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Natsuo Todoroki hasn't changed

Since he was introduced, I have always considered Natsuo troublesome for his family. He doesn't respect Rei and Fuyumi's choices to forgive Enji. He spreads the false rumours that Toya said to him as a kid. Despite Enji already atoning, Natsuo gets aggressive with him, stressing out the whole family and preventing them from healing.

As the manga reached its finale, I hoped that Natsuo would realise he was going down a dangerous path and apologise for his mistakes. However, this turned out not to be the case. Natsuo hasn't changed and is set to turn out like his father, if not worse.

When it comes to stopping Toya, the Todoroki family is inconsistent with their choices. At first, the family's civilians remained safe, and the heroes were allowed to do their jobs. Otherwise, they could get into legal trouble for vigilantism. It doesn't matter how personal the stakes are. Additionally, Shoto could focus on his fight with Dabi and not worry about his loved ones.

Natsuo fulfils his promise at first, remaining in the shelter and keeping his sister safe.

It was reckless enough when Rei got involved in Toya's fight. Then, Natsuo and Fuyumi had to disobey their mother. Three civilians had stuck their noses in hero work. Luckily, it all ended well in the end.

Who knows, this plan change could be better in the long term. They are in the middle of a war, and sometimes, you can't wait for legal permission. The ice users have no hero training but could negotiate as the criminal's family. Natsuo claims he is the closest to Toya, so he must step up the most here.

For a brief moment, Natsuo seems he is on the right track. He remembers the night when Toya called the women "useless", and he refused to refute it. He enabled Toya for too long and now Natsuo must take responsibility.

Instead, he unhelpfully insults Toya. Where is Natsuo admitting his own guilt? Where is his meaningful speech? He hardly tries for the brother he claimed to be close to and enabled.

This is why non-professionals getting involved was a bad idea. He could have angered Toya further and made everything more dangerous.

After this brief line to Toya, Natsuo gives up on negotiating. Instead, he focuses on using his untrained quirk and trying to overpower Toya. This could have been disastrous.

When Shoto finally defeats Toya, Natsuo makes his loyalties known. He doesn't rush to check on Toya, who is likely dead. Instead, he keeps his distance. Natsuo is simply flunking his duties.

Natsuo doesn't even acknowledge or thank Shoto for saving everyone. It is Fuyumi who speaks up.

Despite having his thoughts, Natsuo doesn't say any of them aloud. He completely ignores his villainous brother dying on the ground and the complicated history that led to this point.

Enji's apologies revealed the bitter truth about Natsuo. He had it the easiest out of the entire Todoroki family. Enji and Shoto have put their lives countless times on the line to save them. Rei has spent ten years in a mental hospital. Fuyumi had to do the housework and keep the family together from a young age.

Meanwhile, Natsuo can fulfil his dreams at college, get a girlfriend and barely phone home. It is time for him to do his fair share and do some emotional labour. He can ease the load of his loved ones. However, he selfishly makes them do all the heavy lifting.

Even after his 16-year-old brother faints, Natsuo doesn't move to check on him. Toya is one thing, but Shoto is the most innocent one of all.

Even at the lowest possible point, Natsuo can't help but insult Enji: "Mom and Fuyumi had enough heat for one day." He indirectly throws shade on Shoto as well, just because he has a fire quirk.

Worst of all, Natsuo demands that Enji continue fighting despite losing his arm and having third-degree burns. Ignoring the family aspect momentarily, Natsuo is incredibly ungrateful as a civilian towards a serving hero.

After the war, the Todoroki family visit Toya in the hospital. Despite his brother dying and everyone being scarred, Natsuo just coldly stares. Rei and Fuyumi pipe up, but the thirdborn thinks he can ignore the past.

Worst of all, Natsuo decides to make it all about him and suddenly announces he is disowning Enji. Is he going to abandon his mother to look after his wheelchair-bound father? Will he ignore all the effort that Enji has put into atoning?

A child unnecessarily disowning their parent will leave an emotional scar on their very soul.

Has Natsuo reflected on everyone's part in the family's dysfunctionality? Does he not understand how sociopathic Toya was as a child and responsible for his parents' poor mental health? He remembers that Toya called the women "useless", but he doesn't acknowledge all the other horrible things Toya did.

