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transgender healthcare shouldn't just be free it should be accessible as fuck like you should be able to ask your gp or doctor or whatever you'd like to try hormones and they should be able to explain to you all your options and all their risks and side effects and things to look out for. it should take at most a month between asking for hormones and receiving them. we should trans as many genders as possible

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i. need. my. fellow. transmascs. to. understand. that. egg. posts. are. not. for. you.

"haven't you considered you might be happier as a girl" is not directed at you. you tried it out, you hated it, it didn't work. so it's directed at people who've never given being a girl a try.

it's like if someone started telling their math major friend "yeah you might be happier majoring in the humanities" and then i ran over and started yelling about how my life was sooooo much better when i switched to STEM. like cool. not my business. they're not me.

and yeah i get it being brought up transmasc feels like being "forcibly feminized" but that's not what "forcefem" as a concept is about. it's not about someone forcibly detransitioning a transmasc. it's about people who were camab getting to experiment with femininity in a less stigmatizing way.

just. mind your own goddamn business. don't insert yourself in conversations that have nothing to do with you.

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My friend just sent me the greatest home listing I think I have ever seen

I mean, check out this beutiful riverside home! Double garage! Upstairs access from the outside! Lets check out the inside

Open concept kitchen, nice, nice

Oh, the whole Floorplan seems to be open concept. Okay! That floor is a little odd, but not a deal breaker.

That bathroom could use an update

Need to change out that curtain

Okay, let's go take a look at the back yard!

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great metric for how much power is granted any particular role is "how fucked would my life be if the person in that role was an asshole, even within the confines of the law". it is through this metric that we can say landlords being able to arbitrarily decide to make you homeless makes a landlord powerful. parents being able to arbitrarily decide not to allow you access to life-saving healthcare makes a parent powerful. a random trans person on the internet accusing you of being an egg, however? well I'm not sure about that one

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One of my coworkers owns this shirt and wears it to work almost every Saturday and I can’t stay silent about it any longer

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Keep making myself like choke laughing because I keep imagining a Netflix documentary following Augustus Gloop 20 years after the chocolate factory incident, heavily advertised across the platform and titled "Augustus: After the Gloop" like with his face in shadow or something

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So many people who love generative AI don't have a creative bone in their body and can't imagine anyone actually enjoying the time and effort it takes to write something or draw something.

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losing my MIND

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many people see “pedophiles” as a type of villain to wish infinite angry death upon, as opposed to recognizing CSA as a preventable form of abuse. the former buys into moral panic and punitive justice; the latter is actionable, helpful, and much needed

when i went to conservative christian hell school, all we heard about was the evil scary men who wanted to snatch us up on the street. we learned about csa through strange, coded language. we were not taught how to talk about our bodies, and we were not taught what sex was. eventually, i was groomed and assaulted. so were an alarming number of my peers, often by teachers and religious leaders

then, as an adult, i got the opportunity to work at a summer camp. we developed an actionable plan to prevent campers from being alone with adult volunteers; we advocated for all of our campers to learn appropriate body part language; we led discussions about boundaries and consent; we answered questions about sex with honesty, care, and age-appropriate detail. and it was safe! the one time we identified shady behavior, there were so many safety nets and protocols in place that it never became a real issue.

so, having been in both situations, it’s frustrating to see 46387 threads a day of people angrily, viciously tearing apart the mere idea of a pedophile without ever stopping to ask “hey, what can we do about this? in real life? like, what are the advocates advocating for right now?”

i hate to break it to you, but 18+ daddy kink genshin yaoi (sorry idk i’m out of touch) isn’t the issue here, and it’s kind of silly and terminally online to pretend that it is. i would argue that adult-only erotica servers that block minors aren’t as big of a threat as, you know, “minor safe!! we are very safe for minors :) and we HATE the mean nasty scary people” communities that have a piss poor accountability system and no real mechanism for preventing abuse. there’s a huge difference between “weird gross thing that grosses me out” and “unsafe situation,” and the latter is far more worth emphasizing

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dying in a horror movie bc the sound of me opening my dr pepper echoes across the field loud as fuck and i am located instantly

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I think when you correctly identify a trauma that is the base of a woe of yours it should just disappear. It should be like "aaahh. you got me" and vanish and leave 100 dollars behind

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