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I think the fact that Carson hasn't picked up on anyone's queerness has less to do with gaydar and more to do with the fact that se thinks she's the only person in the world that feels like she does. She's grown up not even knowing that being gay is possible until she meets Greta, who seems like the most amazing person on the planet because she feels The Same as Carson does. It would never occur to Carson that anyone else is gay because she's always felt isolated in her attraction to women and I think the show does a good job of showing how hard it is to break yourself of the feeling that you are alone and broken and weird for being gay. There's a reason that the shot of her realizing she's in a gay bar starts with a tight shot of her, jess, and lupe and then widens to include other people.

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Aziraphale's favorite color is yellow

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i don’t post here but it feels like the perfect place to post. tomorrow you would’ve been 23 @itwas-sixtwentyone. i miss you more than words can ever say, you were the best friend anyone could’ve ever asked for, you gave me the space and support to become who i am today and i will forever be thankful for you and everything you gave me. i try to keep my thoughts about you as positive ones, i know you would’ve loved the new guardians film, i know you would’ve hated how much i love the barbie film and think it was cringe that i bought that jumper, but every time i wear it i think of you. i think of you when i look out at the sky at night, i think of you when i get purple rain, i think of you when i find a new artist or an album i’d know you would love. you know what’s funny? today i had to explain to someone what tumblr is, i know you would have loved that. you had such potential and i’m sorry you didn’t get the chance to show the world. i watched julie and the phantoms because i know how much you loved it, and you were right, it’s amazing, i wish i hadn’t been a stubborn ass and refused to watch it because i was told to watch it. there’s some books i read that i know you would have loved, maybe one day i’ll get to tell you about them. i saw mik recently and he remembered you and how important you are to me and it made me feel so happy. i’ve kept in contact with your mum, and i’m going to stay in contact with her, so she knows you’ll never be forgotten, because you will never be forgotten. i miss you so much and i love you so fucking much i can’t put it into words. i’ve written you a few letters, and i’m going to keep doing that so you know i’ll never forget you or move on. rest in peace my love 💛💚

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I've already mentioned this in the general I Kissed Shara Wheeler screaming post but I'm going to talk more about how much I love the execution of Smith's gender identity because everything about it was so well done?

First of all, I was very happy to see some more diverse nonbinary representation! More nonbinary rep is always good to have, and I love Ash's character a lot, but they're a bit of a stereotype. I'd like to reiterate no hate to Ash, I love them, but they are assigned female, short hair, weird earrings, they/them pronouns, on TikTok. Which is fairly standard, though in no way bad.

Smith, though. A genderqueer character who's assigned male at birth, a definite rarity even in queer fiction. Football player, typically masculine build, doesn't use they/them pronouns.

I like how he and Ash coexist in the same book, and they're both nonbinary (or some sort of non-cis), and the book is really just telling us there's no one way to be nonbinary. Fantastic. Shoutout to Casey McQuiston for giving us this.

The scene where we found out Smith maybe wasn't cisgender after all was also fantastic, potentially my favorite scene in the book. The whole experience of "well I feel like that and I'm not queer" and then later realizing your queer is so relatable and an experience I think a lot of queer people share. As someone who has absolutely done that multiple times, Smith experiencing that Oblivious Queer moment made me laugh.

Ash's explanation of how traditionally feminine interests =/= being a girl, and short hair =/= being a boy, was a good and also fairly realistic way of separating gender identity and expression. I don't think most people in real life will use the unicorn thing, but people do talk about hair. It didn't feel forced.

The way Smith described dysphoria was also great. Sometimes it is looking at your body and hating, loathing, it should be the other binary sex, but sometimes it's not- sometimes it's "I wish it was different but I guess I can deal with it." And wearing baggy clothes to try to imagine your body is different? Very relatable.

"You know... if being a guy feels like something you have to do, like it's an obligation or something..." Ash says carefully. "Maybe think about that." This line is probably getting so many readers to question their genders. Honestly, reading something like this would have been my genderqueer awakening if I hadn't been awakened already.

In the burn pile, Smith's multiple attempts at answering the prompt "what is a moment in your life that you felt truly yourself," and the way he struggled with finding a time he felt truly himself, was a painfully common queer experience.

