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PSA about PMDD

I just had to post this. I had to get the word out about something that needs to be more widely known and understood.

First of all,

PMS is not a joke. It is horrible and shitty to have to go through.

Second of all,

PMDD is different and is also not a joke.

Now let me explain for those who don’t know. PMDD stands for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. Let’s look at those words more closely. 

Premenstrual: Roughly speaking the two-week period leading up to a woman’s menstruation every month.

Dysphoric: Dysphoria is described as being “a profound state of unease or dissatisfaction. In a psychiatric context, dysphoria may accompany depression, anxiety, or agitation.” And can often indicate an increased risk for suicide.

Disorder:  many clinicians will describe psychiatric disorders as deviant, distressful, and dysfunctional patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviors

NOW, lets break down disorder into those 3 parts

        Deviant: thoughts or behaviors that are different from most of the rest of a given cultural context

        Distress: a subjective feeling that something is really very wrong

        Dysfunction: when a person’s ability to work, and live is clearly and often measurably impaired.

These 3 things are what the field of psychology would like to call the criteria for diagnosing someone with a mental or behavioral illness. That last one in particular. Now that was a lot of info so how about I make this all a little bit more visual…

So now that you understand what PMDD means and that it is a real diagnosable illness, lets take a look at what it means to live with it.

PMDD was added to the DSM in its most recent addition in 2013, the DSM5 lists the following 11 symptoms as characteristic of PMDD

·      Marked lability (e.g., mood swings)

·      Marked irritability or anger

·      Markedly depressed mood

·      Marked anxiety and tension

·      Decreased interest in usual activities

·      Difficulty in concentration

·      Lethargy and marked lack of energy

·      Marked change in appetite (e.g., overeating or specific food cravings)

·      Hypersomnia or insomnia

·      Feeling overwhelmed or out of control

·       Physical symptoms (e.g., breast tenderness or swelling, joint or muscle pain, a sensation of ‘bloating’ and weight gain)

Speaking as someone who has been diagnosed with this by an actual doctor, I can say that PMDD is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, when I am not in the premenstrual period I am constantly thinking about how far away from it I am. I plan things around it because I can, because it comes every month like clockwork. All I can do is try and enjoy my self for the two weeks every month when I am not in absolute hell. And when it comes, everything is a struggle. I have to force myself to go to class, force myself to talk to people, force myself to shower, brush my teeth and do anything other than pull myself out of crying fits and into numbness, out of anxiety attacks and into the temptation to self harm. 

After it is all over I try and move on and recover and live my life to the fullest until it comes back but that is all I can hope for. A half life.

So let me reiterate, PMDD is not a joke. If those symptoms or my testament hit a little too close to home, please share your concerns with a doctor and get a formal diagnosis and treatment. And for everyone else, all I ask is that you spread awareness and try to think twice the next time you think about accusing a girl of PMSing because ever since 2013 this has been a bona fide mental illness. We as a society can not claim that we are working towards reducing the stigma on mental illnesses if we are only doing so for a select few on a list of many.

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reuploaded these bc i wasn’t satisfied with the first version

my original caption: you’re Valid, anon! i took some liberties with sawsbuck’s and furret’s height/length (i haven’t drawn pokemon in years, forgive me). i like to think draco named is furret after the constellation lyra and harry named his sawsbuck something silly like sawsbuckbeak but i’m open to suggestions

「 links to my insta and ko-fi in my bio! 」

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fanfiction from the mid 2000s: well i'm completely straight but darn if i don't have sexual fantasies about this one specific guy

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This thing when you find a nice fanfiction but it’s like novel-long and it’s also 4 a.m. so you look in the camera like they do in office and a meaningful smile appears on your face 

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Whump Prompt #27

The whumpee and the caretaker had not met before the caretaker rescued the whumpee. Whumpee was conditioned to believe that they'll always be a pet/slave, so they think the caretaker is their new owner. What the caretaker says to be comforting is seen in a different light than they are intended.

"Sh, don't cry" = crying means punishment.

