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enlightenments of Vienna

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Gonna chill out the rest of May and then change my entire life in June. Possibly July if that doesn't work out. Certainly no later than September or October.

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23 is literally my 21 like im having all the formative experiences I should’ve had at that age

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Your blog feels like a lovely mirror

You feel like a lovely mirror

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I’m not giving u guys context but never ever deal w a straight man use me as your cautionary tale

girl stfu

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Talking to this girl is like pulling teeth btw in case anyone is wondering how this is faring

girl stfu

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girl stfu

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noooooo ur supposed to say “omg no girl you didn’t fumble me ily 😍😍😍😍”

I don’t speak lies

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I've fumbled online relationships with mutuals you would kill for

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ur hair looks so gorgeous and healthy omggg. soz if u already answered but what’s ur hair care routine? im tryna sort out a routine for me but idk where to start 😭

Hi look at the comments under the hair post!

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hi Cianna, so sorry if this is an intrusive question, if that's the case then i don't expect you to reply at all, but may i ask if you have any diagnoses or whether therapy is something you decided you need on your own? and if so, what made you come to that conclusion? again no pressure if that's too personal, i'm just asking from the perspective of someone who's currently wondering whether they need it too, ya know. all the best 🩷

Hi so my Arab background predisposed me against therapy for the longest time. I’m also gonna be honest and say Tumblr played a part in it too lol, even if that sounds a little silly, bc I feel like there’s a subculture on here that’s just like “i don’t need therapy I just need iced coffee” or whatever the fuck and I was like that checks out. I don’t need therapy actually.

But my best friend at the time (also Arab) was singing the praises of this one therapist whom she said helped through her toxic family shit a lot. I was reluctant at first, bc just like a lot of people I thought therapy was only for people w formal diagnoses, but my ex bsf encouraged me to pursue her and so I did. I decided I had to bc I felt as though neither friends nor family could help me through my post grad period; at the time I’d just graduated and was a little intimidated by all that lay ahead. And it was great! I remember my friend telling me she’d be a good therapist, and I’ll always agree w that. Def a good first therapist. Not so great once your issues complicate, but she was good to show me that therapy is so important. Mental checkups are so important. An impartial, formally trained party is so so important.

I’ve seen a lot of people say that therapy is replacing confiding in your friends, which I obvi disagree with. People already talk in therapy speak — is it not beneficial to at least hear it from someone who knows how to use it appropriately, how to advise you appropriately, and could actually formulate plans for you? Likeee friends and therapy serve totally different purposes lol. Just bc I go to therapy doesn’t mean I’ve ceased confiding in my friends. So honestly just go for it and ignore all the opinions. That shit is draining. If you feel like you need it in any way, you probably do. Try it!! Don’t wait for the perfect moment.

Once you try it for the first time, you’ll realize how little of a deal it is to be in therapy. No stigma should be associated w it at all

And no btw, I’m not formally diagnosed w anything! My (now ex) therapist thinks I have anxiety for sure, but that was all she thinks I have

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i reqally hope this doesnt come across as rude, but do u have a job that made u able tp pay for therapy ? bc u never mentioned work ( or maybe ive missed the post) also this a genuine question !!

Yes I do work as a medical assistant while studying! And pay for therapy w my own money even though it’s expensive 💔

Look for therapists w student discounts btw! My current therapist doesn’t offer it I don’t think, but my previous one did!

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i lowkey need to break up with my therapist too bc i don’t feel comfortable bringing up complaints about my culture or growing up muslim bc i don’t want it to reinforce whatever biases she might have as a white american woman but i also starting from scratch makes me want to dieee💔

Girl that’s why I avoid white American therapists like the plague lol. Not that I think they’re all racist or ignorant or whatever, but they’d just never understand. Like they just never have lived in our shoes yk?? My previous therapist was brown, my new therapist whom I meet w tomorrow is Black, and any future therapist I have will be of color probably. I’m not gonna spend crazy amounts of money for a therapist’s hourly rate just to be told “but have you tried this mindset shift??” about certain disparities that go beyond mindset shifts lol (and even if I do get told that, which I do agree can be good advice for certain things, I’d rather be told it from someone who went through similar things I did! Not someone who can only do so much to extrapolate and put themselves in our shoes, no matter how good they are at it)

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reblogged a post that was like been thinking a lot lately but not saying much and then deleted it because I literally never shut the fuck up

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Behind every massive crash out is the realization that you just got your period

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Same problem honestly. I don't go anywhere that's not public and populated with any dude for at least the first 2 hangouts, I've blocked people for trying to get me somewhere isolated on the first few dates. This one dude tried to take me on a hiking trail on date number 2 and it was an insta-block. Yall not boutta have my face on a missing poster, not I. Certainly not I. That "come to my house" hangout bit is super suspicious. How you know I'm not boutta rob you or nothing? 🤔🤔🤔 Cuz you tryna kill me before id have that chance. Obviously. Stay safe out here

People who suggest that just want to hu, which like. I literally do not look down at hu culture (even if I don’t partake in it, idgaf fr so long as you’re practicing safe sex in every sense of the word) but it BOGGLES my mind that some ppl out there are willing to take the chance. Also I refuse to let anyone trick me into thinking I’m too dramatic or anxious or whatever. Every other day there’s a woman who gets killed on an innocuous hike by herself, gets killed by a stalker, gets assaulted by someone she perceived to be close…… and literally every friend ik told me horror stories and said I’m right to be as cautious as I am. Its rly fucking scary out there

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omg your hair is sooooo prettyyy (I’m a curly girl too😚✨)

I had my friend take a photo for me w natural lighting and HONESTLYYYYYY having curly hair is so fun let’s all be so honest