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Because it has come to my attention that apparently a lot of people weren’t taught proper tipping etiquette so here’s what I was taught.

Always tip at least 20%.

If you got something in a special or had a coupon, you tip on the price you would have payed, not the price you did pay.

At breakfast always tip 25%. Breakfast is never as expensive as dinner and your waitress shouldn’t be shortchanged because you got $5 eggs instead of a $10 sandwich.

If you keep a table for longer than an hour, add 10% for every hour you keep the table. It’s great that you’re catching up with a friend you haven’t seen in ten years, but you’re fucking over the waitress by staying for four hours. Every hour you’re there you’re costing her money. Make it worth her time.

We all know to tip 20%, but as someone who works as a cook and often talks to the waiters, no one seems to know about the rest. This is what my dad taught me and this is what I’ll teach my children. Be respectful to your waiters. Don’t undertip. They need to eat too.

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there’s literally nothing more lonely than being NB and bi, you’re never truly welcomed or accepted into the WLW or MLM communities, it’s so othering and it’s so obvious binary people don’t respect us, and nobody ever talks about it at all

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whats my gender, you ask? *i turn and continue to pick up cool rocks. im never going to answer your question*

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Think about why it’s illegal to hire a hit man.

All you’re really doing is speaking and giving someone money.

It’s legal to speak.

It’s legal to give someone money.

Even if they actually complete the job, you’re not the one who committed the murder.

So why is it illegal to hire a hit man?

Could it be because inciting violence is not protected under free speech?

And if that’s the case, why should free speech protect Nazis advocating genocide?

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It’s not that “all hot women are crazy”, it’s that you don’t give a shit about ugly People with mental health problems.

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when she says she doesn’t send nudes

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Then: check upon your children. Find out how they are, if they're doing well. We might not be in immediate danger, but many of us could find themselves in a bad place with such an event being advertised, promoted and sponsored. If you are still in the closet, you might feel alone and in need of someone to talk to. Telefono amico is there for my Italian fellows, and if you do not feel comfortable directly talking to someone you can always text them and they will reply within few days.

take a minute and listen up.

Sorry for taking over the Skam tag but I am trying to reach as many people as possible – and I have? Like? Twenty readers, so here I am. I won’t take much of your time anyway.

Skam and all of its remakes have been doing a wonderful, astonishing, almost unprecedented job in its true, demystified and realistic portrayal of European (and not – Skam Austin) youth and its struggles in the current society. I’m now addressing how crucial its representation of the LGBTQIA+ community is for all the Queer teenagers out there, who finally have a mirror of their reality to look up to: we are all more aware than ever that things do not always go well, but eventually we will be okay. We can find love and support, and we are not alone - dammit, maybe we will never be completely alone again!

To the international fans who might not be informed about this event, in a couple of weeks Verona will host the Thirteenth World Congress for Families. Some might optimistically believe that, spring of 2019, this event might as well hint the bare minimum of inclusivity, because things are concretely, finally getting better for our community. However, I am here to remind you that many relators who will take part to the event are OPENLY homophobic and won’t hesitate to spread hate and misconceptions concerning gay marriage and adoptions, not to mention medieval ideas about gender equality and abortion.

I will report here many of the terrible, gut-wrenching things I have read skimming (a.k.a. reading and rereading in a state of utter disbelief, if you will) some of the main Italian articles on the matter. I found many of the things these people said almost triggering, but I’d like to be thorough and honest as far as this event and its main subjects are concerned.

“The sexual act between two people of the same sex is an act of physical violence, also used as initiation ritual in satanic septs.” Silvana De Mari, fantasy novelist.

“Deviations of the natural sexual tendencies cannot really satisfy the human spirit.” Allan Carlson, founder of Howard Center for Family, Religion and Society.

Pastor Jim Garlow reportedly compared children who have parents of the same sex to the orphans of 9/11.

“I would rather put my own child in an orphanage than let homosexual people adopt him/her.” Zeljka Markic, founder of Croatian association “On behalf of the family / Per conto della famiglia”.

Brian Brown will also attend the event, and for what I know (not much, I must confess, this is what I’ve crammed up comparing multiple sites and articles) he has been quite active in the US in campaigns currently aiming at banning gay marriage in California and Transgender people from the Army.

“Homosexual lifestyle is not healthy: […] homosexual people are more likely to fall into mental diseases like depression or commit suicide, or drug abuse and their mortality rate is ten or twenty times higher.” Alexey Komonov, who also expressed is concern about gender theories and acceptance of homosexuality being new forms of western totalitarianism.