The football response to that prompt was good, but I adored the one about feeling endless, like the Holy Spirit. Queering religion and using it to feel closer with your gender. Very glad McQuiston didn't take the "I'm queer so fuck being religious I guess" route, because that is fairly common, the "I'm queer and religious and they enhance one another" mindset is nowhere near explored enough.

Smith also wears his letterman jacket all the time, even in eighty degree heat, which Chloe puts down to "jock flexing," but reading that scene after finding out Smith wears that jacket to cope with dysphoria makes the reader see this fashion choice of his in a very different way. I see what McQuistion did there.

I didn't expect Smith to end up being genderqueer (though I definitely called the thing with Rory), but I'm so glad he is, because that whole subplot was beautiful and I clearly have a lot of thoughts on that, but I'll shut up now.

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The almighty gay need to kick in the teeth of anybody out there misgendering Liv Hewson.

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Loving the theme of books with unbury your gays trope where the characters start off dead and then come back to life through the power of gay

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six women walk into a wellness center... and the recovering addict gets accidentally killed by her best friend, who was trying to protect her from a suicidal young woman, who was trying to protect her cult leader, who got shot by a mean teenage girl, who was just trying to protect her murderous mom, who was being hunted by her high school soccer team, that included a senator that kills dogs and a lesbian with terminal cancer. and also elijah wood killed a cop

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yellowjackets theory post season 2 finale - spoilers ahead!

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i have not a SINGLE doubt in my mind that ben is the antler queen now, i’ve been thinking it for a while and it just makes sense. he’s taller than the rest of them and aq is tall, they pushed the narrative that he wasn’t going to survive from the start but he’s proved he’s not going to go down without a fight.

he found where javi survived for all that time and knows that he’s strong and resourceful, he said he could survive the winter down there and now he’s burnt the cabin, the place they felt safe and secure and now they’re out in the cold, alone with no food and nowhere to live.

i think he’s going to wait a while then come back to them and prove that he is their saviour when he offers them a place of shelter and he’s going to take charge and run things, he didn’t like how they did things but if he’s in control of what happens and how it happens then i think he’ll do it, do what needs to be done to survive, not because the wilderness wants them to but because they need to survive. being faceless and having the masks and coverings makes it less personal and i can only see him being the one to want whoever is going to die to not see the faces of their killers. and it would make so much sense that aq is always sat down and in the middle because he can’t hunt, he can’t fight, but he needs to eat and if they see him as their saviour then they would do anything for him like they did with lottie. misty would back anything he wanted without a doubt and once one person is on board it’s not going to take long for everyone else to follow

i’m convinced he survived the wilderness, there’s no doubt in my mind that he made it. he wouldn’t want to be in contact with any of them after they were rescued, he feels the most ashamed of what they all did and it makes sense that he would go off the grid and not want to be anywhere near the rest of them. but i think that now nat is dead he’s going to come back because we know he values her and trusts her and he’s going to need to see it for himself, to be there to know she’s gone. he’d at least go to the funeral if nothing else im certain of it.

anyways i love ben and this has been my ted talk

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the new way gay people sit down now.

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Amelia is going after Kai.

I couldn’t sleep

And

One stop on the Amelia Shepherd apology tour.

And

She apologized to Yashudo.

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There's only Kai left to apologise too.

Who agrees with me?

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If Mae and Sophie have formed the new "LGBT+ Competence" Catagory for Taskmaster Contestants, I would like to propose Kiell and Ardal form the Catagory "I thought you were playing a character in that sitcom but apparently that's just who you are in real life too".

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Every time I try googling Taskmaster I get all this stuff about some Marvel comic book antagonist that goes by the same name. News flash marvel there’s already a Taskmaster supervillain and it’s Greg.

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I think [Mae's] fast becoming an expert at these tasks. They beaver away, they create something!

TASKMASTER S15E02 'Trapped in a loveless marriage'

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fall out boy coming back with a guitar heavy album and brendon urie disbanding panic! at the disco a week later feels like karmic justice somehow

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Nominee for the 95th Academy Awards: Everything Everywhere All at Once (2022)

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normalize hand tattoos for people with boring, normal careers 2023