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Trapped

(A poem about sexual assault that women face)

Fathomless scars below my cheeks,

Deep lines added to my beauty:

Lines that are still incomplete

Leaving a huge impact on me,

Forcing me to ponder on the past;

Edging me towards an uncertain path,

Trying to break the knot to set me free.

Handkerchief stained with blood of brutal honesty

Trying to wipe the stained tears;

A ray of sunshine healing me with warmth

While time struggles to cover the layers.

Yet the wounds are fresh as dew;

Breath hitched even at the open view,

Finding a way out of the dreed

To set my soul free apart for an unassailable lead.

- Vismay, Intern @lemmebe_official

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Slumber Saturday -By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe Why read Bukowski? I have lived a life so far where I have never had to drink and drive rashly while streams of tears are running down my face because I lost the love of my life. I have never met a prostitute, or talked to them, or slept among the rats. This is the life Bukowski has lived and written about over and over again. What has always drawn a colossal readership is not just his poetry style or words particularly, but his intention to not sugar coat anything. His poetry has often been described as raw. He might not seem like an idealistic man, but his words never lie. His perversion, his love, anger, misanthropy- none of it remains hidden from the world. He came back home every night and wrote all that he felt about the day. He reduced angels to dogs and men and women to filth. His misogyny, of course, is not hidden either. Despite that, I could not help myself from going back to his poetry over and over again, especially on melancholic days. His poetries read you back to yourself. There is no false promise of things falling into place at the end of the day; no hope that life gets better, and yet it is not entirely hopeless, and hence I go back to it. It is what it is- the human condition. Dogs, angles, rats, cigarettes, women, prostitutes, and filth, he prepares for everything that my life might ever throw me into. . . . #book #booklover #booksbooksbooks #poetsofinstagram #poetryisnotdead #poemsporn #poetryislife #poetryislove #poetrylovers #bookrecommendations #bukowski #poems #poemsdaily #bookreviewer #bookreviews #bookstagram #booksthatinspire #bookstagrammer https://www.instagram.com/p/CWyAYkIMdNh/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Slumber Saturdays Book review: Charlotte Bronte's Jane Eyre -Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe What is the definition of a good man? It definitely is not a man who falls in love with his child's tutor, half his age, and keeps his wife hidden in the attic and lies about it so that he can marry her. Mr. Rochester isn't the ideal man, but I have other complaints about this book. This book is claimed to be a feminist novel, but Jane's character seems otherwise. The strength and courage of her childhood are somehow lost in the more talked about parts of the book. She falls in love with Mr. Rochester despite her better judgment. However, when she does find about his secret, she runs away from her marriage. A big part of me feels like that is where the book should have ended. That is only how far I liked it and appreciated Jane's character. Unfortunately, the book carries on and lands her under the control of another passive-aggressive man. She goes from the control of one man to another. Despite Jane being very stubborn and rebellious inside her head, she hardly ever speaks up. Over and over again, she does not stand up for herself when she should have. Although a drag, the book could have ended there as well, with either her going to India against her will or refusing to be forced into a life of servitude she did not want. But it carried on. She finds out that the madwoman in the attic has died and Mr. Rochester can be hers now. She was too blinded in love to question if any of it was her lovers doing. She finally accepts him, now that he is helpless and blind and not as imperious or domineering as he used to be. Now he needed her more than she needed him. The relationship was never among equals; they never treated each other that way either. P.s. I know this is an unpopular opinion about the book . . . #book #booklover #booksbooksbooks #booklovers #bookrecommendations #bookreviewer #booksthatinspire #bookreviews #booksaboutwomen #books #bookstagrammer #bookstagram #novels #classic #brontesisters #charlottebronte #janeeyre #novel #femaleauthors #femalecharacter https://www.instagram.com/p/CWgBvg8sCnR/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Slumber Saturday Female characters in Fantasy fiction -By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe I have always been a big fan of fantasy fiction and action series, but I have always felt some things missing. With the last few decades, we have seen a rise in female action figures, yet it remains dominated by men. Even when a group of thieves performs a heist or criminals outsmart cops, the leader is always a man. The female characters often end up in roles supporting him. Somehow, the calculating, cold, heartless shrewd one is never the woman. The woman always points the gun at someone but does not shoot, while the man always does. You may ask why I am this adamant about villainizing the women, but what I am trying to convey is very different. What I am trying to write about is the inherent bias that exists within us. We have been raised around stereotypes, not just based on gender but also stereotyped emotionally and intellectually. It is only we, as writers and readers, who can change this. We need an abundance of Hermione Grangers and Cruellas in our books. The same goes for male characters. We need less Christian Grays and more J Gatsbys, softer, kinder, loyal, and sacrificing. Of course, our books are nothing but a representation of our societies and our mindsets. There are always more men in leadership positions, and this is what gets reflected in the books. The books with an abundance of strong female characters attract only the female audience, while those with strong male characters attract all genders. Here, marketing takes priority over the characters. This is why the narrative does not change fast. Men have an essential part to play in this; to pick up the books with strong female characters and notice their inherent bias lurking in the shadows. It is we who have to overcome it and thus change the narrative. #lemmebe #LemmeBe #book #booklover #booksbooksbooks #bookrecommendations #booksthatinspire #booksaboutwomen #fantasy #fantasybooks #writerscommunity #writersofinstagram #writers #bookstagrammer #bookstagram #femaleauthors #femalecharacter https://www.instagram.com/p/CWN9WyfMa8P/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Unthoughtfull kindness that women possess. -By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe A woman is a woman's worst enemy. This has been the stereotypical narrative most of us grew up with. The movies, books, and television shows did their part to reinforce this same idea as well. Despite all this, I have only seen the women portray unthoughtful kindness over and over again as I grew up. For someone who has always been labeled heartless, I realized I possessed it too. It is something innate that only we can understand. What I am talking about is something you all must have experienced and done several times in your life. It is the kind act of lending menstrual products, from pads to tampons, especially when another woman ends up in a situation of emergency. The first time I saw it and got involved in it was in 6th grade, when I hadn't known about periods yet. A classmate suddenly started bleeding, and most of us had no idea what to do. Before the class ended and we could slip her to the nursing room, we sat around her and stood around her so that not a single person could see what was going on. We were an army of women you could not pass through. What shocks me most is that I never got along with her. Despite that, I did what everyone else did-protected. Over the last decade, I've lent and borrowed several pads and tampons. Mind you, these things do not come cheap, and yet the thought of money never crossed. I have taught some to wear a tampon. Some others had once taught me, and it was only natural to pass on the knowledge. I have never seen a woman refuse this help to another woman. Some of it also arises from a common history of shame that all of us have faced, once or more, due to an accidental stain. It is a kindness born from within due to a shared misfortune of being a menstruator and never being accepted openly for it. #womensupportingwomen #women #womenempowerment #menstrualhealth #periods #period #lemmebe #girls #tampons #periodproblems #periodpositive #periodsolutions #menstruation #menstruationmatters #menstruators https://www.instagram.com/p/CWLYx0KskdL/?utm_medium=tumblr

