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👑Did you know that when you give a friend or your significant other a back massage, you are literally helping to heal them? That's right! You're massaging away toxins that have built up over time, which promotes inner healing! It's also a great way to produce that feel-good hormone we all love: oxytocin. Keep your relationships healthy and give someone you love a back massage today!👑 #healthylife #healthyrelationships #relationshipquotes #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #couplesmassage #massagetherapy #oxytocin #couplesgoals #bae #love #lovequotes #positivevibes #healing #couplestherapy #lovehim #loveher #pictureoftheday #lovelove #instagood #relationships #friends

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😘Did you know that nibbling on your loved one's ear helps produce oxytocin? It's that feel-good hormone again! Healthy romantic relationships should have a healthy dose of ear-nibbling to lighten the mood and relieve stress!😘 #relationshipquotes #relationshipgoals #healthylife #healthyrelationship #couplesgoals #couples #couplestherapy #relationshiptherapy #relationshipadvice #bae #lovehim #loveher #stressrelief #lovelove #lovequotes #love #oxytocin #kisses #kiss #marriage #forever #loveblog #relationships #romance #instagood #pictureoftheday

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🔥👀 Did you know that good, solid eye contact with your partner releases oxytocin in your brain? It's that stress-relieving, feel good hormone! It's also a great way to establish respect and take an adventure into your partner's soul. Healthy relationships are full of eye contact that warms the heart and opens the door of opportunity for intimate, meaningful communication!👀🔥 #relationshipquotes #soulsearching #relationshipgoals #oxytocin #stressrelief #couplestherapy #couples #couplesgoals #love #lovequotes #lovers #relationshipadvice #communication #bae #instagood #eyecontact #healthylife #healthy #healthyrelationships #lovelove #relationships #real #forever #marriage #photooftheday #couplesselfie #reallove

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❤️Loving yourself and being selfish are two different things! ❤️ Loving yourself means being comfortable with who you are, forgiving yourself when you make mistakes, and holding yourself accountable to your convictions and morals. Being selfish means focusing on yourself constantly, being motivated by things that only benefit self, and not giving to others. Don't commit relationship suicide by being selfish! Love others by being comfortable enough with who you are to give to others in their time of need. ❤️ #love #relationshipgoals #couplegoals #healthyrelationships #relationships #loveblog #bae #couples #inlove #forever #marriage #romantic #reallove #real #loyalty #honesty #lovequotes #positivequotes #lovehim #loveher #loved #relationshipblog #lovelife #lovewins #loveis #loveofmylife #selflove #relationshipquotes #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach

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🙌Did you know that holding hands with your loved one helps your body produce oxytocin and cortisol, very needed hormones for stress relief and feelings of happiness? Turns out that holding hands helps make healthy relationships! 🙌 #healthylife #couplestherapy #holdinghands #shadowselfie #love #relationshipquotes #relationshipgoals #reallove #lovehim #loveher #healthy #lovequotes #lovelove #lovers #oxytocin #cortisol #hormones #therapy #healing #joyvibes #holistichealth #relationships #stressrelief

