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That is my opinion, and has always been my position regarding callouts, so I am making this post and leaving for the time being, simply because I don't want to interact with a RPC that believes that shaming and publicly humiliating people is a mature way of dealing with things. I don't want anything to do with self-appointed saviors and protectors who enjoy being morally superior more than they are willing to make the RPC a safer space. Yes, even for the unlikable, or the clingy, or the mistaken, or the uneducated people who make harmful claims but can be corrected.

Since words will be put in my mouth after this, I would like to end addressing causality. The people most involved in this situation from the beginning have been people of color — that makes sense, since the initial claims about Bunny that started this were about racism. And they have been the most vocal about it, as they deserve to be, because a white person posing as black doesn't hurt white people remotely as much as it hurts them. Until recently, I can't think of a single white person who spoke about it with more than a vague mention like "racism is bad please don't be a racist". If you can, I don't follow them.

So, disagreeing with the way the callout was handled is, necessarily, disagreeing with the POC who made it and endorsed it. That is a fact. It isn't blaming them for raising awareness about issues that affect them, it isn't charging against them specifically for being POC or being regularly vocal about race and racism, or pointing fingers at them instead of at the white people involved (because if they exist, I don't know them).

(an aside before moving on, just to cover my back because I have seen accusations like "you blocked my muse of color but not my white muse because you are racist" and I don't want those. I used to follow raphaeni, I even wrote a bit with the muse. I unfollowed — I believe softblocked — because I ran an interest checker and they didn't fill it. I didn't like their blog that much because they reblog too many pictures for my personal liking, so I did what people do and used the chance to cut ties, as I did for many others. The character being a man of color had nothing to do with it)

I think you can defend a right cause, even one that has personally harmed you, and still be an asshole and a bully about how you do it. And I think that is precisely what has happened here. It doesn't have anything to do with "mean ethnics" as it is the expression used in the callout to create the narrative that finding grays in it instantly makes you a racist. It has to do with mean people doing things that I consider toxic, to the point where I would rather not exist in the same space as them.

I wanted to be crystal clear about where I stand, so if people choose to cut ties with me, at least I know it was due to my own words and opinions, rather than someone else's. I will be stepping back for the aforementioned reasons, in hopes that people will learn how to solve issues like adults meanwhile.

If anyone wants my discord to chat or roleplay, my DMs are open. If anyone wants to offer further context or correct me, my DMs are open. If you come to me anonymously in my inbox, please don't do that — we're all adults here.

Everyone, have a lovely day.

This post will get rather long, please bear with me while I post all three parts of it.

People have blocked me in the past few days, and I'd rather it is for my own words than by association. I owe that to my mutuals here who have not heard from me in a while, especially those who like to form their own opinions. And I owe it to myself, because I won't keep being hypocritical thinking and talking about how people should handle things like adults but not do it myself and fade without a word.

Racism isn't petty drama, but the way it is handled can be, as it works with everything. I am not here to defend Bunny, or the other person, whose name was not stated "for the sake of their privacy" but King @ anyway — I will keep their name private as for their wishes, and call them X.

The callout was initially intended as a way of raising awareness to Bunny posing as a black person, meant to protect and validate POC. Although I have had ooc contact with him, I honestly cannot tell if he was posing as black, or how they were doing that (I am not American, and what I know of black culture in my country is most likely untrue for others, especially US), so I won't question the many people who spoke of their experience. It did catch my eye, as an external observer, that a few times it was mentioned that he "never claimed to be black", only thought to be. I don't know him or any of the people affected, but I was left with the impression that these claims were a thing brewing in a different circle, and were never brought up to him until it exploded. I don't doubt it is true and harmful for the people affected, but I have yet to see proof that it was intentional and malicious. If you have it, and will be so kind as to educate me, I would want to see it.

He addressed it in his own blog, all of the claims from the callout blog, so they weren't a secret even to his followers outside the bg3 rpc. He mentioned the past callouts, the sexualization of his character and pretending to be black. I think people are smart enough to make their own minds after seeing it there — if they thought he was black, now they knew for sure he wasn't, if they had sensed something odd with the sexualization they knew they weren't alone, and for the past callouts… I had been following Bunny for a while, and it isn't the first time I have heard about them from him. They were not public, but they weren't a secret either.