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The era of teen tampons -By @moody_kurls , intern at @just.lemmebe I grew up wearing pads in my teens, and so did all my friends. In fact, we had not heard of tampons until our late teens and twenties. Frankly, the first time I wore a tampon was a painful disaster. Tampons bring with them an unnecessary fear of insertion. I knew nothing about different tampon sizes, nor had I any idea about my own vaginal anatomy. All I knew was I had a dire need of another option beyond pads. As the bleeding became heavier and longer with age, the pad rashes worsened, so much so that even walking on the fifth day left a painful burning sensation on my buttocks. Being an athletic kid only added to the problem. Pads restricted movement and ended me up gloomily in the nursing rooms during games periods. Only if I knew about tampons back then would I have had it so much easier. With more and more teens shifting to tampons, it is gradually providing them more freedom. Of course, it does not help with pain and cramps, but periods are natural, and a period product must not add constraints to a young girl's life. Period constraints not just affect a girl's bodily freedom but emotionally, othering her from those who seem carefree and unabashed by anything. While my sporty spirit stopped at nothing, not even the painful cramps or rashes, most of my female friends gave up on sports. It came to the point that there were only a few girls left who still participated in sports, and most of us ended up playing with the boys because we couldn't convince the girls to participate. Had we known about a tampon back then, we would have gladly given up our pads in exchange. We would have loved a leak-proof, stain-free experience of moving around, playing, not sleeping straight, riding our bicycles in the rain, and so much more. To all the teens out there, do not let go of the blessing you have. Take it from me. For those of us that couldn't have the best experience, we would do anything to go back and change it. . . . #tampons #tampon #LemmeBe #teenagers #teengirl #menstrualhealth #menstrualhygiene #periodstruggleisreal #periodsolution #periodproblems #periodcare #periodsolutions💕 https://www.instagram.com/p/CWGO9kZsbbQ/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Book review of Leigh Bardugo's Six Of Crows. -By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe This book was my father's gift to me on my 21st birthday. It had been recommended to me numerous times before as well. This book takes you around the story of six outcasts, with all except one, having a history of crime, who team up to perform a heist. Although the very reason they do it is either the money and/or their freedom, they are all trying to fix their lives and make them better. The heist's target is to rescue a scientist from the ice courts prison who has all the required knowledge behind Jurda Parem. This drug could make a Grisha all-powerful but also destroy them in the process. However, none of these people were criminally inclined. Their twisted fates and tragic childhoods landed them here, and they all wish to undo it to some extent or another. As Helvar thinks, "They are all survivors. They adapt." People are not born imbeciles or criminal-minded; grief, trauma, and tragedy often swirls the morally correct to give up everything and walk into the darkness just to survive. Kaz, aka Dirtyhands, leads the heist. The team has Inej or Wraith, the spider; Wylan, the demolition expert; Nina, the Grisha soldier; Matthias Helvar, a prisoned druskelle; and Jesper, the sharpshooter. They are all teenagers, the oldest being eighteen. The further you read through the book, the more you sympathize with every character. This book might be set in an imaginary land, and the characters might seem to possess some magical powers, but their stories will hit close to home. At the end of the day, they were just like us before their tragedies swept them up and threw them into places they never wanted to be in. It turned them into beings they promised themselves they would not become. . . . #book #booklover #booksbooksbooks #booklovers #bookreview #bookrecommendations #booksthatinspire #booksaboutwomen #sixofcrows #leighbardugo #leighbardugobooks #bookstagram #bookstagrammer #bookstack #authorsofinstagram #writers #writerscommunity https://www.instagram.com/p/CVX3b50MI7G/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Book review of Haruki Murakamis' Norwegian Wood. -Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe I plugged in my headphone and chose a playlist to sink into as I worked. Songs of The Beatles started moving from my head to my heart, through the passageway of my ears. As I reached the song Norwegian wood, I was transported into the land of Murakami. It was this song that had inspired him to title the book so. Toru Watanabe, the protagonist, is about my age, ripening from his teens to twenties. He narrates the story, and it revolves around him, Naoko, and Midori, all of whom are deeply broken individuals stitched together by a some or the other shared grief. Their stories revolve around love and loss, and how it permanently scars and changes people, sometimes to a degree that they become irredeemable. Murakamis style of writing is other wordly. His writing makes you lose sense of time; you suddenly realize you are 100 pages down and the last time you looked up it was day, but now the sun has set. The book was published in 1980s and has some significant problematic aspects as well. The characters are enforced with gender stereotypes. Toru (and other males charaters), has, wants, and gets to experience more physical intimacy (and from many) than all the female charaters combined. There are also unnecessary sexual plots, that does nothing to lead the story further, but only reminds you that it is being narrated by a 19 year old boy whose world view, despite going through a lot, is shabby. Whether that is a deliberate choice by Murakami or not, I don't know. Despite all that I found flawed in the book, the way loss, grief, pain and death is portrayed in the life of seemingly insignificant young adults will pull your life resonating into the story here and there. In the times when you have no one listening to you, the book will. . . . #norwegianwood #murakami #harukimurakami #booksbooksbooks #bookrecommendations #booksthatinspire #bookstagram #bookreview #booksbooksbooks #booksaboutwomen #murakamiharuki #writersofinstagram #author #japan #bookslover #booklover #booklovers #booklove #5stagesofgrief https://www.instagram.com/p/CVF2Wcsh9c-/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Book review: Arundhati Roy's 'The god of small things' -Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe "It really began in the days when the love laws were made. The laws that lay down who should be loved and how. And how much." Every page in the book gives me goosebumps. The book intersects between several themes: love, loss, grief, discrimination, politics, and the facade of social justice. The story is set in Kerela, where a divorcee, with her two-egg twins, moves in with her parents and divorced brother. Like all families, they are torn and stitched repeatedly by conflict, death, a pickle industry, love for their children, lies, communist politics, and so much more. It also revolves around the twins, who, despite being very separate individuals, are so connected that they thought of themselves together as 'Me.' Individually as 'We' or 'Us.' Rahel has giggled about Esthas dreams (which he hasn't told her about) and all those things he has been through but never talked about (trying so hard not to give spoilers). Rahel has been through them, too, just not in a physical sense. Anything I say further will be a spoiler, mainly because I feel deeply about this book. Let me just say; a secret love story ensues, leading to the separation of the mother from the twins and her family, deaths, and further the separation of the twins. By the end, only the aunt and the cook are left behind in the large house that has started to fall apart like the family. The characters weave themselves into a twisted tale leading to the death of two lovers, two traumatized children, and a home left devastated. Roy's poetic way of storytelling also cycles you beautifully through the past and present, wringing your heart until you are left with nothing but eyes drowning with tears. . . . #bookstagram #bookreview #thegodofsmallthings #arundhatiroy #storytelling #story #novel #indianwriters #book #bookrecommendations #writer #lemmebe #booksthatinspire #indianauthors #bookslover #booksbooksbooks #booksaboutwomen https://www.instagram.com/p/CUz0pCkBW5E/?utm_medium=tumblr

