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10 Things You Should Know

About reporting sexual harassment...

1. Your employer is supposed to investigate If you report harassment, your employer is generally required, by law or internal policy, to assign someone to investigate whether you were sexually harassed. That person shouldn’t be involved in the situation, and definitely shouldn’t be the harasser.

2. Your employer has an obligation to try to keep you safe If the investigation confirms harassment happened, your employer is required to do what they can to stop the behaviour and prevent it from happening again. A good employer will talk with you to learn how to make you feel safe at work - and then take concrete steps to curb the problem, like reprimanding the harasser, moving them to a different location, or firing them.

3. That’s true even if the harasser is your boss Even if the person who harassed you is in a position of power, like a manager, executive, or the CEO, your employer is still required to investigate. The investigator should be independent and not someone who reports to the harasser.

4. Many employers ignore reports or do very little In reality, only about half of employers conduct proper investigations. Some flat-out ignore you or don’t even pretend to care, while others may express care but not actually intervene in any concrete or helpful way.

5. Punishing someone for reporting is illegal but also very common Even though it’s illegal, about one in three people who report harassment are punished afterward. Reprisals can range from being left out of meetings or losing responsibilities, to being reassigned, passed over for promotions, demoted, or even fired.

6. The reporting process can be disempowering and traumatising Reporting often involves repeating what happened, sometimes many times, to different people, and reliving an experience that may have been humiliating, frightening, or traumatising. Your identity might be shared and decisions might be made without your input. You may end up feeling like you’ve completely lost control over what happens.

7. Most people don’t report -- because they understand the risks Most people don’t report workplace sexual harassment. It’s usually because they assume the harassment wasn’t serious enough, nothing will be done, or they’ll be punished for coming forward. They are correct - there are decades of social science research proving exactly that.

8. The strongest sign your employer will shut down harassment: they’ve done it before If you’ve seen people behave badly and get held accountable, that’s a good sign. If you’ve seen people harass others and face no consequences, that’s a warning.

*Based on the incredible fount of knowledge at Aftermetoo, built after years talking with people who've experienced workplace sexual harassment, and working with lawyers, counsellors, and researchers to create clear, useful information.

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wow i drank water 2 hours ago and it was good. ya see how these little life updates into the void are usless

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u know bro its just hard to get tired of being lonely to the point where ur just like “eh this is definitely off and wrong but i mean it’s just for the show, so it’s fake” like sure but nobody ever stopped faking the wrong part so? guess it’s just me

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🤷🏻‍♀️idk guy. be sad and lonely with people, be extra paranoid, sad and lonely without. they want me to choose to go without but I just feel like it’s not right. it makes people happy to have someone to share their bullshit with. just stamping on a bandana isnt the same as sending a video of you stamping on it to a friend. “oh why dont u just use tumblr as your bullshit send tank” of course, where else would it go. 🤷🏻‍♀️ but like. you know I come here and talk to a void and leave so. idk. idk.

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wish people gave a duck about me ahaha 😁😪

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so thats it i tried and now i quit okay

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u know any maybe im wrong it just feels like nobody loves me bro

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wish

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so what i die alone just like everyone else

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all im saying. is if i go to sleep i. this grass rn ans nobody ever coems to wake me wat difference does it really make

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something that be making me unhappy is like

im going out with people feeling like im more alone than i was wen i walked alone so

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gonna puke in the grass and sleep here til tomorrow how we doin

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omg. when u dont have the energy ti kill usrself but ur like too bored to keep sitting

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what difference does it make hahah