Will Natsuo be a hypocrite and not disown the relatives who sold off his mother?

Despite Natsuo's stinging words at Enji, he gives him emotional whiplash by praising him. Deep down, Natsuo knows Enji deserves better, and he wants a connection with his father. However, he is overtaken by childish stubbornness and pettyness. Natsuo is the only person preventing Fuyumi's dream of their family being complete and he is denying her that. He is holding everyone back. He is a coward and ungrateful.

I'm seriously convinced that Natsuo will continue the cycle of abuse. He is already making the same mistake of marrying at the young age of twenty.

I'm wondering what Natsuo's girlfriend feels about this. Why did she agree to never meet her father-in-law? Why did she agree to a non-ceremonial wedding? Did she agree that her future children would never know their grandfather? She looks like she has a shy personality, and I wonder if Natsuo likes to take advantage of that. Is he controlling towards her?

What will his attitude be towards his future children? What if they become curious about their family history? What if they have fire quirks? What if they look exactly like Enji?

I fear that Natsuo will become like Kotaro Shimura, Shigaraki's father. If this happens, the ice user would be worse than Enji. Endeavour lost his father at a young age and didn't have a good example for his own parenting. Meanwhile, Natsuo has a long history to learn from. Multiple loved ones are reaching out to him and begging him to heal. Natsuo should know better, yet he chooses to fester on his grudges and potentially carry on the abusive cycle.

Natsuo already has a fierce temper and a habit of hitting things. How long before it turns from objects to real people?

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Shoto Todoroki - The hypocrite

I’ve get lot of bashlash for my opinions, but I’m not going to stop me from being honest. Anyway, onto my newest post:

While his parents were raising the born-sociopath Toya, both of their mental health began to spiral. Shoto was caught in the crossfire of this. It’s understandable the boy will carry some trauma from that. However no situation is truly black and white, it’s always more complex. A relationship goes both ways and I looking how Shoto effected those around him.  

There were abusive moments where Shoto was justified in defending himself. However, if he wasn’t being directly abused at the time, anything he did against people was premeditated revenge. It’s a common saying that being hurt is not an excuse to hurt others. Like Natsuo, Shoto doesn’t believe this applies to him. He believes his actions as an 16-year-old, can be excused by what he experienced as a 5-year-old.  

This attitude ends up hurting everyone around Shoto and continues to drag on the family tension longer then it needs to. 

He falls into many of pitfalls his father did, but he hypocritically refuses to see that and sympathize with Enji. He’s guilty of neglect, physical abuse and emotional abuse:

Neglect evidence: 

Shoto refused to see his mother for 10 years. While Shoto tried excusing himself by thinking Rei would be triggered again by his red hair - That’s just his assumption. Unlike Enji, Shoto didn’t bother to send a letter or check up with the doctors. Rei needs therapy and her feelings will be more difficult to work through if she’s unaware of her son’s feelings. 

Shoto didn’t find a chance to meet Natsuo in 16 years.  Enji may have tried to separate them, but must have been an opportunity, where Shoto could have to  meet Natsuo. Simple as sneaking downstairs or meeting outside the house.  When Shoto was 12+, he was old enough to leave the house on his own. 

Shoto decides to leak his family’s sensitive history to Izuku without asking for his family’s permission first. He said this in a public area, allowing Bakugo to overhear as well. If this leaked to the media, it could destroy his father’s career and the rest of his family by proxy. Rei replies on Enji’s income for her therapy and Shoto & Fuyumi still live in the family home. Rei’s mental health could be destroyed again if she became the gossip point of the country. 

When Shoto decides to finally visit his mother, he doesn’t tell anyone about this life-changing decision. Fuyumi and Enji would have rightful concerns on how it could effect Rei’s recovery. 

Shoto continues to worry Fuyumi by disappearing for hours during this critical time and by refusing to answer his phone. 

Shoto continues this habit of hanging up and refusing to answer messages. He hangs up on Enji suddenly when he spoke about visiting his school course. If Shoto didn’t want his father to come, he should have clearly stated it, not just use silent treatment: 

He does this a second time when he leaves Enji’s messages unanswered. While this makes it emotionally confusing for Enji, since his son accepted his friend request.

