curingourhearts

[curingourhearts]

I'll always still choose loving regardless of how terrible the heartbreak was or will be. Pain is something you can get over but not getting to experience love is not something you just easily get back. You're not nearly as weak as you think you are, there is nobody that can bring you down. Trust yourself

[curingourhearts]

Sometimes 'situationships' can leave a deeper scar than a 'real' relationship because unlike those, you confirm what you had. Most of the times with situationships things are unconfirmed. You're doubting yourself, the genuinity of your connection, everything. It's so easy to fall prey for these situations. I think it's also always easy to say that the other did not care. They do care, otherwise they wouldn't invest any time whatsoever. And if they truly did not like you whatsoever and just.. wasted time. Then that is always going to be on them. It's not on you that you trusted someone to mean what they say. Stop blaming yourself for these things, and don't let others blame you.

[curingourhearts]

Enrich yourself with art that stimulates you and your mind. I love media that makes me feel something, even if it's just a laugh. I used to always watch things or do things that didn't add anything to my feelings, just to watch something and to then feel like I wasted my time. Media is not a waste of time unless it doesn't add something to you or your life. Listening to music makes me able to place my feelings easier, watching shows gives me perspective on things I have never considered before, it can also be great conversation starters! My point is, if it adds to your life, or if it helps you relax, it's not a waste of time.

[curingourhearts]

I have not regretted going through a single thing in my life. It just proved to me that I truly am stronger than anything the world can throw at me. The only thing that can hold you back is fear of something that hasn't happened, so if it has happened. What else can hold you back anymore?

[curingourhearts]

Never let others push you past a point you are ready for. You are the one who should decide to push further, not others. You decide your next step, you decide when enough time has passed, nobody else.

[curingourhearts]

If you also struggle with self-worth or the feeling of not being enough try diving deep into yourself and ask why you are holding yourself to this standard of having to be enough. Is this something you are also doing to others? What does being enough mean for you? What is the thing you've lacked in your life that makes you chase this need?

[curingourhearts]

There will be countless setbacks, countless moments where you believe you can't do it anymore yet you are still here. Trying, wanting. That counts for something, even if it doesn't feel like it. Every step forward is one

[curingourhearts]

Maybe you don't need a relationship and that is fine too. I'm sure there are many people who will encourage you to go out dating or to go find someone, and perhaps you'll feel that pressure when someone asks you out but you *kinda* don't really want to but say yes anyways because, well, who knows maybe it could be the one? And that just repeats because.. I mean we can't just call it off after one date, one date is awkward? And the second one because you know it's just the second date. Stop ignoring your gut feeling and doing more than you want to do because you feel like you have to try it. I'm sure countless people will tell you that they found their partner this way but not everyone did. Don't force yourself because if they are the one for you, you'll meet them however you're supposed to. You won't mess up, trust me.

[curingourhearts]

Life is so beautiful and it's such a blessing to be able to see that. I pray everyone sees the things I see, feels the things I feel as ugly and beautiful as they are. I pray for everyone to feel, to feel alive, to feel and experience life. It will happen for you one day too. Life will feel like being alive someday

[curingourhearts]

Today's my birthday so I just wanted to say that I'm grateful for everyone whose decided to come here. I hope we can make something great ❤️🫰

[curingourhearts]

During recovery your depression can defnitely get a lot worse again, multiple times even. It has for me at least, now is one of such a case. Unstable moods are also part of, even weeks or months of just unexplainable and insane setbacks are part of recovery because frankly recovery doesn't feel great most of the time. You have to constantly push your mind to see the things better. You need to learn to be positive when your mind is trying to tell you that everything sucks, that you suck and that you are failing. But none of this is failing, being able to fail and still getting up, especially now? That takes talent.

[curingourhearts]

Keep in mind that and this is more specifically for the girls but that you do indeed need to have high standards but don't let your high standards stand in the way of realizing that you can't find someone that treats you like you want without giving them a chance to understand that. You need to have respect for yourself, to honor your boundaries but you don't need to shoo away everyone because you can be pleasantly surprised by how people turn out to be if you give them a chance to understand why you demand what you demand.

[curingourhearts]

If someone is putting pressure on you try to see why they are. What is driving them to set this pressure? If you feel yourself subcoming to this pressure try to shift the point of focus and try to see that they are also surpressing themselves. Perhaps it'll help you feel less hopeless and more in control of who you let control your narrative.

They hate it when u dont abide by the same imaginary rules that they force themselves to live under

[curingourhearts]

Being happy doesn't require being naive, faking emotions and everything else people love to tell you. Being happy is something you get better at over time, it's something that takes practice, some trying out and mainly some different perspective. It's not easy to be a happy person because sometimes things are just so soul-crushingly negative. Yet if you choose to choose to try to be happy, even with that? I command everyone who does. You have my greatest respect.

[curingourhearts]

Find out what you exactly want from a relationship. If you crave one so much, what are you looking for it to fill? I understand if it has something to do with insecurity, not wanting to end up alone or whatever your personal reason may be but a relationship is never going to fix you. Maybe for a little it will but if you never do anything about that insecurity, it will eventually just ruin it and continue the cycle.

[curingourhearts]

I've suffered a lot with my own mind my entire life. I've had such bad anxiety to the point I couldn't even talk to my own parents without almost coming to tears. I've struggled with depression and really bad self-thoughts. I didn't grow up normally whatsoever, I isolated myself to the point I didn't even know how to hold a conversation with anyone, how to act, etc. Catching up to all the things you didn't learn in your childhood can be so humilating, I was so embarassed because I should know all of this, I should be able to do all of this, etc. You simply just can't expect yourself to catch up on years of development in a short period of time. I've been going through this for a year and I am still not the most normal teenager but I am getting there, I've learned so incredibly much and it took so much heartache aswell but that's okay. It's okay to make mistakes, it's how you can learn how to not do it the next time. Just be patient with yourself because you will get there in time.

[curingourhearts]

There is no shame in admitting you loved someone who didn't love you, it can feel silly but instead of letting this be a moment of failure, I'm going to allow this to be a moment of love. Someone may not appreciate the love you have for them but at least they know. I'll just never pretend I hated someone to save face when I didn't.