“We are currently distancing ourselves from them (the LGBT+ community) like we would distance ourselves from a plague: it is highly contagious.” Dmitri Smirnov.

CALL ME AN OVERREACTER, but:

ALL OF THIS IS to spread awareness in and OUTSIDE (reason why I’m writing in English, hewwo) of Italy about what is happening right now in my (our) country, which is still dangerously conservative and where many of us members of the LGBTQIA+ community still do not feel completely accepted and safe in their own households. I am here to say: you can be safe. Not all people are like that, and there are currently protest movements, demonstrations, rallies being organized in some other cities around the country. Get informed, spread the word, make sure members of the community close to you are aware that it might be a difficult handful of days, make sure to show support, be allies and companions. Look for inclusive spaces and events, take part – you DO NOT HAVE to be part of the community to give a hand. You can be straight, cis, whatever, and still show support and acceptance, look out for your peers who might live in conservative, traditionalist, homophobic households, make sure they are fine, take care of each other. This is a very BIG BIG BIG event and many people will take part. Here below I’ll put a list of hotlines and numbers you can call in case you need immediate help. Then, each region can provide its own service. Google is your best friend!

As far as protests and demonstrations are concerned, I cannot be of any help. I’ve looked up on the same sites I’ve been reading for the past two hours (Jane Austen exam can wait) and the most prominent event will take place (joke’s on them all) in Verona as well, were activists of the feminist movement “Non una di meno” have been setting up three days (29th -30th – 31st of March) of protest, assemblies, debates. I can’t find anything about other cities, but to give you an example, I knew that where I live, Trento, a rally against the congress is being organized. look for hashtags and instagram pages on the theme!

I will try to look into it deeper and I’ll post something else.

Hotlines and websites:

Gay Help Line 800 713 713

Telefono Azzurro (per adolescenti minorenni)

http://www.azzurro.it

Telefono Amico

·       http://www.telefonoamico.it

·       199 284 284

THIS is an English language article which thoroughly explains the whole matter. –> https://www.internazionale.it/reportage/annalisa-camilli/2018/12/13/far-right-against-abortion-verona

STAY SAFE, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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take a minute and listen up.

Sorry for taking over the Skam tag but I am trying to reach as many people as possible – and I have? Like? Twenty readers, so here I am. I won’t take much of your time anyway.

Skam and all of its remakes have been doing a wonderful, astonishing, almost unprecedented job in its true, demystified and realistic portrayal of European (and not – Skam Austin) youth and its struggles in the current society. I’m now addressing how crucial its representation of the LGBTQIA+ community is for all the Queer teenagers out there, who finally have a mirror of their reality to look up to: we are all more aware than ever that things do not always go well, but eventually we will be okay. We can find love and support, and we are not alone - dammit, maybe we will never be completely alone again!

To the international fans who might not be informed about this event, in a couple of weeks Verona will host the Thirteenth World Congress for Families. Some might optimistically believe that, spring of 2019, this event might as well hint the bare minimum of inclusivity, because things are concretely, finally getting better for our community. However, I am here to remind you that many relators who will take part to the event are OPENLY homophobic and won’t hesitate to spread hate and misconceptions concerning gay marriage and adoptions, not to mention medieval ideas about gender equality and abortion.

I will report here many of the terrible, gut-wrenching things I have read skimming (a.k.a. reading and rereading in a state of utter disbelief, if you will) some of the main Italian articles on the matter. I found many of the things these people said almost triggering, but I’d like to be thorough and honest as far as this event and its main subjects are concerned.

“The sexual act between two people of the same sex is an act of physical violence, also used as initiation ritual in satanic septs.” Silvana De Mari, fantasy novelist.

“Deviations of the natural sexual tendencies cannot really satisfy the human spirit.” Allan Carlson, founder of Howard Center for Family, Religion and Society.

Pastor Jim Garlow reportedly compared children who have parents of the same sex to the orphans of 9/11.

“I would rather put my own child in an orphanage than let homosexual people adopt him/her.” Zeljka Markic, founder of Croatian association “On behalf of the family / Per conto della famiglia”.

Brian Brown will also attend the event, and for what I know (not much, I must confess, this is what I’ve crammed up comparing multiple sites and articles) he has been quite active in the US in campaigns currently aiming at banning gay marriage in California and Transgender people from the Army.

“Homosexual lifestyle is not healthy: […] homosexual people are more likely to fall into mental diseases like depression or commit suicide, or drug abuse and their mortality rate is ten or twenty times higher.” Alexey Komonov, who also expressed is concern about gender theories and acceptance of homosexuality being new forms of western totalitarianism.