Violence evidence:

He taunted his classmates not to move their feets, or it could rip their skin off. 

He threatened to let a low-level villain slowly die of frostbite, unless they told him their plans. 

Shoto purposefully made massive robots, fall on a a crowd of highschoolers. Many of them weren’t in the hero course, so had no training or proper quirks to protect themselves.

This overwhelming attack could have seriously injured Sero and it was metres away from the audience members, endangering them as well.

He uses this overboard attack against Eraserhead, who has the body of a  quirkless person, when he can’t see his target. Shoto could have seriously harmed him if he didn’t dodge out the way. 

He endangered the people at the license exam, by recklessly blasting fire into a whirlwind, making it spread. 

He was so determined to win against the Steel-transformer from 1B, he used dangerous heat levels, concerning the teachers around him.  

Emotional abuse evidence:

Shoto made his expectations around his father very unclear, even at a very young age. 

He hated his father for training him to surpass All Might - Yet hypocritically, Shoto admired All Might, to the point of wanting be a hero like him.

For 10 years, Shoto has been saying he wants to be a hero. From the age of 5, to the age of 15. 

Despite claiming he doesn’t want to be like his father, he still follows Enji’s wishes in joining UA.

Shoto declares he’ll defeat Izuku, as All Might’s successor. Enji wasn’t even in the same building, Shoto did this entirely on his own time.

He interns with the father he hates oh-so-much:

Then, he does it twice: 

He asks for Enji’s help in learning flash fire fist: 

There were serval times when Shoto dragged his dad’s career through the mud. Yet both times, Enji was willing to forgive him and have him back as an intern. The first time was when Shoto ran off to fight Stain as a vigilante. As his supervisor, Enji has to face fines and his teaching license being suspended - All for his son’s own recklessness. 

Shoto didn’t learn the first time, as he sneaks off to Bakugo’s recuse. As an untrained pro, Shoto could have made it worse. Either he could have alerted the villains and allowed them to escape with their hostage. Or they could have wasted heroes’ time, as they need to protect the teens who endangered themselves. As Endeavour’s son, Enji’s reputation could have been impacted for failing to control his son.

Shoto and Enji have very similar goals in wanting to surpass All Might as a hero. The only point of disagreement is the harsh methods that Enji uses. Shoto can’t handle the pain of Enji’s training, always collapsing on the floor and groaning. However, Shoto doesn’t clearly state that he wants a compromise: “I want your help to surpass All Might, but can you less harsh methods.”. 

He doesn’t seem to have a problem with UA’s equally tough methods: 

Rather then open commutation, Shoto closes himself off to Enji. His actions don’t match his words. With all these mixed messages Enji was getting from Shoto, he was doing his best to interpret it. He thought that Shoto may have a low-pain tolerance, but he ultimately wanted to stick it out to surpass All Might. 

Through out the years, we see the same scenario: Shoto refuses to verbally communicate his desire to stop the painful training. 

As a 5-year-old, he doesn’t protest:

As a 6-year-old, he doesn’t protest: 

 As an 8-year-old, he doesn’t protest: 

While Enji’s poor mental health made him obsessive for serval years, he was not beyond reason. In his own deluded way, he had his arms open to Shoto. When Shoto showed the first signs of cooperating with him in years, he proudly greeted him and held his hand out. Enji was forced to assume that Shoto’s refusal to use his fire, was a childish phase, as his son never openly stated that he serious about it. 

Shoto chooses to unhelpfully be passive aggressive towards his father. By that point, Shoto is contributing to the tensity of their relationship.

He goes out of his way to glare at Enji. His father was hundreds of metres away in the stadium chairs, being physically unable to do anything against Shoto at that moment.  

He’s aggressively telling his father to go away:

Shoto says to his dad that “He forgot all about him” - Which is one of the most painful and personalised insult a child can say to their parent. 

Shoto believes that being hurt as a 5-year-old, allows him to do the exact same thing to people as a teenager. Enji may have had his issues in the past, but being abusive towards him as revenge, is not justified. It just means Shoto is becoming the latest abuser of the family. 

Shoto struggles to even see his father as a person. He mocks, invalidates and run aways from Enji at times of genuine distress. He refused to even check if his father was alright during a mental breakdown. 