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👑 Dear Advocates: ⚡ Powerful communication cannot exist without first having powerful mindsets. Healthy relationships become powerful relationships when powerful mindsets are where both individuals dwell inwardly. Powerful mindsets are mindsets that refuse thoughts not rooted in love, and replace those thoughts with thoughts of wild, unrestricted trust. 💭 A person who exercises control over their thoughts will also show control over their emotions; that is because our thoughts are what create our emotions, and when we control our thoughts, our emotions are able to flourish in a healthy manner rather than smother and bog us down with toxicity. 💭Choosing wild, unrestricted trust doesn't mean that we won't get hurt, or assure us that the other person is trustworthy - what it does do is provide you with the kind of character and backbone that can carry the weight of love, which is so often self-sacrificing, as well as provide the other person with enough ammunition and support to gain momentum and inspiration for betterment. 💖A person who is trusted wholeheartedly is a person who has the opportunity, not just the potential, to truly succeed in healing. A person who has the ability to provide wild, unrestricted trust to someone else despite previous pains is a person who is being perfected by the character of love. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨Healthy relationships devour toxic mindsets. Mindsets that repeat negativity, abusive beliefs, and selfish intentions never darken the doorstep of a powerful relationship, and are certainly never entertained long enough to take root. 😵 A mindset is simply a repeated thought pattern. Any repeated thought pattern has the potential of becoming a mindset that either creates life or death in your emotions and behaviors. 🤢Toxic mindsets focus on problems, strife, anxiety, worries, fears, troubles, anger, hatred, regrets, disappointments, and generally many things you no longer have any control over. 👑 Healthy mindsets focus on solutions, peace, wholeness, understanding, wisdom, growth, forgiveness, empathy, learning, improvements, and generally many things that are within your realm of control that are depending on you to shape and direct. ⚡Powerful mindsets are created when powerful thoughts are repeatedly visited; these mindsets become beliefs, create empowering emotions, and produce powerful actions in your behaviors. ⚡Powerful thoughts sound a little something like this: ⚡"I give grace because I need grace."⚡"I believe the best of that person, because I want that person to believe the best of me."⚡"I forgive that person and release blessings over that person because I refuse to carry the weight of bitterness, and because I need forgiveness too."⚡"I love people through their pain, even if it creates for me no gain."⚡"I am a person of excellence, even if no one else reciprocates my efforts."⚡"My integrity is what matters, not comfort or ill-gotten gain." ⚡Powerful thoughts empower your inner being to believe the truth, to see light where others see darkness, and to see beyond the illusion of perfection into the true picture of wholeness, which is humility, the very foundation of love itself. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨Powerful relationships are born when powerful mindsets are lived through. Healthy relationships cannot exist without training your mind to understand that thoughts not rooted in the characteristics of love are toxic, and accomplishing growth and healing from toxicity involves cleaning out your mind, thinking powerful thoughts on purpose, and controlling your emotions rather than allowing them to control your decisions. 💖 Love is a purposed choice, not an emotion. Love is a purposed action, not merely a thought. Therefore, powerful relationships are built on the foundation of powerful mindsets, where the verb of love abides.                                                                          -Gavi, your Advocate for Healthy Relationships

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💋Did you know that, in a healthy relationship, when you kiss your partner, your brain is actually producing more oxygen, a stress relieving hormone called oxytocin, and the joy elevating hormone dopamine? 😘 Kissing can actually be beneficial to your emotional and physical health! Another reason to love love, and keep your relationships healthy. ❤ #love #kisses #healthylife #healthyrelationships #lovelove #relationshipquotes #relationshipgoals #couplestherapy #dopamine #stressrelief #loveis #lovewarrior #lovequotes #kissonthecheek #couples #emotionalhealth #mindhealth #brainhealth #marriage #loveblog #inlove #lovehim #loveher #loveus #forever

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👑 Dear Advocates:

💪 Powerful relationships aren't created overnight, and they certainly cannot be destroyed overnight, either. Powerful relationships are so rare and hard to come by because people seldom understand that going the extra mile when it comes to the character of love will always pay off triple what it cost for you to invest into it.

📢 Powerful relationships exist in powerful communication. Healthy relationships have healthy communication; words centered and focused and founded in love and completely absent and void and unrestricted by fear.

🗣️ In order to cultivate a powerful, healthy relationship, purposed and love-centered communication must be a dwelling place for each individual in the relationship.

💯 In healthy, powerful relationships, communication is never based on fear; rather, when powerful relationships address issues of fear, the communication is never based on the fear itself, but the approach to a viable solution for both parties. The fear is merely the problem; the focus and objective is the solution that brings healing.

🚫 Fear restricts the power of a relationship and dwindles it down to a minor, dull glow, if not snuffing out the light all together over time. That's because fear takes the focus off of excellence, integrity, peace, and love, and places it instead in the depths of despair, discouragement, lies, and deception. Fear projects anxiety and negative possibilities into situations that would normally never see shadows of such words.

💞 Powerful communication comes from a heart seeded in humility. A heart seeded in seeking another person's well being, a heart seeded in serving without expectations of return. Powerful communication comes from a heart that isn't intimidated by fear or negative circumstances or emotions; powerful communication comes from a heart that  dwells in the realms of patience, kindness, honor, and virtue.

💋 When you truly love someone, you want every word you ever say to them to be words that would bring life, and never death. Words that would bring growth and never hindrance. Words that would uplift and encourage, and never tear down or dismiss another's pain.

