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you are not a feminist. you are promoting catholicism. any radfem text will spit on your gender naturalization ideas

I do think gender ideology and modern feminism are insane because they both put forward the idea that men and women are the same and we're just not. that doesn't mean we should be oppressed on the basis of our sex/biological differences though. men are from mars and women are from venus but unironically.

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where have u gone 😔

sorry anon I only saw this ask rn bc my stupid ass got back on twitter. catch me @ feralfemhanya at the blue hell site

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it's generally good to be nice to people & not treat them with hostility sure but a lot of the time when white men who got radicalized into the alt right talk about "hostility on the left" what they really mean is "women & poc not prefacing every complaint about men &/or white people with 'not you tho you're one of the good ones'" & like respectfully if you take every complaint from marginalized people about their oppressors as a personal attack that's kind of a you problem

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Not the first time I've seen anything of the like, but last night I saw some yank asshole tell someone to "stop victim blaming" because the other person, who was from Brazil (a country which has been a victim of US military interventionism several times in relatively recent history) said they didn't have any sympathy for US army veterans, even the disabled ones.

And again, it's not like any of this is particularly novel to me, I've seen similar arguments a hundred times, but it will never cease to amaze me the way how, in the imperial core citizen's mind, the people who suffered collateral damage as a result of carrying out the US military's imperialist violence will always get to be considered THE victims of the US military before any of the people on the receiving end of said violence.

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Could you talk a little more about how and why the most basic feminist discourse is being presented as TERFism? Does it go any deeper than plain old misogyny and transmisogyny, or is that all there is to it?

This is a really great question! The answer is, however, short and disappointing: It's just (trans)misogyny. Let's discuss it a bit, though!

On a fundamental level, while it's relatively easy to acknowledge that women, as a whole, have been cut a raw deal, taking that to its logical conclusion--a critique of male-supremacy--is a tough sell even amongst the more progressively-minded. Feminism is uniquely burdened with formulating a theory of liberation that does not hold men accountable for benefiting from patriarchy, does not at any point imply that men are actively invested in upholding patriarchy, and advocates a way forward that does not require men to give up anything or meaningfully change their relationship to gendered and reproductive labor.

It is a fundamentally impossible ask. Some of this stems from naturalizing sexual difference and viewing the subordination of women as an inevitable outcome of biology, but a decent amount of the pushback comes from a reluctance to truly unpack relations of intimacy and kinship with a critical eye. Feminism is easiest to do when telling an obviously misogynistic stranger to check his assumptions, or discussing the cold facts of being under-compensated and over-burdened at your job. It's harder to contemplate the destabilizing truth that most men genuinely think you have less internality than they do, will expect you to do the lion's share of domestic labor in a relationship, and will feel emasculated if you at any point demonstrate more competence, wit, intelligence, or verve than them.

It's hard to admit that most men won't put in the work to see you as human.

So instead, we get a lot of rationalizations. Feminism is too white, too bourgeois, too ciscentric, too anglocentric, and unlike every other school of thought or ideology, it is forever tainted and cannot be redeemed. It is not allowed to have factions, contradictions, missteps, or to evolve. Much easier to rattle off a canned line about how feminism doesn't account for something that it has definitely accounted for if only one bothered to treat it seriously and actually engage with the literature, and consequently chuck the entire history of women's liberation into the bin.

There is, at the end of the day, a real psychological cost to being aware of just how pervasive societal misogyny is, and not everyone is willing to pay it.

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"boypussy positivity this, girldick appreciation that" that's great, yeah. but are you supportive of trans people who have gotten/want to get bottom surgery? are you respectful of trans people with severe genital dysphoria who would greatly prefer it if you simply didn't mention their genitals? answer carefully.

