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How to stay away from depression

Something very shocking happened to me recently.  Last week I swiped a video of Rihanna's interview on TikTok. I was fascinated by one of the hostesses in the interview. Her interview style is humorous, and she looks super confident even in front of Rihanna. So I went to follow her on Instagram, and I found out that she is a lawyer and model who graduated from MBA. She also represented the United States in Miss World in 2019 and finished in the top 10. Now, she is currently a contract host. Every amazing thing I could imagine happens to a perfect woman, she achieved it. However, when I was about to search for her show, I found out that she jumped off a building two weeks ago. Her name is Cheslie Kryst. She posted an ins five minutes before her suicide, may this day bring you rest and peace.  Later, when Cheslie's mother was interviewed, she revealed that Cheslie suffered from depression for years.

According to WHO, depression is a common mental disorder that affects approximately 280 million people worldwide. It can cause people to suffer greatly and function poorly at work, school, or family. At worst, depression can leads to suicide which is the fourth leading cause of death in teenagers. The topic of depression is not something that one article can bear. I am neither a doctor nor a patient, but I once had very cynical, struggling, and painful emotions, and I felt that I was one foot into depression at that time. So today I want to share with you some of the ways I have tried to stay away from depression that may work.

Prioritize your psychological comfort

Every choice you make, should put your own psychological comfort first. Achievements, money, and competition are all ranked behind your psychological comfort. Mental health is that “1”, and all successes are the “0” behind it. Without that “1”, the “0”s behind it is meaningless. I was invited to a debate competition years ago. Generally speaking, as a high school student, I definitely should participate because it’s an entry ticket to a good college. The pressure is telling you that it’s a waste if you don’t go. And if you choose to flinch you’re satisfactory with the present and stupid. But deep down in my heart I know that I’m afraid of speaking in front of the crowd and camera, and I’m afraid that I’m not doing well. At that time, I felt anxious even just thinking about it. In the end, I chose to give up. My actions at that time were to protect myself. It is not only brave to be an aspirant, but to give up is a kind of brave action.

2. Release your emotions

I cry almost every night before going to bed, sometimes reading some sad romance novels or watching some bad end movies. I think this kind of crying is not the weakness of character, but the strength of accepting one's own emotions. Crying can release dopamine, it plays a role in relieving stress and venting emotions. Also, crying has certain regulatory benefits for the endocrine system and mental health. Therefore, no matter if you feel like it or not, crying is a good way to release yourself.

If crying is too much for you, talking is another way to release your emotions. Many people say that if you are in a bad mood you need to talk to someone. I think that what matters is the act of speaking, not who is listening or who can give you advice. Talking is a way to sort your thoughts into logic. You can talk to your family and friends, you can send a private message to the blogger as a tree hole, you can start a live chat, or you can just record a voice diary.

3. Find your restart button

Have you ever stayed up late the night before, tried to get up early the next morning and failed. Unkempt and saw that it was 11 o'clock, and found that many things have not started, but the body needs exercise to start doing things. And then you went to find a sports bra, but searched for infinite time with no clue where it is. And BOOM your mental breakdown happens. I'm not looking for a sports bra, but a sense of “in control”. What I want is a feeling of “I want it, I got it”.  When I found a sports bra, I found today's "thread leader", and I can start today. What it gives you is a sense of accomplishment, of having the initiative in the first thing you wake up to.  Every day is a ball of wool. There are unfinished work, unsatisfactory relationships, and unsolved family problems. They knead together and wait for you to get up today to untie them. This ball of yarn is the source of your bad mood, and finding that “thread leader” is the beginning of your solution.  Find this control, and your mind will be free from chaos, and your emotions and decisions will be in order. A lot of little things trigger our anxiety. All you need to do is find that "sport bra" of yours - that reset button of yours, to get you back on your feet. This "set a goal, and achieved" pattern guides all your actions for the next day. When you're done, you leave yesterday's crap and people behind.

Today is always better than yesterday. All the things we have experienced: the unease, struggles, sadness are normal human emotions. Whether you feel this way yourself or you see others have it, you don't need to make a fuss or see it as an alien. There are always ways to deal with depression.