He drily mocks his father’s new scar.

When he sees Enji grieving for his dead-son-turned-killer - Shoto slams the door on him, as if he doesn’t have the right to cry and making it awkward for his siblings to open the door again. Fuyumi has to grab Shoto in order to stop him from running away. 

There were many similarities between Shoto and Enji when he became a teenager. Though like the hypocrite, Shoto refused to see his own flaws and show any sympathy for Enji suffering from the same issues. It could have been the perfect bridge for Shoto to stop the tensity between them, but he wouldn’t take it.

Shoto intimidated everyone around him, to the point they would vividly remember it: 

Shoto had a bad habit at snapping at others and using offensive insults. For example, he called the Chief of Police, “A Dog”, due to his mutation.

His lack of self-awareness makes him miss the mark to seriously harmful levels. He makes an insanely personal and inappropriate accusation at Izuku. Even if it was true, it would be none of his business. He only knew Izuku for a few weeks at that point. 

These are struggles that Shoto and Enji share. They could’ have have related over them, help each other overcome them and eventually bond. Those two could have reconciled a long time ago, but Shoto kept choosing to be antagonistic.  It wasn’t until that Dabi forced the family together that Shoto finally admitted his own shortcomings. However, the Ice-and-Fire user is almost 17-year-old at that point - Talk about too little, too late. 

Rei:

Shoto tries to shame Enji for things that weren’t his fault or made up entirely. 

Shoto resented his father for separating him from his siblings, despite it being for his own safety, otherwise Toya would kill him. Even after his death, his other siblings may have held a similar jealousy: 

He blamed Enji for his scar, despite the fact Rei physically did it. Enji did the right thing by getting her mental health, as she was danger to herself and others.

Enji put more effort into Rei’s recovery then Shoto even did. He paid for the entirety of her hospital stay, which is not cheap in Japan. Additionally, it was Enji who visited Rei and gave her gifts throughout the years. It wasn’t until 10 years later that Shoto decided to stop his radio silence. That radio silence may have inadvertently made Rei’s recovery longer, as she didn’t know if her son still loved or hated her.   

He shames his father’s physical features like his red hair and blue eyes, hiding them under his first hero costume. Despite the fact, that Enji can’t control which genetics he passes onto his children. For that matter, Enji can’t control what he looks like himself.

By the time Shoto was doing this, he’d had over a decade to reflect on the accident that happened. He should have released by then, it was never that simple between Enji and Rei. Even the famous moment where Enji slaps Rei for protecting Shoto - The anime gives further context to that scene. In reality, Rei was the first to make physical contact, grabbing onto his arm. Enji was forcibly making her let go. 

The only other incident we see of physical violence, was Enji angry at Rei for her failure to stop Toya’s self-harming. His wife admitted to his face she’d given up on trying. Rei was the primary care-giver, as Enji was busy at work in order to be the breadwinner. That was their agreed roles. It’s understandable that a parent would lash out at the person who’d let their child burn themselves. 

For someone who hated Enji for physical abuse: Shoto didn’t seem to have an issue to stooping to violence himself in this scene:

Shoto spread falsities about his parents’ marriage, while not being born at the time. He paints it as if Enji forced Rei to marry him and he assumes it was always awful. 

In reality, Enji approached Rei’s family for a traditional arranged marriage. Rei agreed to it and they went on dates to generally fall in love. 

Enji listened to Rei’s desire for a second child, despite it being unneeded to keep Japan’s future safe by preparing the next Number 1. Before Toya began acting up because his bruised ego - The family of four were a happy unit and would of remained that way if it wasn’t for Toya. 

Enji wasn’t the only who should be blamed for Rei’s mental breakdown. Toya did as much, if not more, to make his mother break. Shouting at her and using violence against her. Surely, Shoto must have heard about Toya’s troublesome history at some point? 

When Rei was speaking about Shoto’s blue eye freaking her out, she was flashing between Enji’s and Toya’s eyes. I think this heavily implies that she was equally paranoid towards her firstborn and husband.

 Toya deserves Shoto’s resentment for abusing his mother, not just Enji. Hell, Toya deserves more blame, as he’s the point who destroyed Enji’s mental health and made him obsessed in the first place.