"I've got you now" = change in ownership.

"You should get some rest" = sleep when told.

"Can you hand me that thing right there? Thanks!" = Do what I'm told to keep them happy.

"These pills are supposed to help. Here, have them" = they control what substances enter my body.

"It's alright" = there is no problem, everything is normal, I'm weak if I don't feel okay being a pet/slave.

And other lines.

Now, write about when the caretaker realizes what is happening.

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some things you should know before you make a bargain with the fae

they will never love you back. they will not give you the kind of love you want. they are not humans. they do not understand. you will weep blood and bleed tears and they will bare their pointed teeth and give you a smile. you will kill their enemies and your friends and when you stand in front of them with bloodied hands and hollow eyes they will smile with sharp lips and give you a kiss. you will carve your heart out and throw it at their feet and you will have nothing left to give. and you will never see them again. the love you hold for them is the kind that made you go mad. the love they hold for you is insubstantial, inconsequential.

they will never give you what you want. you come to ask for a cure. to see a wish granted. to prove your worth. they will take everything and leave you with nothing. you will give them all you have; what you wanted to sacrifice and what you never thought you could. because when you’re there, you will realize your wish is more important than anything you thought essential. nothing else matters: not your sweetheart, back at home, their heart is so easy to break; not your family, they never loved you like you deserve; not your life, you will get a new one, a better one, in exchange for this one. it’s all a lie, of course. you’ll know that, after; but only when it’s too late, when you’re abandoned, broken, forsaken, with no one to turn to, because you’ve destroyed everything you had. you won’t get your wish, of course.

they will never keep their word. you want to strike a bargain. the rules are clear; you are sure of it. all those stories do not apply to you, you are clever, you won’t be tricked. of course, the bargain you strike isn’t the one you think. their words are like thorns, like vines, like poison, twisting in your mind until they become unrecognizable. what they say is different from what you hear; but it’s their word that holds weight, not yours. they’re the ones who can’t lie, not you. they can lie, of course. they can lie better than you ever will. it’s in their nature; it flows with their blood; it spills with their tears. lies are woven deep in the roots of the forests they live in, they float in the air, poison the food you’ll eat. everything is a lie in Faerie; that is the only truth. they’ll keep their word, of course. but the word they give you isn’t what you think.

some things you should know while making a bargain with the fae

lace your clothes with iron, smear your hair with ash, sprinkle your lips with salt. the iron, the ash, the salt, they will not protect you; but better for them to think you have come prepared, better for them to think you dangerous. there is so little danger in Faerie for the fae, and they love a conundrum. if they think you’re a challenge, they’ll keep you alive longer, at least until they figure out how to break you.

speak as little as you can, because everything you say will be used against you. don’t smile; they will think it a threat. don’t weep; they are disgusted by weakness. never, never, never bleed; once they have your blood, you are lost, lost forever.

don’t listen to the voices. the voices, yes, the whispers that call out from between the trees, from the night sky, from the deep, deep, black ponds. don’t look up, or down, and don’t look back; keep your eyes fixed straight ahead, because the fae you’re striking a bargain with isn’t safe, but they’re safer than anything else.

your best chance is to listen and then run for your life the second they are distracted; because yes, they will be distracted: there are so many things in Faerie more interesting than a measly human like you. but you won’t run, i know. you are here for a reason, and you won’t leave until you get what you want. 

don’t be tricked by Faerie’s beauty. the world the fae live in is pure wonder, and it will seep into your mind and set roots there, poisoning it until you can’t think of anything else. but it is a beauty like a sharp dagger, like the wind on a cliff—it won’t hesitate to pierce your heart, to push you under.

don’t trust anything they say. they can see your deepest wishes, the ones you’re hiding at the bottom of your heart; but never trust them when they say they will offer you company when you’re lonely, because they will throw you into a nest of snakes. never accept when they offer to cure your sick relative, because for them, mortality is a sickness in itself. never let them heal your wounds, because you won’t survive the treatment. if they offer you anything for free, it’s a trap. if they offer you a bargain, it’s a trap.

