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"nobody's gonna want to date you like that" that's the plan dude

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I just,,, hc aroallo/nonsam aro Ben so much,,,, I love,,, the he,,,

Anyways enjoy these 🥺

First pic is the original promo, second is the aromantic flag, third is the nonsam aro flag, fourth is the aroallo flag.

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Age 8: Everyone has crushes and I don’t. I’m a freak

Age 11: LOL what was I thinking of course I get crushes! The other kids say you get butterflies in your stomach and my tummy feels weird whenever I’m around people… do I have a crush on everyone?

Age 16: So apparently that is called Social Anxiety

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✨ Fun facts! ✨

💛 Alloaros should be supported in the entire aspec community, not just the alloaro community.

💛 Alloaros should be listened to and respected, just like anyone else in the community.

💛 Getting defensive when alloaros tell you something you’re doing is arophobic isn’t helping.

💛 Posting text posts supporting alloaros isn’t enough sometimes; it is important to listen to their voices, and combat arophobic tropes that are harming them.

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I deleted my aro feelings post because my thoughts were clearly not expressed in a productive way. It was meant to be a conversational point on specific issues I feel and I’ve discussed with other aros of all sexualities both recently and in the past. But since it wasn’t adding to the discussion in a positive way, I don’t think it needs to stay up.

I deleted the post so only the called out versions can be reblogged. That way something harmful doesnt have a chance to spread further, even though it still exists paired with the its criticism. It was not my intention to speak over any allo aro voices, and I absolutely see how it came across as that which reinforced my believe that that post should not stay up because it was causing harm.

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i hate the whole like pressure to experience relationships on a timeline, like you’re “supposed” to have crushes at a young age, “supposed” to start dating in high school, “supposed” to lose your virginity as a teen, “supposed” to be dating and sleeping around through high school and college, “supposed” to settle down in your mid to late twenties, and “supposed” to have your own family soon after you marry and then ur supposed to enforce that timeline on ur kids like how many times do family members ask u when ur gonna get a partner and get married… it’s like the natural enemy of having real, vulnerable, deep relationships with other ppl because you keep feeling like you have to settle for somebody in order to fit within that timeline, or else u feel broken and out of place for not fitting into it… i really believe this is why i hear about so many people being stuck in unhappy marriages like how do u cultivate something fulfilling when ur fighting against a deadline

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Loads of alloros realising they’re queer when they were younger and I was just sat there like ‘I’m straight cause I’ve never had a crush on anyone!’ because no one ever told me that being aromantic was a thing

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A pet peeve of mine as an aro is when two people on a show or movie do something that involves physical closeness and implies emotional closeness and all the shippers jump out and go "omg they're so maaarrriiied" like no!! Leave them alone!! Let two characters be casually comfortable with each other without making it romantic challenge!

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Character: *gets confirmed as ace*

Every other post in the character tag immediately after: JUST A REMINDER UWU!!!!!! JUST BC THIS CHARACTER IS ACE DOESNT MEAN THEYRE HEARTLESS!!!! ACES CAN STILL FEEL ROMANTIC ATTRACTION!!!!! DO NOT FORGET THAT ACES CAN STILL LOVE!!!!!!!!!!! JUST AN UWU FRIENDLY REMINDER UWU UWU UWU!!!!!!!!

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Aromanticism, mental health and suicidal tendencies [Survey]

I’ve seen quite a few of these for asexuals but so far not a single one for arospecs. Please do not take if you’re not aromantic or on the aromantic spectrum. Please reblog if you take it.

Mild trigger warning for discussions of suicidal tendencies and trauma.

SURVEY LINK

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My friend took away my rights for doing this. Worth it. 

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Society: You can't just stay single and live a life that's completely fulfilled without a romantic relationship!!!

Me:

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I wanted to put out the word about this - as of now (March 8, 2020), Arocalypse (the main/only independent aromantic forum site) is facing imminent shutdown by around the end of the month unless volunteers can be found to take over the technical implementation and running of the site, as well as the day-to-day moderation.

Ideally, it sounds like volunteers should know at least a bit about domain registration, website hosting, and using forum software (currently invision power suite) - or at least be willing to learn.

There are some volunteers willing to provide financial support, but there’s still an urgent need for a lead technical support admin, and I’m guessing there may also be need for day-to-day moderation support soon as well.

Why should I care about Arocalypse?

As it stands, arocalypse is currently the only well known, fully independent and community-led and maintained public discussion space for aromantic people, in that it is independently hosted, run, and moderated, by aromantic community members instead of relying on unrelated third-party platforms like tumblr or reddit or facebook. With other sites, like tumblr, aromantic users subject to the whims of non-aromantic staff, with little ability to moderate or control their own spaces. There’s little to no transparency around site management and updates, and little to no resource if content is removed or censored - and at the same time, no way to remove or hide content that is problematic (like anti-aro trolls).

As an independent hosted and managed site, Arocalypse provides a space where aromantic community organizers and members can give and take feedback and provide what the community actually needs, not just whatever bare minimum is profitable for some tech company.

For another example, consider the fact that there’s no way to remove spam or mistagged content from tumblr tags - a community-owned space like arocalypse, on the other hand, is able to develop and enforce it’s own community-driven guidelines to ensure that spam gets removed and that misplaced content gets shuffled to appropriate subforums as needed.

In additional, forum-style communities like arocalypse are also important for their general ease of use and navigability for a wide range of users, which makes them accessible to larger parts of the community than more niche and sometimes confusing platforms like tumblr. Plus, it’s centralized, and has been around long enough to have fairly good SEO, which makes it a much better landing ground for new aros who are just starting to figure out what aromanticism is, let alone how to find other more obscure community spaces and resources.

If you’ve ever thought to yourself “I want to help make more spaces for aro folks, but I’m not sure how” - this could be a great opportunity to get involved in real hands-on aro community organizing.

And even if you don’t have the time or skills to take on this position (I know I’m in that boat right no myself), if you can at least take a moment to signal boost this it would be much appreciated!

Once again, here’s a link to the relevant announcement and call for vounteers >>

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[ID: A boy, labelled “me”, holds a lightsaber, labelled “bold of you to assume i want to be human”, behind his head to block another boy, labelled “amatonormativity”, from hitting him with a lightsaber labelled “love is what makes you human”. End ID]

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For all my aro/spec teens out there - your age doesn’t mean you don’t know who you are. Being young doesn’t mean being clueless. Your aromanticism is not a product of your youth. 

I’m over 20. I’m finishing my master’s degree. I mostly left my parents’ home almost 10 years ago, and I’ve met a lot of people. I’ve had a lot of opportunities to “act” or “feel” allo, and who I am didn’t change. 

You can be aro at 15 and stay aro till the end. It’s natural, and the chances are high that’s the way your life will go. Have faith in yourself and keep your head high.