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Get To Know Your Mutuals

Tagged by @buddiekiss9x11

favorite color: Big blue fan ngl, like that warm kinda blue though that you associate with beaches.

currently reading: Depends on what you count as reading, either a Witcher book or a persona 5 fanfiction.

last song: Radio by Johnny Manchild and the Poor Bastards

most recent film: Hunger Games: Catching Fire cause my girlfriend is trying to catch me up on hunger games

most recent series: Castlevania (damn I wished I liked metroidvanias more)

sweet/salty/savory: Savory probably but also sweet goes hard

tea or coffee: I don't drink either because I am boring.

working on: Trying not to cry from University group assignments....

Get To Know Your Mutuals

Tagged by @buddieroommates

favorite color: Orange. like the rind of a ripe orange.

currently reading: The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes. I'm only a few pages in, but I'm liking it so far.

last song: Ambulance Blues by Neil Young. love this song.

most recent film: god I haven't watched a movie in ages. The adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. (you should watch it)

most recent series: The Pitt (you should watch this too)

sweet/salty/savory: Savory or things that are only slightly sweet.

tea or coffee: I genuinely think frequent tea consumption is critical for my mental wellbeing at this point. coffee and I have beef of the intolerance variety.

working on: nothing much. started putting together an 'eddie silent love for buck through the seasons' playlist for bshiftmixtapes.

tagging: @justcallme-e @you-little-arsonist @bucksdaylight @benw10 @tauranna @airyfebruary @pork-bun

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I GREW A BEARD, IT DOESNT COUNT ANYMORE

content warning: knox overstreet

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AI disturbance overlays for those who don't have Ibis paint premium. found them on tiktok

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How well do you see color?

I’m cry I scored 60, I feel blind

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Yes, this is real.

Context:

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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i stay up late to be happy for a few more hours

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Tieflings Family - bg3 comic Rolan, Cal, Lia

I hope you enjoyed!

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I DON'T KNOW???? WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME?

WHAT THE FUCK IS this storyline

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you look great in that frog costume

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Idk about IPhone, but if you go to settings, scroll down to "Content you see" there will be Filtered Tags. You can add tags to that and you won't see it anymore.

Can anyone explain to me how to block a tag on the app? (iPhone)

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tiktok took these down so i'm migrating here