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tumblr post made by a 27 year old woman frustrated bc her boyfriend leaves her with the burden of household chores: god I wish men would stop "forgetting" to do the dishes

15 year old with adhd in the replies who has just been yelled at for forgetting the dishes: what if he's neurodivergent and you're bullying him

mra blogs, by the dozen: this is why Matriarchy has failed our most vulnerable men

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Every day I grow more tired of ppl saying aro =/= loveless like there aren't loveless aros. I'm so tired of reaffirming posts telling me that I'm not heartless when I am, in fact, heartless. Posts that try to assign me emotions and characteristics I don't possess or want to have.

Aromanticism is such an incredibly broad spectrum and our community is so diverse and yet yall keep trying to find focal points that end up hurting other aros. It's okay if you're not heartless, obviously, but it's also okay that I'm heartless. That I'm loveless. That I want absolutely no relationships of any kind.

It's as though you're trying to say "we're not different from allos, we just don't do that particular thing!" in an attempt to gain the right to stand with them when you already have that right. It doesn't matter if we're like them or if we're not. It doesn't matter if we consider ourselves human or not. We have rights and they cannot be taken from us.

We don't need allo people to approve of our existence. We never did.

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people who are 'cis' can have dysphoria because there is not actually a distinct on/off state of being trans. 'cis' lesbians who go on T or bind can and do have dysphoria, and saying that they are erasing you by existing in a way that is comfortable to them is built on the unhealthy assumption that your validity as a trans person is dependent on other people's existence.

if you are a trans man and another trans man does not bind and you consider that to be erasing you, that's your problem, not his. if a lesbian (cis or trans) binds and it makes you panic because you define your transness as 'im trans because I bind' that is your problem, not theirs. someone else experiencing something similar to what you do and coming to a different conclusion shouldn't make you scared, because what they feel about themselves has nothing to do with you.

defining yourself by traits that other people who are not like you experience and going 'well now I don't know what I am because they do this too! theyre not allowed to do this because this confuses me' is part of the problem. if you feel that binding is soley what makes you trans, this is one thing, but determining your gender by pointing to something like binding is the equivalent of saying that if you like to wear makeup this means you're a woman.

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I think a big part of being Arospec is deciding how much you want to let go of amatanormative ideals

It is completely valid to recognize that you are arospec but still want to end up in a partnership. It doesn't make you less aromantic for wanting a partner as a goal in life.

And it's not really amatanormativity to seek out the relationships in life that make you happy.

Amatanormativity is when someone else assumes that's what you want because you exist as a human being in a culture that puts entirely too much emphasis on the idea of a partnership that lasts forever and procreates.

Amatonormativity is wedding culture and the exorbitant rates couples are charged for throwing a party to celebrate their commitment vows.

Amatanormativity is your relatives asking when you're bringing someone to the family holiday party instead of taking an interest in your career goals.

Amatanormativity is you talking about your same-sex best friend and others giving you a knowing wink when it's not like that at all.

Wanting a life partner is not amatanormative, everyone else wanting a life partner for you is. And its perfectly okay to decide whether or not a life partnership is one of your goals. The aromantic community should not shun you for wanting what makes you happy. Because deciding to have a partner is just as valid as deciding you don't need or want one.

And frankly it's just as valid for aromantics to make the same decision regardless of their orientation.

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Hi Folks, 

So sorry for the lack of updates lately. I just want to tell you the project hasn’t been abandoned. I’ve been a little overwhelmed with work, school and illness. Episodes will be back as soon as I have time and energy! (which, hopefully, will be soon) Thank you for your patience.  

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Hello everyone,

Ace Experiences’ very first interview is out!

I talk with Kris about finding out they were ace, having a crush, not wanting to get married or have kids, and being ace in LGBT spaces.

I hope you all enjoy.

As always if you have any comments, suggestions or criticism send an email to aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com.

Listen on Sound Cloud

I am currently working on a transcript of this interview. If you would like to help with transcribing future episodes send an email to aceexperiences@gmail.com. I would deeply appreciate that.

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Transcript for Episode 1 is out!

Hello Everyone!

The transcript for episode one with Kris is finally out. Sorry about the delay.

You can view it as a PDF or in a Google Doc. The Google Doc will always contain the most recent version of the transcript.

If you notice any errors or have any suggestions for how to make transcripts more valuable and accessible please reach out.

