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I don't get why we demonise pedophiles. we demonise these people (whenever they come out) for being attracted to kids as if being attracted was a choice, and just today I thought of a great analogy to put into perspective that pedophiles are not inherently evil, that they deserve to live and deserve to be helped rather than hurt, but before I say it I'd like to say something about the demonisation, demonising pedophilia is harmful, it doesn't help keep kids safe nor does it help the abusers or soon to be abusers actively look for and seek help to change, to manage their thoughts, demonising pedophilia will only make millions of closeted pedophiles too ashamed to come out, to admit to themselves that they have a problem that needs fixing, out of fear that if they ever came out that everyone would hate them for it, out of shame because they're attracted to kids when they shouldn't be ashamed of an attraction as long as they make the right choice. don't blame them for being attracted blame those who offend, and keep offending, not changing their ways. not the people who desperately want to change. now on to my analogy. not every pedophile is an evil, heartless freak, who will offend the first chance they get, most are normal people who tend to try and keep their thoughts managed, to stop themselves from being a risk to others. pedophiles are normal human beings, who are wired differently, it is no different than schizophrenic or bipolar disease, or any other disorder that can/will cause harm. why do we say that someone who sees things, and might harm someone or even kill someone because they hear voices is not a bad person because "oh they're just crazy" but someone who has a moral compass, not crazy, has not EVER harmed someone in their life before a bad person? because "oh they are attracted to kids, they are going to abuse a kid the first chance they get" etc. ill use a cis woman for this, imagine this. two women mentally well, and no disorders now think about the two women just as who they are, you have no idea about if they have ulterior motives or not, one woman is a good person, she has a husband, a kid or two and will never commit a crime in her life. she is a healthy and active person, and she does not show off online. and then we have another woman this woman has a husband yes and two kids as well, but is she still a good person? some might instinctively say yes, but what if she murdered her own husband in cold blood? what if she strangled her kids because she did not like them anymore or something? is she still a good person? no she is not; did she have any sort of mental illness? no she didn't. you cannot blame someone for being attracted to kids, you cannot blame someone for the way they are born, show a little kindness and that kindness will go a LONG way. TLDR: pedophiles are humans, some are good and some are bad. it is only a choice that someone makes multiple times that shows us who they are, thoughts do not define us, repeated actions do