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A soldier is in a hole and can’t get out. He begins to yells for help as loud as he can. An NCO comes by and says “suck it up kid, dig deep!”, and gives the soldier a shovel. The soldier does what he’s told, and digs that hole deeper.

Pretty soon an officer comes by, says “hell son, use the tools your NCO gave you!”, and throws him a bucket. So the soldier in the hole used the shovel to fill that bucket. And the hole is deeper still.

Next up a psychologist comes by and offers the soldier some drugs, tells him “this is gonna help you forget about that hole”. And they do. But then the pills run out.

Then a fellow soldier comes by, a guy just like him, covered in mud and dirt and he hears the soldier yelling for help. And believe it or not, that filthy soldier jumps down in the hole too. Soldier freaks out “what are you doing! Now we are both stuck in here, in this damn hole!” Then the filthy soldier just smiles, and says “calm down buddy, I’ve been here before. I know how to get out”

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Been quite a while since I posted. I have found myself again and I am starting on a new chapter of my life. After the recent ruling of the court on my divorce this is my take away.

My ex made sure their was no one left in my circle except my family to support me. She started the lies about me probably 1-2 years before discard. Im grateful for loosing most of those people that I thought were friends. They weren’t! I have learned what happened to me and how and pretty sure why.

Im stronger because of the whole experience. I am not angry , not bitter. Reflection has given me understanding.

I am at the end and most of my journey has been by myself, and thats ok. Most people really do not understand what my total loss is and people really dont want to know.

I was in an abusive relationship and for a man thats hard to say out loud much less to yourself. I didn’t have low self esteem, self worth,etc. In the end I walked away because I knew nothing would ever change in her, no accountability, lack of respect for me, and no reflection on her part. No empathy, and certainly not a life partner like she duped me into thinking the first few years. And she was a liar and a thief I found out.

Im grateful I figured her out and didn’t spend another second with her.

Not only will I rebuild, but I will be the best father I possibly can for my son.

I didn’t choose this version of “family.”

I didn’t plan for two homes, split holidays, or walking on eggshells around someone who rewrites reality to suit their story.

I didn’t sign up to raise a child alongside someone who plays the victim while I did the work.

But here I am—still standing.

I’ve learned to document everything. To respond instead of react. To stay calm while she provokes. To protect my son from the emotional confusion of manipulation wrapped in fake affection.

I’ve had to teach my son to trust my consistency, while she chips away at my name.

I’ve had to explain emotional safety in age-appropriate ways. I’ve had to fight the guilt of not being able to give him peace in both homes.

And let’s be honest… it’s exhausting.

I am the safe parent. I am the truth-teller, the cycle breaker, the one who is quietly teaching my son what love actually looks like.

It doesn’t always feel fair. It doesn’t always feel like I’m winning. But I am showing my son that even in the face of chaos, someone still shows up for them with calm, clarity, and love.

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A father’s love is known when you become a father.

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The calm before the storm.

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Listening to my new tape deck (at Houston, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIcZZJNBBkR/?igshid=1kmg7ul5fe4uz

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Sobrinas (at Houston, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIFKbOvB4bS/?igshid=mww1by4y88ot

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Long day calls for a good gin (at Meadow Creek Village, Houston)
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Breakfast of champions (at Houston, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4P5lewh71c/?igshid=1jl7ngfa0zvmy

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at Forbidden City https://www.instagram.com/p/B3pKnOGhmWV/?igshid=1oidxobw5g83v

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at Tianmen Mountain https://www.instagram.com/p/B3pKbyjBrkP/?igshid=1dckvpzjkl2u3

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at 798 Art Zone https://www.instagram.com/p/B3pKDuFB1QQ/?igshid=5nsmial5w64u

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at 天子山 Tianzi Mountain https://www.instagram.com/p/B3XMZCRh5xm/?igshid=5ucophcozxgr

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at Zhangjiajie National Forest Park https://www.instagram.com/p/B3XHKgkhi9c/?igshid=1trlbchn6nrbr

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at Forbidden City https://www.instagram.com/p/B3XG9moBNZH/?igshid=14ynv7nbz0hhk

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at Zhangjiajie https://www.instagram.com/p/B3XEUatBDQi/?igshid=12ukyb82184cu