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Present yourself how you wanna be treated.

You set the tone.

You set the vibe.

You make the rules.

You teach people how to treat you.

Save the “casual-ness” for those worthy of it.

Don’t just “let things slide” because you’re “doing someone a favor”

No. There are NO FAVORS when it comes to your worth.

If they’re late- they don’t get another chance unless they make it up.

If they’re making excuses- excuse yourself out of the equation.

If you have a certain love language that they are not willing to love you in - why compromise?

If you are being “bread crumbed” follow that trail back HOME.

You literally hold your standard in your hands.

Do not allow or let someone change or shift what you already know to be TRUE, PRESENT and VALUABLE in your life.

Even the small things. The little things.

You deserve all of that and you need to make sure that someone who is pursuing you understands that boundaries and standards are not just ways to protect yourself but a FINE LINE and the ONLY way to your heart, your space, your mind, your time and your life.

Stop settling for mediocre. Stop giving away free passes. Stop allowing yourself to be taken for granted.

People know exactly how to treat you bc YOU TEACH THEM.

How?

BY LOVING YOURSELF FIRST and allowing someone to see how you do and then proceed to follow.

So love yourself OUT LOUD, how you want to be loved and then love others the same way.

Don’t let some manipulative or narcissistic person come into your life changing things around.

This is YOUR LIFE. You hold the standards. You are the prize.

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A self love night time routine 🌙🧸🪞🤍✨

Your night time routine is all about dedicating time to yourself. Your routine should be tailored to what makes YOU feel relaxed, loved, and cared for. You can add or modify any of these steps to make it perfect for you.

Cleanse & skin care routine. This isn’t just about hygiene. Cleansing your skin can also cleanse the day's stresses away. Remove makeup (if you wear it). Use a gentle cleanser. Apply toner, serums, or treatments if you use them. Moisturize to keep your skin hydrated.

Spend a few minutes decluttering and organizing so you can go to sleep with a clear mind.

Prepare for tomorrow. Pick out your clothes, prepare your lunch and create your to do list so you wake up with a plan of action.

Set aside electronics, especially those that might interrupt your relaxation (phones, laptops). Put them on the other side of the room, or another room to avoid distractions.

Spend a few minutes journaling or meditating on your day. Write down three things you're grateful for as well as your achievements or progress.

Make a herbal tea or warm milk. Stay away from caffeine, they will interfere with your sleep.

If you enjoy baths, now might be the time to have one with calming salts or essential oils. If you prefer showers, use this time to enjoy the sensation of the water, rather than rushing through it.

Spend a few minutes practicing deep breathing, grounding exercises, or meditation to calm your mind.

Choose a book, avoid anything too stimulating or stress inducing.

Stand in front of a mirror and speak kind words to yourself. Use positive affirmations that resonate with you, like “I am worthy of love and happiness” or “I did my best today, and that's enough.”

Dress in comfortable nightwear, ensuring your sleeping environment is cozy. This could be clean sheets and a comfortable pillow.

Dim the lights, play calming music or nature sounds, or use an essential oil diffuser with lavender or chamomile.

Before closing your eyes to sleep, visualize a peaceful scene or a memory that makes you happy.

As you lie in bed, silently express gratitude for the day. Set a positive intention for the next day.

Get full night's sleep. Make sure you’re getting 7-9 hours depending on your personal needs.

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💕 There are men who enjoy investing in you.

💕 There are men who enjoy providing for you.

💕 There are men who enjoy maintaining you.

Don't listen to the ones who can't or won't treat you the way you want to be treated.

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How to Stop Procrastinating by Managing Your Emotions

Procrastination happens when we delay doing things, and it's often connected to our emotions. Feelings like being afraid to fail, feeling worried or stressed, getting bored, or lacking motivation can all contribute to procrastination. To stop procrastinating and get more things done, it's important to learn how to handle our emotions better.

Boredom:

Break the task into smaller, more engaging sub-tasks.

Find ways to make the task more interesting or challenging.

Set a timer and work on the task for a specific amount of time, followed by a short break doing something enjoyable.

Feeling Overwhelmed:

Prioritize tasks and focus on one thing at a time.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable steps.

Delegate some parts of the task if possible or seek help from others.

Use tools like to-do lists or task management apps to stay organized.

Anxiety:

Practice deep breathing or mindfulness techniques to calm yourself.

Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with more positive and realistic ones.

Start with the easier or less intimidating aspects of the task to build momentum.