When I asked for the callout blog, I wanted to see proof of the things he had said, to cut ties with him after reading the testimonies of the affected people and forming my educated opinion. But I found nothing. All of it was telling me that what Bunny said was true: people saying they believed him to be black, people uncomfortable by the sexualization of his muse, and victims of his past. It gave me exactly nothing, except the word of strangers. Sure, I can trust POC's word about this or that being racist, because they know better. But I want to know what 'that' is. As a person who interacted with Bunny, and as a white person who writes some POC and highly sexual characters, I am not interested in "the drama", I want to know what they did wrong so I can learn from it: make sure I don't do it myself, educate my friends, stay away from others who replicate that behavior.

I thought at that point the deed of "keeping the rpc safe" was done. People had their thoughts validated, the person in question had addressed the issue, and most importantly he had added it to his rules. If it was indeed a malicious, intentional racist move, it had no room to ever happen again, and even followers from other rpcs knew of the claims and could form their opinion.

I positioned myself after Bunny's last post, when the issue of misgendering was mentioned, in his tags. I cannot possibly believe that none of the many people publicly or privately involved with the callout read this post. Be said he uses he/they pronouns (and those who follow him know that he's been using he more prominently as of late), and she is reserved for close friends. All over the callout blog he is referred to by the wrong pronouns, not just by people in screenshots, but for OP as well — recently for the excuse that "he has used them in the past, and it is what everyone else is using", but never once correcting it or addressing it. Perhaps people will call this a stretch, or a "desperate excuse to defend a racist", especially coming from a cis woman like myself, but this is a hard line for me, so I don't care. No matter the claims, no one deserves to be misgendered over and over again by dozens of people on a viral blog. It is cruel and dehumanizing. Even if there wasn't a conscious, malicious reasoning by OP, I can't possibly believe no one involved knew he was being misgendered — no one knew beforehand, or read his post, or got anons mentioning it? I don't know if they didn't speak up, or if someone did and wasn't listened to. I don't care. This alone makes me sick, and I don't wish to keep interacting with people who have seen this and did nothing about it.

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The issue with X is a different thing, that I have witnessed from people close with them, as I haven't been close to them myself.

X was brought up in Bunny's callout, despite having nothing to do with him or with racism. They had a private issue with OP, and to my knowledge they hadn't talked to them in a month, and was shocked to be brought up all of a sudden and without a warning. The claims had to do with OP being "harassed" and "guilt-tripped" into writing with them. It is an issue other people have had, and I assume it has been talked out privately with other people who had the same issue, which is why OP decided to mention it. And I want to reflect a little about this.

I have known harassment in RP spaces, and outside of them, and friends close to me have as well. It can be draining. We all have lives outside the internet, and come back home tired and expecting to have a good time with our hobby, and we don't want to deal with a clingy rp partner who we know will be there the moment we show our heads. That pushes us into not wanting to write at all, because that person merely existing around us is draining, and we start to dread the moment they message us, because we really, really, don't want to reply. It snowballs. I have been there not so long ago, with a person who did not respect my boundaries regarding shipping, and I did the unthinkable: I talked to them, told them I didn't want to keep interacting, and blocked them. Just like that, they were gone, my anxiety was gone, and my muse came back.

Sure, the situation kept me away from my hobby for a while and made me physically ill, but never once was I in danger. It was merely my own inability to deal with a problem with an easy solution which enlarged the situation in my head to huge, unmanageable proportions. At the end of the day, it is a stranger on the internet, who for whatever reason is very attached to a thing I don't want to give them. It is the silliest thing. It is easily fixed.

There are other cases in which the situation is more dire. I have been, and seen friends being guilt-tripped, not into writing, but into being someone's personal therapist, or into pseudoromantic relationships. They have been blamed for their harasser's mental health issues, they've had to deal with them threatening to harm themselves if they weren't paid attention, or had malicious lies spread about them if they didn't respond the way the abuser wanted.

I get the situation above is exactly what we're all afraid of when dealing with someone who rubs us the wrong way for being clingy, which pushes us into anxiety and inaction, but none of that has been described about X. In fact, OP mentions many people have them blocked.

If the issue is so easily resolved by just blocking a person and moving on, does it really deserve a callout like that? Does a person who isn't dangerous to anyone in any way deserve to be lynched, just because many people don't like them? Their name had been removed from the callout, and Rebel had mentioned they didn't want to be named, and King @ them anyway. Where does "protecting" end, and "harassing" start?

Is harassing the alleged harasser justified? Is the backlash they have received proportional to their actions?

