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Call me cringe if you want but I still watch Tommyinnit, and his newest video, "the loneliest time of my life" really demonstrates why I vent online or vent publicly.

"and it's only when I saw some other videos of people expressing this same thing, that I went, "shit mate, I do feel lonely, but that's not an uncommon thing; and that made me feel better."

When I was a kid, just hitting puberty, just realizing I was trans, my mental illnesses just started to rear their head, I was scared, and I didn't have access to therapy. I felt like I was the only person in the world dealing with this, that my problems were entirely unique to me and I had to deal with them alone. At the same time, I had got my first tablet. I remember it very distinctly, I didn't want a tablet, I had asked my grandma for a drawing tablet for the holidays, like a huion or something, with her being... Old, she misunderstood and got me an actual tablet. So I got on social media for the first time.

For the first time I started seeing people talk about mental health, transness, growing up, I saw people like me, going through what I was going through. I saw that it was normal, and even helpful, to talk about what you're going through with a community of people. Of course, as a kid I didn't understand that you shouldn't post everything you're going through on the internet, and because of that I still struggle to make healthy judgements on what is and isn't appropriate to vent about online, but I still feel like overall the experience was good for me.

As long as you don't use specific names, places, accounts, etc. vent about whatever you feel comfortable venting about online. It hurts no one to vent about something anonymously online, where no one knows who you or the people involved are. It helps you feel better, it helps others feel less alone if they're going through what you're going through, and people can give you support, if they even see your post. A majority of the time, no one sees it, no one gives support, a drop of rain in the ocean.

As long as people involved don't say anything, no one will ever know who it's about, and no one will ever see it, it will just fulfill the purpose of making you feel better, because it gets it off your chest.

Don't stay in your head. You're not alone. You can help people by showing them they aren't alone either.

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Ah

Dark thoughts

Hello

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It's not ableist to say you shouldn't force trans people to put themselves to you because you have certain trauma. Like at that point just say "cis women only". If you cannot respect other people's privacy you shouldn't have a roommate in general.

Also, I think the dumbest shit ever in a cost of living crisis is being picky about how your roommate identifies. Who gives a fuck of your roommate is AFAB or AMAB? Someone who is AMAB could've had bottom surgery, or someone who is AFAB could've had bottom surgery, someone who is AFAB could be abusive, someone who is AFAB could be dangerous, they could be lying about their AGAB, AFABs could be degenerates, they could be murderers, or a thousand other things, but you're worried about what genitalia they had when they were a baby?

Your assigned gender at birth has no hold on who you are as a person. Telling someone they can't be your roommate because of a set of genitalia, specifically to a set that you'll NEVER HAVE TO SEE is insane. You don't need to know your roommate's genitals. Unless you're planning on fucking your roommate, in which case there's other websites for that.

You're right, there is a cost of living crisis, and you're turning away people in need of a home who would otherwise you would be perfectly fine living with because of their genitalia? If you're that traumatized by certain genitalia that you can't even be around ones that YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO SEE you need to do some serious work on yourself to manage your own triggers. Not use it as an excuse to be transphobic.

we as a community need to start considering the act of speculating on a persons agab as an act of transphobia

[emeraldgrimoireorb]

Masculinity is a prison to you. I on the other hand am frolicking in it like a beautiful meadow.

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Alright kids say it with me

My thoughts don’t make me a bad person

My feelings don’t make me a bad person

My thoughts, feelings, and impulses only exist inside my head, and none of it matters unless I act on it

Nobody can see my thoughts or emotions

The only things anyone can see and judge me on are my actions

There’s no such thing as a thought crime

thank u

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Masculinity does not necessitate violence just as femininity does not necessitate submission.

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Since schools are going to be forced to hang the Ten Commandments for "educational" reasons, I decided to make a supplemental picture teachers could print out to give historical context to them and educate children about the Commandments.

Before I spread it to other sites, I want to make a post here so you can tell me if there are any errors or other things I might have missed.:

Also, I have another version with a different background but I don't want it to be too distracting. So thoughts would be appreciated!

Thank you for your time! 💖

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Bottom growth is fucking awesome and anyone who thinks otherwise is just wrong, sorry

everyone knows that cis people need to be less weird about trans bodies but trans people also need to be less weird about trans bodies. no one gaf if ur scared of bottom growth or thinks its weird. keep that shit to urself. ppl keep talking about normalising trans people who don't medically transition but like. don't normalise not wanting to medically transition to the point that medical transition is stigmatised bcs you guys r freaks about trans bodies. no one cares u think that either ftm or mtf bottom surgery is ugly or weird looking. keep that to urself

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Ombresexual/Ombreromantic

Your attraction is like a ghost while someone is in your life; very low, you're aware of it but it's barely there. Then, once the person leaves your life, it spikes abruptly, leading to yearning, even though you know that, should they return, you will no longer be attracted to them nearly as much.

