aren’t willing to budge. That is what is forced on people.

Choice is how you decide to respond to ultimatums.As an adult you make choices everyday that you might like and some that you hate and guess what sometimes you have a compromise for some inbetween land.

As A will tell you, it is a choice to stay in the closet, to beard or not. Oh you can decide no. But that no has consequences and you have to decide if you are ready for them. You risk losing roles, less publicity. Stereotyping. Type casting.

Case in point as many know X recently just went through this. He was scheduled to do an Interview and make his annoucement. this had been planned for weeks (hell months). Do you know the mental preparation that went into this? literally four days before he gets called in for a sit down and basically told no. He was told very clearly that it was in his best interest not to do this. They have a part for him and they dont want to deal with this type of annoucement. So if he wants the part than he has to stay publicly in the closet. (He lives an out personal life and you all need to understand the difference).

Force is studio saying if you want this part, we want you to keep publicly playing straight.

Choice is how he responded to it. He decided to stay in for the role, and promptly shelled out more than my car and broke the contract with the team that he felt didnt stand up for him. That was his choice. No one could make it for him. he could have chosen to say no I’m coming out. And boy part of me wishes he had. But that isn’t my choice. Its his.

And fuck you if you think it was easy. you werent one of the ones on drug watch and suicide watch as he struggled with what he was going to do. We were. We literally reorganized our lives to insure that someone was with him at all times until he was able to reconcile himself with his choice. part of it was the mental readiness that he had spent days and weeks and months getting ready for publicly coming out.

Am I angry. fuck yeah. Am I mad that he is in this spot? Yes. do I think it is highly unfair? Fuck yeah.

But how is this any different than any other job.

I dont know if the fact that gay marriage is now legal and because there are more and more gay characters on tv, that you all are suffering from a kumbuya (its to early to even figure out how to spell that) moment or what.

But just because all this positive has happened doesn’t mean stereotyping, prejudice, and discrimination just up and fucking disappeared. (If it had then I would not have had to sit up all night after someone I love tried to shove a bottle of pills down his throat. And yeah that was a choice too).

Lets look at teaching. I know several gay teachers. Do you think they all just come out to the schools they teach in? No because teachers are still getting fired in schools for being gay. Male teachers fucking molesting and sleeping with teenage girls all the time. Women sleeping with teenage boys, but parents freak the fuck out over a member of the lgtbq teaching their child.

So you seriously not see how fucked up the thinking in this country is.

Studios will promote the likes of rkelly but heaven forbid you be a man and want to bring your bf to the red carpet.

I dont know if folks pay attention to the news but the department of justice just said that discrimination laws and equality laws do not project lgtbq+ in the workplace.

So it might be fucking 2017 but it sure as hell isn’t easier or safer to be yourself.

HowFuckedUpIsThat???

[punkscowardschampions]

Ali & Carly

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Ali: i should hm Carly: hes not gonna speak to her Carly: and if he brags you can call it that Ali: Yeah Ali: I don't know Carly: its that or tell her Carly: & say youre sorry Carly: we were all wasted Carly: not like you have feelings for him Ali: You're right, obviously Ali: like that's the truth but yeah Ali: might leave it unless I need to go there Ali: soz God, swing by confession later Carly: tell her youre a bi cliche Carly: she'd love it Carly: use the scale Ali: she would tho Ali: validate everything she's ever sneaky or not so thought about me Ali: soz, i need a constant stream of p n v or i die Carly: a girl has needs Carly: what am i a 1? 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[taahko]

hey so... I really respect you... but I'm straight? so like how can i as a straight girl NOT victimize the lgbtq+ community? i don't want to piss yall off and you seem informed on the matter

oh whoa big question uhh

any of my other fellow Gays can add on to this if they want but for me its like.......... 3 main things: Don’t Fetishize, Don’t Minimize, and perhaps most importantly to me, Don’t Avoid

Don’t Fetishize: i’m a gay woman (ish), not a gay man, so i can’t speak to all sides of the issue and idk what your media consumption habits are, but fetishization of the lgbt community is a huge problem in movies, tv shows, and fandom. yeah, even (and especially) so called ‘gay allies’ in fandom spaces are hell bent on twisting gay love, especially mlm love, into something to jack off to and its nasty. heres some things to avoid and/or call out as they happen:

phrases like “hot gay sex” in a post written by a straight person

honestly any detailed descriptions/fantasies of gay sex written or described by straight people because it’s always through this lense of ‘oh em gee guys wldnt this be so Hot!!’ like no. shut up and let gay people exist for themselves u nastees

straight people talking a LOT about their usually mlm ships wth this kind of detailed yet detached air, like theyre entitled to every second of a gay relationship yet dont quite see the participants as human

all of this goes double if one or both of the people in the ship is a poc, because thats a Big Red Alert for intersectional bigotry right there

Don’t Minimize: this one’s sort of for more of irl interactions and its something ive encountered a lot, especially from more liberal people (of which there are a lot here in nyc). something that liberal straight people tend to want to do a lot is minimize the struggles of lgbt people. this allows them to turn a blind eye to acts of homophobia and ignore a lot of the pain that their lgbt friends and relatives go through, because theyve convinced themselves it’s not a big issue. ways to avoid this:

don’t respond to descriptions of homophobia (irl or online!) with exasperated phrases like “UGH come on! it’s 2017 people we should be past this!” because any gay person on earth would be happy to tell you that no, we’re really not 

expressions of sympathy or support are welcomed, as long as they arent patronizing or dismissive. dont just pull a face and say ‘oh that sucks’ and leave it at that when you hear about homophobia in action. investigate, learn, research, critique. look deeper.

but don’t expect any gay person you know to perform intellectual labor for you and tell you everything about the community without you finding anything out for yourself. google is real and it’s right there in your hand

work to understand that homophobia is global and it is societal and the win for marriage equality did not change the quality of life or the mental health of many gay people in the country and especially the world. this is a huge issue, and it affects us every day

(sidenote writing all of this out for u could be considered unprompted intellectual labor so if you have a million followup questions maybe try.....googling it)

Don’t Avoid: ok so after reading all of that, you might be feeling a little...exhausted of it. maybe youre thinking “all of this is so complicated, theres so many ways to fuck it up, maybe i shouldn’t even try”. maybe youre tempted to retreat from this, to avoid gay media and gay discourse in order to avoid messing up or "pissing us off”. don’t do that. as much as i like to make jokes about straighties and shit, even i can recognize that we do actually kind of need your guys’ support on the social and political spheres. and for yall to do that effectively, you need to be informed.

seek out gay media. seek out gay characters. learn to love them and care for them as people. dont avoid them because they might make you, deep down, a little uncomfortable

seek out gay PEOPLE. lgbt focused blogs, lgbt icons and influencers, lgbt celebrities, lgbt friends. dont be afraid to interact with us or talk to us. the only way to improve and to grow is to try

monitor yourself, monitor your actions. do you use gay as an insult? no? do you laugh with people who do, without criticism? do you avoid speaking up for gay people around you out of fear of being seen as ‘other’ or worse, gay yourself? these are a few of the questions you should be asking yourself, every day

honestly im really touched that you reached out to me about this. i know i wrote a lot, but honestly, theres million more things to be said. i really do encourage my lgbt mutuals and followers to add on to this IF they want with their own suggestions, and i encourage you and any other straight people to read them!