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Rewriting Adoption

Today we share the two latest essays in our adoption series edited by Nicole Chung.

“When I hear the word “mama,” the ache in my chest belongs to my grandma.”

Mama by Jasmine Sanders

“I have an insatiable appetite for photographs of people who look like me.”

Buckle and Sway by Michele Leavitt

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Birth mom right to privacy.

Sorry, I disagree with this. Adoptees don't get a choice in the matter. If a birth mom doesn't want a relationship, that's fine, but refusing to share where we came from in the name of privacy is wrong. Every adoptee is entitled to know where they came from.

If birth mom doesn't want to be found or wants privacy, then she needs to understand adoptee rights.

There's no reason why adoptees have to suffer at the choices of others. We adoptees have every right to know where we came from, no matter how hard it is to know the truth.

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i still think one of the most under-acknowledged privileges is being able to look around at the people you call family and know exactly where you came from and how you got certain traits

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Poc adoptees

It’s okay to sometimes feel distant from your parents because they are white and you are not

People like to say “don’t ask white people” like it’s the logical thing. But as an adoptee, mostly secluded from any other poc, it’s not that easy

It’s okay if you’re not interested in “your culture”

It’s okay  if you are interested and want to learn more

It’s okay to let your voice be heard, don’t let anyone silence you

It’s okay to want to know your biological parents

It’s okay not to be interested in knowing your biological family

It’s okay if you’re struggling with your identity, the struggle of who we are, is always more complicated than a non adopted poc

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"letter to my birth mother"

a brief memoir minicomic about being an adoptee.

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please do me a favor and look up "dovekie" on your nearest image searching tool at your earliest convenience. for me. thankyou.

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can you imagine how freaky shark mermaids would be like unlike sharks, shark mermaids would have actual arms/hands and could rely on touching things with their hands to see if they’re prey rather than having to bite like sharks do. like youre just swimming in the ocean and suddenly you feel a strong grip on your leg, you freak the FUCK out because uh what????? the fuck??? youre swimming alone in the ocean??

a head pops out of the water, dorsal fin pointed from its back and it just points at you and says in a low whisper: “i thought you were a seal. please dont swim alone like this, im sorry i scared you i just wanted to see what you are” and then disappears back into the depth. what the fuck.

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Good things will happen in September

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Me when y/n is acting like a little fucking child for male validation

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Umbrella Shop by Edouard Quemper

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its good to see alex kralie is just as embarrassing after college

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El Wiwi

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I drew every seal from the earless/ true seal group 🦭

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a coyote tugs at the strap of a trail camera [source]

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I’m just gonna post this unfinished comic here… tired of letting it rot

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Old mosaics that still feel kinda relevant to locals 🐟 Ever since @_leevolt_ came up with this amazing mosaic brush I wanted to use it for a ridiculously big fresco kind of illu