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Toya and Natsuo Todoroki - The hidden abusers

Toya Todoroki:

Before the reveal of Toya's backstory, fans assumed that Enji was the root cause of his family breaking apart. He was only shown in a negative light as Shoto implied that Enji forced Rei to marry him and he showed hitting his loved ones. 

However, Shoto was the youngest. He didn't know what the family was like during the early days. Additionally, he didn't know his siblings at all and how they affected the family unit. Toya's backstory shows how much context Shoto was truly missing.

It showed that Enji was similar to Rei; someone having their mental health worn down by another person and lashing out as a result. Toya was the true root cause of Tododokis' downfall. While it's rare, children who abuse their parents is a real thing. It's no coincidence that Enji's and Rei's mental health began declining around the same time.

Before he began burning himself, his parents and sister were a happy union. Enji approached Rei to have a traditional arranged marriage. 

She agreed to help her family.  She wasn't forced into it and she knew everything from the start. They had a comfortable setup. Rei would be taken care of, with a large house and hired staff.

Despite the business-like founding of their relationship, they went on dates to genuinely bond with each other. Enji wanted to learn all the little things his wife liked. 

Even if it didn't fit in his plans for a hero heir, Enji listened to Rei's desire for a second child, in order to give their firstborn a companion. 

Despite having the former trauma of his father's death, Enji genuinely wanted to be a family man.

Enji didn't judge Toya and Fuyumi on their quirks. While they didn't have the exact hybrid quirk he hoped for, he said he was satisfied with his life. He was shown looking after his two children when he's sitting with a sleeping Fuyumi and gently stopping Toya from waking her.

. He began to do casual training with Toya, despite only having a fire quirk. Toya was shown to enjoy their time together and wanted to be a hero. Enji was ensuring his son a bright future, as the hero career is well-paid and highly respected. A father hoping his children will follow in his footsteps, is fairly normal. It's like a farmer training their young children, so they can inherit the farm once they're older.

In some ways, Enji was right to do his quirk marriage. All Might wouldn't be around forever. Most heroes slacked off and took Number 1 for granted. But Enji realized they couldn't give up on getting stronger - Otherwise, they'd be left vulnerable when All Might inevitably retired or died. Decades later, Hawks admitted Enji had been right all along. 

Though Endeavour wasn’t delusional. He still knew the limits of his body. While he wouldn’t slack on improving his own hellflame, Endeavour always does the practical thing: He had to think outside the box and find an alternative route. He’d swallow his pride and entrust someone else to do what was necessary. 

Enji secured one of the most powerful quirks ever seen - Half Cold Half Hot. It helped ensured Japan's future and thousands could be saved. 

The children who couldn't fulfill this goal weren't ill-treated either. Enji never called them insulting names to their faces. He gave them the freedom to pursue whatever career they wanted. He ensured they were cared for, with a hired nanny and a large house to run around in. Not all parents can be the 'Hands on' type like Rei, some are better suited to being breadwinners.

When Toya began burning himself, Enji stopped the training because he was worried for his wellbeing. Toya refused to listen and took the warnings about his medical condition, as a personal attack. 

He would begin lashing out at every one of his family members. He'd storm away from Fuyumi and say her opinions don't matter because she's a girl. 

Enji couldn't even put his coat on, without Toya flailing his arms and shouting at him about training. Nobody could be in his presence, without getting stressed out.

Toya pushed Enji to have more children after Fuyumi. His father hoped to distract him, by giving him more siblings and giving the burden of being his heir to someone else. Toya hated his brothers for merely being born - Which is a very unusual trait for such a young child to have. 

This implies that Touya was born, with a predisposition for violence and dangerous grudges. No matter which parents Toya was born to, anyone would be pushed to the brink with such a stressful child. This is shown with Enji, as there is a panel of him hunkered over his bed with his head in his hands.

Then Toya proved he was the worst one in the family at the age of 8. He used his fire quirk against his mother and baby brother, trying to kill them. Additionally, the rest of the family was nearby and they were almost caught in the crossfire. The only reason nobody was hurt, was because Enji saved everyone. 