“We are currently distancing ourselves from them (the LGBT+ community) like we would distance ourselves from a plague: it is highly contagious.” Dmitri Smirnov.

CALL ME AN OVERREACTER, but:

ALL OF THIS IS to spread awareness in and OUTSIDE (reason why I’m writing in English, hewwo) of Italy about what is happening right now in my (our) country, which is still dangerously conservative and where many of us members of the LGBTQIA+ community still do not feel completely accepted and safe in their own households. I am here to say: you can be safe. Not all people are like that, and there are currently protest movements, demonstrations, rallies being organized in some other cities around the country. Get informed, spread the word, make sure members of the community close to you are aware that it might be a difficult handful of days, make sure to show support, be allies and companions. Look for inclusive spaces and events, take part – you DO NOT HAVE to be part of the community to give a hand. You can be straight, cis, whatever, and still show support and acceptance, look out for your peers who might live in conservative, traditionalist, homophobic households, make sure they are fine, take care of each other. This is a very BIG BIG BIG event and many people will take part. Here below I’ll put a list of hotlines and numbers you can call in case you need immediate help. Then, each region can provide its own service. Google is your best friend!

As far as protests and demonstrations are concerned, I cannot be of any help. I’ve looked up on the same sites I’ve been reading for the past two hours (Jane Austen exam can wait) and the most prominent event will take place (joke’s on them all) in Verona as well, were activists of the feminist movement “Non una di meno” have been setting up three days (29th -30th – 31st of March) of protest, assemblies, debates. I can’t find anything about other cities, but to give you an example, I knew that where I live, Trento, a rally against the congress is being organized. look for hashtags and instagram pages on the theme!

I will try to look into it deeper and I’ll post something else.

Hotlines and websites:

Gay Help Line 800 713 713

Telefono Azzurro (per adolescenti minorenni)

http://www.azzurro.it

Telefono Amico

·       http://www.telefonoamico.it

·       199 284 284

THIS is an English language article which thoroughly explains the whole matter. --> https://www.internazionale.it/reportage/annalisa-camilli/2018/12/13/far-right-against-abortion-verona

STAY SAFE, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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DON’T KNOW IF THIS HAS YET BEEN SHARED BUT THIS IS ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.

I DON’T KNOW IF ALL OF US CALLING WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE BUT IT IS BETTER THAN DOING NOTHING.

If you don’t want to call, at the very least, reblog the hell out of this.

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i need more mutuals!

reblog/like if you post about:

the umbrella academy

b99

doctor who

tøp

timothée chalamet/cmbyn

thomas sanders and sander sides

memes

gay shit

lgbtq+

aren’t a transphobe or specifically a terf cause fuck you

i’ll try to follow as many of you as i can! make sure to go through the notes and follow each other too!

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I need:

Someone skilled to make an edit of the bed scene with Intertwined by Dodie Clark, a box of tissues and the certainty we are all going to share something that special with a caring, lovable person at some point in our lives.

(Two boxes of tissues might be better, tho)

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Hi, I love the dark aesthetic, but I can't see, mec

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Call me repetitive, but:

In the last clip you can see it, you can see that Elliott is not alright and these ugly, subtle, often unseen sides of an illness which are pale skin, dark circles. Again, ///call me repetitive///, but finding such themes so well-portrayed in a teens TV show is SO new, revamping and needed bc that's simply it, things as they are, with no idealisation. Some kids are depressed and anxious, and have these kinds of disorders - they are not a call for attention, there is no egotistical strategy behind it, because mental illnesses are not fun at all.

OR THIS IS SIMPLY THE WAY MAXENCE LOOKS AND I AM GOING NUTS but that is also fine.

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The amount of realism Skam is putting out there for us is so??? Uncanny???? And truthful? I don't even care anymore about people being pissed and disappointed and whatnot at Elliott for not showing up bc honestly I am so fond of the hyper realistic way mental illness is treated from the external perspective - it snaps in and out of your life when you fully want to live it; one day you feel slightly fine, the next one you are physically aware your brain rotting inside your head. But what other people (Lucas) see is only your desultory presence and the fact that you keep cancelling, putting off, disappearing, you are just annoyingly dismissive - and you look fine so you might as well be an asshole fooling around with them and nothing serious is truly going on underneath.

Well played , skamfr.

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Some of you have never dealt with the struggles of a mental illness and the way it affects an individual's social life nor those of being so ashamed of your sexuality to actually pretend to be someone else around your own friends, who get perceived almost as dangerous and threatening - and it shows. I understand both Elliott and Lucas so well it hurts.