bi-dude-alternate-account
bi-dude-alternate-account
Bubblegum Bitchboy
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25, bi aro vers switch. You want to psychoanalyze me so bad it makes you look stupid
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 4 days ago
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Saw your post about Adam page being tied up. Do you write fanfic?
Who's adam page? I sometimes do, though little organized. I'm also not using this blog anymore, switched to @grungler9000
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 20 days ago
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The writing has been on the wall for years, but now it’s in the boldest of fonts: if there is porn that you like, games with even remotely adult or queer content that you enjoy, queer art you appreciate that features nudity or discussions of bodies, works of fiction that you love that features controversial subjects or themes, or any queer historical records that you think should continue existing, now is the time to build an archive of them. If you are panicked by the growing libricide of LGBTQ and NSFW records from the internet, this is one very impactful thing that you can do right now to help.
Download the files, store them on an encrypted drive, upload them to a protected server, and communicate with other lovers of sexual art and queer records, so that you can help build a library of it that is accessible to us, and those that come after us in the future. If you have the capability, keep meticulous records of what you have collectedā€Šā€”ā€Šwhere you found it, who originally made it, what year it comes from, the spaces and communities it was associated with, the names of the people who brought it into existence.
As the burning of the Hirschfeld archives and the catastrophic losses of the AIDs crisis taught us, queer history evaporates quickly when there is no one around to keep circulating it. But you can be a part of what keeps our stories flowing, the blood moving through us that keeps us animated and alive. And you do not have to be a trained historian or especially skillful with technology, though now is also a wonderful time to learn how to be a better archivist. Just begin doing something. Save and document all that you canā€Šā€”ā€Šin a private space that you control, and that technology companies cannot purge.
It is also important at this time to understand how LGBTQ content bans happen on a tactical level, and resist in kind. Collective Shout pressures platforms into removing NSFW content by contacting payment processors, such as Visa and MasterCard, and convincing those companies to not process any transactions involving sexual works. Collective Shout claims that it only took about a thousand phone calls to get the companies to enforce a NSFW ban. We can also call them in large numbers, and demand that adult & queer content gets put back.
If a game that you paid good money for on Steam or Itch.io has been removed in the NSFW ban, you have grounds to demand a refund.Give your payment processor a call, make a complaint, and get them to issue you a charge back. This may help place pressure on both payment processing companies and game platforms to revise their policies.
It is also important during this time to study the recent history of LGBTQ & NSFW censorship on the internet, and learn from communities that have been able to resist it successfully. One of the very first groups to be targeted by efforts like these was actually the hypnosis kink community, back in the late ’90s and early 2000s. During that time, an avid porn site user reportedly disputed hundreds of dollars in charges, alleging that he had been hypnotized into giving his credit card information away against his will. To avoid future such cases, payment processors like Visa and Mastercard refused to honor any transactions for any content involving hypnosis or mind control, and this has remained their policy ever since.
In spite of harsh repression at the hands of credit card companies and digital platforms, the hypnokink community has continued to thrive, and even grown in popularity and public acceptance in recent years. As many of you know, I am a long-term member of this diverse & queer-affirming communityā€Šā€”ā€ŠI spent all of last weekend at an in-person erotic hypnosis convention, which I blogged all about on Instagramā€Šā€”ā€Šso I know a bit about how we have managed to cope with being attacked and have come out stronger and healthier than we were before.
I think that any of us who are concerned by the stripping of queer and sexual content from the internet can learn from how the hypnokink community has responded to similar censorship over the years, and adopt some of their strategies.
One of the first things that the hypno-kink community learned once it was under attack was not to self-snitch. When we got banned from mainstream porn sites, we found the seedy, poorly regulated platforms that were not as likely to enforce payment processors’ ban on hypnosis content. On sites like Pornhub and Patreon, we learned to use terms like mesmerized and other euphemisms instead of hypnosis or mind control, or to merely reference media properties where hypnosis is featured without saying it outright.
We became data hoarders, snapping up copies of every porn video, erotic audio file, animated gif, and illustration featuring hypnosis that we could find, and then sharing it on forums with our fellow fetishists. We learned to make and share our work in privateā€Šā€”ā€Šin chat rooms, on password-protected serversā€Šā€”ā€Šand began hosting hypnotic content on shared drives and websites we didn’t widely advertise.
