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thedominantdaddy · 1 month
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Lucky sitter
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Ok champ the sitter will be here soon you be a good boy
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thedominantdaddy · 2 months
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I think…I’m in the mood to do a little writing again. Not sure what just yet though…
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thedominantdaddy · 4 months
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ABDLs Are Not Pedophiles & Patreon Shouldn't Treat Us Like We Are
So as of yesterday it became apparent that Patreon decided to just go and delete a whole string of pages owned by ABDL artists, sending them each a message that basically said they were sexualizing minors. Of course the pages (at least the ones I was following, like Buckarooblaster) were not and their art on those pages all depicted adult characters, college age at the very youngest. But the truth be damned I guess.
Now look, this is nothing we in the community aren't sadly familiar with. People fear what they don't understand and that leads to prejudice. I wish the people working at Patreon and other folks that jump to those assumptions about us would take the time to get to know us or at least do a little research before assuming that we would ever do anything to hurt a child. If they did, they might realize that we in this community are generally hyper vigilant about weeding out people who would and more proactive at keeping minors from assessing our own content then any company ever has been. Part of that is knowing we would all quickly suffer from guilt by association, but another part of it is that a lot of us have either suffered that sort of abuse or known someone who has and take it very seriously. That and this community is just full of genuinely good and decent people.
Kink, like many things about sexuality, is generally not something we choose. In a weird way, it kind of chooses us. And as long as it's consenting adults-including in the imagery-and no one gets hurt, that should be ok. Yes, that includes if grown people want to dress up in diapers and act childish themselves-if there is no actual child involved or depicted it is not pedophilia and this is not a hard concept to grasp. But we live in a time period when the likes of QAnon, Moms for Liberty, and a host of other quacks and crackpots are going back to the old playbook that used to be used against gay people in the days of Anita Bryant to argue that LGTBTQ people are pedophiles and that everything from a sex education text book to a kids book about two male penguins raising an egg is grooming. I say that to note that I'm aware why companies like Patreon are probably a little hypersensitive, it's just unfortunate and hurtful that they joined the cranks in policing adult sexuality that has nothing to do with hurting kids or involving them in any way.
And let me explain how this kind of thing hurts people. First and foremost, it hurts kids that are actually being abused. How? Because just like in the story when you cry wolf so much and there is no wolf people don't listen when the actual wolf shows up. Calling all this stuff "grooming" that isn't is just going to lead to people eventually being desensitized and dismissive about it and ultimately not listening to some kids who really need a grown up to do so. That's the most important thing. But yeah, it hurts innocent people on top of that. Not just hurting us emotionally because this is a very cruel thing to say or insinuate about someone when it isn't true. I mean it genuinely hurts peoples reputations, could cost them their jobs, even get them hurt to be throwing such horrible accusations and insinuations around that don't have any basis in truth. And yeah, it could push some people to hurt themselves. Think I'm overreacting? Let's have a bunch of people start telling everyone that you're a pedophile or something else as horrible and evil as that and see what toll it takes on your mental health for awhile. I wonder if the person that made that decision at Patreon would like to try walking in those shoes for a bit...
What's really sad about this is this a company that's supposed to value artistic expression. It's even based in a supposedly progressive city, being headquartered at 600 Townsend Street in San Francisco. Patreon makes its money collecting a cut of what each artist earns. Think they're returning any of the money they got from that art that only featured adults that they're now banning with a BS justification? I rather doubt it... I know I as a consumer haven't seen any of the money I paid to view that art returned to me by the company either and of course no one else well. Basically, Patreon has now stolen that money from both the artists and the consumers and for all their objections to the art that made them that money you can bet they'll keep every penny of it.
For the artists that are no doubt really hurt by all this, I am so sorry that you're going through it. For whatever it's worth, those of us who enjoyed your art and the communities that were created around them know you didn't do anything wrong, that you're not pedophiles and don't deserve to be labeled as such. I hope you find a place to start back up. I hope someone creates a safe, sex positive and kink friendly space for consenting adults and every artist and writer of any 18+ material featuring only adults leaves Patreon and goes to make their money there. We're the low hanging fruit here and if Patreon can do something like this to our community you can expect them to do so to others eventually. But hey, there's a lot of money to be made in this kind of artistic expression and Patreon clearly deserves to lose that money.
Again, let me reiterate. Being an ABDL does not make someone a pedophile. Those are two very different things and the people in this community are some of the best people there are who don't deserve that kind of unfair and cruel association. I know a lot of people out there are not ready to hear, much less believe that, but it's the truth. More than that, adults in a free society ought to be able to consume and produce whatever sort of erotic material they want so long as no one is actually hurt, any actual acts are consensual and there's a clear line on what is fantasy and what should never be done, and that there's no children actually depicted or involved (and no, adults dressing up and roleplaying together does not count as that). Not long ago, that wasn't a radical concept. It was a pretty mainstream understanding. It's scary how fast we're going backwards when it comes to this sort of thing.