some things you should know after you’ve made a bargain with the fae

you’re doomed. now you can dance, and smile, and weep, and enjoy yourself; kiss that pixie with the green hair, swim in the cursed waters of the moonlit lake, offer a flower to the elf who’s looking at you with sad eyes. you can jump down from the highest branches and trust that they will catch you; a swift death is a mercy you won’t be granted. you’re their newest plaything, so enjoy it while it lasts. because after they’re finished with you, you won’t really be able to enjoy anything else ever again.

you can’t escape. run, if you’re brave enough, if you’re smart enough to have come to your senses, even if it’s too late. run, if you want, it won’t change anything, but maybe you’ll anger them enough to quicken your demise. a quick, painless death is still out of your reach, but fine, run, if you wish to cut your stay in Faerie short. they’ll get bored of you more easily; a human who isn’t charmed isn’t as entertaining. so run, brave little human, dash between the trees and pretend you can’t feel them coming for you.

you won’t be the exception. sure, there was a human maiden who tricked the faerie once. she was young and clever and beautiful, and she struck a bargain and got out alive, and with what she wanted. only once, a long time ago. but since then, they have grown even more careful, even smarter, even wilier. and anyway, it isn’t like the girl’s youth and cleverness and beauty, and her trickiness and the wish she got, granted her a happy life afterwards; she had angered Faerie, and they tricked her into coming back, and they never let her go. and trust me, you don’t want that.

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“The concept of soulmates honestly makes makes my heart flutter and my shoulders tremble. I don’t want to be alone, but at the same time, I’m too afraid to reach out. The very idea that there’s someone out there just made for you sounds a little scary, but so very much incredible at the same time.”

— The Never Book, @genosha-meiuqer

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writing prompts

i’m having a hard time being inspired so i thought i’d make myself a list of random prompts. send me something or use them if they inspire you. this kind of got longer than i was expecting it to.

rivalry aus / enemies to friends to lovers aus 

➼ i’ve been working my ass off to be valedictorian and you’re telling me that you, a jock, might win instead? it’s on ➼ you decided to open your fancy new bookstore/flower shop/bar/cafe/bakery across the street from mine so excuse me while i try to sabotage you  ➼ we’re both up for a promotion and we’ve been fighting each other since it became an option and i’m not letting you become my boss thank you very much ➼ you were rude to me the first time we met so we’ve been bickering ever since and you have the audacity to ask me for a favour? no i will not pretend to be your romantic partner ➼ we’ve been in a prank war for the last five months, and our friends are getting tired of it - let’s call a temporary truce? (jokes, i prank you anyway) ➼ we have never gotten along, but i’d rather bicker with you than be on this boring date right now ➼ you’re such a pessimistic asshole but you’re also the only person who challenges me and i’m the only person who can make you laugh ➼ we’ve been begrudgingly sharing favours back and forth to help each other out professionally but this time i need you to do something more personal and you know you wouldn’t have gotten that account without my help last month or that promotion so you owe me ➼ we spent so much time arguing that we didn’t notice the party ended until the host kicked us out ➼ we’ve been sleeping together on and off for almost a year and i know it’s angry hate sex but i got you a little gift because it reminded me of you ➼ our parents are best friends but we can’t stand each other, except we both agreed to help setup for the annual BBQ and we’re trying to be nice to each other for our parents’ sake ➼ we used to be friends, but high school forced us to drift apart, and now we’re just mean to each other all the time, but i still know all of your secrets ➼ our teams/sororities/fraternities hate each other, but sometimes i think maybe you and i could get along if we weren’t always in competition ➼ our friends are tired of our rivalry so they set us up on a blind date with each other and for some reason, we stay and have dinner together