Set realistic expectations and remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.

Self-Doubt:

Focus on past accomplishments and successes to boost your confidence.

Seek support or feedback from others to gain reassurance.

Remind yourself of your skills and capabilities to tackle the task.

Use positive affirmations to counteract negative self-talk.

Perfectionism:

Embrace the concept of "good enough" rather than seeking perfection.

Set realistic and achievable goals for each task.

Recognize that mistakes and imperfections are part of the learning process and growth.

Indecisiveness:

Break decisions into smaller steps and make one small decision at a time.

Set a time limit for making decisions to avoid overthinking.

Trust your instincts and make the best decision you can with the information available.

Apathy or Lack of Interest:

Find aspects of the task that align with your values or long-term goals.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable parts and focus on completing one at a time.

Reward yourself for completing the task to make it more appealing.

Stress or Burnout:

Practice stress-reduction techniques such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.

Break tasks into smaller steps to reduce the feeling of overwhelm.

Prioritize self-care and take breaks to avoid burnout.

Feeling Uninspired or Creatively Blocked:

Engage in activities that stimulate creativity, such as brainstorming, mind mapping, or seeking inspiration from others' work.

Start with a simple and basic version of the task to get the creative juices flowing.

Collaborate with others or seek feedback to gain new perspectives.

Fear of Success:

Identify and challenge the negative beliefs or fears that may be holding you back.

Visualize the positive outcomes of completing the task successfully.

Focus on the benefits and personal growth that come with success.

Impatience:

Break long-term goals into smaller milestones to track progress.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and patient throughout the process.

Remind yourself that progress takes time and effort.

Lack of Confidence:

Celebrate your past accomplishments to boost your confidence.

Seek support and encouragement from friends, family, or mentors.

Focus on building specific skills related to the task to increase confidence.

Avoiding Discomfort:

Acknowledge that discomfort is a natural part of growth and improvement.

Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle the more challenging aspects gradually.

Remind yourself of the long-term benefits of facing discomfort.

Overestimating Future Motivation:

Practice discipline and commit to starting tasks even when motivation is low.

Set specific deadlines for tasks to create a sense of urgency.

Establish a routine that includes regular work on the task to build consistency.

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When a woman is consistently spoken to softly & treated gently, she becomes a new woman. You're helping her heal her nervous system, you're helping her heal generational trauma, you're allowing her feminine energy to flourish, you're helping her to remember who she is.

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I want black women to know we’re all deserving of love, peace, opportunity, stability, respect, joy and abundance. I want us to know that there’s always enough. I want more black women to have an abundance mindset. A growth mindset. A wealth mindset. I want us to be on a path of continuous self-improvement— always getting better. I want us to continue loving and supporting each other. I want us to focus on creating better for ourselves and those around us. I want us to think higher and bigger.

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How you treat yourself is how you teach other to treat you.

Do you set boundaries with yourself?

Are you honest with yourself about how things make you feel?

Do you stand up for yourself?

Do you love your body?

Do you love your style?

Do you take care of your health?

Do you care about your appearance?

Do you think you are magical?

Do you treat yourself because you know you deserve it?

Do you go after the things you want?

Do you respect yourself?

Do you give up easily?

Do you look for others for fulfillment?

Do you work for the things you want?

Do you blame others and not take responsibility?

Do you dedicate your time to growing?

Do you establish healthy goals and habits?

Do you let people take advantage of you?

Do you make excuses?

Do you work on becoming a better person?

Do you truly commit?

Do you compliment yourself?

How do you handle your emotions?

Are you proud of yourself?

Do you keep commitments to yourself and others?

How do you handle disagreements?

Are you consistent?

What do you think you deserve?

Can you give the same things you ask for?

Do you have values you live according to?

Do you feel confident?

Do you put yourself first?

Do you love yourself?

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“Begin to identify with love on deeper and deeper levels. Pause. Feel like love. Pause. Walk like love. Pause. Bathe like love. Pause. Speak like love. Pause. Smell like love. Pause. Taste like love. Pause. Study love. Pause. Live and breathe love. Pause. Passionately take care of your health and allow your cells, tissues, and fluids to embody love. Pause. Let your commitment and devotion to love be a real felt experience and not a performance thereof. Pause.”

— — India Ame’ye, Author, The Audacity and Presence of the Slow Living Pause

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How you treat yourself is how you teach other to treat you.

Do you set boundaries with yourself?

Are you honest with yourself about how things make you feel?

