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Mexico City, Mexico | Joseph Owen

Marigolds for Día de los Muertos at El Mercado de Jamaica in Mexico City.

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you deserve to never have to guess how much you mean to somebody.

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I’ll get over it I just gotta be dramatic first

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Does anyone else fill up with dread when you realise your guy friend has a crush on you, because you’re now going to be socially obligated to provide him with lots of time and emotional work if you don’t want to suffer social sanctions for not fulfilling your gender’s role of managing men’s feelings?

Men who are attracted to women routinely make their crushes a problem for the women they’re aimed at. Many men see a woman’s interest as a given and are offended when they don’t automatically get it.  If they possess the basic understanding that they’re not entitled to her interest - which is honestly pretty rare - they still generally feel entitled to her time and emotional work.

They expect explanations, a chance to ask often-invasive questions about her lack of interest, and perhaps even a chance to convince her to “give him a chance”. They expect to be let down in the gentlest, most complimentary way possible, to have their feelings managed every step of the way by a woman who did not ask for this interest or the job of guiding him through his feelings about it.

This is one form of male entitlement, a near-ubiquitous form of misogyny that’s so embedded it often goes unnoticed. Men, think critically about the expectations you have of a woman you’re interested in. Are you trying to make processing your feelings her responsibility, or are you managing them on your own like a respectful adult?

No one likes to be rejected. But your interest in someone doesn’t obligate them to comfort you, provide you with therapy, or listen to heartfelt confessions they don’t consent to listen to. Your interest doesn’t mean they owe you.

Find someone who consents to giving you that emotional work; don’t demand it from someone you’ve trapped in an awkward situation. Let “no” be enough.

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god, imagine sharing a bed with the person you love. chatting about dumb things! just sleeping! it’s like a sleepover but every night how sweet is that!!!!

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AZRA TABASSUM

(also known as @5000letters)

from My Heart is Full of Open Windows;

original photos and edit

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tyler broke up with me

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If you knew me 1+ years ago, and we don’t really talk anymore… you do not know me now. I have changed so much since then and you genuinely don’t know who I am anymore. Your perception of me is of someone who no longer exists, just a past version of myself I grew out of.

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me after every conversation: shit they’ll never wanna talk to me again

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i’m sad

what’s new

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i...want to not be alive for a bit

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by ALDO CHAPARRO

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There is literally nothing in nature that blooms all year long, so do not expect yourself to do so.

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“Most of us have experienced a betrayal in our lives. The thing is, the signs are there but we don’t see them. We rationalize and excuse poor behavior - like hoping the person cares as much as we do. In that sense, we become our own victim. People like this rarely apologize and generally feel justified for whatever bad behavior they’ve shown. They are manipulative, hurtful, dishonest, and they rationalize their bad behavior so they don’t have change it. There’s not point in pouring your heart out to these people or to try and understand why they do it, most have no idea that they do it. The best thing you can do is walk away, believe me, they are not wasting another thought on you either.”

— (via standingfirmwithfaith)