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thedominantdaddy · 4 months
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Unfortunately, it seems to be any ABDL content as two that I’ve followed-none of which had anything with minors of course-were deleted. It’s unfortunately the ignorance and prejudice our community faces and it’s sad to see that kind of kink shaming and smearing of innocent people who just happen to like doing something different with consenting adults coming from a company like Patreon.
ALERT: My Patreon and all its content has been abruptly terminated overnight.
Hello my amazing readers and followers,
I'm very sorry to inform you that I woke up this morning to the following message informing me that my patreon (which has been going for two years strong now) was abruptly and summarily removed without recourse.
You can see their terse explanation below.
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Anyone involved in the ABDL community knows that the insinuation that ABDL has anything to do with minors is absolutely wrong.
Every story I’ve ever written is prefaced with the disclaimer that all characters are over the age of 18. The A in ABDL stands for ADULT, and we in the community mean it!
Reading tumblr today, it looks like this purge has happened to countless other ABDL creators at the exact same time as well.
Patreon has apparently done a severe 180 from their previous policies and decided to betray their thousands of ABDL creators, followers, and fans, and destroy their livelihoods and communities overnight, with an abrupt change of rules that drastically differs from what they have allowed for years now.
Their justification for this widespread ban of ABDL content is just plain inaccurate! ABDL content has nothing to do with sexualizing minors!
1) Needless to say, Patreon has revealed itself to be a deeply untrustworthy company that’s willing to betray thousands of adult content creators on a dime who chose to make patreon their home. They told us we were allowed to create adult content, then they banned us overnight for doing just that.
2) Patreon’s sudden decision is fueled by ignorance about the ABDL community, it further creates harmful stigma, and it removes one more space for ABDL people to exist, of which there are fewer remaining every day.
Please bear with us ABDL content creators as we look for new platforms, and thank you all for your support.
❤️ Nanny Chloe
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thedominantdaddy · 4 months
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Been a lonely couple of years now without a boy to love and care for. There’s a closet full of cute ABDL diapers waiting to be used, an old suitcase full of toys to be played with, a few onesies waiting to be passed on…
Maybe by this time next year.
In the meantime I’m just going to dream about zoo trips and cuddles during Saturday morning cartoons, of Christmas mornings and birthdays for a boy that never grows up, of cute outfits and blushy faces, bottle feedings and bath times and so much more.
One day.
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thedominantdaddy · 4 months
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Why was this not a scene in that show!?
Oh well, at least we got that episode of Lost…
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thedominantdaddy · 6 months
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Can I just adopt Peter Parker?
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thedominantdaddy · 8 months
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What I'm Looking For
So today, partly due to a message or two in my inbox and partly just because I've been wanting to put this into words for awhile now, I think I'm going to take a long overdue stab at laying out just what it is exactly that I'm looking for (to the best of my current ability) and, who knows, maybe putting it out there into the universe to manifest.
I'm not just looking for a little fun and games here. I'm looking for a real relationship, a daddy/son ABDL relationship.
Ultimately, I want a boy I can diaper 24/7 and baby at home. There will of course be discretion and practicality involved when it comes to public, work, friends and family, etc. But the dynamic will be one of daddy and baby even when we have to tone it down.
If you think that's for you, well, think and ask yourself if you really want that kind of power exchange on a near permanent basis. This, for me, is very much a lifestyle and a strong part of my makeup, even if I do tone in way down in public and exercise discretion. What I'd be going for here is a very real dynamic. (With a negotiable amount of sexual fun.)
That said, everything I want and am interested in is safe, sane, and consensual. I want a healthy relationship that makes us happy. There's life beyond it too-friends and family, careers and other life goals. The idea is not to take all that away from someone and make them a baby, but to complement it all and give that life to someone who wants it as bad as I do from the other side.
Ultimately, I want someone who wants to do this with me not just because I can fit into the daddy niche for them. There's a difference between being needed and wanted. I want to be wanted as a person too. I want to give my love to some special little guy and have it returned.
I've mentioned before having a type and having wrestled with that a bit. I genuinely try to be open to having a relationship with just about anyone (I am a gay man, hence the "just about" part). But if I'm being honest, guys that are a bit younger than me (I'm 37), shorter and skinnier, with boyish good looks really do hit my buttons-can't deny that. Again though, I try to make that secondary and open myself up to see just who all I might click with.