👑 Healthy relationships are born in between the lines of powerful communication, where words deliver truth without pride, and freedom without compromise. Where words deliver the characteristics of love with every syllable, unrestricted by the fangs of fear that drain the life out of so many good intentions and well-meaning individuals.                                                                              - Gavi, your Advocate for Healthy Relationships

Next: Discover how powerful relationships and powerful communication originate from POWERFUL MINDSETS!

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👑The perfect couple's massage👑 Rubbing each other's feet once a day will help each of you detox emotionally and physically. Stress relief and better sleep, here we come! Rubbing each other's feet is a great service and act of humility. It can bring relief to some pretty deep emotional places. Think I'm crazy? Give it a try! #relationshipgoals #love #couplesmassage #lovehim #loveher #stressrelief #relationships #massagetherapy #massage #loveis #bae #relax #forever #marriage #real #positivevibes #positive #relationshipcoach #loveblog #dreamcometrue #intimacy #intimate #healthyrelationships #healthylife #healthy

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👑 Dear Advocates:

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Healthy relationships aren't contained in cages, but in freedom, in adventure, in wide open spaces and deep places. Toxic relationships are confined to darkness, bondage, damaging limitations, and future-stealing mindsets of laziness and passivity.

💔 Enabling a toxic person means becoming trapped with them. This means that when you enable someone by not speaking truth into their life, by compromising your moral standards, and by allowing them to continue in toxicity without changing, you're not really doing anything except becoming trapped with them. Before you know it, you'll be looking through the bars of a toxic cage, wondering how in the world you got there.

💘 Loving a toxic person means creating freedom for both yourself and the person in need. This means that instead of allowing the toxicity to trap both of you, you take the keys you've been given, open the cage, and pull the other person out. This won't happen unless you're willing to play the role of a love warrior, valiantly clinging on to the life-giving principles of love's character and never letting go or giving in to the enabling attitude.

💞 You can create freedom for yourself and the toxic person and cultivate a healthy relationship by allowing the TRUTH to be your foundation, always. Toxic relationships allow for lies, small and big, and often crumble due to a web of lies that became unable to be contained. The TRUTH is what sets us free; free from all toxicity.

⚠️ So, ask yourself this question in regards to your relationships: are you loving, or enabling? Do you allow for dishonesty in any measure, or do you hold your relationships to the standard of truth always? What toxicity in your relationships needs to be faced with the truth today in order to create freedom for both you and the other person?

🚫 Remember, the enabling attitude will always think of SELF first - what's easier on you, what benefits you better, how you can watch your own back.

💝 The loving attitude will always think of OTHERS first - what's better for the other person, how you can watch their back, and what you can do to release them from anything toxic in their lives - including your own toxicity. Choose to face any measure of toxicity in your relationships today with the loving truth, and see how your relationships come back to life and grow deeper roots!                                             - Gavi, your Advocate for Healthy Relationships 

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👑 Dear Advocates,

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Healthy relationships are always built on a foundation of strong morals. Each individual in the relationship, no matter the dynamic, is called to make a firm stand on their own morals and never compromise those morals for the sake of the relationship.

⚠️  When morals are compromised, the relationship goes from a loving one to a toxic one; actions go from loving to enabling. Enabling means compromising your own morals because you believe the toxic person will be threatened as a result of them. This is not to say that love doesn't make compromises, but love will never make a compromise when it comes to someone's moral convictions.

🚫 What happens as a result of compromising your moral convictions is that your love begins to become formless, and without boundaries. A love without form and boundaries is a disaster waiting to happen. Why? Because love purposely limits itself to achieve purity, wholeness, healing, and security. Without limits and boundaries, no respect can be established, and without respect being established, trust cannot be established.

💋 Loving a toxic person means standing on your morals no matter what. This will establish strong, sturdy boundaries and provide the opportunity for each person in the relationship to grow through self-sacrifice and purposed limitations, which creates self-discipline and a healthy mindset of humility.

💞 Healthy relationships thrive on moral stability. This is because moral stability creates a foundation of solidity, gives each person in the relationship a common grounds, and empowers each individual in the relationship with the gift of accountability, which is one of the best buffers against toxicity that healthy relationships provide.