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We say health is wealth but how many of us value and prioritize it? Exerting ourselves day & night, we take our health for granted. Although we do take rest when we are unwell, but the moment we lie on our beds we start feeling shivers of guilt for avoiding work! Hence, the cycle continues. After Covid struck, being scared to death, we managed to think back on our lifestyle. Getting a shocker in terms of physical health we stumbled back on our feet but in terms of mental health we always fail to address it. So, let's talk about a health problem that is most talked about & least prioritized: Mental Health. It was debated whether it falls under 'Health' & what must fall within or beyond it for decades. In most communities across India, it is still considered that those who seek help from mental health professionals are, as the name suggests, 'MENTAL.' This limits many from seeking help, the consequence being death in some. The highest cases of undetected anxiety, depression, and all other forms of mental disorders exist among teenagers. While the conditions can range from childhood trauma to hormonal disorders, and the symptoms can range from nervous breakdowns to seemingly asymptomatic, the implication can be a person leading a miserable life, and in severe cases, suicide. Outgrowing these challenges takes years, or decades, even with the help of the professionals, there are a few things we all can try. Meditation helps the brain calm down and detangle thoughts of daily life. Whenever you feel down, talk to people who love and understand you. Take some time to self-reflect too. Everyone has a story. People are the way they are due to their past experiences. Forgive, and look beyond mistakes. Most importantly, don't hesitate to seek help from health professionals. To have a healthy lifestyle, mental well-being is essential. To achieve that, emotional band-aids must be applied and wounds redressed until they heal. By @moody_kurls, intern at @just.lemmebe #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthsupport #health #healthylifestyle #healthybodyhealthymind #love #loveoutloud #suicideprevention #depression #anxiety #mental #meditation #forgiveness https://www.instagram.com/p/CUaDZotpdqN/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Skincare for winter periods. -By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe Winter is coming! This can be scary even beyond GOT for some. Soon enough, all of us will be worried about our skincare, especially for those of us with dry skin. I've seen my skin go from just cracking to wounding up during severe cold. Through all these years of reevaluating my skincare, winter after winter, here are my two cents: 1. Of course, the winter sun doesn't seem harsh, and you might even love to be out in it, but it is as damaging as the summer months. The UV rays affect the sun equally, summer or winter. Don't forget to wear your sunscreen. 2. If your skin dries up quickly in winters, moisturize. Find an oil or moisturizer that lasts for long hours. Dry skin can crack up and be an opening to bacteria that otherwise cannot enter the body. 3. Not everything that makes the skin healthy is to be applied to it. Although you might not feel dehydrated, remember to drink plenty of water. Adding various collagen products to it will also enrich the skin; keep it plumped and hydrated. 4. Hyaluronic acid is a go-to for hydrated skin. Hydrate the face with a serum or non-comedogenic oil that does not dry off quickly and forms a layer preventing evaporation. 5. Further, monitor and modify your diet. This will, of course, vary from person to person. Eat more salads, fruits, and fish products. Your skin changes like the season, and along with it. To stick to the same routines throughout the year is a blunder a lot of people make. Let this winter be better with healthier, hydrated, and supple skin. . . . #winter #skincare #skincareroutine #skincaretips #skincareproducts #skincarejunkie #skincarecommunity #skincareaddict #lemmebe #woman #womanpower #womanstyle #womensupportingwomen #teenagers #winterskin #winterskincare #winterskincareroutine #instagram #instagood #instadaily #instafashion https://www.instagram.com/p/CUXh0gqJ0o8/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Cat Calling -By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe Why blame the cat for something which only humans ever do? Staying home for about two years had me forget how much it happened daily. As soon as I started to go out of the house frequently, I realized how much I would miss the safety of my room that the pandemic had offered (It had its downsides, I will not deny). The sudden realization dawned on me when I went out to buy a pack of bread for my train journey. It had been the second time I had left my house in about six months. A bunch of men were unloading a truck, one of whom started singing a line that was clearly directed at me. He shut up once I went into the shop. As soon as I came out, he started again. This time his mate tried to shut him up. I did what most women do: ignored him and exited the scene quickly. Throughout the journey further, this happened several times over. I and my girlfriends would be having fun, laughing, fooling around, and suddenly we would encounter a group of men gawking at us or a sudden unsolicited comment that would take away all our smiles. What we would remember for the rest of the day is that one comment, or the stares, that ruined it all. Despite all this, I have hope. Yes, I have seen men who would make me uncomfortable, pass comments, or even try to touch inappropriately, but I have also met men who would come forward to shut such men, stand up for/with me and make sure I reach home safely, even if they had to take longer routes. . . . #catcalling #cat #catcallingisnotacompliment #womenabuse #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen #women #lemmebe #LemmeBe #womenempoweringwomen #postpandemic #postpandemictravel #homesafehome #storytelling #storytime #storyteller https://www.instagram.com/p/CT2HJ8csSSh/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Dive into emotions

