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one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become

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Took me until about halfway through college before I realized “study” means “play with the material in a variety of ways until you understand it” and not just “read the assigned chapters and do the homework” and I think that probably should have been discussed at some point prior to that.

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we need to give this tweet more credit for im pretty sure coining "die mad about it"

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imagine the most meanspirited, unlikeable, rude, bitter, self centered, negative person you can think of. not a rapist, not a murderer, not an abuser. just a charmless, tactless, dyed in the wool asshole you wouldn't want to spend two seconds with. now assume they get sick, not with the flu, but with a long term, serious illness that limits their ability to provide for themself. a society in which that person is left to die alone because nobody likes them on a personal level is a failed society.

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“‘You’re going to be happy’ said life ‘but first I’ll make you strong.’”

— Unknown

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i dont believe in the evil eye but honestly the things my family members (who believe in it) taught me are good practice anyway. the more people you invite to look into your life the more messy it gets. it's tempting to boast about the new thing you're getting into but unsolicited criticism when you're still green may easily crush your spirit. people who don't understand you or your life or your circumstances will be quick to judge you and constantly being preoccupied with what people will say when they see you is recipe for misery. whenever i look at any of my charms i know they look superstitious but honestly they're good memento moris. just as a reminder to think carefully before sharing something with someone else. Memento Shut Your Mouth

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Studying when EXAUSTED

This is for those times when you really desperately want to be productive and get things done but you can't focus and you just want to sleep but you didn't do anything today so you feel shitty.

if you can, please just go to sleep (I do get that sometimes you feel so shitty about how little work you got done that you can't sleep, but if you can, please do it and approach tomorrow with a fresh start)

plan out what tomorrow is going to look like. I will break it down by task, for example: 6:00 wake up, 6:05 work out 6:15 shower, 6:30 make tea, 6:40 start work, 7:30 break etc. This will 1) help you feel better about not getting anything done 2) can help you be more productive tomorrow.

if you have things to do that are easy/low brain power, do them. These are things like printing out work, scanning stuff, tidying your kitchen. getting these little things out of the way can make a HUGE difference later

if you can, just read over your material. Don't even try to understand, just read it. Tomorrow when you come back to try and actually learn it, you will already be a little familiar and it can speed things up for you

eat something, drink something, and see if it makes you feel better- many times when i'm "unable" to go on, I eat a meal and drink a glass or two of water and magically I feel great again

try doing a workout- sometimes it just makes the exhaustion worse, but if you need to stay up later (shoutout to my fellow 6:30 pm bedtime pals) it can stretch time a little bit, and sometimes wakes up your brain. It's also good for you and can make your sleep go better

DONT DRINK COFFEE. or tea. no caffeine. you are already tired, it's not going to fix anything, its just going to make you jittery and sad. it's also going to upset your sleep schedule and make the tired worse for tomorrow.

lastly- just go to bed. pushing through true exhaustion is not going to help you or anyone else. anything you try and learn is going to float right out of your head, and it can lead to burnout which will make everything worse. Please just sleep

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🗓️ 03/07/25 • Day 5 of Documenting My Life

🌚This ended up being a recovery day. I went grocery shopping in the morning. My health isn't great at the moment, so I didn't even go on a walk today (photo from yesterday). Instead I ended up prepping a (hopefully efficient) study notes system, and I finished the poetry collection I was reading.

I updated my book notes that I keep digitally on Notion - a project I only recently started. Oh, the amount of book notes I've lost throughout the years, but hopefully this will bring an end to that.

I also updated my tumblr drafts to match my new study plan. For chores and self-care I changed my sheets, did a face mask and exfoliated!

Days like these I feel out of control, but I'm trying to stay present.

Highlights 🌟 set up study notes 🌟 finished a poetry collection 🌟 started another poetry collection in the evening 🌟 indulged in my spreadsheet addiction 🌟 tiny achievements with chores and self-care

📺American Dad! (Season 1, Pilot) 📖 Omahyvä (ja omalaki), Risto Ahti

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got an annoying ask from a terf doing their terf rant at me about how i draw butches and lesbians in general so i drew a hunky butch <3

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Being Asexual and Aromantic in a world where a lot of individual milestones are dependent on getting together with someone, marry that someone, have a kid with that someone and then work together to raise that kid…This entire process takes up most of a person’s life so I end up excluding myself from it by principle of what it asks for.

These leaves with so much free time in my future that I have no idea what to do. Right now, what I think could occupy my time is a career take I can make fulfilling and try to a live a life with little to no regrets.

The fact I know I have a lot of free time in my future really affects how I view my current present. This is why I want to be a medical worker of sorts like a specialized doctor or an ER nurse. This is why I’m kinder with my approach with others. I have too much time ahead of me to waste it on being frustrated by someone.

I do wonder what other people from the Ace-spectrum or Aro-Spectrum think about this…do other queer folks think about this?

Like you know the some or all the expected milestone of society doesn’t fit you, either because of your preferences on how you live your life or how you identify yourself as, so it leaves you with a lot decades in your life with free time.

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“Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.”

— Janis Joplin

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don’t forget that it’s your life. it’s not school’s life, it’s not work’s life, it’s not your family or your partner’s life—it’s perpetually your life, for better or worse. what do you want from this life? forget happy, what motivates you to live? why are you here?

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mel choosing to go to med school in her situation is so fascinating to me. like she was broke and her sister’s sole caretaker but still chose a path where, for almost a decade, she’d have long and unpredictable hours while not making much money. she must have felt so strongly that medicine was her calling 😭

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I love how Alexandra Metz outed herself as a Zionist and then the whole fandom just immediately pivoted to shipping Santos with Parker.