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Important words of wisdom, by Shel Silverstein. 

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Found on Pinterest. Always good to have lots of resources.

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gay: i like pancakes with chocolate sauce

lesbian: i like pancakes with caramel sauce

bisexual: i like pancakes with chocolate and caramel sauce

pansexual: i like pancakes with all sauces

polyamory: i like to have more than one pancake at a time

asexual: i don't like sauce

aromantic: i don't like pancakes

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Some of the Things I’ve Learned From My Last Monogamous Relationship:

So there are some things that I learned after my last monogamous relationship...

I was once told in High School by one of the school counselors that you can’t make people want to grow or want to stop growing. People in time will grow or will stop wanting to grow when - and this is important - they want to do either. It’s a lesson that I really came to understand when I reflected on my most recent relationship which ended not too long ago. I wanted to show him everything the world had to offer and make him see what I saw. I made the mistake of thinking maybe in time he would open his eyes to see what I wanted to show him. The only problem was he didn’t want to take the time to see everything through my ever growing perspective and I didn’t slow down to view it through his stationary point of view. We were in two very different stages of our lives, even though, we were around the same age. It was from that point on that I knew that I had to find people that managed to match me whether I wanted to grow or I wanted to stay the same. 

After that relationship was over, I also realized that I should learn to compromise and not fully sacrifice to get what I wanted out of that relationship. I promised myself if that relationship came to an end - which it inevitably did - I would never subject myself to another monogamous relationship again. I know that sometimes it can be difficult (especially when you see yourself outside the societal norms) to walk and talk the life that is right for you. Mostly, I’ve felt the need to conform to the social norm in a relationship because somehow the way a partner gets what he/ she wants and needs from a singular relationship is more normal than the what I want and need out of multiple relationships. This is simply not true. The two styles of relationships are different, not to be confused with better than the other. Some people are just monogamous and others aren’t that’s just the way it is. Just like I can’t force someone to be polyamorous or to be in a polyamorous relationship, I should not be forced to pretend I’m monogamous or be forced to be in a monogamous relationship because a partner sees my way of viewing relationships as the wrong way.

Relating back to the idea that one should not just sacrifice their ideology just to get what you want out of the relationship you have: if someone cannot bring themselves to love you for who you are, you should not waste your time on that person. Everyone changes with time but if you are forcing yourself to change just to make the other person happy, it’s just going to lead to misery. When I decided to try and go monogamous for my old flame, I ended up in a never ending torment. No matter what I did, it didn’t seem to be enough for him. And the amount of oppression I had to put my mind through, made me really start analyzing the situation I put myself in. The more I reflected on it the more and more I became repulsed by the thought of staying. He finally decided that he couldn’t be in a relationship with me anymore because of “distance”. A decision that he later regretted but it was too late. He had given me an out and I wasn’t going back.

Although from time to time I look back on the memories I made with my ex-lover I also know it’s better I no longer am a part of the relationship I had with him. Mostly because we just weren’t good for each other. 

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This is absolutely beautiful. I love this image so much <3

This week’s pride dragon is for polyamory pride!

The finished pieces of this series-in-progress can be found here, and the to-do list is here.

This design is also available on TeePublic and Redbubble.

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Introduction To Me and My Blog

Greetings Living Beings,

My name is Aldira Martinez. I am a female Centennial born during the border year of the Gen Z (Centennial) and the Millenial generation. Although I am considered young, I would like to welcome you to my opinion Tumblr: A Poly Girl’s WorldView. 

When I was younger, I created a different Blog Tumblr  ...  However, a lot has changed since then. The following are the reasons for my restart.

1. I am no longer a naive 14-year-old. What a surprise, right? Actually not really, but the point is that over the last 6 years I have grown a lot mentally. So I felt like writing in the same place as 14-year-old me wouldn’t make much sense.

2. I went from being monogamous to finding out I was 

3. The way I saw the world then is not at all the way that I see it now. 

4. I really wanted a clean slate instead of writing over my old posts.

I am going to start by trying to write a post or have some original content at least once a week.