Ultimately, I want to give my little guy all the special things any of us in this community have ever dreamed of. A nursery with a crib, a high chair, lots of toys and cute outfits, a play pen and then some. I want to watch cartoons with him and snuggle on lazy days. Take him to the zoo and on vacation. And yeah, I want to be able to have a conversation with him and do some adult things too, even if I do have to stop and check his diaper in the middle of them.
Anyway, that's just kind of my dream. Maybe one day I'll see it realized.
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thedominantdaddy · 8 months
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Been awhile since my last update so I thought I’d post.
At this point I’m doing a bit better I think. Still kind of taking my time and pacing myself as I look for that special boy. I’ve talked with a few wonderful little guys along the way, so far nothing has fallen exactly into place yet. A lot of that has been me and the fact I’ve been healing. A good chunk of it has been circumstances (mind or theirs) not giving easily to a relationship. I’m deliberately not tearing myself up about things though-much as the instinct to daddy is driving me a tad crazy lol.
This is not to say that I don’t have my moments of depression or anything over all that’s happened before. I still do. But they’re getting a little better with time I think. I had honestly thought, and still sometimes fear, that my heart was now so broken that it might never love the same way again. I guess I’m still not 100 percent certain on that but I’m willing to test the idea now more than I have been.
All this comes with a little change in my profile on this page you might have noticed where I’m now being just a tad more open than I was on here, namely in giving the general area I’m from in the hopes of maybe finding someone near here who I might click with and vice versa. Time will tell on that I guess. I’m also thinking a bit more now about what I’m looking for in that special boy and trying to put it into words. (To be honest I’ve sometimes felt very guilty about having a type I’m attracted to, something I’m still wrestling with a bit.)
Anyway, this is where I’m at in life now. Eager but not exactly rushing either. Better, but still cautious. Looking, but doing so on my terms. Open, but not going to try and force anything.
Feels like a healthier place to be, mentally and emotionally. Now maybe I can start looking to move a step further and ultimately find the special baby I feel like I’ve been made to care for.
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thedominantdaddy · 1 year
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So I’m sitting up late not sleeping and thought I’d post some updates if, for no other reason, than to get them out of my head.
Getting back out in the ABDL daddy scene has been…going. I’ve talked to and am still talking to a lot of truly wonderful boys, some of whom I know may read this and I really want them to know they are special and fantastic. But it’s been really hard for me to keep things going in that department. Ever since the end of that last long relationship, it feels like a part of me has died and I can’t seem to breathe life back in to it even as I want to so badly. Sometimes I think I’ll always have a broken heart that will never heal. Sometimes I don’t really care anymore that that’s the case either.
There have been a few times over the last year and three months I’ve felt like there might be a spark there. Then each time, just as I’ve been feeling a bit more optimistic about things and a tiny bit more like my old self, I’ve been ghosted. I really hate that. The worst is when you tell someone at the beginning that you’ve been hurt that way before and would much rather they tell you if they decide they don’t want to go further and they promise you they won’t do it. Then of course they ghost you anyway. There aren’t words to describe how much that sucks.
Granted there are some days where I’m the one who can’t keep up the conversations so I guess I have no room to talk. Not that I’m actually ghosting anyone I don’t think, but I guess it could come off that way. I just kind of have a hard time keeping an online conversation going. I’ll still reply and all, I just can’t seem to find the mental energy to keep a conversation going. I try to rest this side of my life and then feel restless. I try to get back out there and just kind of can’t find my fire if that makes sense. Or I think I might be finding it and then get burned again. I don’t know if I’m making any sense now.
My phone keeps messing with my head too. There’s a pic on there of my favorite pic with my former boy and I at the zoo. We were riding a camel together. I think it’s my favorite pic of the two of us. Can’t bear to delete it or any of the others. My phone likes to bring that one up in memories and did that this week. Bitter sweet to say the least.
I keep trying to tell myself it’s all a process. And I’m still talking to folks and trying to get a handle on things. I feel like I just sound pitiful on here when I talk about all this but it’s just me looking for a therapeutic outlet. I really am making an effort, I just feel like I’m dragging a dead part of me along as I do and it’s weighing me down. No one ever said this was going to be easy I guess.
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thedominantdaddy · 1 year
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Had forgotten about this one.
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thedominantdaddy · 1 year
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The first it what will hopefully be other collaborations to come.
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The world changed a lot when keeping an adult baby became acceptable. Even more so when some boys lost the privilege to decide if they wanted to be one… Little collab with @thedominantdaddy
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thedominantdaddy · 1 year
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So I guess it’s time for one of those periodic talks I have with tumblr lol.
