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And when you realise it’s coming from someone else’s phone, you thank God it’s them instead of you.

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“I'm big and you're small, I'm right and you're wrong, and there's nothing you can do about it!”

There's something crookedly parental about the outie/innie interactions. Hey I made you, a conscious human being, for selfish reasons. I wanted to redeem myself. I needed to cope. Etc. Now let me dictate how you live. You depend on me to live. You depend on me to feed you. I control you. Don't follow your own wants you'll ruin me. You didn't choose this life but you need to choose me. I care about you, don't you see? I let you live. That's how much I care. You only exist because I let you. Aren't you grateful? Why don't you care about me? I am a person. You are not.

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I had some similar thoughts about this as well, and I think it ties in a bit with what you were saying earlier about the whole approach the Wembley production has to its costumes.

I always thought that original "joke" about Greaseball saying that line was that he was vain and his bodybuilding was an expression of that. Of course men are expected to be strong, but taking any conscious interest in your own appearance is for girls!

Women on the other hand tend to be the recipients of a lot of negative messaging if they decide to get jacked. They're told it's unfeminine, that no one will find them attractive if they look more masculine. So, I think it would be much more effective for Greaseball to say, "I'm so hot" at the end of Pumping Iron after she's had a whole song about how hard she works to look this good while her girlfriend fawns over her.

But to deliver that line with any sort of conviction would probably stray from the much more kid-friendly direction the show has gone in. I saw the Wembley production not too long after it opened in June and although I enjoyed the performance of Pumping Iron, I got the sense that Al Knott had been directed to play up the bombast rather than to try and convey even a tiny modicum of sex appeal alongside that.

The whole more family-friendly pivot shows up in the costumes. I get that there might be a health-and-safety reason to have them, but I think the backpacks in particular give them a very juvenile look. The shiny, smooth surfaces make the actors look like toys. With all the will in the world, the script on its own does not provide a huge amount of detail when it comes to characterisation, so this shiny-blandification of the costumes has the same effect on of the characters themselves. There's nothing about Greaseball's costume that suggests "bodybuilder", or even just grease! Why not give the wig a wet curl look?

The fact that “I’m so beautiful” was changed to “I’m so pretty” in the Wembley production brings me an insane amount of unexplainable rage

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Medium hot chocolate with cream and cinnamon sprinkles.

hi everybody please reblog this and tell me your go-to coffee order right now and if you don't like coffee feel free to include your go-to tea order instead

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Can’t believe the Olympic flame was carried by an anime villain.

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Hello, tumblr user. Before you is a tumblr post asking you to name a female fictional character. You have unlimited time to tag a female character, NOT a male one.

Begin.

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Telling my kids this was N-Dubz for that first one.

BRIDGERTON SEASON 3 (PART 2) BTS

03x06

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largely culturally christian question sorry but i was talking about this with my mum and i’m curious….

rb and add where you’re from if you want!

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My primary school started doing IT lessons when I was about 7, but I don’t recall many lessons that focussed on typing, although there were a few on how to use Microsoft Word. I can touch type reasonably quickly because my dad had a Mavis Beacon CD-ROM, so that’s how I learned.

This is a subject that really interests me because I (28 years old) had computer classes in grade school where learning how to efficiently type was a big focus. As a result I have a very high WPM (words per minute) count and am an excellent touch typer.

However, I've heard that they started phasing out computer classes in a lot of schools because it's assumed that kids/teenagers already know how to use a computer in this day and age. But smartphones are more popular than computers now, and as result a lot of Gen Z/Gen Alpha kids are able to text very quickly but their typing skills aren't as good.

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I dunno. Of course it's easy to say we were all naïve back then, but I kept up with a lot of shows airing around the same time on the BBC and ITV. Major shows like Call the Midwife, Broadchurch, The Fall and Last Tango in Halifax all had queer storylines that at least appeared to be breaking new ground. You could have been forgiven for thinking at the time that an honest-to-god paradigm shift was happening.

what happened with sherlock is that we were all like “it’s 2014 you cannot possibly be using early 2000s queer coding without following through on it we simply don’t live in those times any more” but everyone involved lived in the UK where they are always at least 7 years behind culturally and they genuinely were living in those times. They were just having a little house md moment but on steroids

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Blue Lights

Complete the phrase

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Our Wives Under the Sea

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Kate's purple jacket honestly suits her much better than the Pink Monstrosity she wore in the last episode.

