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I thought I would have stage fright cus i've always been scared to perform but now that i think about it i think i was just scared of talking

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Fun thing I learned today: I apparently don't have stage fright

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all AAC should be completely free forever. no there shouldn't be "free versions of paid AAC apps" i mean like every single feature and option should be free forever and ever. we should not have to pay to communicate.

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something really cool happened today that i wanted to share:

my nephew is 9 years old, and a stereotypical little boy. he likes dinosaurs, minecraft, and ninjas.

today i walked in on him excitedly watching Nimona with my dad. (minor spoiler warning!)

i had never heard of it, but i sat down and watched some of it, just to see why he was so happy.

he started narrating it, anticipating parts of it, almost as if he’d seen it before. he had.

we didn’t get to finish it, but i watched it on my own, because it looked fun and i wanted to see how it ended.

and i loved it. it was a fun, exciting, fantastical adventure about the importance of acceptance people who are different to us.

and it had a very clear queer subplot.

one that my nephew hadn’t mentioned at all in his explanation of the film. his summary was “it’s about a monster who helps a knight that was framed for killing the queen”.

and honestly yeah, that is what the film was about.

before sharing it with us, he had watched it all, engrossed himself in the story, took it in entirely, and the part he cared about most was whether Nimona got her acceptance. he wasn’t indoctrinated, or confused, or questioning anything about himself.

he didn’t bat an eyelid over a gay love confession. he just enjoyed the film, raved about it, made my 60 year old dad watch the movie about the monster who didn’t fit in.

he’s still the same little boy who’s been asking us how to get a girlfriend.

the only thing a movie centred around queer and queer-coded characters taught my nephew was that those who are different to him are not monsters. that’s it.

and that dragons are really cool.

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i feel like once you start being around kids more violence against kid jokes just immediately stop being funny to you if not genuinely infuriating

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Autistic people need to change the way they talk about tantrums

I get it, seeing people that don't understand Autism or meltdowns seeing a child having a meltdown and deciding that they're just a misbehaving child and deserve to be punished is frustrating. But demonising tantrums should not be the way to battle that. Children having tantrums deserve just as much patience and kindness as those having a meltdown.

While, yes, meltdowns and tantrums do have differences, they often aren’t the ones pointed out by most Autistic people talking about this. What is usually explained as what a tantrum is is usually either oversimplified, or just straight up incorrect. And the differences between them really aren’t as black and white as people seem to think.

Meltdowns are involuntary reactions to an overwhelming emotion or stimuli, and a complete loss of control of their emotions and body.

Tantrums can be voluntary or involuntary, and are reactions to the overwhelming feeling of frustration or otherwise upset, and are a complete loss of control of their emotions.

Also, it’s important to note that meltdowns and tantrums can look the same while they are happening. You sometimes cannot tell which one is occurring until it’s over.

Now here’s the part that I really need people to understand. The problem is not that people don’t understand the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, and that’s why demonising kids having meltdowns is wrong. It’s that tantrums shouldn’t be demonised either.

We are talking about children. 

Children have tantrums for the same reason Autistic people have meltdowns. They have a poor emotional regulatory system, so when they feel a big emotion, that emotion takes over and they lose control. 

A child having a tantrum because they want candy is not having a tantrum because they think it’ll get them the candy. They’re having a tantrum because they’re upset over not getting candy, and they have little to no emotional regulatory system, and therefore cannot regulate that upset yet. It’s why tantrums usually stop at a certain age, once their emotional regulatory system improves, tantrums (for the most part) stop. 

This is also why tantrums (and meltdowns) will continue past the typical age in Autistic children, often continuing into adulthood. Because Autistic people have a poor emotional regulatory system that likely won’t improve as they get older.

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just looked at our intro post and didn't realize Annie's ears used to be white?? We've been drawing them orange for months??? whoops

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ID: A digital drawing of my cat fursona Annie, it is a white and orange cat dressed like a clown, cir is waving and smiling with the word hi in all caps written three times next to jest. End ID.

Here's a drawing of my sona to make up for the negativity of the last post. But I rushed it so just don't look too close dhejjen

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Hi :) So I just received what was supposed to be my talker and it's like the opposite of what I asked for :) I asked for an ipad with proloquo2go on it and they gave me a microsoft tablet (which proloquo2go isn't compatible with. which is why I asked for an ipad.) without a single fucking aac app on it :) I am rightfully pissed :)

Anyways, if any of you know of any aac apps that work on microsoft, are free, and have a french translation, please share.

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people need to realize that dissolving the lines between gender also means dissolving the lines between sexuality. you cannot say gender is fake and then say sexuality is strict and rigid.

there are multigender/genderfluid people who are lesbians and gay men at the same time. there are mspec lesbians/gays/straights who have a complex relationship with gender and their sexuality. there are gay men who are women and lesbians who are men because male isn't the opposite of female.

"conflicting" labels are a part of many people's queer experience, because the human experience isnt simple enough to be put into neat perfect categories. if you truly support trans/genderqueer people, you need to accept the fact that gender and sexuality is complex and there will be people whose identities you don't understand

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It’s fucking crazy when people go “um it’s actually bad to insist people use it/its on a person because it makes me feel uncomfortable to use them” MY BROTHER IN CHRIST THEY’RE NOT YOUR GODDAMN PRONOUNS!!!!!!

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Sorry for never posting. We have no excuse

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Changed our name to annieplush bc we've been meaning to do it for a while but everyone in this system is incompetent

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look me in the eyes. “arospec people who date and experience kinds of love are real and deserve respect” and “loveless arospec people/ romance repulsed folks are real and deserve respect” are not mutually exclusive statements. what isn’t clicking

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Being Aromantic is so powerful. We're redefining the meaning of love, people's perceptions of love, the importance of it, the many kinds of it and the value of it in society.

Aromanticism is powerful, pass it on.

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sometimes you need to give up committing to the bit when someone genuinely can’t tell if it’s a bit or not and is getting distressed about it :/ sorry

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Captions shouldn't be censored. If the video says fuck or cum or cunt the captions should say the fucking word.