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Hey! I just got a really good question from an anon. It will take some time to get my answer thought out, but I want them to know that I saw it.

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the “holding out as married” rule is so fucked up

like… not only can I not marry the love of my life without losing my health insurance and the $800 or so a month I’m forced to survive on

but I can’t even CALL her “my wife” casually

like literally the US gov’t has people whose job it is to go and interview the family, friends, & neighbors of disabled people to just make sure that they never refer to anyone in their life as “my wife” or “my husband” etc

and if you DO, then SNAP! You’re defrauding the US gov’t of the pittance you can barely survive on and you are no longer entitled to your disability benefits

(some kinds of benefits might remain in diminished form but if you were disabled before age 22 you are fucked COMPLETELY and can’t get them back even if you divorce… the only loophole is if the other person was ALSO deemed disabled before 22, because that fucking makes sense)

and this is just… legal and no one but disabled activists ever talks about this shit

so yeah I’d love some of that gay marriage shit but I will never be able to get married, and to add insult to injury, I can’t even casually refer to my partner as “my wife” without risking the health insurance and income I need to survive as a disabled lesbian

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Sorry for the irrelevant posts. I was on mobile and forgot to change back to my main blog.

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nautical stim board 

for @oceanbound-icarus - credits below - all gifs made by me

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In light of recent events, Black Autistics and parents of Black Autistics are henceforth welcome to ask any question about staying safe while being Black and Autistic.

Previously, this blog has been exclusively for helping people find stims that inflict less physical harm than the ones they currently have. I recognize that, no matter how harmless most stims are, stimming visibly can lead to traumatic and possibly dangerous police interactions when your skin color already makes you a target. Thus, I will be using this platform to connect Black Autistics and parents of Black Autistics with whatever resources/information they need.

As always, I welcome input from you all when it comes to finding solutions. Thank you for understanding this slight shift in content.

Black Lives Matter

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A nail tutorial for scratchers!

How’s everyone holding up in quarantine? I’m at home indefinitely, so feel free to message me if you just need to talk. I’m so bored and Netflix can only fill up so much of my time. Anyways, here’s a tutorial for scratch off nail art from Sinmplynailogical! 

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Everyone meet the “Happy Little Plague Doctor.” He encourages you to engage in self-care while under quarantine. I plan on making a series of these over the next few weeks. 

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PSA for Writers

If you’re writing something, and you’re enjoying writing it, it’s worth your time.

That’s it.

I don’t care if no one ever reads it. I don’t care if they read it and hate it. I don’t care if, once it’s finished, you stuff it in a drawer (or an archive on your computer) and never look at it again.

I don’t even care if you decide you’re no longer having fun with it and never finish it.

You’re not wasting time.

If it makes you happy, it’s worth your time.

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Hey all! Just checking in. How is everyone holding up right now?

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when i get REALLY excited or i’m just hyperactive (i have adhd too) i always have to do something like run, punch something, or slam my hands on something, or jump up and down. Jumping and running is usually dangerous indoors and it always leaves me short of breath since i have asthma. And punching and slamming things (usually walls, tables, or myself sometimes) hurts my hands and bothers other people. Do you know of anything else i could do that’s safer?

If you can have a pillow with you, you can always punch a pillow, saving your hands and reducing any noise that may distract/concern other folks. Alternately there does exist a table/desk punching bag available for purchase. 

 As far as running, I wonder if an under desk foot pedal thingy would help you release energy while remaining stationary. 

As far as jumping, I don’t know. A balance disc might simulate some bouncing feeling, but I imagine your mileage might vary based on what sensory input you get from jumping.

I hope some of these can help you. 

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Sure! Stimtastic has really great chewy jewelry. They even specify jewelry for different levels of chewing. Now, you’d think “Duh Just get the most durable one and be done with it”. I know; I thought the same. My jaw was sore for days because I got an aggressive chewer necklace. 

anyway does anyone know where i can get somethin i can just like. chew on. this is a weird question, i know, but i’ve been biting my nails and grinding my teeth for years now and it helps to just have smth between my teeth 

gum is the worst and i’m tired of wrecking pens 

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I didnt kno they had these

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stimming is a form of communication

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I made this for a joke on discord but I really like it now? Could be a good reaction image.

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…I almost killed myself

I put on my sunglasses, to hide my swollen eyes, over my tears. I cried all my makeup off. Went inside to have a milkshake. I don’t know why. I wanted something to drink as I figured out what I would do. I got a soda and a milkshake. Medium. The cashier looked at me and with a line around the corner of the counter he rushed away from the counter “Hold on “ he yelled to a coworker.

I filled my soda and went back and saw him looking all over. I go up and he gets close and says “I made it a large”.

That was seriously enough for me not to do it. His kindness. Someone went out of their way and as I went back in my car to cry I realized I could muster through a few other days. A few more weeks. Then I came down from that panicky high of anxiety, depression, and pain. I finished my shake. And it was enough time to let me feel better. I… I’m alive. I’ll make it through.

Try and be nice today. Tomorrow. Something as much as a smile. It helped so much.

Thank you man at McDonalds.

The milkshake saved my life