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so Bobby has a shirt of the girls but consider the girls having a Bobby shirt ✨

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- Billy Hargrove will forever be ICONIC -

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oh no i have to do [extremely stressful thing] today i hope i dont split

the 5000 new alters who split from just thinking about doing said stressful thing (exaggerated):

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would you?

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need this man

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lowkey need a fic where reader has a hickey not knowing that it just barely shows under their scrubs and robby or langdon see notice it and confronts them and finds out it’s from whitaker

pretty please 🥺

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[TEXT ID: this system splits a lot due to numerous factors, please do not comment on their alter count]

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this speaking as a cis person. Nothing brings me more joy seeing people find gender euphoria in becoming a mediocre representation of humanity. And I mean that so genuinely. Local boy finds joy and fulfillment wearing a cargo shorts and t-shirt combo. Local girl has transitioned to look like someone's disheveled aunt, has never been happier. Local person experiences gender euphoria rocking the world's worst bowl-cut. Without a scap of irony, this shit makes me see the wonder and whimsy in just, being a human. An average, person going through their day-to-day, is a wondrous thing? That's amazing. And heteronormativity has stripped these experiences of their joy. Like you're right, wearing a basic girlypop skirt should make my heart sing. Why not? Why are these expressions lesser because they're normal? All this to say. Shoutout to all the basic bitches out there. Yes that polo shirt does make you look like a divorced golfer dad. Yes, that too is kind of a slay, now that I think of it.

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Check your boundaries.

Check your boundaries with others.

"No" is a complete sentence.

You don't have to say "yes" just because you fear confrontation.

You may assert your needs and wants, even (especially!) when they conflict with someone else's plans.

You may choose how much of your inner life to share with each of your friends.

You may choose to be more open with persons who demonstrate their respect for you.

You may choose to be less open with persons who take advantage of you.

You don't have to please others.

Past trauma does not justify present abuse.

You may choose your values.

You may choose how to live out your values.

Check your internal boundaries.

You can't regulate another person's feelings.

You don't have to regulate another person's feelings.

No one may impose their thoughts, feelings, or beliefs on you.

You may not always choose your own feelings. Your response to a new or uncomfortable situation may surprise you. That's okay.

You may always choose what you do with your feelings.

You deserve to express your feelings in healthy ways.

Your feelings are real.

Your feelings are valid.

Your feelings do not define you.

Your past actions do not define you.

Your trauma does not define you.

You may let go of old beliefs that no longer serve you or no longer align with your values.

You deserve a life that affirms your values and your identity.

You deserve relationships that affirm your values and identity.

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“I’ll get better” - Gerard Way

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Amnesia in DID/OSDD can be:

Missing chunks of your childhood memories

Suddenly finding yourself in a place you don't remember going

Blinking, and suddenly, hours/days/weeks+ have passed

But it can also be:

Skipping or doubling medications because you don't know if they've been taken already

Retelling the same story to someone sometimes only minutes or hours apart

Being called a liar because you don't remember something you did/said

Your credit card declining because you don't remember spending money

Panicking when you realize you forgot a conversation and what if you said things you shouldn't have

Missing appointments or showing up on the wrong day

Finding things in the trash that you tried to hide from yourself

Obsessively checking the clock and calendar to remember what time/day it is

Yes, many of these are things most people experience. Forgetfulness is not anything abnormal. The thing to differentiate is the distress it causes along with the "not-me" sense that comes with these DDs, the feeling of passive influence or vaguely shared internal memories or mentally staring into a void searching for a crumb of memory and finding nothing but void.

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Mom said it's my turn on the body

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"I'm okay with you having DID, I just don't want to talk to or meet any of your alters."

I'm an alter too, you know. Every single time you've interacted with me, I'm an alter. Even before you knew I had DID, even before I knew I had DID, we've been speaking to each other as various different alters. To ask to only interface with one singular version of me because you find the other versions of me uncomfortable to be around is hurtful.

We have little to no control over who's fronting at any particular time. We switch a lot, that's the nature of my system. Even we don't know who's fronting all the time, not least because we're discovering new parts still all these years later.

And, ultimately, they're all me. If you've only met one version of me and like that one version of me, do you truly like me? If you've only ever gotten to know me in that particular mode, how well do you actually know me? How can you say you love me when there's all these other me's that you cast aside and ignore?

You can't say you're okay with my DID but then ask to never get to know my alters. Because, ultimately, that means you never get to know me. And that means you're not okay with my DID- or with me.

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(You’ve chosen to not remember this part.)

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happy hugh dancy pumpkin season <3

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Honestly system accountability is so important but can we god damn admit that it's hard? Trying to fix something you don't remember doing, something "you" did that goes against your values, and yet clearly you did that. Not even having an explanation because you don't remember, only having guesses about what motivated your actions. Wild, heartbreaking, devastating and exhausting.

it's still important, don't comment about that, I know it is. That's not the point, read the post again.