The only mistake Enji made that day, was wanting to protect his son and covering up for him. Toya got away with his murder attempt scot-free. Enji even hired a nanny for Toya. He was allowed interact with Rei, Natsuo and Fuyumi like nothing happened. 

Shoto was the one who suffered, by needing to be isolated for his safety.

It should have been Toya who was isolated instead. Enji should've hauled him to the police station. Whether Toya is thrown into young offenders or a mental hospital, that's up to the court judges to decide.

Enji removed himself from Toya's life, as he didn't want to foul his obsession with him. Enji thought he could reply to Rei to keep their eldest safe since he's busy at work and she's the primary caregiver. However, Rei failed to do so and admitted she'd given up trying. It's understandable that a parent would lose their temper with the person who let their child continuously self-harm.

By this point, Toya is shown to abuse every member of his family. He's sexist towards Fuyumi and Rei, only referring to them as 'women' and saying they're too incompetent to help.

He borderline threatens his mother when she tries to talk sense into him. Then he gaslights her by making up exaggerated tales of her own marriage and claiming his own shortcomings are somehow her fault. Rei is utterly terrified of her thirteen-year-old son, unable to stand the sight of his eyes. 

When she spotted Shoto before the kettle incident, she probably mistook him for Toya, not Enji. She remembered how he tried to kill her and she grabbed the kettle in self-defense.

When it comes to the boys in the family, Toya is no better.

Shoto had to be isolated to remain safe from Toya and his brother would give him death stares whenever they passed each other. 

Then with Enji, Toya is constantly guilt-tripping him, by showing his burns to him and blaming him for everything. He lies that Enji called them failures and pushed Toya to attack Shoto, but he never did. 

Enji is shown being pushed to his limit, by this attention-seeking abusive son. Toya guilt-trips him by showing off his burns and forcing Enji to beg him to stop for years on end. Enji is constantly stressed out, because his son refuses to stop hurting himself and everyone around him.  

Toya is shown shouting at his father on multiple occasions. This post has already two examples with Enji putting on his coat and then Toya screaming “Look at me”. Even as a teenager, Toya would yell at him. He demanded that Enji feed into his god complex, needing a ‘grand purpose’ behind his birth and asking to be referred to as a ‘creation’. No father should be forced to go along with his   son’s obvious delusions.

Finally, with Natsuo, Toya manipulates him by telling him false stories about their parents. This brainwashing affects Natsuo to this day, as he's repeating the same lies as a college student. Toya would tell his younger brother these lies, when he was asleep and unable to critically think. Natsuo is five years younger than Toya and he shouldn't be burdened with topics way out of his age range. Whenever Natsuo wanted a break from the stressful ramblings, Toya would guilt-trip him with accusations of abandonment.

If abusing his family wasn't enough, Toya was committing criminal acts. He would go outside his private property to train, which is illegal quirk usage. He did this for years on end. By this point, Toya was a teenager. He was definitely old enough to be prosecuted for this. 

Then he recklessly destroyed an entire forest and endangered the nearby town. Countless amounts of people could've died in that forest fire, not just Toya.

Enji proved how much he cared for his son when he was horrified when he saw the blaze and rushed to save his son despite the risk. Enji put up a shrine in honor of his son and would prey on it, even decades later. 

He started employing fire users at his agency, implying he had vague hopes of finding Toya, since his body wasn't found. He trained Shoto more harshly, so he'd have better control of his quirk and he wouldn't die like his brother. Enji only lashed out at Rei, because Toya's reckless actions made him lose himself. He didn't want Rei to stop him from teaching Shoto the necessary quirk safety.

Rei began spiralling as well due to Toya's recklessness. She became scared of her innocent children and snapped at Shoto due to it. She had to spend a decade in the hospital and Toya's actions worsened her state. 

The aftermath of Enji's and Rei's grief, ruined the relationships of the Todoroki children as well. Shoto hated his father due to his unhealthy coping with Toya and couldn't visit his mother for a decade since his scar might trigger her again.

 Natsuo and Fuyumi couldn't be allowed into Shoto's life, despite Toya's death. As Enji was still worried one of his jealous siblings might attack Shoto, especially since Natsuo had been brainwashed by Toya.

When Toya wakes up from his coma, his first instinct is to set an orphanage ablaze, leaving countless children to die.