Things are ok I guess. Been breaking out of my shell and talking to boys here and there but nothing has really come of that yet other than getting ghosted by one I really liked and thought there was a spark with. That was rough. Other than that, I’m just slowly putting myself back out there and seeing what happens. There’s a part of me though that’s afraid that at age 36 now and staring down the barrel of 40 in a few years this is just never going to happen and I might as well give up. It’s either people are too far away, or they just stop talking, or they’ve got other things going on. I don’t know, sometimes I just think about throwing in the towel on the whole full time daddy dream and on all this in general. But here’s hoping I guess.
On the other hand, I don’t want to jump the gun or anything but someone did reach out to me about some creative collaboration. Don’t want to go into any details before they’re ready to but I’m honestly kind of excited about that.
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thedominantdaddy · 2 years
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I don’t know which I love more-the normalization of diaper wearing, showing that they can be sexy, or the hot male model in them.
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I love how modern and normalised diapers are in this add!
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thedominantdaddy · 2 years
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So I guess it’s time I wrote something here again as I continue to process and move on. It’s been about 5 months since we split, though it feels like so much longer. “Split” makes it sound more mutual than it was I guess. Wasn’t my decision to call it all off, but what can you do to but respect that right? But I think I’m finally to the point where I’m emotionally ok with the idea that it’s ok for me to be mad about it all. That it’s perfectly ok and justifiable for me to feel that way. I feel like I was strung along, used, and lied to for five years. I feel like I poured my heart and soul into that relationship, that I was perfectly honest with him all that time, and that the least he could have done is be honest with me if he didn’t want the same things I did rather than keeping me around for emotional support or whatever the hell I was supposed to be. And then to be just thrown away like old garbage, on a whim, in a conversation about where our relationship was going that wouldn’t have come up if I hadn’t brought it up, really sucked. That really was how it was done, just so casually and then the rest of the night was just like nothing was wrong and nothing was coming to an end. But I did the right thing. I didn’t try to make him stay with me. I didn’t try to argue or keep us together. I respected his decision and let him go with love.
And it hurt like hell.
I held it in. I was the good daddy. The good boyfriend. I kept the stiff upper lip and didn’t break down and made sure to be supportive. I took a plane home, had this whole fiasco at the airport that almost kept me trapped in that city overnight, and then when I finally got all that sorted out and made it home many hours later I cried and cried and cried and cried. Being a daddy is hard sometimes because you feel like you’re supposed to just take it on the chin and take these things in stride, that you always have to be a rock and there’s no guidance or anything on how you’re supposed to manage all these feelings and dynamics for the sake of your own health and well being so you just kind of wing it. Even now as I write all this I have to say I feel a little ashamed to be letting it all out. But honestly, I deserved better.
I’m not saying all this to be spiteful. I don’t hate my former boy, I could never do that. I’ll always love him truth be told. I don’t regret what we had. No, that’s not entirely true. I regret that he wasn’t honest with me about what he wanted and where we stood. I regret that I was dragged along like that. I’m angry about it and I guess I finally accepted that I have every right and reason to be and it’s ok to be mad. That I can respect his decision, wish him well, and still be really angry that he did me wrong and treated me like dirt in that regard. I’m finally giving voice to it and, honestly, it’s nice to finally say it out loud. So to speak of course.
That all said, I haven’t been seething or sinking into depression all this time. I’m moving on and doing ok for the most part. I really do appreciate some of y’all (you know who you are) helping me get through this. I hope to build a serious daddy-son relationship with someone again and share that journey here, but I’m not quite there yet even if I am getting back to it.
I’ll get there and be back here with you all in some capacity. Honestly I feel like I’m doing pretty well all things considered. It’s a big accomplishment for me personally that I haven’t let this sink me into a state of depression and instead am just plain hurt and mad about how I was jerked around and then casually cut loose after so long and so much. Knowing your worth is like a philosopher’s stone for mental health I guess, it can turn the lead that would poison you into gold. And while I’m still processing and feeling my way through all this, I’m getting there and it’s going ok.
Anyway y’all, thanks for being my sounding board.
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thedominantdaddy · 2 years
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So, this has probably been a long time coming as it’s been clear my little guy and I weren’t on the same page about the future for awhile now and we’ve mutually agreed to give it a rest, at least for the time being.
I’m not upset. At least not like I thought I’d be. I flew up and we had a weekend together that was really fun. We both told each other over and over how much we love each other and we will always be special to one another, but he has things he wants to do that will take his life a different way than down to where I live and I don’t blame him for that in the least.
I love him. I’m proud of him. I’m sad and I’m going to hurt for a bit. But I want him to be happy and I’m glad we got to sort it out together this way.
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thedominantdaddy · 2 years
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Request
So I’m looking to possibly commission some ABDL artwork.  Will need to fit into my budget, would like to see the prior work of anyone who offers to do it, and discretion will be required and much appreciated.  Ideally would like the finished product well before Christmas.  If you’re an interested artist and want more details, message me.
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