There are genuinely nasty and dangerous people out there, doing far worse things than being uneducated, interacting with someone with a callout to their name or being unlikeable. Sure, it is no one's job to educate strangers on the internet, but it requires the same amount of effort as removing them forcefully from the rpc. It just requires more guts, and more kindness. And blocking and moving on? That takes none, of none of those.

This post will get rather long, please bear with me while I post all three parts of it.

People have blocked me in the past few days, and I'd rather it is for my own words than by association. I owe that to my mutuals here who have not heard from me in a while, especially those who like to form their own opinions. And I owe it to myself, because I won't keep being hypocritical thinking and talking about how people should handle things like adults but not do it myself and fade without a word.

Racism isn't petty drama, but the way it is handled can be, as it works with everything. I am not here to defend Bunny, or the other person, whose name was not stated "for the sake of their privacy" but King @ anyway — I will keep their name private as for their wishes, and call them X.

The callout was initially intended as a way of raising awareness to Bunny posing as a black person, meant to protect and validate POC. Although I have had ooc contact with him, I honestly cannot tell if he was posing as black, or how they were doing that (I am not American, and what I know of black culture in my country is most likely untrue for others, especially US), so I won't question the many people who spoke of their experience. It did catch my eye, as an external observer, that a few times it was mentioned that he "never claimed to be black", only thought to be. I don't know him or any of the people affected, but I was left with the impression that these claims were a thing brewing in a different circle, and were never brought up to him until it exploded. I don't doubt it is true and harmful for the people affected, but I have yet to see proof that it was intentional and malicious. If you have it, and will be so kind as to educate me, I would want to see it.

He addressed it in his own blog, all of the claims from the callout blog, so they weren't a secret even to his followers outside the bg3 rpc. He mentioned the past callouts, the sexualization of his character and pretending to be black. I think people are smart enough to make their own minds after seeing it there — if they thought he was black, now they knew for sure he wasn't, if they had sensed something odd with the sexualization they knew they weren't alone, and for the past callouts… I had been following Bunny for a while, and it isn't the first time I have heard about them from him. They were not public, but they weren't a secret either.

When I asked for the callout blog, I wanted to see proof of the things he had said, to cut ties with him after reading the testimonies of the affected people and forming my educated opinion. But I found nothing. All of it was telling me that what Bunny said was true: people saying they believed him to be black, people uncomfortable by the sexualization of his muse, and victims of his past. It gave me exactly nothing, except the word of strangers. Sure, I can trust POC's word about this or that being racist, because they know better. But I want to know what 'that' is. As a person who interacted with Bunny, and as a white person who writes some POC and highly sexual characters, I am not interested in "the drama", I want to know what they did wrong so I can learn from it: make sure I don't do it myself, educate my friends, stay away from others who replicate that behavior.

I thought at that point the deed of "keeping the rpc safe" was done. People had their thoughts validated, the person in question had addressed the issue, and most importantly he had added it to his rules. If it was indeed a malicious, intentional racist move, it had no room to ever happen again, and even followers from other rpcs knew of the claims and could form their opinion.

I positioned myself after Bunny's last post, when the issue of misgendering was mentioned, in his tags. I cannot possibly believe that none of the many people publicly or privately involved with the callout read this post. Be said he uses he/they pronouns (and those who follow him know that he's been using he more prominently as of late), and she is reserved for close friends. All over the callout blog he is referred to by the wrong pronouns, not just by people in screenshots, but for OP as well — recently for the excuse that "he has used them in the past, and it is what everyone else is using", but never once correcting it or addressing it. Perhaps people will call this a stretch, or a "desperate excuse to defend a racist", especially coming from a cis woman like myself, but this is a hard line for me, so I don't care. No matter the claims, no one deserves to be misgendered over and over again by dozens of people on a viral blog. It is cruel and dehumanizing. Even if there wasn't a conscious, malicious reasoning by OP, I can't possibly believe no one involved knew he was being misgendered — no one knew beforehand, or read his post, or got anons mentioning it? I don't know if they didn't speak up, or if someone did and wasn't listened to. I don't care. This alone makes me sick, and I don't wish to keep interacting with people who have seen this and did nothing about it.

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This post will get rather long, please bear with me while I post all three parts of it.

People have blocked me in the past few days, and I'd rather it is for my own words than by association. I owe that to my mutuals here who have not heard from me in a while, especially those who like to form their own opinions. And I owe it to myself, because I won't keep being hypocritical thinking and talking about how people should handle things like adults but not do it myself and fade without a word.

