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white people please just purchase native artwork and jewelry from native people i keep seeing idiot white people be like “waaah i wish i could support native creators but its cultural appropriation” girl why would beaders sell you their earrings then. just dont get a medicine wheel or a thunderbird then like damn it is that easy

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i was supposed to go to bed an hour ago dont tell my mom

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Behind the scenes of Godzilla (1998)

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This conversation is funnier hearing just one half of it.

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and i don’t even like staying up this late i just do it

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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It’s a cold and it’s a broken mamma mia

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Maybe this therapy shit is working

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im a kikimari truther . man i too would try to seduce the butch bodyguard my father hired are you kidding me . this is top tier pairing

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i like those low-effort valentine's day cards, so i decided to make some with my blorboes from dungeon meshi

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It’s 6 am. A year and two months after I wrote this post. We will be fine. More than fine! And more importantly mutually in love. It’ll be our one year anniversary next month. We wish to move in together after she graduates. The distance is hard but she’s close to my heart, as I am to her.

We are fine and thriving.

You’ve gotten me pacing around the living room like an idiot at 2AM. Not like it’s your fault. It’s not your fault at all.

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What is UP with feeling “not good enough” and “not worthy” as a Mormon teen girl?

Like they’d talk about how “With Jesus Christ you can be clean and pure” so like, as a girl who attended church every Sunday, took the sacrament, and dressing the part, why was I feeling so terrible?

I think with Mormon culture is that there are so many things asked of you to do that there is ALWAYS something you are missing to do. And that ultimately makes you feel shitty.

And because you’re missing the mark all the time, that means you are relying on Jesus (in actuality, you’re left dependent on the institution) constantly.

Growing up I’ve felt guilty for having hobbies that aren’t focusing on worshipping God.

I haven’t been active for about four months because I am just SO TIRED. I am GAY and BURNT OUT.

I got that dog in me, and that dog is inner religious turmoil.