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You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.

-Swami Vivekananda

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Feel.

Understand.

Heal.

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The quieter you become, the more you can hear.

-Ram Dass

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Frosty Mornings

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How to behave when somebody is playing "mind games"? Simply to block them?

Blocking someone keeps them at arms length and it keeps them muted in your life. It keeps them from having influence over you and it keeps them from manipulating you. These are good and often necessary steps to take to keep yourself mentally well.

Now, this can be easier to do, say with a classmate, random person on the internet or a friend of a friend, or it can be very difficult to do if this person is your parent or you live with them. The easy ones can be blocked rather quickly and easily, the difficult ones it may be a “soft block” or it may have to come in steps and you may even have to have a conversation with them and let them know how you feel and let them know you have boundaries. This can be difficult to do, but can be done and will be done one wya or another when they break you down enough and you’re just plain sick and tired of them.

Someone playing mind games or manipulating you or others is a sign that that person’s life may be out of control, or there are things and circumstances in that person’s life that they wish they could control, but cannot. For example if a person’s parents are getting divorced or someone close to them passes away, these are things they cannot control and will look to gain some kind of control by controlling others and playing mind games or manipulating them.

If you see this the case with this person, you’ll gain some insight and that insight might lead to understanding, an understanding of why this person is doing what they are doing. This will lead to you being less and less affected by them and their actions and this can all take place at a distance and blocking them gives you that distance.

My thoughts, I hope they help,

~greg

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Suffering is the sandpaper of our incarnation. It does its work of shaping us.

-Ram Dass

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All true artists, whether they know it or not, create from a place of no-mind, from inner stillness.

-Eckhart Tolle

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“Smile, breathe and go slowly.”

— Thích Nhất Hạnh

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As long as you have certain desires about how it ought to be you can't see how it is.

-Ram Dass

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Life only demands from you the strength you possess.

-Dag Hammarskjold

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Winter in Iceland

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Let's trade in all our judging for appreciating. Let's lay down our righteousness and just be together.

-Ram Dass

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Whatever the image of yourself, it’s a mask and it’s hiding emptiness.

-Adyashanti

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Without Love

You only feel its lack

Without Love

You feel incomplete

Unworthy and un-whole

You feel stranded

On an island in a vast ocean

It is Love that rescues you.

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frosty sunrise

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