fake relationship aus ➼ i know you hate me but my ex just showed up to this party so we’re now dating, please say yes?? ➼ my mother won’t quit setting me up on blind dates so i created an okcupid account to find someone to pretend to be my partner for her next charity event and you said you were interested but only if i pretended to be your partner for your sister’s BBQ ➼ my friends are all coupled up and i’m the only single person so i pretended you were my partner even though you’re the barista/bookstore owner/etc. that i see all the time and now they want to meet you ➼ i’m at a bar when i see someone making you uncomfortable so i swoop in as your partner…only to find out that the person you’re with is your actual partner and they broke up with you because they thought you were cheating–my bad? ➼ my newest client is all about that family life except i’ve only focused on my career, and it was implied that they’re gonna move forward with another company, so i know you’re a single parent with two kids, can you pretend to be my family? ➼ we broke up six years ago, but whenever i run into that annoying nosy person from high school i pretend that we’re still together and she just said “i saw that they’re coming to the high school reunion, but you said you weren’t?” so whoops please pretend we’re still together ➼ we’re such good friends/coworkers that people in the office have started to think we’re together and one morning i was really tired and agreed with them and now they think we’re together and i’m so embarrassed can you just go with it?

under the read more: friends to lovers aus, friends with benefits aus, blind date aus + one night stand aus

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Prinxiety. Soulmate au where you can here the others thoughts and Roman's are 98% Disney songs

Love this au

Musical Minds

Fandom: Sanders SidesPairings: PrinxietyWarnings: None

Tagged:  @existental-crises @jordisama @here-to-vent @irish-newzealand-idian-dutch @novagalaxy4real @thomas-must-get-to-sleep @emo-space-trash @evanisonfire @lollingtothemax @all-the-fand0mz

Today was going pretty well; the sky was overcast, traffic wasn’t bad, and the workday was clear.  But Fate just had to spite Virgil at every chance she got.  He’d never been too worried about finding his soulmate.  He knew that their psychic link would connect the second they met, but nothing could’ve prepared him for Roman.

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I don’t know if anyone can resist some good ol’ fashion fake dating, so here are 150 related prompts.

this list of prompts includes:

☆ 50 reasons why we must fake a relationship ☆ 50 reasons i’m only doing this because people need to believe this is real ☆ 50 moments of wait, are we still pretending? 

buckle up and please enjoy the ride!

reasons why we must fake a relationship

01.   I’m tired of my family whining about when I’m going to start dating someone (classic and must be included) 02.  my moving van was stolen so will you pretend to marry me so I can get the money and gifts to replace everything? 03.  my ex is an asshole and I really don’t want them to think I’m still in love 04.  I’m tired of my friends/family setting me up on horrible blind dates so I made up a relationship and now they want to meet this mystery person 05.  I need a green card (aka The Proposal AU) 06.  I want to let someone who keeps asking me out down easy, so I blurt that I’m in a relationship and things sort of got out of hand 07.  I answer an ad so we’re each other’s partners to our family gatherings 08.  someone assumed we’re dating but I didn’t realize that’s what they meant until it was too late and I had committed us to a couples’ retreat weekend 09.  in order to get that promotion, I have to show the Big Bosses that I’m a family person too but I don’t have a family so can I pretend to be part of yours? 10.  my ex just showed up with their new partner and I don’t want them to win this breakup 11.  I’m your assistant and you just informed me that your entire family thinks we’re dating and you don’t want to let them down 12.  it’s grandma’s dying wish to see you married so here I am 13.  I’m really competitive and drunk and I just told a rival that my relationship is way better than theirs, but they don’t believe you exist (but I’m too stubborn to admit they’re right) 14.  our friends set us up on a blind date as a prank because we don’t like each other but neither of us wants to let them win so 15.  people keep teasing us about being a couple so we come up with a plan to fake date and have a fake breakup so they’ll feel awkward and leave us alone

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negative soulmate aus for all you angsts. aka when being together with your soulmate, or having one at all, comes with a cost

only a soulmate can see your scars

you can’t touch your soulmate. you can try, but you physically can not bring any part of yourself closer than an inch away from them. you can be close, but never quite there.

once you’ve met your soulmate, your timer gets a new number it’s counting down to. this is the last time you’ll ever see your soulmate. only you can see your own number.

