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An asexual conversation ✨be like✨

movie night

cuddle

pillow fight & jumping around on the bed

read to each other

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idc anymore i think we should be a burden to each other

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if you think tumblr not adding a flash warning feature isnt a big deal because they already have tag filtering here is a list of all the tags i have to manually filter whenever i make a new account

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but no its my fault for making a big deal of it!

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bro it's like midnight and you liked one of my posts (@fluff-n-cookies)

please go to sleep.

Thank you for the concern, it is appreciated lol. Time zones are weird. It thankfully wasn’t the middle the night for me, don’t worry!

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@staff @support please please 🙏 do whatever it takes to stop auto refresh. It's all I ever ask when sending in feedback. Auto refresh is such a pain, it ends up detaining interaction and causes frustration. At the very least, add a toggle we can select to turn off auto refresh?

Is it a mobile app thing? Does this happen on desktop? It happens so often now, I end up just yeeting myself out because I can't find what I wanted to interact with.

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the funny thing about chronic illness causing a lack of appetite is that when i manage to eat i sometimes get hit with the re-realization that ohhhhh yeahhhhh eating food DOES give me more energy. wtf wild who woulda thought lol

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Since July is Disability Pride Month

(as opposed to every other month when we're all demure about disability rights /gentle sarcasm)

I wanted to highlight one of my favorite artists: Liberal Jane.

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Pretty much no impairment is as simple as abled people think it is.

People are taught to believe that disability is a simple “Can’t”. Can’t walk. Can’t talk. Can’t hear. Can’t see. An ability is just excised and no longer exists, if it ever did.

In reality, it’s rarely that simple.

It’s “I can sort of do x thing sometimes, but I get muscle spasms making it very dangerous or impossible to do it reliably or safely”. Or “I can do x thing but it causes me so much pain I will be unable to do anything else for hours or days after doing it”. Or “I can do x thing but I constantly injure myself doing it because of lack of muscle control”. Or “I can do x thing but so badly I functionally can’t do it two inches beyond my face, but now I have a mobile phone I can put up to my face so I can do it in certain very specific circumstances”.

None of these things mean someone isn’t disabled. And if you think it does, then it’s *your* ideas about disability that need to change.

The reason disabled people end up saying “can’t” when the reality is more complex is because people don’t trust our boundaries. They force us to injure ourselves instead of accommodating, or use energy that means we have none left to do *anything* else we need to do for the rest of the day. Or week. Or month.

Abled people need to start trusting disabled people, or you need to shut up, get out of any situation where you have power over us, and provide someone who will. Those are the only options.

The way we are expected to live in a performative hell of the making of more privileged people who then turn around and criticise us for not suffering in the precise way they have decided we should is genuinely nothing but ridiculous.

Just stop.

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I've seen this before, but it's been years and it just came across my Twitter in its dying days. The words are from a favorite author of mine, Maggie Stiefvater, and they are the words I most need to hear when it comes to dealing with chronic pain and illness. I didn't need this the first time I saw it, six years ago. I need it now. Maybe you do, too.

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chronically ill people will tell you that they’re fine while they’re visibly shaking and sweating and fighting for their life in front of you

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a scooby doo series set in community college where the gang is in a criminology class and end up in a huge debate on the first day of class that leads to them starting a podcast talking about local urban legends, only to realize things aren’t quite adding up and they go to investigate for ~journalistic authenticity~ and end up solving a real-life crime disguised as supernatural occurrences. this happens every week and they’re frequently featured on the school newspaper. they only have twenty listeners

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wishing luck to everyone being forced into midnight church services tonight. you can get through this.

wishing peace to everyone spending these nights in confusion and fear over questioning their faith. you can get through this.

wishing love to everyone stuck spending this time with “family” whose support and acceptance is conditional. you can get through this.

wishing strength to everyone currently fighting with the thought processes that were ingrained in them. you can get through this.

wishing a happy holidays to everyone who’s deconverting. you can get through this ✧

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i grew up with a chronic illness and parents who believed i was ‘milking’ my pain. they said things like ‘it’s not that bad’ and ‘you have to get through it and do what everyone else does’. i never got the chance to know what my limits were because i wasn’t allowed to have any. because of that, i underreported symptoms until my disease became severe. scariest part is that i didn’t even realize i was underreporting. i had just been doubting my own body for years.

i still struggle to accept and seek support for pain. recently, i developed a large kidney stone. as i’m laying in the emergency room, crying from pain, i have a thought like ‘this really isn’t that bad’. and i’m like, ‘oh my god, i’m gaslighting my own pain’. meanwhile, i’m being given morphine and bumped up in triage. these should validate my experience, but suddenly i’m thinking ‘i don’t need this, i’m probably milking it’ because that’s what i’ve been told my entire life.

parents and guardians, take any pain your child reports seriously, especially if they are chronically ill. otherwise, you’re teaching them to ignore their own needs and limits, leading to the worsening of conditions and appearance of easily preventable problems. they’ll be much worse off then they’d be if they missed a day of school for supposedly faking a tummy ache.

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actually i love growing older and learning how i work as a person like realizing what kinds of fabrics feel best on my skin or what brand of yogurt i like best or how I want to be touched. watching myself change, enjoying brussel sprouts when I used to hate them as a child, understanding why I got angry in that one conversation 10 years ago… there are so many mysteries inside me that i have yet to unravel and there will always be more and sometimes i think maybe its all worth it

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