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selfcare, solitude, peace

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Haha yeah nice argument unfortunately your mom

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"come help me out with some paperwork, kiddo" = dad having me cockwarm him as he does grown-up stuff on his desk. occasionally rutting his hips up when he gets frustrated, or playing with my chest when he's deep in thought. the pads of his thumbs calloused and warm as he plays with my nipples. all while I'm forced to stay still and be very quiet. after all, dad is reallyyy busy and I need to be good for him. I – I can be good... even when everything tingles so, so much.

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put me in my place (between your legs, sucking your cock dumbly while you stroke my hair)

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𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝.

first level

start with the basics. eat healthier, exercise daily (this can be a 10 minute walk or an hour work out, doesn't matter; just do something) sleep 7-9 hours, shower every day, and clean your space.

second level

journal daily. start simple with talking about your day or writing about your favourite things.

listen to subliminals at night. spotify has a lot of playlists.

meditate with affirmations daily. i listen to thewizardliz's affirmation video while focusing on my breathing and relaxing my body.

speak kind to yourself and others. don't talk down on yourself, try not to judge, remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes...

read books instead of doomscrolling. replace your social media screentime with reading a book.

make time for the people and things you love. even though you might be really busy with school or work, don't forget to be present. plan trips with your friends, eat dinner with your family, play that instrument that you liked so much, participate in team sports, be creative, etc.

third level

invest in a good skincare & oral care routine. this does not have to be expensive at all. i use the cerave cleanser and moisurizer and exfoliate 2 times a week. if you need to, use more but be careful it aligns with your skintype! brush your teeth two to three times a day, use a tongue scraper, chew gum, go to the dentist/orthodontist, whiten your teeths.

experiment with personal style. this includes hair, fashion, makeup, accessorizing, music, etc... don't follow trends if it's not what you actually like. have fun with it (for example, go shopping with your friends and try on stuff you would never glance at!)

shave your body. i personally use an epilator on my legs and a shaver under my arms. my mama advices me to not shave my arms or on my tummy, but honestly do what you think is best here.

pluck your eyebrows. i only pluck hairs that is going "outside" the shape of my eyebrows and just keep them looking mantained.

keep your nails clean. don't bite and don't get dirt underneath them. you can also polish them but you obviously don't have to.

these things are usually more expensive

get your nails done. in my experience it is around the €40-€80 to get them done in a salon. at home it's way less expensive because you only have to buy the equipment once and can use it for more than one time. i prefer doing them at home!

get an eyelash lift. i have gotten an lift for €35 but i've also seen people paint and lift them for more. it basically just lifts up your eyelashes and makes it look like your wearing mascara 24/7.

fake tan your body. i honestly have never done this, but after research, i found out it isn't damaging to your skin at all. you can buy self tanner at your local drugstore and at tanning salons.

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stalk my shit you freak i thought you loved me

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confidence guide for awkward girls 💫

LEARN TO SHUT UP. this is the first advice because it is probably the most important one, but the one that took me the longest to comprehend and master. girl, literally just shutting the fuck up does wonders. most of the times I was embarrassed out of my mind was coz I said something completely avoidable, only because I believed that being quiet was either rude or more awkward than whatever I rambled at that moment. bzzt, WRONG! being quiet means first of all being non-reactive, which gives you time to really reflect on what's being said and whether or not it even requires a response, and guess what; like 80% of the time, it does not. you are allowed to not respond, nod along, go "hmm" or "oh!" and leave it at that.

LEARN TO "FAKE" SMILE. this may seem controversial but it helps me so much. I've always been accused of looking mean, bitchy or just too serious, especially since I started to shut the fuck up (see previous item). and I am guilty as charged: I do have a RBF and when I am focused my eyebrow goes ò_o and I look judgemental and almost evil, and when I tried to balance it out by being funny or witty, it just came off even more awkward. the solution? I've started practicing a fake smile in front of the mirror when I was about 13 years old until I got the muscle memory of it so perfectly that now it's my response to nearly everything that I don't want/can't respond to. throwing an easy smile into a conversation will make you seem relaxed and in control even if you're bubbling anxious inside, and people will feel more at ease with you. also: learn to be generous with compliments, and try to make them your auto-response as well!

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF. comparison is the mark of insecurity and envy, and it's one of the ugliest and most useless habits you can have. yes, useless: what benefit do you get from comparing your face and body and circumstances to somebody else's? and please don't pretend you're getting "inspiration" from them. listen, you are your own lane. you are your entire universe. there is no other life to be lived, no other body to embody. this is it. these are the cards you were dealt with. the longer you try to peak into somebody else's cards, the longer you'll be ignoring yourself and neglecting your game. abandon ideas such as comparison, imitation or judgement towards others. confidence starts and ends with focusing on yourself.

LEARN TO CUT PEOPLE OFF. accumulating people in your life like they're pokémon is gonna be your downfall, because it's obvious not everyone can stay. imagine if a growing tree held onto all its leaves and branches, even the ones in obvious decay, how ugly and weak that tree would be, how much energy those dying parts would steal from the new ones in need of flourishing. it's the same with relationships. when someone disrespects you, hurts you, or simply doesn't align with you anymore, and you find excuses to keep this person around, what you're doing is betraying yourself, and how are you gonna have confidence in someone who betrays you? learn to cut people off or to simply let them go, and watch yourself become lighter and brighter.