As I watched the sunrise for the last time with my friends, I wished sincerely that I could pause this moment. I did not want the trip to end, but of course, every beginning has an end. Crying (at least publicly) is embarrassing. My life had been lived by this motto. I would instead lock up all my feelings than accept and feel them through. Except, this time, vulnerability was a strength I did not know I possessed. It was the pillar on which our friendship formed. All of us saw all the others cry, especially while parting. Those like me finally opened the locked chambers and let the emotions fly out, very inarticulately at first, either just as anger or as tears. Slowly, I started to show what I felt: love, care, and warmth as the days went by.

Being emotional can be extremely messy, especially if you are as inarticulate as me. Your nose starts to flow like the beach sand from your fingers. But it can be precious in forging friendships, showing genuine vulnerability, care and love. Not everyone understands what they feel, but to let other people see and sometimes explain it to you as a reflecting mirror can be a blessing in disguise.

Sometimes the emotions make sense, some other times they don’t. And some other times, it can be just your period hormones swinging you from one end to another. Your emotions are always valid despite what, how, and when they torment or energize the heart. To feel intensely is to be truly human and not a machine.

-Supriya, intern at @lemmebegirls

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Lube it up: Guide to choosing your period product.

By Supriya, intern at @lemmebegirls

Pads, tampons, cups, discs, and period panties, and then there comes the analysis paralysis. The more the options, the harder it is to choose. We all might have started with pads and then gradually moved on as the market introduced us beyond what our moms knew.

But often, the knowledge to use it remains shallow. The same methods may not work for everyone. While blood in itself is a good lubricant that will help you slip the cups, tampons, and discs inside, it might not be so for everybody.

Here are a few tips on how to insert them with lube:

“All lubes are equal, but some lubes are more equal than others,” a sentence all George Orwell fans (or otherwise) must accept. Lube can either be water-based or oil-based. While oil-based lubes can dissolve latex (the material from which condoms are made) and adversely affect medical-grade silicone (the material used for cups and discs), water-based lubes would not do so.

The cups, tampons, and discs vary in size, and you must only use the proper size. It may not always slip in smoothly whether your vagina is, or is not, lubricated with mucus and blood. Hence, using lube can turn out essential.

A menstrual disc is no obstacle to sex even when it remains inserted. This, however, is not true for the other insertable products. Apply lube on yourself before insertion. Applying it to the disc can cause it to slip from your hands.

If you decide (and need) to use lube for easy insertion of menstrual products and are having sex, make sure to use water-based lube for the protection/condom to be intact. No, the disc is not enough protection by itself.

