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Theory of mind?

I like reading psychology books. Not only reads, but lives it. Observing people, seeing through their behaviours, questioning their intentions.

The more I am unintentionally seeing through them, the harder it is to just to be with them.

Most human behaviour is driven by self-interest. Even kindness often comes from place of "I want to be a good person" or "I want to be liked". That's not bad tho, just human nature. Everyone has their own agenda, that's true, then what? I know. But I dunno why I always think that every single interactions and conversations feel calculated. If no one truly cares, no one give a fuck for the others life, why share anything at all, right? But once again, then what?

My brain is like always on. I am not just living...I am trying to decode everything, everyone, everytime. Unintentionally. Exhausting.

Sometimes I feel disconnected — like I am in my head while everyone else is just living.

I mean my brain's capacity is not that big too...I can't. :(

People are self-interested. But I also know that… people are capable of deep, irrational kindness. Both can coexist.

I need to re-setting my brain.

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A Brief Trace of Footprints

I’ve been here for almost a year, and I’m still confused about where my life is going (quarter-life crisis is real!).

I just realized that while I thought my social circle was broad all this time, it turns out it’s still very narrow. I still need to learn a lot to see things from various perspectives.

I’ve also learned to be more open about what I like and don’t like! Previously, I was too much of a listener because I thought people only wanted to be heard, not to listen. But it turns out that it’s also important to speak up so there’s a balance. (Actually, I think that, up until now, I’ve mostly been a listener… but I guess that’s still an improvement, right?)

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Long time no write!

Many things happen in my life.

Currently, I live a bit far away from my hometown. Learning new languages, which is, sadly, the hardest part of it, because I am not that smart.

Meeting new people with various personalities and opening my mind to various perspectives has definitely spiced things up! Although sometimes I feel anxious...but I am learning to enjoy the journey and embrance the challenges.

I think, my mundane life is not that mundane now.

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Just fast reading this book 🤔

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So, because I feel pressured when I see the Ikigai diagram on the Hector Garcia book. I decided to find another book about Ikigai, but written by Japanese, and then I found this one.

I'd like to say that this is a literally different concept but quite similar at the same time. I don't know what to say, but yeah, it is what it is. It's similar but different.

But...I prefer this one.

Instead of continuing to seek happiness, we must create happiness itself.

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As a person who's not fully believe in something called "passion", I personally frowned slightly when I read this book.

In my life, I choose to love what I do instead of do what I love. Simply because it's easier for me. As a normal human being, "what I love" is still changing by time, and I found that it's so hard to follow something that is called "my passion" because that's very abstract for me (I don't know about the other people, but that's what I feel).

And...this book is full of passion passion and passion.

And to be honest, I don't know why, I feel pressured instead of inspired when I see this diagram.

If I want to be happy, do I need to find the Ikigai (based on this concept) in the entire of my life?

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I read this book when I started work at the company in the early 2020 because I want to start investing at the market. And by the way, thanks god, because accidentally I started at the right time because of the market crash caused by Covid-19.

Why did I choose this book? Simply because this was written by Benjamin Graham, Warren Buffett's teacher. Even though this is a classic book (written in 1949), this is still related if you read this book now.

I can say that this is literally the best investing's book that I've ever read so far.

Rate 10000000/10 🩷

Highly recommended for those who want to know about investing, specifically value investing.

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I've read this book so many times in my life. I read this book when I want to reduce my ego. Remind myself that I should respect the others.

After the first time I read this book, there is one thing that I always do (or at least I always try to do) when I communicate with other people: "Always remember their name."

This book is perfect for everyone, especially for those who want to be great communicators, business owners, or sales.

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Wabi sabi, which may be summed up with the following three principles:

Nothing is perfect

Nothing is finished

Nothing lasts forever

The first principle, applied to humans, means that being aware of our imperfection makes us humble. We can realize that perfection doesn't exist in nature and humans either.

The second principle means that humans are dynamic, just as nature develops infinitely.

The last principle means that when we're accepting that nothing lasts forever, it inspires us to value the beauty of the moment.

