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Be kind. Be careful. Be yourself. ✨

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cutie Yoongi after the concert’s over ♡

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Via @ parysatis

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Mood.

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Kuroba Mario - Teasers from With Magazine’s special book~

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Inspirational Images: Viva Zapata!

Photographed by David Bailey. Scanned by Miss Peelpants from Vogue, February 1973

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words that ease the ache

“All human wisdom is contained in these two words: wait and hope.” - Alexandre Dumas, The Count of Monte Cristo 

“But how could you live and have no story to tell?” - Fyodor Dostoyevsky 

“We began as wanderers, and we are wanderers still. We have lingered long enough on the shores of the cosmic ocean. We are ready at last to set sail for the stars.” - Carl Sagan 

“Let us step into the night and pursue that flighty temptress, adventure.” - J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince 

“You are a burning lamp to me, a flame / The wind cannot blow out, and I shall hold you / High in my hand against whatever darkness.” - Edna St. Vincent Millay, The Lamp and the Bell

“Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter.” - Star Wars V.: The Empire Strikes Back

“There are still faint glimmers of civilization left in this barbaric slaughterhouse that was once known as humanity.” - Wes Anderson, The Grand Budapest Hotel

“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now, for wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.” - Vincent Van Gogh 

‘Mozart, Beethoven, and Chopin did not die. They simply became music.” - Westworld 

“A young man on a nearby rooftop released his pigeons, like dreams, into the dawn.” - Leslie Feinberg, Stone Butch Blues

“I know you cannot live on hope alone, but without it, life is not worth living.” The Times of Harvey Milk, 1984 (dir. Rob Epstein)

“Imagine! Imagine! The wild and wondrous journeys still to be ours.” - Mary Oliver, Last Night the Rain Spoke to Me 

“At two o’clock in the morning, if you open your window and listen, / You will hear the feet of the Wind that is going to call the sun. / And the trees in the Shadow rustle and the trees in the moonlight glisten, / And though it is deep, dark night, you feel that the night is done.” - Rudyard Kipling 

“Mind you, sometimes the angels smoke, hiding it with their sleeves, and when the archangel comes, they throw the cigarettes away; that’s when you get shooting stars.” - Vladimir Nabovok 

“How far a little candle throws his beams! So shines a good deed in a weary world!” - William Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice  

“But then it passed, as all things do.” - Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed

“Goodnight and great love to you. We see the same stars.” - George Mallory to his wife Ruth during the Everest mission, 1921

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my top 100 books of all time ♔ 1/100

PRIDE AND PREJUDICE // JANE AUSTEN

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I hate Freud. His whole weird theory about penis envy and children being sexually attracted to their parents and secret desires and all that shit actually came straight out of an attempt to ally himself with wealthy and influential rapists and was a direct form of victim blaming.

He had started the research looking into “hysteria” which at the time was really usually referring to women’s symptoms of PTSD. It turned out that the reason so many woman had these symptoms is because so many of them had experienced sexual violence– especially CSA and incest at the hands of their fathers. 

At first he was making real progress, and it was through working with these women that he discovered that talk therapy could be used to treat trauma. The symptoms of PTSD were lessened when women were able to safely speak about their experiences out loud and be believed. 

But it wasn’t the women who paid for the therapy. It was their fathers, husbands, the same men who were perpetuating the violence in the first place. And Freud didn’t want to validate his patients (the women) if it meant making his clients (the men) unhappy.

So he came up with a new idea. These symptoms weren’t from trauma. The memories weren’t real. These women were just sexual beings as children and had penis envy and it made them lust for their fathers and fantasize about the rape that they had reported to him. That’s where the shittiest parts of Freud’s theories emerged. Another part of it besides just the monetary aspect, though, was that there was a feminist movement on the fringes starting up at the time and by publishing work about women’s CSA he would be aligning himself with it and therefore losing support, respect, funding, prestige from his male peers and from the psychological community at large. He literally made that gross victim blaming shit up to keep his own reputation with these fucks and to make sure he still got publication and fame.

By coming up with fake theory about little girls fantasizing about incest he not only fucked over generations of women, the feminist movement that was arising, and the entire psychology field for years to come, but he also completely swept away any progress made in understanding trauma and so we didn’t have any clue why men coming back from war had “hysteria” like women during WWI.

And our research on PTSD and trauma is still lacking to this day, especially because of the stigma that maybe traumatized people deserved it or wanted it or imagined it. People don’t want to believe it’s real. Perpetrators of traumatic violence want everyone to forget about it, not acknowledge it, or trivialize it.

And they have Freud’s cultural legacy to help them.

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THE LITTLE SOUND HE MADE

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