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man I wish I knew what the exact tumblr tag for genuine discussions of incest was so I wouldn’t need to wade through incest kink in the INCEST TW tag

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one of rgu's best takes about rape and incest is that rape and incest are not deviant. they are exceedingly normal. they are, in fact, the logical extension of patriarchal romance and the patriarchal family -- the same logic that underpins those structures facilitates abuse, rape, incest, and csa. many people, even those who nominally understand the idea of rape culture, conceive of rape as a deviation from cultural mores, and even more people view incest as an aberration, a twisting of the Family (which is Good) into something unnatural and evil. but rgu correctly identifies that rape and incest are outgrowths of patriarchal society, not alien intrusions upon it. incest is merely a symptom of the problem which is the patriarchal family itself. rape and domestic abuse are merely symptoms of the problem which is patriarchal & heteronormative romance and society itself. rather than rape being deviant, it is resistance to patriarchy which is deviant; rather than incest being abnormal, it is a girl holding out a hand to another girl in pain which is abnormal. because 'abnormal' does not mean 'bad' any more than 'normal' means 'good'. "fall in love normally, get married normally, have a normal family, and have a normal life -- but normal has nothing to do with us!"

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"normalize not transitioning" yeah that's already so normal that conservatives are fighting for it to be mandatory. you're not helping. shuddup. normalize transitioning.

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Maybe we should stop calling people "TERFs" for doing basic feminism.

Maybe we should stop promulgating the idea that trans women's interests are fundamentally at odds with feminist goals.

Maybe we should collectively come to the realization that trans women are indeed sexualized, exploited, and brutalized largely by men, like most women.

Maybe we should stop propagating the harmful myth that transmisogyny is based on "misandry".

Maybe we should realize that advocating for men and advocating for trans women are very different things.

Maybe ... and this is the really out-there one, chat, so try to stay with me, no matter how out-of-this-reality the prospect may appear ... but maybe, we should consider trans women ... a type of woman.

Fucking earth-shattering, I know, but let's just give it a try?

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still so pissed off the raiden shogun tag is just ei ei ei she’s not the shogun where the fuck do I get content for the robot forced to give up her independence now that mommy is out of her depression cave

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We need to change the narrative on letting young kids wear clothes that adult women typically wear to feel sexually attractive. I don’t know if this idea still holds any water in 2024, but I remember even 4 years ago if someone expressed dismay at a 9 year old in a faux leather miniskirt they would be accused of sexualizing a child; I’ve never seen a more willfully bad faith interpretation of other’s concern. We all recognize that advertising makeup as a type of choice feminism is intellectually hollow because women don’t make these choices in a societal vacuum. Why is it hard for us to make the logical leap that children don’t exist in societal vacuums either?

We bemoan the loss of childhood that kids today endure in our post-capitalist world. The god-kings of consumerism have recognized that there is no money to be made off of childhood or adolescence (a lack of self-consciousness about one’s body and self means one has no need to purchase products to make self-correcting modifications) and have tried to push down the age of consumeristic adulthood lower and lower. And it’s working. Why are we seeing it as an apparent victory for young girls that they start monitoring how their body is perceived earlier and earlier? Playing dress-up in mom’s closet is one thing. Refusing to wear anything but the kid-sized version of fashion nova clubwear, however, doesn’t strike me as indicative of liberation for the girls of the next generation. The clothes aren’t even comfortable, and kids always want to be comfortable! Unless someone has taught them there is something more important than comfort.

That’s my controversial opinion for the day 😎 thanks for the ask

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it’s like people forget about intersectionality the second men are involved. yes, black men are marginalized because they’re black but also because they’re black men. jewish men are marginalized because they’re jewish but also because they’re jewish men. disabled men are marginalized because they’re disabled but also because they’re disabled men. trans men are marginalized because they’re trans but also because they’re trans men. “oh but none of those other groups need special words for it” maybe they do actually maybe we should be talking about the issues they face specifically as marginalized men.

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The bird fights its way out of the egg. The egg is the world. Who would be born first must destroy a world. The bird flies to God.

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bangladeshi anthy agenda, may you carry the petals of revolution

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Um… they seem REALLY cool and normal!

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I had an idea for this artwork ever since 2.4 came out 🌸