Transcribing episodes is a time-consuming process, but a necessary one to ensure as many people as possible have access to the content. If you'd like to help with transcribing please get in touch. No experience needed and no real commitment. Sadly, this isn't paid work.

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How old to do you have to be to be interviewed?

Any age! My only hesitation is putting content up on the internet and the person I'm recording realizing or deciding they don't want that information on the internet when they're older. So if you're quite young I might ask you to use an alias and edit out any identifying content.

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I've just started one!

Ace Experiences is interviews with ace people about being ace.

There's currently only one episode up, but more to come.

(I am white, and currently all the people I have interviewed are white (as far as I know). I am hoping to change that in the next round of interviewing)

podcast recommendations?

anyone have any queer-related (or relevant) podcast recommendations…? bonus points if it’s hosted by QPOC. preferably not iTunes exclusive.

looking for something educational / intriguing / interesting to listen to on my weekly 3 hour (1.5 hours each way) commute across the Greater Kanto Area so i can be Quasi-Productive rather than fall asleep and miss my stops zzz…

thanks in advance. :)

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Hello everyone,

Ace Experiences’ very first interview is out!

I talk with Kris about finding out they were ace, having a crush, not wanting to get married or have kids, and being ace in LGBT spaces.

I hope you all enjoy.

As always if you have any comments, suggestions or criticism send an email to aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com.

Listen on Sound Cloud

I am currently working on a transcript of this interview. If you would like to help with transcribing future episodes send an email to aceexperiences@gmail.com. I would deeply appreciate that.

[aceexperiencespodcast]

Hello everyone,

Ace Experiences’ very first interview is out!

I talk with Kris about finding out they were ace, having a crush, not wanting to get married or have kids, and being ace in LGBT spaces.

I hope you all enjoy.

As always if you have any comments, suggestions or criticism send an email to aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com.

Listen on Sound Cloud

I am currently working on a transcript of this interview. If you would like to help with transcribing future episodes send an email to aceexperiences@gmail.com. I would deeply appreciate that.

[aceexperiencespodcast]

Hello everyone,

Ace Experiences’ very first interview is out!

I talk with Kris about finding out they were ace, having a crush, not wanting to get married or have kids, and being ace in LGBT spaces.

I hope you all enjoy.

As always if you have any comments, suggestions or criticism send an email to aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com.

Listen on Sound Cloud

I am currently working on a transcript of this interview. If you would like to help with transcribing future episodes send an email to aceexperiences@gmail.com. I would deeply appreciate that.

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Done interviewing for now

Hello Everyone!

Ace Experiences currently has enough interviews for the moment. There’s editing to be done and the first episode should be out shortly (*fingers crossed*).

Please do send me an email if you’d be interested in being interviewed at a later time, or if you have any comments or suggestions.

Thanks so much to everyone I’ve done an interview with and to everyone who’s reached out.

I��ll be back to interviewing in a bit, so no worries, and I do hope to talk to you all soon!

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It’s currently on iTunes, and Sound Cloud. You can also use this link and listen to it on whatever podcast app you’d like. 

Hope that helps!

Podcast on it’s way!

Ace Experiences is a podcast created by an ace person that talks to ace people. Sharing our experiences with the world, our identities, and ourselves to figure this out together. 

Ace Experiences is looking for interviewees. If your ace and want to be interviewed email aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from all of you. 

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Thanks for putting the rss link up!

Hey there folks,

Our introduction episode is out! Give it a listen (x).

Ace Experiences hopes to talk to ace people about their experiences. It’s as simple as that. It will give ace people a space to talk to other ace people about their identity. Together, we will figure out how to navigate our identity and the world.

If you want to be interviewed email us at aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com.

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Podcast on it’s way!

Ace Experiences is a podcast created by an ace person that talks to ace people. Sharing our experiences with the world, our identities, and ourselves to figure this out together. 

Ace Experiences is looking for interviewees. If your ace and want to be interviewed email aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from all of you. 

UPDATE: Episode 1 is up! (and transcribed)

You can find episodes on SoundCloud here 

It is also on most podcast catchers (including iTunes). The RSS feed is here. 

Follow the tumblr or check out the website aceexperiencespodcast.com for updates and transcripts. 

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Hey there folks,

Our introduction episode is out! Give it a listen (x).

Ace Experiences hopes to talk to ace people about their experiences. It’s as simple as that. It will give ace people a space to talk to other ace people about their identity. Together, we will figure out how to navigate our identity and the world.

If you want to be interviewed email us at aceexperiencespodcast@gmail.com.