dirtyalpha-rat

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Finding the little things that turn someone on is so much fun, exploring around just a little, playfully until they let out a moan. "Oh you really like that don't you" the breathy moaning yes, doing it again to hear them moan again.

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you’re in his dms? okay, well, im on top of him. we’re not fucking he just likes the pressure

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Photography by @nonalimmen

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thinking about wearing my lover's clothes in their absence, cuddling to sleep with a plushie gifted in their name that reminds me of them. receiving messages that are soft spoken as soft is their voice during calls before bed, to be eased into sleeping when we are not together. jumping up on them the moment we come back to each other, whining their name or their title while their fingers wrap under my knees or my back. being invited to sit on their lap while listening about their day, being slowly pet on my head as i'm speaking about what i did. cuddling on their chest relaxed like a rag doll, kept awake only by their fingers caressing my inner thighs. missing them all day long so much that i whimper every second their body detaches from mine <3

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it's so tragic when one specific person activates the pervert thoughts in your brain so severely bc i can't just be like Hiiiii how's it goinggggg yeah it's the pervert thoughts again. yup just like last time.

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happy fat femme friday to all who celebrate 🎊

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the mortifying ordeal of having someone know about every single one of your deepest and most depraved kinks and being cool with all of them

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likes your post so you see me in your notes and want to kiss me

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knights must be hearty, good sir, nourished and well-tended. it takes immense energy to train, to guard, to fight, to attend to all your duties, especially in kit, and that's atop the loads of energy required to simply persist as the soft and sensitive creatures we are. yes, I called you soft and sensitive, hush. 'tis as true of you as any bard or bartender. such a life as yours requires adequate nutrition, and by the gods, it demands its indulgences as well. There is a reason Lugh is the patron of skills and the harvest. I must insist you take care of yourself, or else I will make it my business as your princess to ensure that you do. if I find you are neglecting to honour the body you've pledged to me with proper nuture and love, I shall take that matter upon myself. I will hear no argument on it. now, come—we're going to the kitchens to fetch a little treat together.

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Care and feeding of your knight includes deferring to his wisdom in matters of your personal safety, complimenting the surety of his blade, and finding one non-sexual command that makes him hard enough to black out every time it's spoken.

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Here is a guide to hitting others. It is not about safe impact locations or how to develop picturesque bruising. It is about how to hit someone, and keep hitting someone, until you're both satisfied. It is how I approach hitting masochists for my own pleasure.

The first thing to note is that...

This is going to Hurt.

That fact cannot be shied away from. Pain, even for masochists, hurts. There is a tolerance to how much someone can take, and ways to engage with that tolerance. You will need to learn how each masochist takes pain, and potentially even teach them how to manage and endure it.

So you've got a paddle and a tied up piece of masochistic meat, or perhaps you're using your hand and it's bent over your knee, or perhaps it's cuffed to a cross and you've got a whip, or perhaps you've got a knife or needles or... well by now I've laboured the point enough.

How do you get the most out of your meat?

Start slow. Hit them slowly and rhythmically, building up in intensity every few hits, and when they tense too much or start struggling to breathe or can't stop themselves from making too much noise, slow down again.

Your aim is to warm up the meat so that it can get used to the pain, and once it's used to the pain you can intensify it. Climb up, drop down, and climb back up again. Vary the strike location, but remember that locations you haven't hit as much will need warming up too. The more skilfully it's done, the more you'll get to hit it.

On the subject of their breathing, tension, and noises, you'll want to pay attention to these as you hit them. As you hit them, their breathing will try to get sharp and shallow. Their muscles will try to contract to harden against the impact, and they'll make noises as reactions to your hits. Encourage them to keep their breathing steady and calm, and they'll take the hits better. Encourage them to relax so that the impact dissipates into their flesh instead of getting caught in their tension and you can hit them harder while hurting them less. Listen for moans of pleasure if they're so inclined, and encourage them to verbalise their pain, intentionally responding to pain verbally will help them endure it. Let them calm themselves between your hits, and they'll feel like they can take it and let you push them harder.

Watch how they react, but be aware that you may need to soothe or goad them. Try different things: Hold your off-hand on their shoulder so that they can brace against you. Praise them for each hit you've delivered. Tell them they can take more for you. Tease them. Rub them while they catch their breath and tell them how happy you are with them for taking it. Be verbal, but don't expect responses unless they enjoy responding. Pay attention to what helps them calm.

Once you've got the hang of these things, you can begin to play with them and challenge them: forbid them from making noise. Blindfold them so that they can't prepare for the pain. Make them watch you hit them so that they can't help but tense up in response, and play with false swings to mess with their minds. You can be cruel, because you know how it works. You know which moving parts can be shifted, and which must stay still.

Consider also what your masochist wants from being hit: some do not want to be overwhelmed, they want to be guided and hit into a meditative place where they can dissolve into the pain: intense but never too much, and then you can hit them until they're bloody and raw. Others want their pain to push right up to the edge of too much and stay there until they break. They want to cry and scream, and your challenge is to see how cathartic you can make it: break them too quickly and they might not find it satisfying, and neither will you.

And afterwards, aftercare, and you can work out what that looks like with your masochist yourselves.

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sorry i made you watch a prehistoric creatures documentary with me do you still think i'm hot

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dont show me your nerdy interests i WILL have sex with you.

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being dominant about consent

“you will tell me if something makes you uncomfortable.”

“can I touch you here, sweetheart?”

“would you like me to think for you for a bit, smart girl?”

“i will always take care of you. you can put your trust in me.”

“tell me your color, or i will stop.”

“tell me with words, or i will stop”

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clicker trained by the sound of a lighter

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hear me out i can be your cute little boy omega suffering from their first heat just needing a slightly older alpha to show me the way. taking me apart softly knowing theyll be the first to knot me