Rather than allowing outside groups to censor us, we took community responsibility for maintaining standards of consent and safety, and gave no quarter to predators. At conventions, we require attendees to complete consent quizzes, and provided dungeons with consent monitors. We offer classes on consent, safety, and developing agency as a hypnotic subject. Many of our events ban the use of substances and require COVID vaccinations and KN95 masks in order to reduce risk. We continually debate how best to navigate riskier kink practices and negotiate encounters with one another.
We have continued gathering in person, and in small virtual conferences, because there are conversations about our shared passion that require an in-depth conversation among people who are at a higher level of understanding. We discuss more complex, nuanced topics in rooms where people are prepared to have them, and we understand that every rule has the power to cause exclusion and damageā€Šā€”ā€Šand appreciate that even the best guidelines need to be broken sometimes. (For example, plenty of people still benefit from using substances for their mental health, even at a ā€œsubstance-freeā€ con).
Because the kink we are playing with can be psychologically very risky, we emphasize the importance of being in community with one another and vetting play partners, and speak about our experiences so that we can better understand what we’re going through and what we need. We do what we can to unlearn our shame and stigma, and to bring our feelings and needs out into the openā€Šā€”ā€Šbut not in front of corporations and social media platforms that will only punish and censor us.
We come out to one another, and commune to build better art, more responsible and effective hypnotic files, to write hotter smut, to have better scenes, to be able to play at the edges of consent and consciousness with intention and responsibility. This does not erase all of the risk, but it allows us to be informed of it, and to accept what difficulties and costs we take on. Nearly everyone finishes a scene by asking who needs aftercare. We prepare for the emotional drops of having seen and experienced intense shitā€Šā€”ā€Šand for the most part, we are grateful that we get to dive with such strong parachutes.
It is this combination of privacy, technological shrewdness, dedicated archival and resource-building work, and loving community responsibility that has made us robust. Though so many outside forces have attempted to silence us and portray us as a group of perverted predators, we’ve continued spreading the truth about who we are and helping people who share our desires to find one another, and revel in our passions as safely as we can.
We have escaped the fear mongering and corporate pressure, and made something completely our own. All queer people and all makers of sexual or erotic art can do the same. We will get through this, but we will have to be more than just passive consumers of content.
We will have to become archivists, librarians, developers, community stewards, consent monitors, peer educators, advocates, organizers, and creators in our own right. And we can do it. Queer people have been producing creative work about our identities and inner erotic lives for as long as we have existed, and we have always been able to find one another in the back rooms of bars, in small bookstores in cities, in veiled language in personal ads, and everywhere else that we have tricked our enemies into not looking.
I wrote all about the suppression of queer & erotic art on the internet, and how the hypnosis kink community provides a case study in how to properly resist it. You can read the full piece for free on Substack.
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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sometimes I almost forget slut is a derogatory term. it's so friend shaped to me. I love when things are slutty. I love sluts and slutting it up. it's a cute word. make every day sluttier than your last. sluttttt
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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I recently learned that a friend of mine has aphantasia where they can't visualize mental imagery and that blew my mind because I can't imagine what that's like. But it got me thinking so QUESTION FOR THE MASSES:
I usually am imagining characters perform the scene or am imagining myself as an active participant (depending on the vibes). But when I imagine characters, they don't have faces lol or any other defining features if that makes sense. They just kinda... exist...
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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Missionary while I'm wearing your hoodie with it hiked up over my tits? 😽
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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we need more female rapist characters. there's so many male rapists in movies and books and TV shows, why don't women get to shine in this field? disgraceful
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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Don’t hit me up I will put you on a leash
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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"bred in captivity"? yeah i'm tryinggg
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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a dildo that whimpers and squirms and begs you to not stop (me)
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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showing the size difference in our hands by wrapping your hand around my cock and guiding it with my own hand to show you how i like it
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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Blond guys look best when they're submissive this is an objective truth of the universe. It's the only one yeah
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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Can we get high and fuck slow?
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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oh no, my vibe broke :( i’ll have to tie you up in a chair and make you my human dildo now.
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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It's only happened like 3 times but being a somno top rules. Waking up slowly, the only sensation you can register is how hard you are, you can vaguely hear sounds but your brain isn't online enough to make it register. Slowly realizing that something feels weird about your cock, trying to wake yourself up more as you recognize someone is on top of you. Needy bottom pinning your wrists down to take advantage of your vulnerable state, bouncing faster on your cock when they realize you're awake
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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i love being aromantic
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bi-dude-alternate-account Ā· 1 month ago
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I’m in the mood for someone to use my body to cum
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