bucketlistexperiment

[bucketlistexperiment]

Okay. So I added all the bucketlists to my profile. Here is how they appear on my Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble, in order of the pictures.

I decided to upload them today because I really wanted to get it going for June, but I will be busy tomorrow (all you can eat sushi for my friend's birthday I mean c'mon I won't be on iPhone for any of that) and just decided the earlier the better.

So far, returning back to dating apps has depressed me once again. I don't like small talk over the internet, which is part of the reason I'm even doing this. The theory is, each choice will give me an understanding of the person. Plus, dragging out the talking stage with no definite goal is truly the end of humanity so I'm doing my job to erradicate that.

I added the #bringbackhavingfuninthesummer hashtag because I wanted it to be a little more lighthearted than a demand. IDK. I almost did #makesummerfunagain but I didn't want to give one single person the wrong impression of me (and the impression would be that I'm a bigot).

I am a little nervous but I think it it will be okay. If it doesn't work out for me, I am working on my french. Peut-être I can move there. Au revoir!

[bucketlistexperiment]

The List Thus Far

I have been ruminating on this project, turning to my friends for fun and unique first date ideas, and now I have a quasi-acceptable list of things that I consider to be fun and light enough that they would be easy to do with someone I've never met before. The only one on this list I am uneasy about is museum, because I like to walk around and not speak until the very end and that doesn't seem condusive to the vibe of a date but. We'll see. I still think it's a good choice and maybe just this once I can approach the way I attack a museum differently. Growth mindset!

Anywho, the first draft is as follows:

house band show

drive in movie

pottery class

aquarium

arcade

museum

amusement park

attend an open house

paint and sip

dive bar

movie

antiquing

beach town day trip

My next thing to consider is how I will present this on the dating apps. I feel like posting a notes app screenshot is kind of trashy, and I think making any sort of graphic design or paper doodle is a bit try hard.

I'll figure it out. Maybe Google Docs. Georgia font.

Pce out for now

[bucketlistexperiment]

The Beginning

Hello everyone. It's me.

I'm starting this blog for me and perhaps some friends, but mainly I want to record this experience. I guess experiment isn't technically the correct word for whatever I'm doing, because I have no hypothesis for how it will end, and no real way to measure anything. Mostly, I am hopeful that if I have something external to focus on on a date, like this Bucketlist, and recording my findings, then I will be more relaxed.

I don't like casual dating at all. I think it's boring, and I spend the whole time thinking about myself. And them. But not in any good way. More so, how do we fit together as a narrative, and, is there even anything here? Or things like, would my favorite fictional couple ever meet on a dating app? And make sure you don't fart and don't eat weird and then feeling sad that I even feel these things because who cares? (Well obviously I do. If someone farted on a date with me I'd think its funny and also gross. And the eating weird thing is valid because yuck to mouth open chewing).

In an effort to alleviate this fear and cyclical thinking, I've decided to devise a bucket list of dates, put them on all my dating profiles (I've settled on Bumble, Hinge, and Tinder, the classics) and ask people to choose which date they'd like to participate in. I'm going to officially start this experiment in June, so as to make it a summer extravaganza.

I suppose that it'd be expected that what I want from this is to find love. Unfortunately, this is not true. What I want is to do something fun. Simple and plain. And hopefully, in doing something fun, I will spread the fun of it all with my dates.

Maybe I will think of more things to add to this experience later, but right now this is about the best I can do.

Thanks for sticking around for my brain dump. Hope I keep up with this whole thing. Now that'd be a good surprise.