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I became obsessed with Normal People on Hulu

I’m essentially live-blogging episodes and writing a thesis on Connell and why we love him. You can check it out here, but I might post it here also??

The Bare Minimum: Why Women Love Connell Waldron from ‘Normal People’

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If you think I’m not here for Luke exploring his sexuality through makeup and kinky music videos, you came to the wrong blog.

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Ruby is an exceptional role model for latinx youth because he shows so much vulnerability in the last 5 minutes of the season 2 premiere.

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punk isn’t just skinny. punk isn’t just perfect mohawks or aesthetically pleasing jackets. punk isn’t only listening to dead kennedys or black flag. punk is being an individual, having no respect for our fascist authority, sticking up for the little guy even if you are the little guy. punk isn’t just a look or a music scene.

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Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.

Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.

Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.

Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.

I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.

Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.

But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

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70s

freddie (and a little bit of john) as a rainbow!

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why does using someone’s name in conversation feel so intimate, like the way a touch feels gentle as someone is fixing ur hair or brushing out a stray strand

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english: coconut oil

french: :)

english: oh boy

french: oil of the nut of the coco

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The b99 cast puts their High School photos on instagram in honor of tonight’s episode

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If you’re healthy you probably don’t realize how demoralizing it is to spend all day in a hospital gown

But now a new collaboration is designing fashionable hospital gowns to encourage sick teens that they’re not “just a hospital patient.” See how they react when they try their new robes on.

Gifs: Starlight Canada

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I came back from a hiatus and immediately lost a follower lmao

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Who's your fave 5SOS MEMBER?

I am always a slut for Calum Hood <3

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U kno wat

Hi! So I’m back???

I think I’m going to start getting back on Tumblr again. Idk why, but it sounds nice for the most part.

My blog is in quarantine? I think? So I’m waiting for Tumblr to tell me I’m NOT a bad person.

Don’t worry, because you’re still going to get some quality 5SOS reblogs, plus band stuff, BUT you’ll probably get a lot of me writing letters to characters, and venting about who knows what??

In short: I’m back. Ya feel?

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Hi! So I’m back???

I think I’m going to start getting back on Tumblr again. Idk why, but it sounds nice for the most part.

My blog is in quarantine? I think? So I’m waiting for Tumblr to tell me I’m NOT a bad person.

Don’t worry, because you’re still going to get some quality 5SOS reblogs, plus band stuff, BUT you’ll probably get a lot of me writing letters to characters, and venting about who knows what??

In short: I’m back. Ya feel?

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this is a casual reminder that it was no accident that they put Luke in the back of the car in the ‘Lie to Me’ video and what Ash said in his tweet is about emotional abuse. You’re welcome.

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Unpopular opinion: I LOVE Proper Dose.

TSSF are @blacklace‘s favorite band, and I didn’t listen to them really, unless we were together. But this album is so different, and I’m kind of obsessed with it.

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Movie Peter> Book Peter

Don’t play me.