(not a request)

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@radiomogai

Roseabic: A person who is technically bisexual but only feels significant/meaningful attraction to the same gender, whatever that may mean to the individual. Based off the fact that the pink stripe on the bi flag is for same gender attraction.

Different from homoflexible because there’s no flexibility to it, the roseabic person has considered other genders and finds the attraction not solid/strong enough. 

Similar to febfem/mebmale but not political or a decision.

Can be used instead of bi lesbian/bi gay man.

There’s no blue stripe/straight version of this because…idk just because I say so. Don’t disrespect my wishes by making that.

Flag (sorta ugly, feel free to make a better one but keep the basic colors and position of elements please):

[Image description: A light pink flag with a stylized magenta rose bud symbol in the center. There is a subtle crescent shape within the symbol. An extremely desaturated light purple horizontal stripe is across the flag, and the symbol is desaturated where the stripe goes over it. End description.]

-like a combo between the bi flag (two big stripes with a little one in the middle) and the vincian/sapphic flags (same color on top and bottom with a flower in the middle).

-rose color is for the experience of being roseabic and the place of roseabic gays/lesbians in the homosexual community. 

-hot pink is from the bi flag and signifies same/similar-gender attraction.

-the pink rose symbol in the center is closed, which symbolizes that a roseabic person’s orientation is solid and set, and shouldn’t be questioned by others.

-the hazy purple/gray stripe and subtle crescent moon represent the uncertainty and confusion that lead a roseabic person to identify that way (for instance, calling themself bi feels wrong because they have no desire to act on their attraction to unlike genders and/or cannot imagine themself in a relationship with someone of an unlike gender, but also feel strange calling themself gay/lesbian because of frequent fleeting attraction to unlike genders)

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Sometimes you just need a night where you get off work early, get drunk, and cry.

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@radiomogai

Cygnirian

Cygnirian describes someone who is a man and nonbinary, and attracted to women and nonbinary people, and their attraction fluctuates so they are occasionally attracted to men as well; i.e. someone who is mlw, mlnb, nblw, nblnb and occasionally mlm & nblm. Name comes from the star Gamma Cygni.

Edit: Formerly ‘erisian’, this has been renamed! Please use this name instead!

[Image Description: a seven-striped pride flag. The first stripe is very dark blue, almost black. The second stripe is a dark teal. The third stripe is a light, purple-ish blue. The fourth stripe is white. The fifth stripe is pink. The sixth stripe is a dark purple. The seventh stripe is a very dark purple, almost black. End Image Description]

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My best friend, very excitedly: I’M A NON-STICK PAN. TELL THE TUMBLRS AROMANTIC PANSEXUALS ARE NON-STICK PANS

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@radiomogai idk if this is already in the archive but I like this term so :3

Fides- [New Orientation Coining!]

Fides-: An Orientation influenced by Neurodivergency, and similar to demi-. A person who is Fides- will only develop attraction after they have built an incredibly strong trust with somebody. As long as that trust is there, the person feels attraction. If the trust is damaged or broken, the person may no longer feel attraction for that individual.

[ Flag Order: Sexual, Romantic, Platonic, QPlatonic, Alterous, Sensual, Aesthetic ]

I am more than happy to create more flags for more types of attraction I may not know about! Please, if you want another flag, send me an ask. This is a very personal term for me and I would prefer making the flags for all the terms, thank you!

— Tagging —

@mogai-moth @mogai-flow [only tagging those who I have permission from! Thank you very much!]

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Wait but queerplatonic datemate works really well for qpps that go on "romantic" dates and stuff. Like a bellusromantic/cupioromantic qpr

why do we have boyfriends and girlfriends when we could have “datemates” which

rhymes

is genderneutral

avoids confusion between girl friends and girlfriends and boy friends and boyfriends

means you don’t have to introduce your adult partner by an infantilizing term

is cute too

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PREACH!

I don't always want to tell people I'm trans! Most of the time I don't! Even around other trans and queer people! Do not force me to come out to you because you don't want to be around "biological males" because no matter how you phrase it that is what you are saying.

You are putting a new coat of paint on transphobic talking points and calling it "your trauma" or "being uncomfortable" if you are that uncomfortable in a living space with someone who isn't afab then don't get a roommate you don't know. Simple. I have trauma with specific genders, it happens, and I understand it sucks, but you cannot use your triggers as an excuse to be transphobic or to make other people uncomfortable.

You are responsible for your own triggers.

This is why I use the term AFYAB (assigned fuck you at birth) because, fuck you! You don't need or have the right to know what my genitalia is!

we as a community need to start considering the act of speculating on a persons agab as an act of transphobia