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i was ready to be a 365 party girl today but then i got sleepy ...

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is this a safe space to say that hello kitty and everything hello kitty adjacent feels really soulless to me

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i am so serious when i say dark and quiet are both human rights.

i don't mean like absolute silence. obviously in an ideal community, there would still be sound and noise from people and music and work etc. but it haunts me that when i camp in the forest i can hear the howl of semi trucks on the interstate miles away. and the people who live beside it never know quiet. it haunts me that many people will live their whole lives never seeing the stars in the sky that were fully visible with NO electric light pollution as recently as my great-grandparents' childhoods.

so much of our lives is bright bright unnecessary noise. neon mcdonalds signs 200 feet in the air so we can see it from the road. led lights over billboards. parking lots lit up like sports stadiums at closed office buildings. advertisements playing at gasoline pumps. streets lined with led porch lights and decorative garden lights that genuinely threaten entire species of wildlife. music blaring outside pharmacies to deter homeless people. everything always shining and wailing for no purpose but profit and cruelty.

obviously not everything can be turned off or made quiet and i wouldn't want it to be anyway and there is a lot of nuance and room for "but what about" here, but MANY things HAVE to change because none of us are supposed to live like this and we shouldn't have to!!!

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it kind of feels like magic when you've been in your head all day, stressed out without noticing it and BOOM suddenly you're in your room with the lights turned off, moonlight is shining on your bed and you feel present in your body for the first time in a long time

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it really is a struggle when you finally got an appointment to diagnose your migraine and they give you a three month diary to track it to diagnose it and of course i've been migraine-free for the past three weeks

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it's so odd to me that parents come to their eldest children asking them to do things for the younger siblings that are not things the eldest sibling should be responsible for, like your kids are not my responsibility wth

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sometimes i genuinely forget how much i enjoy studying, learning and reading about topics that interest me. like yes!!! i can feel myself getting smarter!!!!

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having poor circulation is great because people will touch your hand and go 'oh! you're so cold!' and for a moment you get to experience what it's like to be a vampire in a romance novel

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If I had a nickel every time a traumatized british sapphic lady did questionable things which resulted in her masc girlfriend being driven away I'd have two nickels, which isn't a lot but it's weird it happened twice

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hey ladies …. what r you doing over there..

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Made an arcane fan animation hehe

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12 ADHD hacks that are actually helpful

Record EVERYTHING in your phone's calendar app the moment you find out about it. Mine gives me an alarm automatically before the calendar time - has saved my ass many times.

Get a little bowl or equivalent for objects like keys. That's now your key bowl. You will not lose them ever again.

Write down deadlines as early before they're actually due as you can justify. My ADHD ass never remembers the actual due date. I get all of the stress fuelled productivity with none of the actual danger.

Handwrite notes. I have no idea why, but the process of pen and paper makes me remember things much better.

If you have to be somewhere like class or work, set aside time to go for a walk first. Honestly would be great all days, but I can't even make myself do this, so it's good if you have to be out anyway (and maybe would have been in waiting mode). Burning off energy helps my brain.

When retrieving laundry (ie its dry and you have to fold it), dump it all out in the most inconvenient place possible. I like the bed. It forces me to deal with it, rather than letting it sit there.

Turn on subtitles when you watch anything - even YouTube and live TV. I didn't realise how lifechanging this was until last year.

The Breath of the Wild soundtrack is weirdly the best background music ever. It's the perfect level of stimulating without distracting

Use text to speech for long walls of text. It's great.

Did I mention phone alarms? I use it for everything - ie when I know I might hyperfocus on something for too long.

There's literally no obligation to eat 3 meals at set times. If eating snacks throughout the day works better for you, then do that. There's also no shame in things like pre chopped fruit/veggies.

I struggle with transitions sometimes. A way around this is keeping a ton of water next to me. When I get frustrated about being stuck, I just drink as much water as I can. Eventually, this means I have to pee, and physically cannot ignore it. The act of going to the bathroom is sometimes enough to change activity.

Disclaimer that this is my own experience with ADHD, which may be totally different to someone else's. But hey, these are some things I've always found useful.

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not to sound like your dad but if your not having a great time rn you might legitimately be playing too many video games or being on that damn phone too often, or at least without any necessary activity buffers

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at times you'll find that things being hard is just things being hard and not you are incompetent, in the same way days are bleak will be days are bleak and not there's something wrong with you, and everyone's asking a lot of you will be everyone's asking a lot of you instead of you're being selfish. sometimes, to put things into perspective, you have to pull away of everything to see the bigger picture and realize that the world you live in affects you, and it's completely okay to feel it without blaming yourself for it.