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A peek into our journey parenting a child with delays and sensory issues

Hi again,

Well little bit about me. Im currently sitting at the kitchen table with H on my lap trying to grab a dummy thats just out of reach, while J has just gone down for his nap. I love nap time. Look I’m just your average stay-at-home mum whose partner works his ass off in construction 6 days a week. We live in a Brisbane but we have a dream of moving somewhere quiet and having the country life one day.

I have always struggled with anxiety but nothing hit me like the day I realised my beautiful son J was different. He had always hit milestones late and everyone was telling me everything he is doing is normal so I put my worries down to being a first time mum. See J started babbling at 12 months for a week especially after dinner and we thought great, he’ll start talking soon. But after a week he stopped, completely. he started waving ‘goodbye’ for 3 days and stopped, completely. We had a few regressions like this and looking back he didn’t smile until around 5 months. I didn’t think anything of it but H has been smiling from the get go! At 18 months, 2 months after H was born, I decided I had to see our GP who referred us to a lovely Pediatrician. I took all our concerns to him, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. He actually got what I was talking about and now we are getting help for my little man! I just want to be able to communicate with my son and for him to give me eye contact. I know i’m biased being his mum but he really is the coolest little guy with a sweet soul, I could rave about him all day! He has had a hearing test which came back fine (we hoped for hearing problems lol don’t we all), the speech therapist assessment said his communication age is 7 months and the Pedeatrician said he has strong autistic features and we will review in 4 months and to see how he goes with speech therapy. I admit I went into a bit of a dark space for a while. I felt SO lonely, all of my friends kids seemed advanced in everything and here I am trying to get my kid to look at me. It seemed so unfair. I started nit picking myself, blaming myself. What didn’t I do, What did I do? I stopped talking to my friends and family because I didn’t want the judgement or blame. No matter how much I tried to block the pain and move on like nothing is happening, I couldn’t. It’s like the sun blaring into your eyes, it’s to painful to look directly into so you distract yourself. I told myself there are so many others worse off, count your blessings C! One day I got a call from a close friend, we don’t talk everyday but when we do it’s like we saw each other yesterday you know. She could tell something is up and forced me to confess and I was in tears. She let me finish and in such a cool calm and collected voice, you know what she said: dude thats so cool! Autistic kids have so many great talents that we wish we could have! Look at Bill Gates and at the end of the day as long as the kid is happy and healthy what more could you ask for in life. Is J happy and healthy? I said yes. She then said well what are you crying for! It really put things into perspective for me and I have been moving forward ever since. Don’t get me wrong I have my bad days like us all but I’ve really learnt a lot from this whole experience.

Maybe today we should agive a friend we haven’t heard from a quick phone call to check in or a quick message. It could make someones day!

Another mums journey.

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Another mums journey - parenting a child with delays

So this is my first ever blog post! Its exciting yet nerve wracking at the same time. Im C, I'm a mum of 2 boys, 16 months apart. J is 21 months and H 5 months. Im excited to connect with other mums out there and to share my experience on motherhood with a child who has lets say, a few extra needs. My first has learning difficulties, sensory processing disorder and being assessed for Autism. My main objective and what I'm really excited about is to let other mums who have a child or children with delays know, you are NOT alone and it's not your fault! What I'm nervous about is opening up about my life, being honest and raw, I feel vulnerable. But here we go, another average stay at home mum from Brisbane with 2 gorgeous little boys. Another mums journey .