 Then, he trespasses in his old house, refusing to show himself to any loved ones. When he sees Enji training Shoto as normal, he expects his father to still be grieving for him years later. Without saying a word to Enji, Toya makes massive assumptions and fakes his death all over again.

Natsuo Todoroki:

When Natsuo became a college student, he was still repeating the words of his 13-year-old brother - Despite it being more than a decade and he should know better as an adult. Natsuo blindly followed Toya, saying that 'he'd been told everything' and spouting the falsities of Enji calling him a failure. 

He's refusing to forgive Enji for multiple things he didn't do, such as Toya causing his own death. Natsuo is even admits he’s being judgemental in comparison to his siblings.

Natsuo begins shouting at Enji in the middle of a public street - Becoming verbally abusive.  He questions why he needs to change. However, he ignoring that fact, he’s choosing to be apart of a family unit and members must be willing to make compromises for each other. If he can’t respect Fuyumi’s or Rei’s wishes to forgive Enji, then he shouldn’t be constantly hanging around his father. 

When Enji is fighting the Nomu, Natsuo claims that Enji forgot about his family and he would run away from the villain. Both statements needed to be corrected by Rei and Fuyumi. He openly questions why his mother would defend him.  

He baffled why his mother and sister would forgive his father 'so quickly'. He bitterly questions it in front of Fuyumi.

He ruins both of Fuyumi's dinners.  He leaves in the middle of them and doesn’t finish Fuyumi’s lovingly prepared food. During the first dinner, he scares everyone by shouting at Enji unprovoked. 

He almost reduces Fuyumi to tears and she has to get comfort from Shoto. 

With the second dinner, he humiliates his family in front of guests, by purposefully jabbing at Enji. 

If Natsuo can't handle his father's presence, then he shouldn't be there. He shouldn't ruin it for others.  He’s sabotaging the rest of his family’s relationships. If he can’t be a team player, then he should at least allow others to do it. But he keeps on ruining and questioning Rei and Fuyumi’s road to reconciliation: 

Even when Enji is in a hospital bed, at his lowest point mentally and physically - That's not enough for Natsuo to show any restraint. He insults his father for crying over his deceased son turned killer.

Every Todoroki was confessing their part in creating Toya, desides from Shoto who was too young at the time. Natsuo undermines everyone’s efforts to unit, by blaming it all on Enji.

Then he hypocritically admits his own fault a few seconds later, saying he should've talked sense into Toya. 

It’s only when Natsuo glances at all his family, he realises he’s being inappropriate.  After that, does he finally feel guilty and silences himself. 

Blaming Enji for everything has no logical backing. Enji didn't know Toya survived and he was a runaway on the streets, with countless other external factors pushing him into criminality. Additionally, Toya had burnt his head and was in a coma for 3 years - Who knows what brain damage could've happened and impaired his moral compass.

Since Enji hasn't laid his hands on Rei and Shoto in years - Natsuo no longer has reactionary abuse as an excuse. Especially since Enji has shown improvement time and time again. He visits Rei in the hospital, thanks Fuyumi and he promises to make Shoto proud. With Natsuo himself, Enji invited him to speak his mind, asks to taste his cooking, and says he accepts him not forgiving him.

When a spouse chooses to remain with their cheating partner but reminds them of their actions constantly - That's considered unnecessary punishment and they become the toxic ones. I think the same applies to blood relatives. Being abused in the past is not an excuse to abuse someone else in the present, even if it's an ex-abuser. We don't approve of crimes against ex-cons, so we shouldn't have double standards towards abuse. Otherwise, you're trying to torture them out of spiteful anger. 

Natsuo is showing an emerging patten of physical violence toward Enji. If he’s carries on doing this, he’ll become the physical abuser. 

When Enji casually places his hand on Natsuo’s shoulder, he slaps it away with needless force. 

He slams his fist against the door, close to Enji’s head. 

Then he aggressively shoves Enji back. 

Natsuo has no right to scream, falsely accuse or raise his fist against Enji. The only abuser in those moments, was Natsuo. If he’s not careful, he might become the one, that the rest of the family needs to distance themselves from. If Natsuo keeps this up for too long, he'll need his own atonement..