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When you spend half a grand on a decent packer and can’t show it to anyone

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I don’t know who’s active anymore and would like to follow active blogs. Rb if some/any/all apply to you!

- LGBT blog

- You think LGBT if the full acronym

- Ace exclusionist

- Transmed or neutral on the topic

- You only have calm debates and are against harassing or bullying people online for having different opinions

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Reading wiki entries for historical trans men…

Dr. James Barry, Albert Cashier, Charley Parkhurst, Billy Tipton, and Dr. Alan Hart could have each written “I am a man and want to be recognized across history as such” and transphobes would still be like… “wow what misunderstood butch heroes… lesbian icons!!!!”

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Ten year old me asking if I can go outside to play with my friends

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List of things I want

A penis

A penis

A penis

A penis

Did I mention I want a penis

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i think i'd like non-binary labels better if they weren't just all the most disgustingly corny shit ever concieved. like phrases inclusive of non-binary people are ALWAYS some shit like "attention ladies/gentlemen/PAL-LY-O'S!" or "one day you'll get a boyfriend/girlfriend/special lil squishy person :3" or "hey dudes/dudettes/dude-illi-doo-dees" or "to all my kings, queens, and silly little royal friends..." like you know what. don't ever refer to me as a non-binary person actually if that's how it's gonna be just call me dude it's not that hard

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love is stored in the

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Im physically crying

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People who claim “TERF is a slur” in a nutshell

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sooo much of the discourse surrounding “biology” in terms of medical treatment/gender markers/id for trans people is...highly inaccurate. if a trans woman who’s been on hrt for a few years is given the same amount of adrenaline as a cis man it could kill her. the genitals of trans men on t are not the same as cis women’s. all medical treatment should be tailored to the individual & treating trans bodies as if they are our agab is dangerous

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can’t wait to present my govt issued transsexual identification card trying to buy a beer and just get fucking beaten to death by some guy in line behind me

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im well aware not all tucutes do this but some of u rlly gotta stop sending that “youll never be cis” “youre always gonna be trans” shit to transmeds u aint slick and we all kno ur trying to make them dysphoric

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What’s with the obsession with “hoarding/collecting genders”? I see too many MOGAI blogs with gender hoards?

This honestly only proves to me that they see gender as a cute accessory, nothing more than a bracelet, hair clip, or necklace. You can’t hoard genders. They aren’t candy wrappers that you think are pretty and are sure you’ll find a use for one day. You can’t collect genders, They aren’t coins or rocks, or shells, or beads, or stamps.

If you really want to tell me that being “icegender”, “leafgender”, “stargender”, etc. Is a real thing, don’t go hoarding and collecting labels. Because when you do that, you diminish every single argument you have for those genders being valid genders, since you’re now treating them like glitter glue.

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"so basically i'm just gonna use ableism to justify my hatred of men"

“It is hard to hold a conversation with some people, especially men. My personal theory is that most men begin to suffer from testosterone-induced autism when they grow older. Among the symptoms are the gradual atrophy of social intelligence and communication skills, as well as difficulties with expressing their thoughts. Victims of this illness rarely speak and are often lost in thought. They focus their interest on tools and machinery. They are attracted by the history of the Second World War and biographies of famous persons, most often politicians and criminals. The ability to read novels disappears almost completely, as testosterone-induced autism makes it impossible to understand the psychology behind literary characters.”

— Olga Tokarczuk, 2019 Literature Nobel Prize winner

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the inherent horor of being trans is knowing you are the single touchstone a cis person will probably ever have

im reminded of when i went to sit my philosophy exam and had an ex-officer as an invidulator. he asked me if i was trans, something i had no obligation to answer. but if i didnt, i would be cagey. i would now paint an image of all trans people being rude in his mind, so i said yes

that invidulator asked me why, as a trans student, i should have my rights respected if there are so few of us

and instead of rightfully getting pissed off, i had to remember that i am currently representing a community of millions to a single man in a room with just the two of us in it. i could be the deciding factor on how he conducts behaviour with trans people in the future. what if he gets called to invidulate again in 20 years time and has another trans student? what if he remembers the one he met before, and instantly assumes he knows our community?

so i explained to him why i should have rights. and i used my words carefully, because if i slip up even once i have now put a trans person in danger, because he has made a choice based on me

trans people dont get to be angry. cis people always joke about how we demand a space, or we demand the right name, or we demand they bow down to us

think very carefully, did that trans woman demand that you use the right name, or did she correct you? did that trans man hold you at gunpoint, demanding you let him piss in public, or did he look like he wanted to use the disabled toilet to avoid bothering you all together. did the nonbinary trans person have you on your knees begging for forgiveness, or did they ask nicely for you to be mindful of their pronouns?

the transphobic narrative is one of victimhood, meanwhile if i even use the wrong tone cis people will act as a child does, and they will demand that the next trans person they meet apologise

every trans person you meet is aware of this too. we're all very tuned into the fact that we are ambassadors, and that we never asked to be that. i dont want to have to very carefully consider 'will a curt answer mean someome later dies', but every day of my life i do

and cis people need to know that. to be trans is to literally walk on constant eggshells of cis fragility. its why when we see a new trans celebrity we have to desperately hope they dont do stupid fucking shit like caitlyn jenner did. because now everyone thinks trans women are like her. because now negotiations for our right to exist unmolested have gone back another 20 years

and tbh, cis people are pathetically weak. a trans person asked you to use the right name? that did not happen in a vacuum. that trans person has met 50-60 cis people today who refused

and guess what? we get tired too

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saying "self-love/acceptance is a cure for gender dysphoria" absolutely is harmful to dysphoric people.

you dont get rid of a disorder, likely sparked from neurological causes, by "learning to love yourself," and saying thats a solution is not only wrong but could lead trans people to blame themselves for symptoms they cant control.

some dysphoric people can find help in self-love exercises, but this doesnt work for everyone. in fact, its likely to not help in most cases. transition IS the most useful treatment for dysphoria, but of course theres other ways to treat the symptoms that may spawn from gender dysphoria itself (ie. social anxiety, self-confidence issues, isolation, etc.).

but dont act like you can just cure gender dysphoric disorder through "self-love". it may help for some people and thats a really amazing thing, but it definitely wont work for everyone.