I’d watch it

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Day-to-day Spanish food is pretty bad. Except the Starbucks vanilla muffins that you can get there but not in the UK.

It's Show & Tell Time!

What's your most controversial opinion about food?

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Will deserves better than Mike anyway.

What do you think about the "queerbaiting" in Stranger Things? Real thing or Tumblr teens with poorly developed theory of mind?

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I was busy screaming about J-Hope and have not had time to watch Stranger Things, so I can't weigh in on the second half of the season yet.

Generally, ST has wussed out on using Netflix to full advantage. It's whiteboy nostalgia media that's slowly creeping towards caring about female characters. I'm impressed they managed to add a lesbian, and the lesbian+straight guy duo thing is pretty fun. We usually see straight women with gay best friends.

But overall, ST has always been default HET HET HET HET all over the place. Every single moment of everything to do with Nancy's love life screams "straight nerdy guy writer". They're so deeply embedded in that mindset that I would not hope for much from them.

I never expected them to do anything interesting with Will. I guess once I watch the second half of the season, I'll see if it's as meh as I expect, actively infuriating, or a pleasant surprise.

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Yo if anyone wants to help build up the Uncle TV Tropes page then come on over.

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I remember reading a comment somewhere that sex ed has become a bit like The Invisible Hand of public health.

I am of the opinion that sex ed should have a short course every year with increasing complexity in US public schools. My family's only words on sex was: 1. I was about 5 and asked my mother where babies com from and she paused, then said "From vaginas!" Then laughed uproariously at my shocked and horrified expression. She did not elaborate and I was too humiliated to ask. So, not ideal. Factual, but not friendly or neutral. 2. I was 14 and they sat me down for "the talk". They said, "You know, sex? Don't do it. Or else." No elaboration.

Funny enough, I actually attended 4 sex ed courses through school. Twice at 10, once at 13, and again at 16. But they were poorly structured.

The first explained in detail the process of how babies form in a womb and what happens for birth, and the anatomy of a female in detail, and what periods are.

The second was a 30 min discussion that sex is a thing. It was gender segregated, and abstinence only.

The third was an actual full class, with both genders, and they actually taught the anatomy of penises too! Unfortunately the teacher tried so hard to be sensitive about it he kept devolving into vagueness and somehow I left that class with the impression that sperm is generated by a male's skin, like. In the hands.

The last still was abstinence only, but also discussed things like setting and respecting boundaries, and how to handle jealousy and the emotional and social complexities of having an ex.

The sperm misunderstanding persisted until I finally took (optional) anatomy and physiology at *18*. There was an actual video which portrayed 3d computer models actually engaging in a PIV sexual act and explaining the entire process in clear, neutral detail--including the function of testes.

I was asexual and heavily conservative Christian at the time, and had a lot of home issues that made dating an "at school only" experience, so my lack of thorough sex education did not put me at any physical risk, and at the very least that first sex ed class I took at 10 taught about menstruation so I wasn't completely unprepared when it happened. But... many of my classmates were already sexually active by the time I was 16, and dating, and... there were horror stories. I wasn't the only one confused about how things worked. Parents cannot be trusted to educate their kids. First of all, modern families don't actually spend a lot of critical one-on-one time with their kids..? Usually both parents work, and when the family IS together and free, they usually spend it playing. Playing games, watching tv, etc. Like, that's good too, but doesn't actually open up avenues for serious discussions.

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Yeah. Parents fall down on sex ed a lot. Even the progressive ones usually do better if they leave a book like Changing Bodies, Changing Lives around the house. The Talk is awkward and doesn't usually happen early enough or thoroughly enough.