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What is silicone? By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe While holding a menstrual cup in one hand, moving towards sustainable menstrual products can be confusing. It was the same for me. What even is silicone? What is the difference between medical-grade silicone and non-medical ones? How is it sustainable when it resembles plastic so much? These questions are only the product of mind critically thinking, and the questions must be welcomed. But the proper answers are as necessary as misinformation is quick to spread. Here is what you need to know about medical-grade silicones. Silicones are synthetic rubbers or polymers that are both tough and safe. They do not easily break, degrade or leach, and are derived from natural silicon metal and silica sand. Hence, they are environmentally safe. Medical-grade silicones are biocompatible that does not react with human tissue. They are not just used in menstrual products but also in breast implants and baby bottles (food-grade silicones). The consistency of the material also makes it much more flexible and safer than hard rubbers and plastics. They are even safer than biodegradable tampons as they do not dry up the vaginal canal or disturb the vaginal microflora. A silicone cup or disc is also explicitly designed to cause no scratches to the vaginal tissue while slipping inside. If washed and sanitized properly, it is the most period-friendly material to exist so far. . . . #menstrualhygiene #menstruators #menstrualcups #menstrualcup #medicalgradesilicone #periodstories #periodsbelike #periodproblems #periodsolutions #sustainableperiod #sutainableproducts #sustainableperiodproducts #sustainableperiodproduct #sustainablemenstruation #sustainablemenstrualproducts #lube #lubes #waterbasedlube #sexed https://www.instagram.com/p/CSozpQfJqM-/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Body Dysmorphia

With people locked in their houses for more than a year, a rise in body dysmorphia and body dysmorphic disorder started. With physical activity being limited to the home or nearby, there was weight gain for many. Further, shifting to work online meant you saw yourself in video calls and meeting more often than you should. Humans are not made to look at themselves so much. With changing angles, light, and continuous observation and comparison of appearances, people only found more and more flaws in themselves.

Although I could say that it is all in your head, that won't solve anything. So here are some better solutions:

1. Pay more attention to friends and colleagues in a video meeting rather than constantly checking yourself. This will not only calm your anxiety about your appearances but also help in connecting with others better.

2. Have natural sources of light falling in (through a window maybe) wherever your desk is placed. Also, try setting your camera, phone, or laptop on a platform. This will make you look straight and keep your head up. To look down is to focus on that double chin god-forbid exists in a human face! In case you end up looking at it, chill. It's normal.

3. A pandemic should definitely not stop you from self-care. Work out in the home if possible. Or do the chores; that should sweat you out. Take care of yourself, and you will feel good. When you feel good, you look even better.

We, as social animals, are made to be around people (yes, even introverts). To pay so much attention to ourselves as to end up finding our flaws is not how life should be. When that voice inside your head calls you ugly, shut it down as you would for a friend demeaning herself.

-Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe

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Gender-Neutral Names By Supriya, intern at @just.lemmebe I believe gender-neutral names are the future. Why so? Lemme explain. Names are inherently genderfluid; they are made up, and so is their gender. But cross fitting names (masculine names on women and feminine names on men) might cause more harm than good. A gender-neutral name helps resolve it. Gender is a spectrum, and no matter where a person identifies to fall, so will the name. A lot of trans men and women, I know, also go on to change their names after transition or therapy, which they will not have to do. Their identities do not have to clash so much with their names. A neutral name also allows parents to let the child fit whoever he/she/they decide to identify as, in the future. Gender-neutral names open up a conversation about gender-neutral spaces and creates awareness about the spectrum gender exists in. I have grown with several people who had neutral names, and I cannot thank their parents enough, whether they thought of this concept or not. Some of those names are Krishna, Samarpreet, Dew, Soumya, Charu, etc. Although in India, gender isn't disclosed before birth, even to the parents, the west has celebrated the idea of gender reveal parties. That, to me, is questionable. To reveal gender is to ascertain it and affirm the idea that gender has several entities and isn't a spectrum. It is to already restrict an unborn baby to stereotyped binary gender norms. It is not only limiting but often also suffocating. Even Jenna Karvunidis, the woman to start gender reveal parties, now regrets it because it is problematic. Ironically, the baby girl born after that reveal is someone who expresses herself by wearing suits. #GenZ #GenerationZ #Millenials #youth #Blogs #Blogging #OnTheBlog #ReadNow #instagood #instadaily #Instahub #Instagrammers #LemmeBe #Gratitude #lgbtq🌈 #lgbtqally #Motivation #Lifestyle #genderneutralnames #genderneutralnamesonly #lgbtqai https://www.instagram.com/p/CROqMmPJbOO/?utm_medium=tumblr