This is my fav:

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In fact, I'd like to say that this is one of the greatest books that I've ever read. For real!

Avoid opinions that don't have any facts and data. If we can see the world based on the facts and data, we can clearly see that the world is getting better.

"Be less stressed by the imaginary problems of an overdramatic world, and more alert to the real problems and how to solve them."

It will be so long if I want to break down this book. So, if you want to see the world in a different way, get yours.

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"People do some crazy things with money. But no one is crazy."

Everyone has their own unique experience with how the world works. We all think we know how the world works. But we've all only experienced a tiny sliver of it.

I like how Housel mentioned luck and risk.

He argued that wealth isn't connected with our knowledge but connected with our softskills. Our behaviors are more important than what we know. Being wealthy isn't that complicated. We just need to savings and have good behaviors.

This book is very insightful and easy-to-read. If I can, I'll give this book to 15 yo of me (when I was so poor as a student, well I still poor af until now, in fact).

This is my fav:

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It's not an easy-to-understand book (at least for me).

It contains the philosophy's development during the life of Socrates.

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Basically, this book is all about how to make good habits and how to remove bad habits. How a small change affects exponentially instead of linear in our lives.

Goals are not the difference between the winner and the loser. Make a system instead of winning the game.

Cue, craving, response, reward. Obvious, easy, attractive, satisfying.

Don't break the chain. Don't have a mindset "all or nothing". Don't miss twice, it's a start of new habits.

"The goal is not to read a book, the goal is to become a reader. The goal is not to run a marathon, the goal is to become a runner. The goal is not to learn an instrument, the goal is to become a musician."

A simple book, easy-to-read, worth reading.

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It is a controversial book that was released when SBY served as the 6th president of Indonesia.

At that time, in 2009, this book was banned because it caused a lot of controversy. But now we can get it from Berdikari Book (I don't know about the other bookstores) or borrow it from iPusnas.

It contains some of the critics and stories of something called "Gurita Cikeas" during the SBY era. Although I don't know if this book is true or not (the author is an activist and former journalist of Tempo), I think this book is very interesting to read, especially for people who are interested in politics, more specifically Indonesian politics.

For me, the contents of the book were very surprising and made me wonder even more. Is it really that serious?

Personally, I really respect the author, George Junus Aditjondro, regardless of whatever that became his motives for writing this book. I mean, what kind of person would dare to publish such a book under the regime of the person he criticized? Insane.

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It's a classic novel about race discrimination, set in the 1930s when the Great Depression was happening. At that time, violence, discrimination, and rasism against minorities increased in the US.

Mockingbird, in this novel, is a symbol of innocence.

The conflict happens when Atticus Finch, a lawyer and also white person, defends for a young black boy named Tom Robinson, who's accused of raping and beating a white girl named Mayella Ewell.

In my opinion, the most interesting character is Atticus Finch. Besides being described as a lawyer of an innocent black person, he's also described as a really open-minded parent (he's Scout's parent, the main character of the story) in the 1930s era.

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Nunchi is the reason why South Korea changed from one of the poorest countries in the world to the most developed country. That's what Euny Hong said in her book.

"What is not said is as important as what is said."

"If you cause harm unintentionally, it’s sometimes as bad as if you caused it intentionally."

For me, nunchi is like people's sensitivity to conditions and the surrounding environment. It's a little bit like "sixth-sense" in a psychology way.

It is very easy to read, very hard to do.

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It's one of the most popular books that I've ever known. So many people had read this book, especially when I was in uni.

I'd read this book twice. The Indonesian version and the English version (I don't know why, but the English version is funnier than the translated one).

So, is it a good book? IMHO, yes.

It's not like a very inspirational book or something like that. But this book is very "easy-to-read" and I very much understand why this book is fuckin popular until this day. Mark Mason delivers the core message of the book in a very good way, very efficient, very interesting, very to the point, very entertaining. It's not a typical book that makes our brain burning.

Honestly, instead of being inspired, I found myself more like being entertained when I read this book. It feels like hearing a story from a friend who is brutally honest and likes to swear at every sentence, and I just found it so funny. Wkwk.

This is my fav: