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Some of the principle actors of the stonewall rebellion

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Love my caped crusader with her rainbow coexist cape 😍

Happy pride and Eid Mubarak to all!

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LGBTQIA Muslims on Tumblr

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Sexual diversity in Islam:

IS THERE ROOM IN ISLAM FOR LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL AND TRANSGENDER MUSLIMS?

http://www.mpvusa.org/sexuality-diversity/

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afab means “assigned feral at birth”

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You can’t really be gay and Muslim you know

Yet here i am 🤔

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Lena Waithe Explains the Significance of Cutting Her Hair (video)

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Just finished watched Hannah Gadsby’s stand up show “Nanette” on Netflix and I’m just…I’m at a complete loss for words. The only thing I can say is to urge each and every one of you guys to check this show out because it is so much more than the stand up we generally see.

It was funny and it was heartbreaking. It was strong and empowering and I may be shouting into the void but it broke me in the best and worst possible way.

That said, please keep in mind that there are some trigger warnings. Hate crime and sexual assault to name two of the most prominent ones.

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“One of the biggest problems with religion is that people stubbornly, insistently reduce God to their own size; they imagine that God loves the same people they love, and that God hates the people they hate. This is not just insidious theology; it’s actually idolatry, because people are just worshiping a blown up version of themselves. So let me say it simply: God’s love transcends all of that. When your parents reject you, God loves you; when your friends or classmates make fun of you, God loves you; when your priest, minister, imam, or rabbi tells you that you are an abomination, God loves you; when politicians cater to people’s basest prejudices, God loves you. No matter how many times and in how many ways people make you feel less than human, God knows otherwise, and God loves you. When you feel frightened, or abandoned, or humiliated, I hope the unshakeable conviction that God loves you can help hold you and enable you to persevere.”

— From a Rabbi, An Open Letter To People Who Are LGBTQ by Rabbai Shai Held (via jewishtransition)

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Only straight muslim men get the privilege of accusing marginalized muslims of practicing “liberal” Islam because “traditional” Islam benefits them only and they could care less about the rights of others. It’s really easy to defend sexist, homophobic, ableist distortions of Islam when you benefit from those distortions. 

Just because the Islam that women, LGBTQ muslims, disabled muslims, and muslims with mental health issues have embraced doesn’t look like your “traditional” Islam doesn’t make it wrong. It means we’re trying to carve out a space for ourselves in a religion that was hijacked by patriarchy not long after the Prophet (saw) passed away.

And no, Islam was never meant to be this way. Islam is not patriarchal. The Prophet never advocated for people to be marginalized. But here we are now. So don’t shame people looking for an Islam that allows them to be an active member. Look at yourselves and ask yourself why you felt the need to put Islam in a tiny, tiny box when it was meant to be for everyone. “Traditional” doesn’t always equal right and “liberal” doesn’t always equal bidah. We are all just looking for Islam.

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We have these murals in our bedroom. On my side of the bed I have this skyline of Lahore and her side of the bed has the landmarks of Karachi. They are the two cities that we hail from and now we have made a home for us in Colorado. It’s crazy to think that just 4 years ago I spent my Ramadan crying and begging to Allah to let us be together. I am not posting this to rub my happiness in people’s faces. I only want all of you who are struggling right now, not feeling accepted or loved, feeling isolated, or just not in a good place in general to know that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how bleak things may seem this is not going to be your situation forever. It may even get worse before it gets better but I promise you that eventually everything passes. No matter how bad it hurts right now please hang in there and you will find your happiness and inshallah it will be better than anything you ever dreamed of. Happy Pride and Eid Mubarak everyone!!!

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Hi 👋 I’m really tired of my life... I’m only 16 and I’m a gay arab... I use to deny that I’m gay for years and I finally come to accept who I am, I want to show the world who I am but my family is so religious and they clearly showed me that they are not ok with gays trans or anything related With the lgbtq community... I just want a normal life were I find a person that loves me and cares about me and Vice versa. Some times I wish I was a child were I don’t have to worry about these things.

It sucks to be stuck in the stage between being a child and being a completely autonomous, independent adult. Hang in there my friend. Trust me, the future is going to be better than you can imagine. You will be happy and surrounded by people who love you for you. Hopefully your family will come around to. In the mean time try finding others who support you.

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Posting upon request.

“Hi folks, if you could take a moment and do this survey it would be great help! It’s only 4 questions, quick and easy! We are trying to create a safe space for gay muslims to meet and connect with other gay muslims.Thanks”

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Survey for transmasc/AFAB people who are interested in DHT to register their interest so a doctor can prove there’s a want and need for it. DHT is currently not available at all in the US but it’s safe and can be helpful in preparing for a meta lower surgery.

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LGBTQ+ Muslims in NYC are invited to join the Muslim Alliance for Sexual and Gender Diversity (MASGD) for a community listening session. If anyone is interested please check out the link for details.

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We’re in bed and I texted something romantic to my wife. She replied with “you just burped really loud”. I know I deserved it but man do I feel attacked right now.

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Assalamu Alaykum, I am 22/F/lesbian. Recently I’ve come out to my family and a few friends, but I’m conflicted as to whether I should come out all together. I am the youngest in a big family and I don’t want my family to be socially ostracized because of me. Also I don’t act on my desires for women and fear that memebers of the lgbtq community would judge me for that. Do you have any advice on if I should come out or not?

I’ve been there too but sadly there is no one size fits all advice when it comes to these things. Don’t stress about coming out to anyone you don’t want to...that’s up to you and only you get to decide when you want to come out to someone. That doesn’t mean you have to hide who you are. Be yourself if you feel safe doing so and slowly the coming out will be more of a natural transition rather than an uncomfortable conversation. And don’t worry how you are seen by the lgbtq community or any community for that matter. It’s your life, live it the way you want because there will always be someone judging you for something or the other.