bonus: you just asked your soulmate for their number, and you realise your numbers don’t match

you have a timer that shows you for how long you have to live. this number changes and mostly estimates based on conscious or unconscious decisions a few minutes after making the decision: driving to visit your grandparents might make the number go to just hours but deciding on the road that no, you have enough fuel to not stop at the gas station you usually stop by makes it go to thirty years. you can’t see the number when you are within 10 metres of your soulmate, so your future is always unknown when you’re with them—and so is theirs.

once you’ve touched your soulmate for the first time, something as small as a poke or a brush of finger is enough to make you feel warm and happy and energised. the negative side effect? you need to be touched by them because being without even a small touch for long enough can and will kill you.

every time you tell a lie, your soulmate gets a painful tally mark scar on their body

you are immortal until the moment you meet your soulmate

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Characters & Relationships I Want to Read More Of

Healthy, strong sibling bonds

Two supportive, active parents

Men who are open with emotions of all kind

Women who have no weak spots for romantic love

Hardened characters who (professionally) care for kids, animals, or the elderly and are sweet with them

Pansexual and lesbian characters in sci fi

Intense newly-formed friendships

Lust at first sight, reluctantly (& eventually) in love

MCs who aren’t naturally or easily athletic 

Lazy do-gooders

Unlikely cat people

Someone who’s known for being a good singer/musician but would rather pursue math or science

Men who are rough but aren’t condescending to women

Non-humans who live in a human world and have a cultural identity crisis

Characters that willfully go to a therapist

Women with careers AND a rich, full family/social life

Dedicated teachers

A character that got a degree in business/finances/tech to have a secure job and save up for a lifelong dream

A woman who lives in an isolated area/home alone and prefers it that way

Divorced parents and step-parents that care about each other and work hard to be a loving support network for the kids involved

Sex workers that are not angels or demons, but complex characters like everyone else

Stay at home dads

Recovering alcoholics/addicts that have been clean for years and help other trying to get clean

A deadbeat, unemployed female character

Rough characters who are also bookworms

Kids who are just as emotionally intelligent as the adults

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Hope u like it ♡ Надеюсь, вам понравится

All mesh by @elliesimple ♡ thank you very much!

Second model by my sweet bunny @martyamm ♡ thank you very much!

Mesh not included! All mesh`s links below!

25 Swatches

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Mesh:

Crop Tank Top

Crop Top Long Sleeve

Cropped Elastic Tee

Multi Strap Crop Top

Off Shoulder Crop Top

Poplin Top

Romantic Top

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Melisandre Dress DOWNLOAD (TSR)

base game compatible

new mesh

13 colors

recolors/edits welcome

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🌷Xuan Loc Xuan Prints🌷

Hello hello! I am back with another print for you guys to add to your gorgeous sims 4 games. Once again this print happens to have a large amount of swatches, because I can not pick! These prints are by the lovely Xuan Loc Xuan which you can find on instagram & Behance. There 66 swatches this time around, and I decided to be pretty nice and put either gold or brown on the swatches to that you know if they come on the brown or gold frames. They are obviously on the Base Game frames that I always use, so they can be mixed and matched with other prints of mine, which you can find my other cc here. And I’m here not knowing if this counts as maxis match ,but I’m tagging it as so because that what I personally consider them to be. The file itself is only 5.9 mb so that’s not too bad, the file also included the swatch (but in a bigger size for easier inspection of prints). Anyways that’s all you need to really know. I hope you enjoy them and I hope to see them in your pretty houses! Have a nice day everyone 💕💋

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Rosalind - dress DOWNLOAD (TSR)

base game compatible

new mesh

20 colors

recolors welcome

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Sparkly Masculine Frame Mer-tail Recolors

I made a really quick recolor for my own sims (one additional bisexual pride flag to the brightened sparkly rainbow tail and some gothy swatches), but I thought I could toss them up if anyone is interested! 6 swatches. Shown with my reshade. You need Island Living for this to work!

TOU: Don’t put this recolor behind ads, on paysites, or reupload . Please link directly to this post or reblog. Thank you for being respectful!

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