Racism isn't petty drama, but the way it is handled can be, as it works with everything. I am not here to defend Bunny, or the other person, whose name was not stated "for the sake of their privacy" but King @ anyway — I will keep their name private as for their wishes, and call them X.

The callout was initially intended as a way of raising awareness to Bunny posing as a black person, meant to protect and validate POC. Although I have had ooc contact with him, I honestly cannot tell if he was posing as black, or how they were doing that (I am not American, and what I know of black culture in my country is most likely untrue for others, especially US), so I won't question the many people who spoke of their experience. It did catch my eye, as an external observer, that a few times it was mentioned that he "never claimed to be black", only thought to be. I don't know him or any of the people affected, but I was left with the impression that these claims were a thing brewing in a different circle, and were never brought up to him until it exploded. I don't doubt it is true and harmful for the people affected, but I have yet to see proof that it was intentional and malicious. If you have it, and will be so kind as to educate me, I would want to see it.

He addressed it in his own blog, all of the claims from the callout blog, so they weren't a secret even to his followers outside the bg3 rpc. He mentioned the past callouts, the sexualization of his character and pretending to be black. I think people are smart enough to make their own minds after seeing it there — if they thought he was black, now they knew for sure he wasn't, if they had sensed something odd with the sexualization they knew they weren't alone, and for the past callouts… I had been following Bunny for a while, and it isn't the first time I have heard about them from him. They were not public, but they weren't a secret either.

When I asked for the callout blog, I wanted to see proof of the things he had said, to cut ties with him after reading the testimonies of the affected people and forming my educated opinion. But I found nothing. All of it was telling me that what Bunny said was true: people saying they believed him to be black, people uncomfortable by the sexualization of his muse, and victims of his past. It gave me exactly nothing, except the word of strangers. Sure, I can trust POC's word about this or that being racist, because they know better. But I want to know what 'that' is. As a person who interacted with Bunny, and as a white person who writes some POC and highly sexual characters, I am not interested in "the drama", I want to know what they did wrong so I can learn from it: make sure I don't do it myself, educate my friends, stay away from others who replicate that behavior.

I thought at that point the deed of "keeping the rpc safe" was done. People had their thoughts validated, the person in question had addressed the issue, and most importantly he had added it to his rules. If it was indeed a malicious, intentional racist move, it had no room to ever happen again, and even followers from other rpcs knew of the claims and could form their opinion.

I positioned myself after Bunny's last post, when the issue of misgendering was mentioned, in his tags. I cannot possibly believe that none of the many people publicly or privately involved with the callout read this post. Be said he uses he/they pronouns (and those who follow him know that he's been using he more prominently as of late), and she is reserved for close friends. All over the callout blog he is referred to by the wrong pronouns, not just by people in screenshots, but for OP as well — recently for the excuse that "he has used them in the past, and it is what everyone else is using", but never once correcting it or addressing it. Perhaps people will call this a stretch, or a "desperate excuse to defend a racist", especially coming from a cis woman like myself, but this is a hard line for me, so I don't care. No matter the claims, no one deserves to be misgendered over and over again by dozens of people on a viral blog. It is cruel and dehumanizing. Even if there wasn't a conscious, malicious reasoning by OP, I can't possibly believe no one involved knew he was being misgendered — no one knew beforehand, or read his post, or got anons mentioning it? I don't know if they didn't speak up, or if someone did and wasn't listened to. I don't care. This alone makes me sick, and I don't wish to keep interacting with people who have seen this and did nothing about it.

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🐝  *  ―  𝑷𝑶𝑺𝑰𝑻𝑰𝑽𝑰𝑻𝒀 𝑻𝑹𝑨𝑰𝑵.  reblog this post and give the person you reblogged it from a small compliment in the tags.  just something sweet and simple that’ll hopefully bring a smile to their face.

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// when will my muse return from the war

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A trope that gets to me: 'guard dog' character and their partner who are both fully aware of it and honestly don't care/kind of like it. Someone says "call your guard dog off" and their partner does call them off. That person, their 'guard dog', is someone who is unreservedly, irrefutably loyal to them. Someone undoubtedly dangerous who is willing to kill, to maim, to obey, simply because of their love for one another. There's no manipulation involved— it is loyalty, brutal, dogged loyalty. And it goes both ways.