Do you stand up for yourself?

Do you love your body?

Do you love your style?

Do you take care of your health?

Do you care about your appearance?

Do you think you are magical?

Do you treat yourself because you know you deserve it?

Do you go after the things you want?

Do you respect yourself?

Do you give up easily?

Do you look for others for fulfillment?

Do you work for the things you want?

Do you blame others and not take responsibility?

Do you dedicate your time to growing?

Do you establish healthy goals and habits?

Do you let people take advantage of you?

Do you make excuses?

Do you work on becoming a better person?

Do you truly commit?

Do you compliment yourself?

How do you handle your emotions?

Are you proud of yourself?

Do you keep commitments to yourself and others?

How do you handle disagreements?

Are you consistent?

What do you think you deserve?

Can you give the same things you ask for?

Do you have values you live according to?

Do you feel confident?

Do you put yourself first?

Do you love yourself?

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Private until it’s permanent.

Love. Career. Finances. All.

Private until it’s permanent.

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I don't know who needs to hear this but stop procrastinating.

Time to go create your weekly schedule.

Go plan, create and schedule your content.

If you have an assistant delegate. If not it's time to sit down, look over your budget and hire one.

Get off of Netflix, stay off of social media until it is done.

If you are a content creator go batch create your contact and create your posting schedule.

If you want 2022 to be a life-changing year you gotta break those old habits.

GET IT DONE

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The secret to create healthy habits.

Motivation > discipline > consistency > habits. That's the process from start to finish, for changing your life around with healthy choices.

Motivation is only the launchpad to start with, after that you can't rely on it because it comes and goes on a whim! A lot of people make the mistake on relying on it all throughout, and then wonder why they can't stay on track while other people do.

What you need next is discipline: when you commit to something and stick to it even when it's hard, even when you don't feel like it, because that's how you fill the gaps inbetween to create a routine.

And you create a routine by staying consistent. Today, tomorrow, again and again.

When you stay consistent over months, over half a year, it becomes a habit, and when something becomes a habit, it's effortless to keep going because that is now your default setting. It becomes your new normal, the choice that comes easiest to make because you don't even have to make it or think it; you just lean back into it.

Going to the gym regularly becomes like having a meal; if you don't do it, you'll feel restless and off, genuinely craving the movement and the boost of endorphins. When you eat healthy regularly, you feel it right away if you get off track and indulge in too many treats: you'll feel it in your body, in your mental clarity, in your emotional wellbeing and it's so much easier getting back on track because healthy is your new default.

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Shifting your story exercise

Your story is what you believe to be true about yourself and life. It's what you tell yourself over and over again. The story you believe creates your reality. Therefore, shifting your story also shifts your reality. This is an exercise to become aware of your current story and any limiting beliefs in order to shift them into one that aligns with your desired reality.

Take out a notebook and write all areas of your life

what are your beliefs about relationships, love, your body, money, success?

Body

What do you believe your body should look like?

What do you believe is stopping you from getting that desired body?

What do you think is healthy and not healthy for your body?

Career

what are your beliefs about money?

Do you believe it is fair and just for you to have more of an income?

Do you believe you deserve abundance and success?

Relationships/love

what does a normal/healthy relationship look like to you?

Home

what do believe a home environment to be like

what do you want your future home environment to look like

Emotional state

what is my natural emotional state?

Why is my emotional state like this?

Now, rewire any limiting beliefs with these five steps.

Notice the limiting belief: Spot limiting beliefs with self-awareness. If you have that annoying little voice inside your head telling you that you’re unworthy or unable to do something your rational brain knows you’re capable of, this is probably a limiting belief. (Meditation is great for getting in tune with your thoughts, self-awareness, and spotting limiting beliefs.)

Acknowledge: Acknowledge the limiting belief for what it is.

Question your limiting belief: Once you’ve spotted a limiting belief, isolate it. Write it down. Now we can question it.

Let go of the limiting belief: Forgive yourself for holding this belief, take a deep breath, and let it go. You simply don’t need it anymore.

Replace the self-doubt:  Replace this old belief with a new one. Using positive affirmations can be really good for this exercise. It doesn’t have to be outlandish or unrealistic – accept yourself for who you really are. Realize that you’re okay with your abilities and that nothing can hold you back.

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Negative energy cannot touch me. I am protected always from the jealousy and hatred of others. I am the only one whose thoughts and energy can impact my life.

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I will always prioritize my safety and self preservation over the feelings of men and people I don't trust.