QUIT BEING A BITCH. something people don't seem to understand is that the rude, conceited, mean girl persona is always revealed to be a small, petty and insecure rat on the inside. I've wasted years of potential connections trying to emulate the Blair Waldorf-y, Regina George-y vibes, trying to balance out my awkwardness with what I thought was their fierceness, because I was missing the whole point that their confident selves were lies. no girl or woman who is confident in herself spends any amount of time being a bitch, scheming to take people down, minding everyone else's business to make sure she stays on top. true confident people are kind even in the face of rudeness, they glow in shadows; their strength lies in tenderness. the sooner you give this mean girl show up, the better.

ABANDON YOUR NEED FOR APPROVAL AND COMPREHENSION FROM OTHERS. seeking approval is a very obvious trap but seeking comprehension is also dangerous, because the second people start doubting or questioning you – which is always going to happen when you decide to make a change of habits, traits, lifestyle etc – and you decide to explain yourself, you're accepting the premise that what you're doing is incomprehensible. if you're truly sure of yourself, there will be no need to assure others of yourself. if your peers or strangers don't understand it, so what? that's their enigma to sort out. respond to yourself and yourself only. if you understand and approve yourself, that's all you need, period. live for your damn self.

GOOD LUCK, LITTLE STARS 💫

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BW/WM

So I started dating this guy. It doesn’t matter but he is white. OMG. He’s also married, separated but still married.

He be fucking the shit out of me. Disrespectfully.

And I love it.

Yesterday my baby broke his TV. He was really sweet about it. I mean he did express his he was upset with me. But when he got home he wasn’t yelling.

He led me to the bedroom and fucked my face. Holding my head by my Afro puff as he slammed into my face. Then he turned me around and pinned my legs to the bed. His eyes were ice blue, when Normally they’re grey: he’s still mad.

He got up with it words and grabbed the lube and said,

“Get here now.”

I presented my self to him in all fours as he stood behind me. He began putting lube on my small hole. And in one motion stuffed his fat thick white dick in my smallhole.

It hurt so bad. I fought to the other side of the bed as he held his dick firm in my smallhole as I screamed but all I could hear was his breath in my ear.

I immediately began crying.

*safe word *

He climbed off of me as I trembled and cried.

“You’re okay sweetie.”

He touched my but cheek and I flinched.

“ I’m just checking to mage sure okay sweetie, yeah you fine. I’m sorry sweetheart.”

I got up and ran away.

That white nigga just punished me, and my pussy was so wet. I was mad, and horny. I finished cry and took some ibuprofen and then went and laid my head in his chest.

“That really hurt.”

“Train your ass, it’s mine. If I want it I’ll take it.

I snuggled my face into his chest as he scratched by scalp.

He raped my ass and I loved it. I want more. I makes me feel like his object.

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You're so fuckable precious darling!

I could just kidnap adopt you right off the street and keep you at home with your new dad me the biggest toy collection any little girl could beg hope for!

You're just too cute to resist using cuddling Little girl!

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aww thank u mister rose!!!! that’s so sweet of you to say!!! >.<

biggest toy collection you say??? :000 stuffies, big girl toys, or both?🤭

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i need to be praised and spoken to like a dog when im horny actually! “who’s a good girl? is it you!?!? is it you!?!?”

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hearing “you’re into some really sick shit” makes me so wet i soak my panties, please call me gross! please tell me you’ve never met a girl like me, so disgusting and perverted!

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december workout plan

day 1: 30 minute cardio + 10 minute yoga

day 2: 30 minute dumbbell cardio + 8 minute stretch

day 3: 30 minute lower body + 15 minute leg stretch

day 4: 30 minute arms & abs + 10 minute yoga

day 5: 44 minute metabolic conditioning

day 6: 10 minute abs + 30 minute yoga

day 7: 30 minute hiit w/ weights + 15 minute stretch

day 8: rest day OR 30 minute walking cardio + 8 minute stretch

day 9: 36 minute strength & cardio + 15 minute stretch

day 10: 30 minute lower body + 15 minute leg stretch

day 11: 5 minute warm up + 30 minute upper body & core + 8 minute stretch

day 12: 38 minute metabolic conditioning

day 13: 17 minute abs + 30 minute stretch

day 14: 25 minute dumbbell hiit

day 15: rest day OR 20 minute cardio + 15 minute stretch

day 16: 30 minute tabata hiit & strength

day 17: 30 minute lower body

day 18: 40 minute upper body & core

day 19: 30 minute metabolic conditioning

day 20: 20 minute abs + 26 minute yoga

day 21: 32 minute hiit & strength

day 22: rest day OR 30 minute cardio + stretch

day 23: 5 minute warm up + 45 minute strength & cardio + 8 minute stretch

day 24: 43 minute lower body

day 25: rest day (merry christmas!)

day 26: 20 minute pilates cardio & abs

day 27: 30 minute upper body

day 28: 17 minute abs + 30 minute yoga

day 29: 5 minute warm up + 30 minute dumbbell hiit + 8 minute stretch

day 30: 45 minute walking cardio + 10 minute abs + 8 minute stretch

day 31: rest day OR 30 minute mobility