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// still chilling but like/comment this for a meme from this or any of my other blogs

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// still chilling but like/comment this for a meme from this or any of my other blogs

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// No thoughts only Fallahan being able to navigate social situations with absolute grace and having a great time with it. Fal lighting up the room when he walks in. Fal having this magnetic presence that makes strangers open up and feel at ease around him as if they've known him for years

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// I'm not dead just taking a break ✌️

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// ooc

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ooc

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A small, winged creature materializes from thin air. It has golden, shimmering skin, fur and feather, marking it distinctly celestial despite being filthy with dirt and sulfur, and covered in fresh wounds. She looks disoriented for an instant… but mostly panicked, looking frantically in all directions and hyperventilating. Terror fades from her face the moment she lays eyes on the drow, and thick tears, like molten gold, start pouring inconsolably from them, as she darts towards the man and envelops him in a clumsy embrace with her wings.

"I'm sorry. I couldn't do anything. I wanted to stay, but he told me not to. I made a promise. He asked me to bring this to you, I promised I'd do it. I'm sorry, I'm sorry," she babbles as clearly as she can among her trumpeting sobbing. She carries an elegant book in her trunk, closed with a leather strap. She sniffles and carefully leaves it on the dark elf's hands. "He wrote something for you. On the last pages," she manages to speak, pouting and shedding more tears.

The city of Arachnis glows like a welcoming beacon in the darkness. Weary travelers may find respite within its towering walls and those who seek shelter from the harmful lands just past the city's gates often slink inside and tuck themselves away in the shadows. But there is danger, even here, in Lolth's capital city. Strangers lurk with daggers behind their backs and the strong-minded prey on the weak-willed ; a practice that is commonplace in the Spider Queen's domain. It's no home for Valas, but it's the closest thing he's got to one since his arrival.

With lips pursed and brow furrowed, the dark elf makes his way towards the temple, eager to deliver yet another prize to the Spider Queen — a trophy from another labor fulfilled in her name. Just the thought of a life in service to her sickens him to the core. Something, however, stops him dead in his tracks : a strange creature he's never seen before, elephantine in appearance with ears that flutter frantically, serving as makeshift wings that keep it afloat. It all but careens into him, wrapping it's limbs about him in a tight embrace, and it cries.

❝ I— ❞ Valas opens his mouth to speak, but the creature stammers on, panicked, and doesn't give him the room to respond. I'm sorry, it says, over and over between sobs, and passes him a leather-bound book, which he takes and tentatively opens. He recognizes the handwriting on the first page and, although he has not made it past the first line, his stomach drops.

If you are reading this, I am dead.

Pulse quickens, heartbeat thumps in his ears, and he swears the world around him is spinning. It had been months since he'd heard any news from Fallahan ( their separation had left a sour taste in his mouth, but he'd be lying if he said he carried no residual feelings for the high elf ) and now suddenly . . . he's gone. ❝ I do not understand . . . ❞ Valas reads the letter in its entirety, and then reads it a second time, then a third ; by then, his cheeks are damp and his tears have begun to stain the paper.

Fallahan is dead.

It's then that the drow steps away from the hollyphant, the innocent little creature that'd delivered the grim news, and tucks the book into his satchel. ❝ You should not be here, ❞ he says, his voice thick with emotion, ❝ this place is not safe for you, and I— ❞ Valas blows out a shaky breath, fists clenched. ❝ I have to go. ❞

A quick turn on his heels and hurried pace leads Valas to the temple at the center of Arachnis, a lavish place of worship for their dearest Lolth. There's no hesitation to shove open the ornate double doors that lead inside once he's reached them, and nothing breaks his stride down the center aisle, until he's made it before the Spider Queen, herself, who sits upon a throne at the far end of the temple ; she regards him with a lazy smile, a flicker on interest in her gaze as he kneels before her.

❝ I wish to . . . ❞ Valas's throat grows tight, but he bows his head nonetheless. ❝ . . . I wish to accept your deal, Mistress Lolth. I wish to become your champion. ❞

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Excuse me while I sob all over the floor. LOOK AT THEM ! As always, art was commissioned by me from the amazing @oxiente.

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// Harpies do like to eat little children and now neither him nor any other kid will go anywhere near their nests again. @inabsentiia @saintsdawn you are welcome.

In today's multiplayer session of BG3, Fallahan bullied children. Several times. Edit: Let's not also forget that Florence and Lucan failed their saves against the harpies like three times.

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Don't know what's funnier, telling a random cook that you're a bhaalspawn, or the attitude you get in return

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// This book: "After the death of duke Vanthampur—" Fallahan, who saw her companions burn her alive and is now living in her manor: ...I mean, she had it coming.