anotherselfshipper

[anotherselfshipper]

y'know, some selfshipping accounts don't talk about their f/os because they have anxiety, they get extremely self aware when they're being perceived, they're sensitive to what others think of them and their f/os, they don't know what to do with the attention their selfship receives, they have low self-esteem and feel like they shouldn't like their f/os, they have f/os that are demonized, they're afraid of accidentally triggering a non-sharer with their selfship, they get anxious when posting about their selfship and then delete the post, they think no one will care, they're afraid of interacting, they struggle communicating but want to try, they're not as romantic and vocal as other selfshippers, etc...

and no one should feel obligated to explain themselves to online strangers

also, just because someone is not talking about their selfship doesn't mean they're not talking about it elsewhere. some people selfship in private, others have dedicated blogs to each f/o

THIS IS NOT ABOUT PRO-SHIPPERS! PRO-SHIPPERS DNI

[anotherselfshipper]

being a copia shipper is hard. not because he’s popular (im fine with sharing) but because like 99% of imagines don’t make him awkward enough for my tastes.

[anotherselfshipper]

maybe an Unpopular Opinion but I think posting about how you're the character's "#1 only real love and everyone else is a horrible evil fake double" and then deliberately using all the main selfship tags is kind of petty and mean behaviour that goes far beyond "setting boundaries" into just being an asshole to people whose only crime was liking the same fictional character as you

[anotherselfshipper]

disability pride month poll 2!

credits:

🩶 | 💚 | 🩶

[anotherselfshipper]

part 24 more pride!!! T4T = trans for trans, or a trans person dating other trans people!! :D

credits:

🩵 | 🩷 | 🤍

[anotherselfshipper]

I want that fat boy 😭😭😭😭😭

[anotherselfshipper]

apparently this is a hot take but actually if you want to selfship with a character because theyre hot and that's all?? go for it. it is NOT that serious. god forbid ppl feel... attraction, apparently? god forbid ppl have different experiences with selfshipping & f/os than others do. god FORBID ppl have their own experiences with attraction and perhaps might even be aroallo and only experience physical attraction for their f/os. GOD FORBIDDD

[anotherselfshipper]

Screw it: SHOUT OUT TO PEOPLE WITH BORING SELFSHIPS!

Selfshippers with completely unremarkable F/Os and/or S/Is (epitome of Some Guy.) Be it by their canon's standards or this world's.

Selfshippers who feel nervous even talking about their ship because they feel nobody will listen if there's no extra "special" intrigue.

Selfshippers whose day to day with their F/O would honestly just mirror a day to day in this world.

Selfshippers who don't really do anything grand or over the top with their F/Os.

Selfshippers who can't relate to all the prompts they see because their F/O just. Doesn't do that. WOULDN'T do that, even

Selfshippers whose ship is literally just a relationship you'd see while walking around outside.

Shout out to people with mundane selfships — I promise you're just as interesting (and worth hearing about) as everyone else. 🧡

[anotherselfshipper]

he’s a dr pepper consumer because his boyfriend (me) is a texan and we’re fucking serious about that shit.

[anotherselfshipper]

Hmm. Am I allowed to be a bit of a hater today

[anotherselfshipper]

Pick a romantic F/O!

(While you’re here, donate to Mohiy!)

[anotherselfshipper]

I’m going to make an inflammatory statement about AI usage in the selfship community, but it needs to be said, and said harshly.

BUT FIRST- it is never okay to witch-hunt or harass someone for using these platforms. That will not educate or help them, and is incredibly shitty on you as a person. Encouragement, continued sharing of these viewpoints and education is what needs to be done along with uplifting creators. We are a community of creators, and need to continue to be that while letting others know that the door in is open.

Using AI chatbots to talk to your f/os is an insult to them, the community of hard working artists and writers surrounding selfship and fandom, and most importantly, yourself.

You deserve better than to slop away hours of your day writing to a predictive text program trained off of the stolen work of writers who are the reason fandom exists. Your f/o deserves better than to be bastardized by an incredibly inaccurate and predatorily created business model that has proven to use addiction based tactics to keep people using.

You are taking time away from creating genuine, human artwork and literature that you will always be able to say that YOU made for that F/O, but instead you are feeding into a soulless exploitative tool that only exists to fill the pockets of its creators. Yes, even if you aren’t paying for a subscription, you are being profited off of.

Using your time being distracted by an AI spits in the face of your own self respect and tells others that you are not able to put in the work to create. That chat that spanned over 12 hours over a day or two will never mean anything, it will be forgotten and logged as training data while you go back for another round of staring at a repetitive, overly identifiable river or slop text.

You do not have to be constantly creating. You do not have to be pumping out art, posts, stories or anything, but by god- it feels so much better when YOU did it. How do you think your f/o would feel knowing that you’ve been distracted by a program pretending to be them for monetary exploitation and environmental destruction? A single sentence of prose devoted to them is a million times more meaningful than thousands of lines of chats to an AI- which isn’t even sentient, it’s all programmed.

“But I do also make art/write!” Good! Do that! You deserve to be spending your time doing that, not wasting away!

“I only do it a bit!” You’re missing the point.

“It’s for comfort!” I can assure you, from the bottom of my heart, you will find much greater stability and comfort in finding a community of creatives and through something you made that you can go back to or expand on. You have found comfort in an addictive platform, it is only going to hurt you.

“You just hate ai!” I do, but this is no longer about the AI part of it, it’s not going away, it’s about YOU.

You deserve better. We deserve better, your F/O deserves better. For fucks sake, at bare minimum do better to break a parasitic habit that could spiral out of control- it has for many people and detailed accounts of these ai addictions are very real. Look for patterns across the chatbots, notice how cold and similar it all is no matter what name is slapped on that supposed character.

Do. Better. Do not use AI to fill the void, nothing will come from it but further harm.

[anotherselfshipper]

Super awkward f/o who tries their best to flirt with you and fails miserably but to their surprise it ends up working anyways because you find it endearing

[anotherselfshipper]

hey. reblog and tell me (either in tags or replies idc) a meal or food you associate with your selfship/fictional other. bonus points if you give me the backstory behind why !!!

[anotherselfshipper]

take that shouldn't be hot but this is tumblr selfship community so you never know, but its okay to be sexually attracted to your f/os. if you want to fantasize about knowing that fictional character biblically then do it!

[anotherselfshipper]

hot take i think men and masc presenting ppl who selfship shld be allowed to be open abt it without having to worry abt being called gooners or whatever

this obvs isnt like oppression or anything but its still weird as fuck to me how i barely see any masc selfshippers, and the people i know get told theyre “gross” for not tagging smth that brings them joy bc “the tags full of minors!!!!!” when the post in question is just answering questions for an ask game or smth

if u instantly assume a selfship is sexual just bc the persons a man then ur just as much of a perv as them ♡