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Too many people hating on my girl after the new episode so I'm gonna give my opinion

To me, Ragatha is an incredibly realistic depiction of what it's like to be a woman in society. Her constantly playing nice and trying to appeal to others is something that many women do because showing anything about themselves that doesn't come off as a good trait or pleasing makes them seen as less than or "just being an asshole for no reason"

A good example of this is the scene where Pomni tells Ragatha to calm down after telling her it's okay to be a jerk sometimes. This is unfortunately SO realistic to how women in society will be told that it's okay to voice their opinions and that they're "seen and heard" but the second they act in a way that isn't pleasing to others or isn't seen as reasonable to the masses they're told to calm down cause they're "being irrational" and "bringing down the vibe"

And in the scene where Ragatha isn't asked what her backstory is and she has to take it upon herself to tell it without being asked is so important to me as well.

People hating on her for being mean to Jax in this episode even though Jax has been an asshole to almost every character in previous episodes is yet another case of how women, whether in fiction or reality, will NEVER be held to the same standards or treated the same as men

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I cannot stop thinking about Episode 5 of TADC because Ragatha is, however unintentionally, one of the best examples of how isolating and difficult it is to interact with the world as an autistic person I have ever seen. To the point it genuinely makes me sad to think about her. I need to make a post expanding on this at some point but rn just. The way everyone assumes there’s some sinister hidden meaning to everything she does and says but she’s literally just trying to be nice and she doesn’t understand why it’s not working. The way she tries so hard to make connections but it constantly falls flat, she says things that hurt without realising how or why. She follows the rules she’s been taught will make her friends — she’s kind, she’s forgiving, she’s accepting and apologetic when she messes up, but for some reason it’s just not working. She tries to mimic other people, she tries to laugh at past experiences, tries to open up about her past like everyone else is doing, but now everyone’s uncomfortable and looking at her like she’s crazy and she doesn’t get it!! She doesn’t get it!!! Jax is a jerk and he’s mean to everyone but for some reason Pomni likes him and she doesn’t get it, she doesn’t understand! Pomni tells her it’s okay to be a jerk sometimes but Ragatha doesn’t like being mean, she wants to be nice to people, but she does it anyway, she gets mean like Jax and Zooble do but now Pomni’s looking at her like she’s done something wrong but she just did what she asked her to!! She doesn’t get it!! At the end of the episode everyone goes off into their groups and Ragatha is left alone, after having tried so hard to make friends and fit in and make people like her, she’s still alone, and everyone thinks she’s weird and unapproachable and she just has to give up and accept that she is inherently unloveable. Her evil alter ego tells her she’s going to die alone and nobody loves her and the only thing she corrects her on is the fact that they can’t die here. The few that might like her when she’s around don’t miss her when she’s gone, because there’s nothing to miss. Ragatha has spent her whole life systematically stripping away everything that makes her different and unlikeable in order to make herself more palatable to others, and in the process she has made herself a personalitiless blank slate with no unique identity for others to latch onto and appreciate. She has nothing to add to any conversation because she’s too afraid of being disliked to have a memorable personality beyond being generally polite and nice. And just. God. Someone get this girl some noise cancelling headphones and a therapist on speed dial, being this good of a representation of what it’s like to be autistic, especially to be an autistic person with trauma, is not good for the soul. That final shot just destroys me right in the heart. My poor girl.

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My dear lgbt+ kids,

Getting out of a dark place can be terrifying.

You start to care about stuff again - and that opens up a lot of anxieties. After all, “I don’t care” is a very protective default emotion. When you don’t care about your life, it doesn’t matter if your room is clean or if your body is nourished or if you have friends etc. - you can just watch everything slip away. Everything sucks anyway, what’s one more loss?

But when you get better and you start to care about yourself again, you may worry about losing the things you worked so hard for. It took courage and a lot of hard emotional work to heal, so you may be terrified of getting worse again and having to go through all that again. You are suddenly very worried about your room getting messy again or about people leaving you or about getting sick… It can be very upsetting because you just started to feel happy again and now you suddenly worry all the time.

This can for example manifest in you freaking out every time you see the slightest sign of a bad day, not allowing yourself to feel any negative emotions at all because you don’t want to get bad again (which then backfires and leads to emotional breakdowns) or even in health anxiety (over-analyzing your body and jumping to worst case scenarios like cancer whenever you feel the slightest symptom). Health anxiety is often a sign that you are scared of losing control over your life - which is common when you just regained control.

If you relate to any of that, please know: it’s a good sign. It’s difficult to think of worries and anxieties as something positive - but it’s a normal phase of recovery. No, you are not getting worse, it actually signals the opposite!

You are getting better and sometimes “better” feels overwhelming because “bad” has been your comfort zone for so long. It’s just a sign that you’re leaving “bad” behind! You can be proud of yourself and all your progress, even when you are anxious.

With all my love,

Your Tumblr Dad

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i love it when a fandom agrees on one particular portmanteau ship name and you can tell it’s because the alternatives are all atrocious. like i don’t know anything about glee but even i know that they only call it “klaine” because no one would be able to take it seriously if it was “blurt”

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“Covid game me narcolepsy” no you fucking pervert it didn’t. You’re just a weirdo with a gross fetish. Covid didn’t make you suddenly want to fuck dead people. Keep that shit to yourself you gods damned weirdo

I have type 2 Narcolepsy. Studies have shown that serious viral infections can cause people to develop Narcolepsy if they are already genetically susceptible to having it. This includes covid. That is what happened to me.

You on the other hand might want to google the difference between Narcolepsy and Necrophilia….

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Sorry about the rant I'm just SO sick of this "we have to be on all the time never look away if you aren't upset about politics and traumatizing yourself watching people die on Twitter you're wrong and complicit and evil" like I know things are fucked and we need to stay angry but we can do that while also taking a minute to crack open a cold one with the boys or have gay sex or get tipsy at the line dance, we HAVE to have joy to remember why the fuck we're refusing to give up in the first place. Fight like hell for your loved ones and then also go home with them to smoke weed and drink sweet tea and make biscuits covered in honey and butter please, please don't deprive yourself of joy, you're allowed to be happy BEFORE the work is done. You're allowed to be happy.

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on my way! to live yet another day in my fucking life.

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nowhere else on the internet can you get content like this

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it is my experience that people with dermal implants and eyeball tattoos and 34 visible piercings are the sweetest people you'll ever meet and will cry if they see a pigeon with a broken wing. it is also my experience that clean-cut people in polo shirts with perfect smiles will vote against your rights and say the most disgusting things imaginable once they think you're out of earshot.

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don’t jokeship with me because 2 hours later i’ll have feels for the pairing.

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This is how the world should be ❤️