💔 Toxic relationships that are filled with enabling attitudes and actions create strife and devastation so quickly because they are constantly shifting, never have a centrifuge of safety, and never allow for accountability, which kills the opportunity for growth and positive change.                                                                        -Gavi, your Advocate for Healthy Relationships

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👑 Dear Advocates: 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 As I mentioned in Part 1, healthy relationships are completely possible to achieve through broken, unhealthy people. The truth of this statement relies on the mutual commitment of each individual in the relationship to accept the challenges that love presents through its pure character. 💔 Also, each of us brings a certain level of toxicity to each relationship we have, and this is due to the open wounds we still harbor and need to heal. This is perfectly normal, and something that love is designed to fix and heal through its beautiful, warrior-like character. 💘 Understanding the differences between enabling a toxic person and loving a toxic person will greatly help you understand your relationship with yourself, as well as all of the relationships in your life. Are you enabling, or loving? Let's see: 🚫 Enabling means allowing the toxic person to stay toxic. This is not an act of love, but an act of passivity, laziness, and cowardice, which all have their roots in FEAR. Enabling a toxic person means that your thoughts, emotions, and actions are all rooted in fear; fear of rocking the boat, fear of losing someone, fear of being wounded again, fear of being wrong, fear of anything that your mind associates back to your open wounds. This fear produces more toxicity because it ignores the root of the wound and continues to add more wounds on top of it. 💋 Loving a toxic person means challenging the toxic person to get better. This is one of love's finest attributes, because it is an act that is selfless, honorable, and courageous, which all have their roots in HUMILITY. Loving a toxic person means that your thoughts, emotions, and actions are all rooted in humility; humility that is willing to rock the boat to save someone's life, humility that is willing to lose someone if it means speaking the truth, humility that is willing to be wounded again in order to help someone else, humility that isn't afraid of being wrong, but of being silent. 💪 Love's strength is manifested in its consistent ability to challenge the roots and strongholds of toxicity with humility. Healthy relationships are founded in the fiery passions of deep humility; a humility that is willing to self-sacrifice and overcome challenges of character change and submission to change for enhancement of the quality of your life, relationships, and influence. 🚫Enabling means saying with pride to the toxic person within yourself, "I don't need to change my thought patterns, I don't need to change my beliefs, I don't need to change anything because all of my wounds aren't my fault, but the fault of others. I don't need to change my behaviors and actions because I'm not the problem; everyone else is." 💋Loving means saying with humility to the toxic person within yourself, "I am willing to change my thought patterns, I am willing to change my beliefs, I am willing to change whatever I need to change in order to overcome these wounds and become a better person." 💫 The toxic people in your life won't get better and won't get healing if you enable them instead of love them (the same can be said for the toxic person within yourself). Enabling means worrying about their comfort and emotions (or your own); loving means challenging them to move outside of their comfort zone, face their fears, control their emotions, and going through pain with them so long as they're willing to put mutual efforts into answering whatever challenge love highlights for healing (all applicable to yourself as well).                                                                            -Gavi, your Advocate for Healthy Relationships

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👑 Dear Advocates:

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Healthy relationships are completely possible to achieve with broken, unhealthy people; those people, however, must be mutually willing to make the changes that true love will inevitably bring around during the healing process.

💔Humans aren't perfect, and so often relationships crumble due to not knowing how to handle our weaknesses. After all, we struggle with our own weaknesses as individuals, how in the world are we supposed to help someone else through theirs?

💘 The answer lies somewhere in between the differences between loving a toxic person and enabling a toxic person - and yes, I'm using that word "toxic" because we all have our own areas of toxicity that we bring to each relationship based on our current open wounds, whether we like to admit it or not.

🚫 Enabling a toxic person means silencing your convictions; this is not a good measure of love at all, but in fact, the opposite. Silencing your convictions means making compromises that are fatal to your moral structure; this may be something as small as telling a lie when you know honesty is needed, or something as big as looking the other way when wrong things occur simply because you don't know how else to handle the situation.

⚠️ What happens when we silence our convictions is that cognitive dissonance sets in, piece by piece. Cognitive dissonance is saying or doing something that you don't really believe in, creating an underlying feeling of distrust within yourself, which also creates a lackadaisical and passive approach to everything else in life. When you don't trust yourself and your convictions have been silenced, you're enabling the toxic person within yourself as well as the person you're in relationship with.

💋 Loving a toxic person means silencing the sin; this is the best measure of love one can achieve, other than literally sacrificing your life for someone. Silencing the sin means staying true to your convictions and working through each situation with a strong approach of love's character: honesty, integrity, reliability, loyalty, right doing, patience, etc. This means making decisions that include staying true to your convictions, but doesn't leave the other person wanting or in need.

💞 Love will always find a way to work through situations the right way, without convictions having to be silenced. Love will always find a way to silence instead, the sin, by covering each situation with consistency of character.

💝 Healthy relationships are built on a solid foundation of love, and love will always bring about positive change for a better future, even if great pain is needed to be endured while the open wounds are being healed.

💔Unhealthy relationships are built on a faltering foundation of enabling, and enabling will always bring about negative change for a dark future; great pain will be endured not for the sake of healing, but for the sake of worsening the already open wounds creating the toxic behaviors.

☝️ Advocate for Healthy Relationships today, and ask yourself if you're loving the toxic person within yourself, challenging yourself to stay true to your convictions, or are you enabling the toxic person within yourself, silencing your convictions and allowing the damage to continue? Ask yourself the same for the people you're currently in relationship with. Are you enabling the toxic person within them, or loving the toxic person with them? Choose LOVE!                                                                          -Gavi, Your Advocate for Healthy Relationships

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👑Dear Survivors: 💎One of my favorite qualities of we survivors is that we have eyes to see the needs and hurts of others. 🤕Abusers don't have these same eyes. Abusers see only for themselves and what would feed their twisted inner desires. 💔Survivors are able to hone in on pain, hurt, needs, both physical and emotional, within only minutes of speaking to someone. Survivors see the beauty that is inside a person, even if it is buried beneath layers of rubble and brokenness. Survivors even see some of that mess as the beauty. 👀Victims have this quality too. Victims, on the other hand, get hurt by missing the bigger picture - by blotting out the image of the beast in order to feed the creature inside.

💦Victims see the hurts and pains of others too, even if they don't see their own. However, they oftentimes will ignore the violence, pride, and anger of the abuser in order to keep feeding the abuser inside because they feel as if they are the only people in the world who will keep this beast alive.

💫The difference between a survivor's mentality and a victim's mentality is that a survivor will know when to protect themselves against the beast, and a victim will look at themselves as the beast instead of the person who bit them.👑Survivors, you can love someone enough through the pain to help them stop being the beast.✊Victims, you can never love someone enough through the pain if you don't first do the same for yourself. Become a survivor today by walking away from the monster and learning how to love without fear.

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👑Dear Survivors: 📝This is a lesson that was hard for me to learn after enduring 11 years of abuse from my daddy and ex-husband. 🙈As a victim, playing pretend is the only way you get through the day. 💩Put on a smile, fake a laugh, try to read your abuser's body language and anticipate shifts in the atmosphere. ☠️The truth is, in some aspects, the victims and the abusers aren't much different in this situation. They're both pretending. 💀Abusers pretend innocence when confronted by the victim, or by outsiders. Abusers pretend their violence and abnormal use of you is completely normal, completely acceptable. They pretend. 🤕As a survivor, learning how to take off the mask was rough. The mask was comfortable. I could hide myself so others couldn't see the real me. I thought I was protecting myself. 🤥I wasn't. I was just prolonging my membership in the victim's club, wasting my life away in an emotional chaos, and sometimes an emotional numbness. 👑Survivors, you're not pretenders, you just ARE. You are: saved by grace, strong, filled with hope, having clear vision for a perpetually better future. Don't allow yourself to live behind a mask. Discover who you are without the abuse in your life, and you'll find the diamonds that were being made in the middle of all that pressure! 💎💎💎 💫Here's to the Survivor's Spark in YOU! #NotAVictim #SurvivorNotVictim #metoo #gavrielapowers #gaviwarrior #gavi #love #survivor #healthyrelationships #emotionalhealing #healing #lovewarrior #thoughtwarrior #strength #strong #real #healthymind #positivequotes #positivevibes #positivity #healing #faith #hope #healthymindset #free #nomoreabuse #diamonds #gifts #pain #beauty

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Reflection is good for the soul. It will take you places where you're no longer whole, And show you a new season, A different reason For this pain you've endured... #reflection #NotAVictim #SurvivorNotVictim #metoo #gavrielapowers #gaviwarrior #gavi #poetry #millennial #healing #lovewarrior #thoughtwarrior